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How many married people do you know have cheated on partner?

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  • #32
    jill_valentine
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,090 ✭✭✭jill_valentine


    Of the couples I know, I don't really know many married ones, so I don't really know many who've cheated. Weirdly, cheating seems less likely among co-habiting couples. Maybe they've already gone their separate ways before the relationship gets to a point when cheating is likely, I guess?


  • #33
    Poor Uncle Tom
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,547 ✭✭✭✭Poor Uncle Tom


    A job I had some years ago meant I was away from home a lot, I also liked the sauce a bit at that time in my life. I've lost count of the number of bars I've staggered out of. I've also lost count of the number of women I've brought with me, for whatever reason, whether people get lonely, enjoying the thrill, like meeting new people, etc, etc., it's only when you connect with someone that everyone else doesn't matter.


  • #34
    Eroticfishcake
    Closed Accounts Posts: 292 ✭✭Eroticfishcake


    PK2008 wrote: »
    Plural?

    Hmmmmmm.......

    Oh I hate you!...I never wanted any of my online friends to find out about all my boyfriends after only 10 posts, please don't tell :)


  • #35
    eastbono
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,758 ✭✭✭eastbono


    I think you got to do a poll.


  • #36
    steve9859
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,554 ✭✭✭steve9859


    Almost all the married people I know have at some stage kissed other people when drunk. I think many people dont see that as cheating. Less have slept with other people (that I know of), bit still a good few.


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  • #37
    saa
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,194 ✭✭✭saa


    Its hard to tell I know a few but I still wouldn't be able to guess how prevalent it is,
    I'm optimistic though.


  • #38
    Absurdum
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,444 ✭✭✭Absurdum


    saa wrote: »
    Its hard to tell I get the feeling the amount of cheater we know is no indication of the prevalence of cheaters.

    this

    if someone goes boasting about it, they're probably lying

    cover your tracks, keep it quiet ;)


  • #39
    Eroticfishcake
    Closed Accounts Posts: 292 ✭✭Eroticfishcake


    mattjack wrote: »
    this is the start of a porn film..?

    Maybe a really really bad one! I know what the groom looks like :D


  • #40
    Bipolar Joe
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,443 ✭✭✭Bipolar Joe


    Never been married, but all but one of the chicks I've gone out with have cheated, which has almost completely put me off the idea of marriage. I'm a lousy lay.

    As regards to married people I know, three of the four I know have cheated, two were the women one was the guy. I feel forgiveness is like saying "It's OK, you can do it again, sure." If you're in a relationship where you're unhappy, just get out of it, then **** whoever you please.


  • #41
    Abi
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,058 ✭✭✭✭Abi


    Biggins wrote: »
    To be honest, my first wife cheated while we were married with a co-worker.
    Gave her and our marriage a second try, when I discovered she did it again, it was game over or should I say marriage!

    Don't know about the ratio as regards Ireland but I do know some countries rank way above others for some reason for extra-marital affairs.

    For the record: I have never cheated. I'm old fashioned when it comes to love and honour.

    You are a good man, Biggins. I think I remember you mentioning the ex before, and I think it's commendable you gave her a second chance. She didn't deserve it though, even if she didn't carry on doing what she was doing.

    The positive part, and the best bit of all is - if she hadn't cheated you wouldn't have met your current wife :)
    MCMLXXV wrote: »
    Not only would I not want to do it - I just couldn't face the guilt and hurt it would do to my partner.

    This would be me, it just wouldn't happen, drunk or sober. People use drink as an excuse, and it would never be something that I'd be willing to accept. It's cowardly.



    I've heard about a lot of cheating, seen it in action. Sickens me.


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  • #42
    2ygb4cmqetsjhx
    Closed Accounts Posts: 564 ✭✭✭2ygb4cmqetsjhx


    Couldn't do it myself but I know loads that would and do. They are married. I also know several women who were sleeping with multiple married men simultaneously. The men were all mates too and they didn't know they were all having an affair with the same woman.

    To be fair to her. She had an amazing pair of hips. You'd be tempted.


  • #43
    Big Nasty
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 22,066 ✭✭✭✭Big Nasty


    Abi wrote: »
    This would be me, it just wouldn't happen, drunk or sober. People use drink as an excuse, and it would never be something that I'd be will to accept. It's cowardly.

    I like my beer and the one and only time it crossed my mind to be unfaithful I was very full of drink. The thought lasted about ten seconds and then I felt guilty as hell. In fact I felt guilty for a couple days afterwards even though I did nothing. I just couldn't bear to hurt her the truth be known.


  • #44
    Brain Stroking
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 1,874 ✭✭✭Brain Stroking


    MCMLXXV wrote: »
    I like my beer and the one and only time it crossed my mind to be unfaithful I was very full of drink. The thought lasted about ten seconds and then I felt guilty as hell. In fact I felt guilty for a couple days afterwards even though I did nothing. I just couldn't bear to hurt her the truth be known.


    What a blouse. When i'm not banging beaver i'm banging f***ing heads


  • #45
    Abi
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,058 ✭✭✭✭Abi


    MCMLXXV wrote: »
    I like my beer and the one and only time it crossed my mind to be unfaithful I was very full of drink. The thought lasted about ten seconds and then I felt guilty as hell. In fact I felt guilty for a couple days afterwards even though I did nothing. I just couldn't bear to hurt her the truth be known.

    I'd say a lot of people have had that moment you had, but you chose to opt out. Thats nothing not a bad thing, that is a good thing :)


  • #46
    Abi
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,058 ✭✭✭✭Abi


    Brain Stroking wrote: »
    What a blouse. When i'm not banging beaver i'm banging f***ing heads

    So you're getting none then?


  • #47
    Eroticfishcake
    Closed Accounts Posts: 292 ✭✭Eroticfishcake


    Abi wrote: »
    So your getting none then?

    Bad headache I reckon :)


  • #48
    Brain Stroking
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 1,874 ✭✭✭Brain Stroking


    Abi wrote: »
    So your getting none then?

    Assumption is the drip that feeds ignorance


  • #49
    Sanity_Saviour
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,036 ✭✭✭Sanity_Saviour


    Brain Stroking wrote: »
    Assumption is the drip that feeds ignorance

    Ignorance is the drip that feeds cheating


  • #50
    LighterGuy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,243 ✭✭✭LighterGuy


    The_Kew_Tour wrote: »
    Well only found out today that my neighbour who got married two wends ago has already split from his wife because she was sleeping with her boss for ages.

    Have a friend who constantly cheats on his wife too and another who getting married in 5 weeks and he slept with woman on stag in Liverpool.

    I would say of the married couples I know friends wise 50% them at least one has cheated...


    Alot of people cheat. Its f*cked up.
    But you could never get accurate numbers of how many do ... as people would never openly admit.


  • #51
    Brain Stroking
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 1,874 ✭✭✭Brain Stroking


    Sanity_Saviour wrote: »
    Ignorance is the drip that feeds cheating

    Cheating is the drip that feeds lust


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  • #52
    Darlughda
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,886 ✭✭✭Darlughda


    The amount of married men/attached out there on dating sites is phenemonal. It takes some time to get to know what the clues are.

    No wonder some single women are put off dating sites, I bet most of their wives don't know what their husbands are at either when they are busy on the internet late at night.

    Maybe, because I am female, I have not experienced the bride cheating, so maybe some fellas can come here with their experiences?

    Having said that, I am constantly amazed how these men, who really appear to be sound, decent blokes can compartmentalize their lives like that? Pursuing single women for sex, and making themselves believe it something utterly different from their lives, as a husband and a father.

    I love the idea of a wedding, vowing in front of your friends and family that this is the person you love and want to spend the rest of your life with. Yet, that is bollix unless you really know that person.

    So many people do the traditional marriage thing, and are one person at home and another online, or in the office or pub/club.


  • #53
    Brain Stroking
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 1,874 ✭✭✭Brain Stroking


    Darlughda wrote: »
    The amount of married men/attached out there on dating sites is phenemonal. It takes some time to get to know what the clues are.

    No wonder some single women are put off dating sites, I bet most of their wives don't know what their husbands are at either when they are busy on the internet late at night.

    Maybe, because I am female, I have not experienced the bride cheating, so maybe some fellas can come here with their experiences?

    Having said that, I am constantly amazed how these men, who really appear to be sound, decent blokes can compartmentalize their lives like that? Pursuing single women for sex, and making themselves believe it something utterly different from their lives, as a husband and a father.

    I love the idea of a wedding, vowing in front of your friends and family that this is the person you love and want to spend the rest of your life with. Yet, that is bollix unless you really know that person.

    So many people do the traditional marriage thing, and are one person at home and another online, or in the office or pub/club.

    I am Brain Stroking online. A dastardly gentleman


  • #54
    Abi
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,058 ✭✭✭✭Abi


    Brain Stroking wrote: »
    Assumption is the drip that feeds ignorance


    Words of 'wisdom' from a cheater, no thanks.


  • #55
    Bipolar Joe
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,443 ✭✭✭Bipolar Joe


    Saw a video online of a chick giving head at her hen night to a male stripper whilst she was wearing her wedding dress. Classy bint if there ever was one.


  • #56
    Sanity_Saviour
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,036 ✭✭✭Sanity_Saviour


    Brain Stroking wrote: »
    Cheating is the drip that feeds lust

    Lust is the drip that feeds ignorance


  • #57
    Bipolar Joe
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,443 ✭✭✭Bipolar Joe


    Ignorance is the lust the drips the feed.


  • #58
    Shpuds
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43 ✭Shpuds


    I had an 'affair'. I say affair loosely as we never went the full mile, i was riddled with guilt and put and end to it before it got too far. I could say we were over(husband) as he worked nearly 24/7 and often over seas but it was still very wrong. We are over now and i regret it ever since. I could never ever do it again!


  • #59
    Brain Stroking
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 1,874 ✭✭✭Brain Stroking


    Abi wrote: »
    Words of 'wisdom' from a cheater, no thanks.

    I think it would be unfair to say that there is no wisdom to be gleaned from a cheating male or female. Sexual deviancy/incompetence/promiscuity has zero to do with wisdom. And where did i say i was a cheater?


  • #60
    galwayrush
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,815 ✭✭✭✭galwayrush


    Some years back, one of my staff , a young apprentice brought a scanner to work, he thought it was great listening to people's mobile conversations( 088 days) and he was highly amused at the amount of affairs going on in the area, how we laughed when it turned out to be his own mother involved in at least 3 of them.


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  • #61
    Tigger
    Closed Accounts Posts: 16,701 ✭✭✭✭Tigger


    Brain Stroking wrote: »
    What a blouse. When i'm not banging beaver i'm banging f***ing heads

    i wish i was still 15


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