Now Ye're Talking - to an Irish escort

Dial Hard · 21-03-2017 10:27pm

northknife wrote:

I wonder are the following boardsies customers of yours

Dial Hard and PlentyOhToole

Hokayyyyyyyy.

Straight chick who's already said she was propositioned in the same way that Lara joined the business, but if you got "John" from any of my posts then I'm not going to disabuse you of that notion.

???

Mister Vain · 21-03-2017 10:32pm

Dial Hard wrote: »

Hokayyyyyyyy.

Straight chick who's already said she was propositioned in the same way that Lara joined the business, but if you got "John" from any of my posts then I'm not going to disabuse you of that notion.

???

Ha, I always pictured you as a bald dude in a vest for some reason.

knucklehead6 · 21-03-2017 10:33pm

Dial Hard wrote: »

Hokayyyyyyyy.

Straight chick who's already said she was propositioned in the same way that Lara joined the business, but if you got "John" from any of my posts then I'm not going to disabuse you of that notion.

???

A play on the hard part of your name?

Mister Vain · 21-03-2017 10:36pm

Do your clients usually take the cash out of their wallet or do they ever give you an envelope?

LaraLushhhhh · 21-03-2017 10:38pm

HONKEY TONK wrote: »

I can give you some points

1. How are you dressed when entering the hotel and does it match your story if you are asked in polite conversation.

2. How are your clients dressed when when entering the hotel.

3. The hotels you use. Do they generally have male or females on reception.

4. Are you booking under your own name or are you a "PA " booking on behalf of your boss.

When working in hotels, you tend to profile the people walking on the door at a glance

I dress smart casual
I don't get clients who wear track suits !!!
Also I must add I only ever use hotels where the lifts are away from the reception area or underground
Mainly female receptionists
I book under my own name

LaraLushhhhh · 21-03-2017 10:39pm

Mister Vain wrote: »

Do your clients usually take the cash out of their wallet or do they ever give you an envelope?

Their wallets

Stheno · 21-03-2017 10:41pm

LaraLushhhhh wrote: »

I dress smart casual
I don't get clients who wear track suits !!!
Also I must add I only ever use hotels where the lifts are away from the reception area or underground
Mainly female receptionists
I book under my own name

Do you check in e.g. at 12pm then check out the same day at say 9 pm and never stay overnight?

LaraLushhhhh · 21-03-2017 10:43pm

Stheno wrote: »

Do you check in e.g. at 12pm then check out the same day at say 9 pm and never stay overnight?

I check in around 1, I pay as I check in so if I do leave early it's not noticed

Mister Vain · 21-03-2017 10:44pm

When you're putting on a condom, do you grab the tip and roll it down or do you do it the way most other escorts do it, just grab the base of the condom and stretch it out?

anewme · 21-03-2017 10:44pm

HONKEY TONK wrote: »

4. Are you booking under your own name or are you a "PA " booking on behalf of your boss.

I'm a PA and often book for my boss. Am I doing something wrong?

As an aside, great AMA, you have great patience, Lara, some of the questions are ridiculous.
The age one is an example.

What part of "she's not answering that question do you not understand"?

As an independent woman, even the questions are annoying me, never mind having to entertain people who clearly are not the sharpest tools
(Pardon the pun)

How do you keep yourself mentally challenged when you are working?

Aint Eazy Being Cheezy · 21-03-2017 10:46pm

LaraLushhhhh wrote: »

No just dinner

How does that go? You did say earlier that sex is always involved, and I'm assuming that you're on the clock from the moment they arrive. So, they meet you in the restaurant, pay you for your time, pay for the meal, up to the room, shower, sex, leave? I must be missing something, why bother with the meal? Loneliness?

Stheno · 21-03-2017 10:46pm

LaraLushhhhh wrote: »

I check in around 1, I pay as I check in so if I do leave early it's not noticed

Good plan a lot of business travellers do that to avoid chaos in the morning

Dravokivich · 21-03-2017 10:46pm

You've mentioned that you don't intend on interacting much with other escorts to keep up your sense of privacy. I recall reading on some forums previously of sex workers or people intent on being sex workers reaching out to others for advice and such. Have you ever had to deal with another escort approaching you regarding these kind of subjects seeking to discuss with you as a peer?

You seem to emphasize a need to identify yourself as independent (I'm aware of the distinction), but even as an independent escort, do you consider others in that line of work peers, or just someone who does the same job? (Not as a judgment on them, Ive read your replies earlier about curiosity of the potential for others to be escorts and that's pretty much it)

There tends to be a lot of perception focused towards sex workers as victims. I appreciate your commentary here is an effort to normalize our view of the people involved and i recognise it'll be a difficult one to put across. It appears to have been well received here. Best of luck with it.

LaraLushhhhh · 21-03-2017 10:46pm

anewme wrote: »

I'm a PA and often book for my boss. Am I doing something wrong?

As an aside, great AMA, you have great patience, Lara, some of the questions are repetitive. Specially the age one.

What part of "she's not answering that question do you not understand"?

As an independent woman, even the questions are annoying me, never mind having to entertain people who clearly are not the sharpest tools
(Pardon the pun.

How do you keep yourself mentally challenged when you are working?

I actually don't mind lazing around hotel rooms watching tv, reading or napping

LaraLushhhhh · 21-03-2017 10:50pm

Dravokivich wrote: »

You've mentioned that you don't intend on interacting much with other escorts to keep up your sense of privacy. I recall reading on some forums previously of sex workers or people intent on being sex workers reaching out to others for advice and such. Have you ever had to deal with another escort approaching you regarding these kind of subjects seeking to discuss with you as a peer?

You seem to emphasize a need to identify yourself as independent (I'm aware of the distinction), but even as an independent escort, do you consider others in that line of work peers, or just someone who does the same job? (Not as a judgment on them, Ive read your replies earlier about curiosity of the potential for others to be escorts and that's pretty much it)

There tends to be a lot of perception focused towards sex workers as victims. I appreciate your commentary here is an effort to normalize our view of the people involved and i recognise it'll be a difficult one to put across. It appears to have been well received here. Best of luck with it.

I tend to keep myself to myself but yes I've reached out to other Irish girls on occasions for advise about one thing or another. They've all been lovely might I add but I don't want to get too friendly with them. It's just my preference. Girls have contacted me before too just for a chat. I've no problem with it

Nomenclatures · 21-03-2017 10:51pm

Hi Lara, I've previously worked in your line of business too and I agree with pretty much all of what you say. For my part, I have a family so it was slightly different style of USP /business offering. And therefore, I am in a position to answer the "what would you do if you had family " question, and fwiw, it's broadly similar to your own current answer :-)
In respect to pimped or forced prostitution, I agree with you, there is no comparison or if it neccessitous by virtue of extreme poverty or addiction, and people should not disabuse themselves of the notion that all Irish women are in the fortunate (?) position you're in. Nor is it all "happy hookers " either!
Given that I've mentioned above in respect of working while attached; do you think it would be difficult for you to reach a juncture where you are satisfied that you've made your money and can draw a line under it? Also, do you feel that whilst working in this area, are you less open to the prospect of meeting a partner?
Great AMA btw.

Geuze · 21-03-2017 10:52pm

StringerBell wrote: »

I don't judge you at all for the record in case its coming across that I am negative about the industry itself, I think prostitution should be legalised for what its worth and the women involved given greater protection. What two consenting adults do is between them as long as there is no harm being done.

Prostitution is not illegal in Ireland.

What Lara does is legal.

"Exchanging money for sexual services is not illegal in Ireland however, soliciting, living off the earnings of prostitution and organising prostitution are illegal as set out in the Criminal Law (Sexual Offences) Act, 1993"

Mister Vain · 21-03-2017 10:53pm

Isn't there a new law being implemented in Ireland to criminalise the purchase of sex?

LaraLushhhhh · 21-03-2017 10:53pm

Aint Eazy Being Cheezy wrote: »

How does that go? You did say earlier that sex is always involved, and I'm assuming that you're on the clock from the moment they arrive. So, they meet you in the restaurant, pay you for your time, pay for the meal, up to the room, shower, sex, leave? I must be missing something, why bother with the meal? Loneliness?

I guess some guys like to "normalise" is to a certain extent ! And of course I'm great company

LaraLushhhhh · 21-03-2017 10:54pm

Mister Vain wrote: »

Isn't there a new law being implemented in Ireland to criminalise the purchase of sex?

Yes! Maybe you should read up on it instead of asking me how I put on a condom !!

Mister Vain · 21-03-2017 10:55pm

LaraLushhhhh wrote: »

Yes! Maybe you should read up on it instead of asking me how I put on a condom !!

I thought that was a valid question. Anyway how will that affect your business?

BorneTobyWilde · 21-03-2017 11:00pm

LaraLushhhhh wrote: »

What's a "real escort" in your opinion ?

No sex, someone to go see a movie with or hangout with at an event. I can imagine there are 1000's of guy who would like to avail of such a service.
What football team to you support?

Tigger · 21-03-2017 11:00pm

LaraLushhhhh wrote: »

As I said previously I am lucky enough now to have enough regular clients so I don't need to meet strangers anymore but yes it was very scary not knowing who was coming to the door.
Where I work from thou they would be very silly to try anything nasty
I havnt been contacted by anyone I know thank god

what does this mean?

Toots · 21-03-2017 11:01pm

Do you supply the condoms, or does the client? I'm assuming you'd supply them so you could be sure they were good quality/in date, etc? Do you have a big selection that you bring with you, or do you have a preferred type/brand that you stick to. Hope that's not too personal

anewme · 21-03-2017 11:01pm

LaraLushhhhh wrote: »

Yes! Maybe you should read up on it instead of asking me how I put on a condom !!

Do people take money out of their wallet?

No, they do three cartwheels around the room and it flies by magic out of their backside.

You have great patience as I've said!

LaraLushhhhh · 21-03-2017 11:01pm

Nomenclatures wrote: »

Hi Lara, I've previously worked in your line of business too and I agree with pretty much all of what you say. For my part, I have a family so it was slightly different style of USP /business offering. And therefore, I am in a position to answer the "what would you do if you had family " question, and fwiw, it's broadly similar to your own current answer :-)
In respect to pimped or forced prostitution, I agree with you, there is no comparison or if it neccessitous by virtue of extreme poverty or addiction, and people should not disabuse themselves of the notion that all Irish women are in the fortunate (?) position you're in. Nor is it all "happy hookers " either!
Given that I've mentioned above in respect of working while attached; do you think it would be difficult for you to reach a juncture where you are satisfied that you've made your money and can draw a line under it? Also, do you feel that whilst working in this area, are you less open to the prospect of meeting a partner?
Great AMA btw.

I honestly do think that if i really wanted to stop then I would stop. Immediately.
I will draw a line under it but when I don't know.
I'm open to meeting someone to have a relationship with yes but at the moment I'm happy enough being single. I have dated guys too since I've started this but for one reason or another things havnt worked out.

LaraLushhhhh · 21-03-2017 11:04pm

Mister Vain wrote: »

I thought that was a valid question. Anyway how will that affect your business?

Can you please tell me how in the name of god asking me how I put on a condom is a valid question ?

Mister Vain · 21-03-2017 11:04pm

anewme wrote: »

Do people take money out of their wallet?

No, they do three cartwheels around the room and it flies by magic out of their backside.

You have great patience as I've said!

Actually its not uncommon for people to put the money in an envelope.

Tigger · 21-03-2017 11:08pm

anewme wrote: »

Do people take money out of their wallet?

No, they do three cartwheels around the room and it flies by magic out of their backside.

You have great patience as I've said!

my wallet is for my cards and receipts
money is in my pocket
i think most men are the same

Aint Eazy Being Cheezy · 21-03-2017 11:11pm

Mister Vain wrote: »

Actually its not uncommon for people to put the money in an envelope.

Funnily enough, he's got a point. On the <most popular escort advert website> that is one of the suggested etiquette rules, that you place money in an envelope, rather than taking it out of your wallet like you're "at the checkout in Dunnes".

I'm guessing fellas don't, and if they did, would you trust your regulars enough not to have to count in?

LaraLushhhhh · 21-03-2017 11:12pm

Tigger wrote: »

what does this mean?

Hotels have cameras on the corridors

JeffKenna · 21-03-2017 11:13pm

Hi Laura,

What do you do with the money you make? I presume you can't lodge it into the bank for tax reasons so do you spend it all or store it somewhere?

anewme · 21-03-2017 11:13pm

Tigger wrote: »

my wallet is for my cards and receipts
money is in my pocket
i think most men are the same

But do you carry your money around in envelopes, in your pockets.

Actually I get the point if you gave an envelope sealed , would you count it out in front of customer.

But that could be applied to any trade, e.g. Gas man coming to fix boiler, I leave money in an envelope.

What I like about AMA is the chance to ask people questions that do not appply to every walk of life.

northknife · 21-03-2017 11:14pm

Dial Hard wrote: »

Hokayyyyyyyy.

Straight chick who's already said she was propositioned in the same way that Lara joined the business, but if you got "John" from any of my posts then I'm not going to disabuse you of that notion.

???

Mister Vain wrote: »

Ha, I always pictured you as a bald dude in a vest for some reason.

knucklehead6 wrote: »

A play on the hard part of your name?

Sorry Miss Hard, just saw the name and never looked up previous posts as I generally dont do that. Hope you werent offended..

nibtrix · 21-03-2017 11:17pm

HONKEY TONK wrote: »

I see the average "john" dressed like a"John" walking in and going to the lifts.

How does a "John" dress? Sunglasses in winter and a newspaper in front of them to cover their face? As Lara has already said her clients are of widely varying ages, I would presume they wear a variety of clothing styles as well.

Zaph · 21-03-2017 11:21pm

OK folks, once again please confine the chat among yourselves to PM. Thank you.

HugsiePie · 21-03-2017 11:25pm

Hi Lara, loving the AMA

What would be your least favourite aspect of the lifestyle/job?
Aside from the money whats your favourite aspect of the lifestyle/job?
When you were first stating out you said it was nerve wrecking not knowing who was coming in the door, did you have any sort of security put into place during that time incase someone or something got out of hand?
What would you advise yourself three years ago about getting into the busines that you didnt know then that you wish you did?
You say you make all your clients think they are your favourite, but do you actually have a favourite?
You said one friend knows about your escort work-why/when did you decide to tell them, was is straight away or was it after some time in the business?

Apologies if any of these have been answered before, and thanks again for doing this!

anewme · 21-03-2017 11:26pm

Maybe too personal question. Like yourself, money is a motivator of mine.

How will you know when you need to give up as opposed to keeping going because of the money, i.e. work life balance.

While people have said you won't be getting rich, taking home between 4-5k per month net would be the equivalent of what, 90-100k per year?

That's decent money and not always replicated in a day job.

I'm likening it to the career of a footballer, great earnings, but short career span.

Will it be hard to give up?

Tigger · 21-03-2017 11:30pm

there are a lot of assumptions here about savings and rationalaty of selling ones self

i personally feel that its a "nice" lifestyle choice for her now but that she wont be retiring off it or making a career progression off it

you only live once as the young folks say

is this what you think op or do you have a plan?

LaraLushhhhh · 21-03-2017 11:32pm

HugsiePie wrote: »

Hi Lara, loving the AMA

What would be your least favourite aspect of the lifestyle/job?
Aside from the money whats your favourite aspect of the lifestyle/job?
When you were first stating out you said it was nerve wrecking not knowing who was coming in the door, did you have any sort of security put into place during that time incase someone or something got out of hand?
What would you advise yourself three years ago about getting into the busines that you didnt know then that you wish you did?
You say you make all your clients think they are your favourite, but do you actually have a favourite?
You said one friend knows about your escort work-why/when did you decide to tell them, was is straight away or was it after some time in the business?

Apologies if any of these have been answered before, and thanks again for doing this!

My least favourite aspect is the travelling. It gets pretty tiring
My favourite part is the money, simple as
No I didn't have security when I started
Yes I have a few favourites ! I love to see them coming !! No pun intended
My friend knew from the very start and even travelled with me which was security in itself for me

LaraLushhhhh · 21-03-2017 11:34pm

anewme wrote: »

Maybe too personal question. Like yourself, money is a motivator of mine.

How will you know when you need to give up as opposed to keeping going because of the money, i.e. work life balance.

While people have said you won't be getting rich, taking home between 4-5k per month net would be the equivalent of what, 90-100k per year?

That's decent money and not always replicated in a day job.

I'm likening it to the career of a footballer, great earnings, but short career span.

Will it be hard to give up?

The most I'd take home would be that amount but you have to take into consideration the very quiet days or weeks too

Mirror game · 22-03-2017 12:02am

Ever met anyone famous on the job?

Do you work xmas and other holidays or take it easy?

When you travel, do you try follow the money, as in go to an event that will attract rich folk, race meetings etc?

Do you use other hotel facilities bar/restaurant/ leisure center/ have a game of tennis. I suspect it's all room service.

Purple Mountain · 22-03-2017 5:02am

LaraLushhhhh wrote: »

m'lady wrote: »

Wow Lara... what an interesting read, and so honest! I actually only finished watching 'The client list', a load of rubbish but kinda car crash tv!

You say that if you ever had a daughter that you wouldn't like her to get into this kind of business (totally understandable, we've all done things we wouldn't like our children to do), I think I possibly know the answer to this, but here goes; how would you feel if you had a son and he visited an escort?

I watched the client list too! It's rubbish acting isn't it ?! I'd have done beetter myself.
That is such an interesting question. I'll probably get bombarded with negativity for this but no I don't think it would bother me if I had a son who visited escorts

Hi there.
Have you read Paying for It? I really enjoyed that book.
Also I'm wondering if you're aiming at a more high end clientele, which I assume you are given the term escort over prostitute (don't mean that to sound sarcastic) were you ever worried that you may be booked by someone with a lot of disposable income? Ie-someone with money from crime proceeds. Maybe that's too personal to ask but after reading that book that thought occurred to me.

Purple Mountain · 22-03-2017 5:26am

Sorry I see in an earlier post that the crime aspect has been answered.
Take care.

PaddyWilliams · 22-03-2017 7:23am

Neyite wrote: »

Maybe you should read through the thread, as they've been answered. But since you are terribly busy, I'll recap for you. The answers the guest gave were:
1. No
2. Not applicable.

Thanks for this AMA Op. My question is; what was your perception of prostitution/ escorting before you started working in the industry, and how does it compare with your current view of the work, knowing what you know now?

What's the need for the negativity? I didn't have the time, so pardon me if asking a few questions is a bad thing. Some people.

Slutmonkey57b · 22-03-2017 8:35am

PaddyWilliams wrote: »

What's the need for the negativity? I didn't have the time, so pardon me if asking a few questions is a bad thing. Some people.

In this thread, the ama's time is valuable, yours isn't; and you were wasting it by asking them to repeat themselves, when your questions were answered fairly early on, and you could have just used the search function. So yes, "some people".

Vojera · 22-03-2017 9:36am

Have you ever considered becoming a cam-girl or doing any online stuff or do you reckon it would be too easy for someone you know to find out about that?

LaraLushhhhh · 22-03-2017 9:37am

Vojera wrote: »

Have you ever considered becoming a cam-girl or doing any online stuff or do you reckon it would be too easy for someone you know to find out about that?

No i wouldn't have any interest in that at all

Surreptitious · 22-03-2017 9:50am

Hi. Good morning Lara. Is it against the rules to ask for a PM? I can't ask it here due to safety's sake. If I can't that's OK too.

LaraLushhhhh · 22-03-2017 9:53am

Surreptitious wrote: »

Hi. Good morning Lara. Is it against the rules to ask for a PM? I can't ask it here due to safety's sake. If I can't that's OK too.

I don't mind PMs once it's not like the other few I got asking to meet me ! (Angry face)

Now Ye're Talking - to an Irish escort

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