How important is a man's job when it comes to dating?

Look at the wives and girlfriends or some ugly rich men, and you will have your answer

This was in about 2006 or 2007

A friend of my brother, self employed, was on a few dates with a “career driven woman”.

He had a few people working for him (he never mentioned this in the beginning as he’s not one to talk himself up) and often took a few days at leisure, the girl took this as him being a part time worker and told him that she wanted someone more career focused and someone who strives to be the best in their field and it fizzled out from there.

His business really took off, and he did really well through the recession and is pretty much semi retired now (mid 40s)

Career woman lost her job early on in the financial collapse, applied for a job with for his company and he interviewed her. Apparently it was very awkward and she actually turned down the job out of pride / awkwardness

About a year later she called him on his personal phone to see if he had any work available for her.

moral of the story; it was extremely important to her, so much so she blanked him when she thought his career wasn’t good enough for her

I've no idea why I'm engaging in this thread in good faith given the responses already, but I'll post my response to pretty much the exact same question when it was posted in TGC a while ago:

For what it's worth, I'm female and a prospective partner's money holds very, very little interest for me. As long as they're solvent and can afford to do fun stuff (eat out, go away for the weekend, etc.) with me, that's good enough for me. I don't expect anyone to bankroll me and I've no interest in bankrolling anyone else.

The difference between 30k and 150k is a lot less than the difference between 13k and 30k.

Its my excuse ..im broke and men are goldiggers :P

I dated a guy who had less money than me. In fact he was as close to homeless as one could be tbh.

But ..He GOT IT.

I'm male and have had plenty of dates/short term relationships over the years and was only asked once about my income (and that was a first date, massive turn off). I've been asked what I do for a living plenty of times but that's general conversation.

I did always get it out there pretty early myself that I had my **** together, owned a house, drove nice car, had a circle of friends and hobbies but never found women overly interested in what my cash flow could do to help them maintain a lifestyle. However, I probably have dated women in good jobs most of the time.

Current GF/fiance I am on quite a bit more than her but even before we met she had left a soul destroying job for a lower paid public sector job but still earned pretty well. She pays her own way for household and day to day, and it works for us. I do most of the treat nights though, but that's really on my insistence. We are going to Aviva on Sunday for rugby match, I bought the tickets (€150 for 2) and will go for a ramble around town after and get some food and a fewdrinks which she will probably pay for (€80 to €100 or so I'd guess, might be more). But a €250 to €300 day out is not completely on me and I love her for it.

All the women I know want financial security alright but so do all the men. I don't think many want to be kept women or have access to a no limit credit card. Yes, there are some but I'm telling you now if there were men out there with the option to be bankrolled some would too. I actually know 1 or 2 women that have dumped male long term partners who tried to freeload.

I don't know why I'm bothering, but I've been married. And when it ended I walked away from the house, the contents and signed away all my rights to my ex's extremely lucrative army pension, despite the howls of protest from my solicitor. I genuinely have no interest in somebody else's money.

If every woman you've ever met is a gold-digging cynic, perhaps you'd be better served examining how you keep meeting them?

He GOT IT

Herpes?

50k is a sort of magic number though where you can afford a nice lifestyle, eating out, new cars, plenty of travel, basically no need to be penny pinching. So once you achieve that, even if the woman is on multiples of that, you are both in a decent position and on some kind of level playing field.

The problem arises more where the guy is on 25/30/35k or a lower status job which puts him in a vastly different position to the high achieving woman. That, more often than not, is going nowhere.

I'm 41! But yes the dating world is great at my age, they're practically lining up in their late 30s if you're a decent guy!

So what you're saying is your standards are extremely low.

I'm sorry, but I have to pull you up on your very very shallow last line

Nice face and rack and I'm happy :)

That is completely unacceptable to trot that line out in these modern times...........far too simplistic......surely one would need to also include a decent arse as well as not being too chunky?

Although I don't quite get the point of your story. One lady interested and the other wasn't because she thought you were a waster? When the latter found out you had a job she was now interested/jealous? Is that the story?

Could it not also have been that she was happy to have her friend going out with a tattoo artist but didn't want her to risk ending up with an IT nerd? 😋

Ah here, go back to maths class.

So €120,000 is a lot less than €17,000 yeah? OK. Cool.

So how long do you think I have with my partner who earns a lot more than me and is way more qualified and successful then? I'm sure she could get someone with more money if she wanted, but I think you'll find that isn't the most important thing to most reasonable people.