What makes someone a failure at life?

Tom_Cruise

What would you consider a failure?

jimmyRotator

wake'n'bake

Killer Wench

Tom_Cruise wrote: »

What would you consider a failure?

Someone who lacks desire, drive, and/or ambition to do anything. They are essentially just waiting to die.

DaveDaRave

someone who makes less than me

Ruudi_Mentari

Not reaching heights

Gorilla Rising

Someone who doesn't learn from their mistakes.

SV

inb4 "Choosing Scientology" is posted as the FUNNIEST REPLY EVAR.

Fr_Dougal

Someone that puts money before friends and family.

Hercule Poirot

Someone who is happy to sit on the dole for years and years and never bother to try working for a living

Ruudi_Mentari

Not having established a platform (shoe).

Being overly reliant on any little lift you can get

mikemac1

A small funeral

Do you live in a rural area OP?
Everyone including your parents will comment on the size of any funeral that happens in the parish

Mr. Wong

Someone who can't spell "ever".

fergal.b

Becoming a politician.





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Ruudi_Mentari

Shortcomings.

Tom_Cruise

Tom_Cruise wrote: »

What would you consider a failure?

You first.

daz801

Having over 1,000 boards posts........oh wait

DellyBelly

Someone on the dole who has no desire to work again

GLaDOS

daz801 wrote: »

Having over 1,000 boards posts........oh wait

Oh dear god no!

Ruudi_Mentari

Not being able to see the wood for the, little shrubs are obscuring your view

Wabbit Ears

The father of my godchild, a thirty something guy who has never provided for his family by working and bringing home a regular pay check, instead he plays games and gets the dole.

This guy is failure and there are loads out there like him

Tisserand

Hercule Poirot wrote: »

Someone who is happy to sit on the dole for years and years and never bother to try working for a living

How about somebody who works for 30 years and after all that, ends up on the dole - is that a failure?

stateofflux

not being happy.

Tisserand

Tisserand wrote: »

How about somebody who works for 30 years and after all that, ends up on the dole - is that a failure?

No, that's a success who's just been failed by the economy. It's a world away from a career welfare recipient.

Alactric

Killer Wench wrote: »

Someone who lacks desire, drive, and/or ambition to do anything. They are essentially just waiting to die.

so...clinical depression?

Killer Wench

Killer Wench wrote: »

Someone who lacks desire, drive, and/or ambition to do anything. They are essentially just waiting to die.

How so exactly? What kind of things should they desire to do?

SV

Mr. Wong wrote: »

Someone who can't spell "ever".

I'm going to assume that's aimed at me, it was satire.
I apologise for taking your really funny reply

Cienciano

Anyone with over 2,000 posts on boards

Killer Wench

Alactric wrote: »

so...clinical depression?

I have family members who suffer from clinical depression but most of them realize that something is wrong and they seek medical treatment. That to me is a desire to do something to improve their life. Not the same thing.

Killer Wench

Deleted User wrote: »

How so exactly? What kind of things should they desire to do?

They should desire something.

im invisible

Right lads, sounds like im ****ed so...
/back to bed

stateofflux

im invisible wrote: »

Right lads, sounds like im ****ed so...
/back to bed

you desire sleep...so yer off the hook :pac:

Gee_G

Buttonftw wrote: »

How so exactly? What kind of things should they desire to do?

I think all people should have the desire to achieve. Whether it be through education, work, family, health. You have to have an aim,something to work towards

Killer Wench

Killer Wench wrote: »

They should desire something.

Any examples? I'm gessing they'll generally be similar to things you desire.

Killer Wench

Deleted User wrote: »

Any examples? I'm gessing they'll generally be similar to things you desire.

Anything.

Alactric

Killer Wench wrote: »

I have family members who suffer from clinical depression but most of them realize that something is wrong and they seek medical treatment. That to me is a desire to do something to improve their life. Not the same thing.

Not trying to put words in your mouth or anything...but your not really considering varying degrees of depression at all there man. I can tell you personally, if the people in your family realize there's something wrong they are in much, much better shape than some of the people I've seen.

Meangadh

People who make life more difficult for other people even though it could be avoidable. People like rapists, paedophiles, dole scroungers who make no effort to look for work, robbers, violent people, even people who just moan and bitch for no real reason... there are loads more I'm sure.

Basically if you screw up your own life that's your own choice, but make someone else's life a misery then I say you fail at life.

Having said that, I suppose some people end up in the above list cos somebody else in their lives failed them. Bit of a vicious circle.

Henlars67

Regularly using 'of' instead of 'have'

NoQuarter

Not having a car over 23 and depending on others for lifts! Grow up you bums!

My name is URL

Gee_G wrote: »

I think all people should have the desire to achieve. Whether it be through education, work, family, health. You have to have an aim,something to work towards

No you don't.. that's a relatively new human construct.

Really it comes down to what others would consider as 'failure'... and that's completely subjective.

I'm sure there are plenty of people who have never truly aspired to anything yet have found happiness and fulfillment in their lives, gone on to have kids & grand-kids and live to ripe old ages! I don't think they could be said to have failed in life simply because they lacked ambition or whatever.

13spanner

People who care too much about image, or what others think of them.

Obviously you have to put your best foot forward, but it can't control you

Mr_Spaceman

Does the OP only ever start depressing threads with one line?

At least offer up your own opinion to begin a discussion.

Gee_G

My name is URL wrote: »

No you don't.. that's a relatively new human construct.

Really it comes down to what others would consider as 'failure'... and that's completely subjective.

I'm sure there are plenty of people who have never truly aspired to anything yet have found happiness and fulfillment in their lives, gone on to have kids & grand-kids and live to ripe old ages! I don't think they could be said to have failed in life simply because they lacked ambition or whatever.

I never said they failed! My post was in reply to another poster asking what people should desire!

KegglesMcS

Someone who eats their own excrement.

iamstop

It used to be anything below 40% was a fail. Back in my day anyway.

Killer Wench

Alactric wrote: »

Not trying to put words in your mouth or anything...but your not really considering varying degrees of depression at all there man. I can tell you personally, if the people in your family realize there's something wrong they are in much, much better shape than some of the people I've seen.

I am considering the varying degrees of depression that I have observed. One relative had a stroke, and due to not being able to return to her profession, went through a period of major depression. It lasted for months but during that time, she began experiencing a fluid build-up in her knee and went to the doctor. Then a conversation about depression began.

Another relative suffers from bipolar disorder with a personality disorder, but after the birth of her child, went through a period of postpartum depression. Someone in the family took on caring for the infant while she went through her periods of heavy medication and stays in facilities. There were periods when she attempted suicide. Now, several years after the birth of her child, she still takes medication to control her manic episodes. Recently, she was put on medical leave due to speaking in tongues. In the last month, she has married and is expecting her second child.

There was a degree of family intervention, but there was also something within those people that triggered an alert that they were not like themselves. The person from the first story takes medication and will continue to take medication for the rest of their lives. A few years ago, they began hoarding and their home burned down, and we all thought it would put them back into a downward spiral. Instead, they clung to the idea of rebuilding and returning to their home.

mikehunts

Tom_Cruise wrote: »

What would you consider a failure?

Someone who thinks they are Tom Cruise!!!

BillyMitchel

KegglesMcS wrote: »

Someone who eats their own excrement.

There's a real famous porn star who eats crap for a living and there's an interview with her and she describes why she loves it and how she loves her belly full of crap. Cant think of the link but its the most vile interview I've ever seen.

Complex question OP. Everyone's life situation is different and everyone will make poor choices. Poverty stricken kids who grow up to be a success would be considered successful. So what about a rich kid who inherited their parents money and never worked or actually achieved anything would they be considered a failure?

Catch my drift? As I said complex, philosophical question and I'm not feeling very Plato tonight.

Dwork

I employ/ed a good lot of local men, close to 20 up until recently. Due to "recession", mad taxes(mainly tbh), cut throat(ie dumb and below cost)competition, and non-payers that has dwindled to five not including me. The dwindling has been very rapid and sh1tty. I see all my mates with small businesses suffering the same insidious dwindling, some of them a lot, lot worse. I feel that is a failure on my part. It probably isn't, really, (maybe it is), but it feels like a failure. An awful lot of people/families depend/ed on me to make money for them every week. Now I can only do it for a few. Which is a shitty feeling.

Da Shins Kelly

Killer Wench wrote: »

I am considering the varying degrees of depression that I have observed. One relative had a stroke, and due to not being able to return to her profession, went through a period of major depression. It lasted for months but during that time, she began experiencing a fluid build-up in her knee and went to the doctor. Then a conversation about depression began.

Another relative suffers from bipolar disorder with a personality disorder, but after the birth of her child, went through a period of postpartum depression. Someone in the family took on caring for the infant while she went through her periods of heavy medication and stays in facilities. There were periods when she attempted suicide. Now, several years after the birth of her child, she still takes medication to control her manic episodes. Recently, she was put on medical leave due to speaking in tongues. In the last month, she has married and is expecting her second child.

There was a degree of family intervention, but there was also something within those people that triggered an alert that they were not like themselves. The person from the first story takes medication and will continue to take medication for the rest of their lives. A few years ago, they began hoarding and their home burned down, and we all thought it would put them back into a downward spiral. Instead, they clung to the idea of rebuilding and returning to their home.

In fairness though, and fair play to those who do go and seek help, but there are a lot of people who suffer from depression who are too embarrassed to go and talk to anyone about it due to the stigma attached to mental illness, particularly in this country, and then there are many who may simply not realize that there is a major problem. Going and seeking help for a mental illness is a difficult thing to do.

Gee_G

Dwork wrote: »

I employ/ed a good lot of local men, close to 20 up until recently. Due to "recession", mad taxes(mainly tbh), cut throat(ie dumb and below cost)competition, and non-payers that has dwindled to five not including me. The dwindling has been very rapid and sh1tty. I see all my mates with small businesses suffering the same insidious dwindling, some of them a lot, lot worse. I feel that is a failure on my part. It probably isn't, really, (maybe it is), but it feels like a failure. An awful lot of people/families depend/ed on me to make money for them every week. Now I can only do it for a few. Which is a shitty feeling.

If it's any consolation I would say every person on here would say it definitely is not a failure on your part! I say fair play to you for getting yourself into that position to employ all those people in the first place!

con1421

Someone who refuses to work and instead claims the dole. I know 1 guy in particular who hasn't worked for 4 years and when I offered him a job he wouldn't take it