Dry Spell

magneticimpulse wrote: »

yeah well when youve spent 6 weeks chatting everynight for 2 hours and exchanged uptee number of photos...its a complete waste of time when you dont even get a kiss on your date. after the guy told you about 20 times he thought you are very attractive from the photos...i mean thats just weird.

All my guy friends thought it was weird as well.

Anyway, this guy had me worked up thinking that i might have had a chance with sex after a 2 year dry spell. I suppose I went on abit too much about how I was horny as a result to my friend. Weird situation...especially since friend is in Rome this week with his girlfriend for her 30th.

Ah well the search continues to get out of the dry spell

Should have mounted him, or said you'd do anything. You'd be set. Some people fear making the move on the chance they'd be revoked.

FEAR CUTS DEEPER THAN SWORDS.

magneticimpulse wrote: »

I just finished a 2 year dry spell last week...thou i'll prob go again for a similar dry spell again. Reason being the guy (English) in question already has a girlfriend. (yeah drunken one off with one of my best friends, but when its offered to you on a plate after 2 years of nothing it was hard to turn down).

I'm surprised nobody has noticed that this English guy actually cheated on his girlfriend to have a one night stand! He sounds like a diamond geezer alright :rolleyes:

beano345 wrote: »

yeah but looks come into the equation too.if your a stunning looking women you have no problem getting men if your average looking it takes abit more work for male attention

.......but not that much more effort in fairness as they can still get away with never approaching men and still score regularly. If a guy likes one thing about a girl then that could be enough to seal the deal, women need a multitude of boxes that need to be ticked and even then there are no guarantees.

Anyway, regardless of what magneticimpluse says, the majority of Irish men aren't really that fussy at all, infact I'd go as far as saying that we are actual the complete opposite, I should know, I'm a total horn dog!

beano345 wrote: »

the point i was making is that good looking women usually have men flocking to them it requires little to no effort on their behalf an average or unattractive woman has to be a bit more active unless she just wants to target drunk men at the end of the night! but i do agree it leads to lots of problems and resentment. i actually know girls like this that wait for men to be drunk and then pounce:D relationships rarely form out it though

I'm not too sure about your point here on the hot girls having men flock to them. I've punched well above my weight, you could say, in terms of being with "hot" girls, mainly because I've had the balls to go up and chat to them etc.

Very often in my experience, lads just seem afraid or uncomfortable with going for the hottest of a bunch of ladies. Maybe its the fear of rejection, or maybe they see that girl as out of their league. Not something I've ever felt personally. The way I see it, no one is out of my league. That stuff is bull**** tbh. On the past occasions that I've ended up with the "hot" girl, its often been said by her, that people simply don't approach her. You hear this said often in the media too.

beano345 wrote: »

i was thinking more this

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qip0xbjr0aA

its about an indian reservation in canada where theres more men than women so the ones that dont have girlfriends drink this cheap ass wine called cracklin rosie! hope the same doesnt happen in ireland:D

Hmm. From my female point of view there seem to be far more women than men in IRELAND yet a fair few of the men persist in drinking cheap ass beer, wine, spirits etc instead of talking to women

It's insulting to less "hot" women (I'm one) to suggest that we're only worth being approached at the end of the night or that we should have to approach guys who are largely uninterested. The philosophy seems to be that dogs should beg! Even so, no matter how unattractive the women or how long the dry spell, being somebody's closing time last resort choice is a huge turnoff for most women. Why bother, the sex will probably be crap, there won't be any connection and you'll wake up hungover the next morning screaming WTF before sneaking off knowing that you'll never see that person again. Not a recipe for fun.

I don't know why nobody brought this point up, maybe fewer girls and women in Ireland are willing to have one-night-stands because of the double-standard which still exists.

It gets harder for both genders as you get older (ok, hot older men have it easier) as there are fewer places you can go. Lots of men looking for one night stands on dating sites and haven't got the cojones to admit it, they just pretend they want to "date". Sites like adultfriendfinder can be downright nasty (how many pictures of sausages can you look at before you throw up?) so we're limited.

Oh, and I agree with the person who said like the dating scene here is like trying to get an interview with Google. Which reminds me, one of my more memorable successful nights was with a guy who worked there, but he wasn't Irish.

Raekwon wrote: »

Interesting. I would have thought the opposite so I'd like to see the census results on that, but either way, most pubs/clubs have a ratio of men far greater then women.....unless you included The George

I would find it easier to talk to the men in the George and discuss things like fashion but no chance of scoring there.

beano345 wrote: »

i agree 100% i would'nt go home with someone as a last resort myself.but thats what the dating scene in ireland has deteriorated into.its always funny at the end of the night in a nightclub when the lights come on to watch people desperately running around trying to pick up someone.

It happens every weekend though. I was at a 30th in D2 on Harcourt Street a few weeks ago and at the end of the night there was loads of lads waiting around the exit finishing their drinks and trying to grab at anyone female that moved. I queued for coats while my gf and her mate waited outside. When I went out they were literally surrounded by blokes and when I handed over their jackets and bags one bloke even squared up to me because he thought I was trying to muscle in on his 'burd' :rolleyes:

But this is far from an exclusive Irish trait, we only seem to do this when we are tanked up and/or totally desperate, it's much worse in other countries. For example next time I'm going to Italy, for example, I'm going to bring a taser with me because the amount of (mostly sober) wannabe casanova's over there trying to chat up my gf, one bloke even did it right in front of me

Poor Craythur wrote: »

Yeah, yeah, your GF is hot, we get it! :P:D

Oh behave!

*Her Irish mate was getting more attention though

*tactfully throws cat among the pigeons