Now Ye're Talking - to an Irish escort

TCDStudent1

if you were offered an alternative job (e.g. In an office) for same hours and money, would you give up the escort job?

You mentioned earlier that you got into this first when a guy on a dating site offered you money. Did he just straight out offer you money or was there some interaction beforehand? And how long did you think about it before accepting?

LaraLushhhhh

Sinister Kid wrote: »

Do any of your clients ask to cuddle after?
Do you think that some/any of your clients are more so looking for the intimacy?

Yes loads of them and that's totally fine with me, I actually enjoy cuddling or just sitting and chatting with a coffee afterwards .... once they don't go over their time of course :P

LaraLushhhhh

ems_12 wrote: »

I have a random question; do you bring sheets to the hotel room in case of 'mess', or do your clients throughout the day use the same sheets? (I don't reckon the hotel change the sheets each time!!)

Yes I bring spare sheets and towels.

LaraLushhhhh

RicePat wrote: »

If someone pays for an hour do they get an hour or is it just up til jizz oclock? Like, could yer man not have argued to go again?

Yes they get the full hour of course. If they want to go again that's no problem. Lots don't thou, they prefer to leave soon after

LaraLushhhhh

Gloomtastic! wrote: »

Can you rent the hotel rooms for an hour or two, or do you have to pay the nightly rate? (That must eat into your profits)

No you can't , as far as I know.

LaraLushhhhh

Neyite wrote: »

Maybe you should read through the thread, as they've been answered. But since you are terribly busy, I'll recap for you. The answers the guest gave were:
1. No
2. Not applicable.


Thanks for this AMA Op. My question is; what was your perception of prostitution/ escorting before you started working in the industry, and how does it compare with your current view of the work, knowing what you know now?

I honestly never gave it much thought but I did think that it was purely street work really.

H3llR4iser

LaraLushhhhh wrote: »

A few have told me I was but I don't know

Yeah, that means you were indeed their first experience - these guys didn't have any interest making up stories, male virginity is socially considered quite embarrassing past our late teens/early 20s

LaraLushhhhh

mrsdewinter wrote: »

What kind of notice do you get with a client? Would they text on a Sunday to arrange a meeting during the week? Or would they chance phoning you in the morning to see if you could meet them that day?
(I guess I'm just curious about the punters: is paid-for sex an indulgence they look forward to over a period of a few days, or is it a 'I really need to blow off some steam Right Now' kinda thing.)

Great AMA, by the way. Brilliant insight. Thank you so much!

I advertise online a day or two before I am due to arrive to give clients enough time to see that I will be in their area that week. My phone won't be on thou until the day I start working.

nacho libre

LaraLushhhhh wrote: »

I don't know when I'm going to stop. I'm happy to continue for now anyway! I wouldn't save a huge amount! I live in a nice house , I own a good car, I holiday twice a year, have weekly beauty treatments and I shop weekly ! I'm very happy so far

Hi,
A few questions:


If i'm not mistaken, you stated earlier you've no extra money to help your family?
The above seems to suggest you do in fact have money but lavish it on yourself.

Is it that you want your family to think you have no disposable income so they don't find out what your second job is? Does it not get draining keeping all this hidden from your family?

You mention you are too clever to develop feelings for clients. Do you not mean you are too clever to let personal attachment interfere with a lucrative income source?


Also, based on what you say, it's amazing how ego centric and gullible men who pay you for sex can be, thinking they are your favourite. Do you really have respect for these men? Or is it that you are such a great actress, they can't help but be duped by you?

Sinister Kid

Do the guys ever bring you gifts? or tip?

LaraLushhhhh

Surreptitious wrote: »

I think Lara said she pays for the hotel for the night plus if everyone is using condoms and showering, what need would there be to change sheets so often?

I'd always bring a spare set just in case.
When I started out I met a guy once who was so rough that he made me bleed. I had to go home then as I couldn't continue for the day. So what I do now is put on my own sheets as soon as I arrive and at least if that happened again or there was any kind of mess the hotel sheets wouldn't be ruined

LaraLushhhhh

eviltwin wrote: »

Is there a lot of pressure to maintain yourself physically to the point you would consider surgery etc ?

What percentage of your fee is profit when you take out all your expenses?

No I wouldn't consider surgery. I'm happy with my body and face so no need to do that yet anyway.

The first client of the day will cover my daily expenses

StringerBell

Apologies if its been asked, and thanks for doing the thread very interesting read (as far as I got anyway!)

Do you respect the men who avail of your service or is it more a sense of pity you have when you think about them?

I have never used an escort myself but know friends of mine have, I can't get my head around feeling like I would be having sex with someone who just wanted it over asap and thought I was a dick or pathetic for even being there. I have had the same feelings while in strip clubs, just not for me.

I don't judge you at all for the record in case its coming across that I am negative about the industry itself, I think prostitution should be legalised for what its worth and the women involved given greater protection. What two consenting adults do is between them as long as there is no harm being done.

So yeah, what do you think of the men? Pathetic or just like any other person using a service?

LaraLushhhhh

Rekop dog wrote: »

You seem very unconcerned with regards STI's. With the number of people you get through, even if fully protected, someone may have a sore on the inside of their mouth you wouldn't notice and could pass on serious infection. I'd imagine the type of guy to use escorts would be in the higher risk category of carrying something too.

Is it genuinely something you feel you have in check or is there an element of burying your head in the sand?

Why do you think I seem unconcerned about STIs ??? Where did you get that idea from??
I said already I get tested regularly, condoms are always used, even for oral and I don't French kiss!!

"The type of guy to use escorts" !!! Sorry but that's a ridiculous thing to say.

LaraLushhhhh

Rekop dog wrote: »

You can get tested every day but it doesn't prevent you from picking something up.

You probably will have more of a chance picking up something from a girl you've picked up on a Saturday night than an escort .
Ignorance at its best

LaraLushhhhh

Merkin wrote: »

This is such an interesting read, thanks Laura.

I should imagine setting parameters can be challenging, especially when someone views themselves as a paying customer. What are your parameters of acceptability and when do you make this clear to the punter?

For example, do you allow anal? Or BDSM? How far will you go? And how do you get this across to the punter? Do you set out some ground rules before anything happens, irrespective of them having been to you before?

No I don't allow anal. They know that no means no or they can just leave. Luckily my regulars know what I do and don't do at this stage

mrsdewinter

nacho libre wrote: »

Hi,
A few questions:


If i'm not mistaken, you stated earlier you've no extra money to help your family?
The above seems to suggest you do in fact have money but lavish it on yourself.

I dunno. OP said that the most she's pulled in over a week is €1200. If that's the max, it's hardly life-changing money she's making - it's enough to boost your savings account & pay for the holidays, but not enough to go paying off her Mam's mortgage, or go buying her sister a new car.

m'lady

Wow Lara... what an interesting read, and so honest! I actually only finished watching 'The client list', a load of rubbish but kinda car crash tv!

You say that if you ever had a daughter that you wouldn't like her to get into this kind of business (totally understandable, we've all done things we wouldn't like our children to do), I think I possibly know the answer to this, but here goes; how would you feel if you had a son and he visited an escort?

deadanonymau5

Speaking of favourites, do you have favourites that you don't advertise but may do if you like the client?

StringerBell

Also, you say you just have regulars now but also that you tour the country so I assume they live in different parts but as you are not taking on new clients am I right in thinking you don't advertise anymore, on sites like EI etc?

Would you tour specifically for these regulars or is it just a case of them contacting you and you tell them a day/time you can be in the area?

I don't understand the touring really is you no longer advertise basically

One last thing (I think) how many regulars do you have? Cause when you say the most you would see in a day is 5/6 I am guessing it would be a fair few in the stable so to speak?

If they were to refer a friend on to you would you make an exception to your no new client rule thing?

nacho libre

mrsdewinter wrote: »

I dunno. OP said that the most she's pulled in over a week is €1200. If that's the max, it's hardly life-changing money she's making - it's enough to boost your savings account & pay for the holidays, but not enough to go paying off her Mam's mortgage, or go buying her sister a new car.

Maybe i misunderstood, i thought she earned in and around this figure as a supplementary income? If she is working 3- 4 days a week, and charging the going rate to four or five customers a day, she must be making a nice bit of dough a week.

Fair enough you might not be able to pay off your mother's mortgage with it, but at the same you can help family members who might need a small loan or whatever. She certainly does not sound as if she is strapped for cash.

LaraLushhhhh

TCDStudent1 wrote: »

if you were offered an alternative job (e.g. In an office) for same hours and money, would you give up the escort job?

You mentioned earlier that you got into this first when a guy on a dating site offered you money. Did he just straight out offer you money or was there some interaction beforehand? And how long did you think about it before accepting?

For the same hours and money yes I would. But that's unlikely.
There were a few messages over and back but not many before he offered the money no

scudzilla

Guessing this username Laralushhhh has been created solely for this AMA, apart from this one, are you a boardsie?

LaraLushhhhh

nacho libre wrote: »

Hi,
A few questions:


If i'm not mistaken, you stated earlier you've no extra money to help your family?
The above seems to suggest you do in fact have money but lavish it on yourself.

Is it that you want your family to think you have no disposable income so they don't find out what your second job is? Does it not get draining keeping all this hidden from your family?

You mention you are too clever to develop feelings for clients. Do you not mean you are too clever to let personal attachment interfere with a lucrative income source?


Also, based on what you say, it's amazing how ego centric and gullible men who pay you for sex can be, thinking they are your favourite. Do you really have respect for these men? Or is it that you are such a great actress, they can't help but be duped by you?

I wouldn't say I "lavish it" at all. I'm not flashy.
It dosnt get draining I'm completely grounded but thanks for your concern!
Yes that's what I mean, developing feelings would interfere with my income and who's to know they won't get jealous or want me to stop.

It won't happen ever.
Please stop asking the same question over and over again guys x

LaraLushhhhh

Also, based on what you say, it's amazing how ego centric and gullible men who pay you for sex can be, thinking they are your favourite. Do you really have respect for these men? Or is it that you are such a great actress, they can't help but be duped by you?[/quote]

My acting skills are fantastic yes

LaraLushhhhh

StringerBell wrote: »

Apologies if its been asked, and thanks for doing the thread very interesting read (as far as I got anyway!)

Do you respect the men who avail of your service or is it more a sense of pity you have when you think about them?

I have never used an escort myself but know friends of mine have, I can't get my head around feeling like I would be having sex with someone who just wanted it over asap and thought I was a dick or pathetic for even being there. I have had the same feelings while in strip clubs, just not for me.

I don't judge you at all for the record in case its coming across that I am negative about the industry itself, I think prostitution should be legalised for what its worth and the women involved given greater protection. What two consenting adults do is between them as long as there is no harm being done.

So yeah, what do you think of the men? Pathetic or just like any other person using a service?

No I definitely don't think they are pathetic. I honestly don't judge them at all.
Likewise I wouldn't want them to judge me.
It's simple, I make them feel like they are my favourite client, I make them feel attractive, I get my money and I forget about them until the next time I see them

LaraLushhhhh

m'lady wrote: »

Wow Lara... what an interesting read, and so honest! I actually only finished watching 'The client list', a load of rubbish but kinda car crash tv!

You say that if you ever had a daughter that you wouldn't like her to get into this kind of business (totally understandable, we've all done things we wouldn't like our children to do), I think I possibly know the answer to this, but here goes; how would you feel if you had a son and he visited an escort?

I watched the client list too! It's rubbish acting isn't it ?! I'd have done beetter myself.
That is such an interesting question. I'll probably get bombarded with negativity for this but no I don't think it would bother me if I had a son who visited escorts

LaraLushhhhh

scudzilla wrote: »

Guessing this username Laralushhhh has been created solely for this AMA, apart from this one, are you a boardsie?

Why does that even matter ?

LaraLushhhhh

StringerBell wrote: »

Also, you say you just have regulars now but also that you tour the country so I assume they live in different parts but as you are not taking on new clients am I right in thinking you don't advertise anymore, on sites like EI etc?

Would you tour specifically for these regulars or is it just a case of them contacting you and you tell them a day/time you can be in the area?

I don't understand the touring really is you no longer advertise basically

One last thing (I think) how many regulars do you have? Cause when you say the most you would see in a day is 5/6 I am guessing it would be a fair few in the stable so to speak?

If they were to refer a friend on to you would you make an exception to your no new client rule thing?

I've said a few times that I always advertise! So they will know I'm in their area soon.
Yes I would consider a regular clients friend but that's never been asked of me

Colser

Have you ever watched the documentary "My granny's an escort" about 3 very elderly escorts..one was 80 and in huge demand.....do you think men that are in long term relationships go to escorts mainly because they've gone off their partners,they're just not getting sex or they've a fetish for something that's off the menu at home?