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The Online Dating Thread Part II **Mod Warning** Read First Post/or Post 7389

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    #8732
    Galvasean
    Registered Users Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    That_Guy wrote: »
    That's a wrestling quote isn't it? *shudders*

    Who wouldn't take dating advice from a man in pink leotards?

    1996-Bret-Hart-Promo-bret-hitman-hart-15071485-501-627.jpg

    His name is the Hit-man Hart for crying out loud!


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    #8733
    Jason Fly
    Closed Accounts Posts: 150 ✭✭Jason Fly


    KamiKazeKitten wrote: »
    Oh I know it can be annoying, and I feel bad doing it, but at the end of the day I think it's better to be blanked than receive rejection after rejection, no?

    If there was a lot of work put into the message I'd mail back and say it nicely. I'd never be rude to anyone if I did mail a "thanks but no thanks" kinda thing, but I'd definitely have to say I wasn't interested, it's not fair to lead them on otherwise.

    I think guys do get a hard time on these sites but honestly there is no easy way to let someone know you're not interested and tbh I don't have time to deal with some of the replys you get.

    Just my 2c. :)

    I suppose you're right, and it's better not to get any answer than getting a rude one, but I can tell you, it feels bad when the only answer you get is no answer.


    That_Guy wrote: »
    That's not a slight on you though mate and you shouldn't treat it as something being wrong with you. It happened to me before but it could be another reason.

    She could be inundated with sleazy messages from a load of guys and just had enough of it. Sometimes genuine messages may get lost between the absolute crap she might be getting and just didn't want to bother filtering it out anymore.

    I used to understand that point of view, but just let it happen six times in less than two months and you'll start thinking that maybe there's something about you, maybe just bad luck xD
    Online dating is meant to be a casual thing and nobody should be pinning all of their hopes on it. There have been loads of success stories from posters here and that's great but it's not the be all and end all. Just take a step back and chill. It's annoying not getting messages when you send out a few (what you think are) good messages to people but no point in getting worked up over it.

    Shrug it off and go again.

    I have to say that actually I gave myself an online break. My selfesteem has enough suffering for a while


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    #8734
    Jason Fly
    Closed Accounts Posts: 150 ✭✭Jason Fly


    ladylost wrote: »
    Unfortunately we have all been blanked from time to time. It bothered me at the beginning but now I'd prefer to be blanked than led on and get a message like TG got. There is no excuse for that kind of rude behaviour. INternet dating isn't for everyone and if you are taking it too much to heart it may not be for you.

    maybe that's the problem :)


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    #8735
    Galvasean
    Registered Users Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    Jason Fly wrote: »
    I used to understand that point of view, but just let it happen six times in less than two months and you'll start thinking that maybe there's something about you, maybe just bad luck xD

    I've had 6 blanks this week! :pac:
    To be honest though, that beats 6 actual put downs. Nothing tears own my self-esteem more than messages beginning with "You're a nice guy, BUT..." Worst part is they are actually trying to be nice with that line. For me, it only compounds the disappointment TBH.


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    #8736
    Daisies
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators Posts: 4,644 Mod ✭✭✭✭Daisies


    TG, that girl is a witch.You are way more tolerant than me.If I got a message like that they would more than likely receive a very curt message explaining that I was bored and only messaging them out of pity :pac:


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    #8737
    Larianne
    Registered Users Posts: 35,954 ✭✭✭✭Larianne


    Have someone take a look at your profile Jason Fly. It may need some tweaking. ;)


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    #8738
    Galvasean
    Registered Users Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    I know I shouldn't be counting, but I can't help it as I'm pedantic at heart, but between POF and OKC that is now 8 girls in a row that I have messaged who have gone on to view my profile and not mailed me back.

    8 in a row.

    8.

    This has never actually happened before... Well, not such a streak anyway.


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    #8739
    blacklilly
    Registered Users Posts: 2,687 ✭✭✭blacklilly


    Galvasean wrote: »
    I know I shouldn't be counting, but I can't help it as I'm pedantic at heart, but between POF and OKC that is now 8 girls in a row that I have messaged who have gone on to view my profile and not mailed me back.

    8 in a row.

    8.

    This has never actually happened before... Well, not such a streak anyway.

    Maybe you should let some of us have a look at your profile, give you tips?


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    #8740
    timmy880
    Registered Users Posts: 306 ✭✭timmy880


    Have sent out alot of mails on POF recently and not even been able to get profile views...!! Must be doing something wrong :(


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    #8741
    Larianne
    Registered Users Posts: 35,954 ✭✭✭✭Larianne


    Galvasean wrote: »
    I know I shouldn't be counting, but I can't help it as I'm pedantic at heart, but between POF and OKC that is now 8 girls in a row that I have messaged who have gone on to view my profile and not mailed me back.

    8 in a row.

    8.

    This has never actually happened before... Well, not such a streak anyway.

    You're only annoying yourself looking at that 'Who's Viewed Me' page.


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    #8742
    Jason Fly
    Closed Accounts Posts: 150 ✭✭Jason Fly


    Larianne wrote: »
    Have someone take a look at your profile Jason Fly. It may need some tweaking. ;)

    now I've removed my profile but it didn't have many visits at all, four (or so) during the last week before removing


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    #8743
    That_Guy
    Registered Users Posts: 51,342 ✭✭✭✭That_Guy


    I don't get why people are looking too into the "viewed me" feature so much. If you like the look of someone send them a message. Don't assume they will. There's no guarantee that they've seen your profile ya know.


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    #8744
    VinLieger
    Registered Users Posts: 17,678 ✭✭✭✭VinLieger


    Jason Fly wrote: »
    now I've removed my profile but it didn't have many visits at all, four (or so) during the last week before removing

    My profile has been dying a death recently im lucky if i get 2 a week atm, just gotta stick it out as theres always new people coming to the site and i think the profiles on matches get switched around all the time


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    #8745
    dub5
    Registered Users Posts: 146 ✭✭dub5


    VinLieger wrote: »
    My profile has been dying a death recently im lucky if i get 2 a week atm, just gotta stick it out as theres always new people coming to the site and i think the profiles on matches get switched around all the time

    Hey

    I had a look at a couple of peoples profiles on here and gave them good honest advice. It seems to of worked for those people, got more mail. So if you want me to have a look, pm me your link.


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    #8746
    Herrick
    Closed Accounts Posts: 903 ✭✭✭Herrick


    I don't mind not receiving a reply to a message as I just figure if their not interested, their not interested. Not everyone is gonna fancy you.

    But one thing I hate is getting a reply or two, just getting into a convo and they stop replying. I got back into ID the other day and got a good few mails, sadly not interested though. Sent out a few and got talking to a couple of girls. Exchanged a few messages, nothing but the usual opening chit chat. Then nothing.

    They were online a good bit as well, I reckon I was just someone to pass a bit of time while they were waiting on someone else's reply or waiting for the "better deal" to appear.

    Bit disappointing as one of them lived not far away, which was interesting considering I'm in the sticks.


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    #8747
    Honey-ec
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,844 ✭✭✭Honey-ec


    Herrick wrote: »
    Exchanged a few messages, nothing but the usual opening chit chat. Then nothing.

    They were online a good bit as well.

    Just to point out, someone showing up as being online doesn't necessarily mean they are. I used to leave the phone app logged in all the time, but it didn't mean I was physically viewing the site.


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    #8748
    That_Guy
    Registered Users Posts: 51,342 ✭✭✭✭That_Guy


    Daisies wrote: »
    TG, that girl is a witch.

    I had a feeling she was judging by her profile picture.

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    #8749
    Herrick
    Closed Accounts Posts: 903 ✭✭✭Herrick


    Honey-ec wrote: »
    Just to point out, someone showing up as being online doesn't necessarily mean they are. I used to leave the phone app logged in all the time, but it didn't mean I was physically viewing the site.

    True. But after a day or two of them logging in a few times (it shows up in my message inbox) I think I can forget the hope of it being an app :P


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    #8750
    Crann na Beatha
    Registered Users Posts: 11,763 ✭✭✭✭Crann na Beatha


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    #8751
    dub5
    Registered Users Posts: 146 ✭✭dub5


    Aquila wrote: »
    Oh i got my first flattering comment on pof!
    Ego rising...rising
    :D

    Lucky you...... was it complementing your spelling ?


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    Crann na Beatha
    Registered Users Posts: 11,763 ✭✭✭✭Crann na Beatha


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    #8753
    Armaghmagic
    Registered Users Posts: 1,040 ✭✭✭Armaghmagic


    Aquila wrote: »
    No lol someone thinks I'm hot lol

    PM me your link, could have been me :p


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    Crann na Beatha
    Registered Users Posts: 11,763 ✭✭✭✭Crann na Beatha


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    #8755
    Armaghmagic
    Registered Users Posts: 1,040 ✭✭✭Armaghmagic


    Aquila wrote: »
    Unless you are masquerading as a 21 year old lady from Dublin:eek: :pac:

    Yep, thats the one :D


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    Crann na Beatha
    Registered Users Posts: 11,763 ✭✭✭✭Crann na Beatha


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    #8757
    Adam
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,866 ✭✭✭Adam


    .......awkard :P


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    #8758
    Owen
    Registered Users Posts: 12,683 ✭✭✭✭Owen


    I give up! Met one really nice girl, got chatting to her, spent the night until 3am chatting online until she gave me her mobile, then we exchanged FB's, and then she went a bit stand-off-ish, so I sent her a message after a day or so of her bring curt saying 'I know when I'm being blown off, so the best of luck with everything, and hopefully you'll find someone you like'. Got back a message 6 hours later 'are you mad, I was busy!' which I thought meant I could chat to her again, but nope. Blanked.

    Spent another day chatting to another girl I might be interested in, then blanked.

    So many f*cking blanks at the moment I feel like I've won a Blankety Blank Cheque Book and Pen!

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    #8759
    FC1988
    Registered Users Posts: 5 ✭FC1988


    dub5 wrote: »
    Hey

    I had a look at a couple of peoples profiles on here and gave them good honest advice. It seems to of worked for those people, got more mail. So if you want me to have a look, pm me your link.

    If you wouldn't mind, could you find the time to take a quick look at mine??


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    #8760
    newbee22
    Registered Users Posts: 937 ✭✭✭newbee22


    Owen wrote: »
    I give up!
    Don't give up!


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    #8761
    blacklilly
    Registered Users Posts: 2,687 ✭✭✭blacklilly


    Owen wrote: »
    I give up! Met one really nice girl, got chatting to her, spent the night until 3am chatting online until she gave me her mobile, then we exchanged FB's, and then she went a bit stand-off-ish, so I sent her a message after a day or so of her bring curt saying 'I know when I'm being blown off, so the best of luck with everything, and hopefully you'll find someone you like'. Got back a message 6 hours later 'are you mad, I was busy!' which I thought meant I could chat to her again, but nope. Blanked.

    Spent another day chatting to another girl I might be interested in, then blanked.

    So many f*cking blanks at the moment I feel like I've won a Blankety Blank Cheque Book and Pen!

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    it can be really frustrating but these girls you're talking about are obviously just not worth it. Its happened to me as well, in fact id say it has happened to everyone on online dating!


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