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Ghosted after a few good dates

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    #542
    raclle
    Registered Users Posts: 2,358 ✭✭✭raclle


    Fuzzyduzzy wrote: »
    The return of bars and clubs would be good for single guys as the competition is tough on apps these days!
    That's generally harder for people in their 30s and 40s


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    #543
    partyguinness
    Registered Users Posts: 8,207 ✭✭✭partyguinness


    YellowLead wrote: »
    I just assumed that poster was having a little joke.... :)


    No man. All 100% true....Jesus I couldnt make up that stuff.


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    #544
    Winter Potatoe
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 11 ✭Winter Potatoe


    I'm surpriised this thread is still on the go. Don't girls do this to guys all the time in order to validate their egos?


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    #545
    partyguinness
    Registered Users Posts: 8,207 ✭✭✭partyguinness


    Username here wrote: »
    There seems to be a common thread there..... Have you ever had a NON Polish girl date?! :eek:

    :pac: :pac:


    Oh absolutely. Just seems to be that the crazy stand out ones happened to be Polish.

    I was left with the distinct impression after those dates that Polish women all wanted something and there was always an angle. It felt more like a business transaction and they would make you jump through a lot of hoops.

    Best to stick with your own I thought.


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    #546
    Fuzzyduzzy
    Registered Users Posts: 269 ✭✭Fuzzyduzzy


    raclle wrote: »
    That's generally harder for people in their 30s and 40s

    It's the culture we live in unfortunately. It's a choice between drinking at weekends, dating apps or social clubs, two of which are pretty much non existent these days. Hence the rise of dating apps and all the flaws they bring. I'm glad I escaped the dating world when I did but I really do feel for guys who are not above average in looks these days as they are not getting the superstar treatment average looking girls are getting.


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    #547
    Thelonious Monk
    Registered Users Posts: 13,925 ✭✭✭✭Thelonious Monk


    Fuzzyduzzy wrote: »


    It's the culture we live in unfortunately. It's a choice between drinking at weekends, dating apps or social clubs, two of which are pretty much non existent these days. Hence the rise of dating apps and all the flaws they bring. I'm glad I escaped the dating world when I did but I really do feel for guys who are not above average in looks these days as they are not getting the superstar treatment average looking girls are getting.

    You come across a little bitter over "average" girls getting attention on these apps tbh. If it makes you feel any better I, as a man, often ignore messages and have stopped talking to people when I just couldn't be bothered any more.


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    #548
    KeepItLight
    Registered Users Posts: 164 ✭✭KeepItLight


    when i was in Brazil I was constantly getting tinder matches with women that would have been way out of my league here. after a while i started just ignoring messages because i just couldn't be arsed, so i can totally see why women are generally much less attentive to their matches.
    lads shouldn't get pissed off about it because if the roles were reversed they would be just as picky


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    #549
    Mad_maxx
    Registered Users Posts: 13,505 ✭✭✭✭Mad_maxx


    KeepItLight wrote: »
    when i was in Brazil I was constantly getting tinder matches with women that would have been way out of my league here. after a while i started just ignoring messages because i just couldn't be arsed, so i can totally see why women are generally much less attentive to their matches.
    lads shouldn't get pissed off about it because if the roles were reversed they would be just as picky

    Why were you attractive to Brazilian women?

    Would they know much about Ireland?


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    #550
    KeepItLight
    Registered Users Posts: 164 ✭✭KeepItLight


    Mad_maxx wrote: »
    Why were you attractive to Brazilian women?

    no idea, maybe the paler complexion? they would message in Portuguese so they thought i was Brazilian, at least initially.
    Mad_maxx wrote: »
    Would they know much about Ireland?

    about what you'd expect, some had friends/relations who are here and wanted to visit sometime. some thought that it meant i was British and that they 'loved the UK'


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    #551
    Church on Tuesday
    Registered Users Posts: 3,858 ✭✭✭Church on Tuesday


    Brazilian women usually only match to improve their English.


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    #552
    partyguinness
    Registered Users Posts: 8,207 ✭✭✭partyguinness


    KeepItLight wrote: »
    no idea, maybe the paler complexion? they would message in Portuguese so they thought i was Brazilian, at least initially.



    about what you'd expect, some had friends/relations who are here and wanted to visit sometime. some thought that it meant i was British and that they 'loved the UK'


    In these situations you gotta play the old superior race/colonial oppressor card. Heavily imply that as you are white you are loaded..that's what they expect.


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    #553
    KeepItLight
    Registered Users Posts: 164 ✭✭KeepItLight


    Church on Tuesday wrote: »
    Brazilian women usually only match to improve their English.

    maybe here. not in Brazil.


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    #554
    ulster
    Registered Users Posts: 209 ✭✭ulster


    Surreptitious wrote: »
    What's it to you?

    He's a "Top Tier" man so you have to answer him.

    So top tier that his salary isn't worth mentioning a hahahaha.


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    #555
    [Deleted User]
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    ulster wrote: »
    He's a "Top Tier" man so you have to answer him.

    So top tier that his salary isn't worth mentioning a hahahaha.

    It seems I rattled you without even intending it. Oh well.


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    #556
    YellowLead
    Registered Users Posts: 7,706 ✭✭✭YellowLead


    raclle wrote: »
    That's generally harder for people in their 30s and 40s

    Not if you go to the right bars :)


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    #557
    Ms. Newbie18
    Registered Users Posts: 235 ✭✭Ms. Newbie18


    When I used a dating app I intentionally went against what my standard "type" would be. I wanted to try something new... The thing was though as nice as some of the lads were, when we met in person there was no spark of attraction.. FYI they were all what I considered to be good looking guys but just didn't do it for me.


    Just to say; I hate the idea of talking about people on a scale based off their looks.. I know that is what those apps are all about but still its not how it is in the REAL work. In saying that, I have GF of all shapes, sizes, and points on the scale of beauty. All of them get a LOT of likes on these apps. I think that men like 9/10 women they come across whether they are in to them or not. Ups the chances of getting a date/sex.


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    #558
    YellowLead
    Registered Users Posts: 7,706 ✭✭✭YellowLead


    Ms. Newbie18 wrote: »

    Just to say; I hate the idea of talking about people on a scale based off their looks.. I know that is what those apps are all about but still its not how it is in the REAL work. In saying that, I have GF of all shapes, sizes, and points on the scale of beauty. All of them get a LOT of likes on these apps. I think that men like 9/10 women they come across whether they are in to them or not. Ups the chances of getting a date/sex.

    This is so true. Some men have been saying it’s easier for women on dating apps - but that all depends what you are after. A casual shag? For sure - at the tip of your fingertips. Somebody to date? Much tougher as you have to weed out all of the just want a shag guys.


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    #559
    Ubbquittious
    Registered Users Posts: 6,192 ✭✭✭Ubbquittious


    Was chatting to a nice girlie there for a while the past few days, then next thing she gone completely. No sign of the message thread or her profile or nothing. Must have frickin' blocked me out of the blue. What in the bejaysus makes em this fickle?


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    #560
    Pyr0
    Registered Users Posts: 5,967 ✭✭✭Pyr0


    Ubbquittious wrote: »
    Was chatting to a nice girlie there for a while the past few days, then next thing she gone completely. No sign of the message thread or her profile or nothing. Must have frickin' blocked me out of the blue. What in the bejaysus makes em this fickle?

    Maybe she deleted her profile?


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    #561
    Jafin
    Registered Users Posts: 770 ✭✭✭Jafin


    Ubbquittious wrote: »
    Was chatting to a nice girlie there for a while the past few days, then next thing she gone completely. No sign of the message thread or her profile or nothing. Must have frickin' blocked me out of the blue. What in the bejaysus makes em this fickle?

    Best not to put too much thought into it. Somebody messaged me on a dating app yesterday (one where you can just message anybody, you don't have to match with them) and I didn't see the notification until about half an hour after the message was received. When I went in to the app to look at it he had already deleted his profile. :confused: :pac:

    People do weird things.


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    #562
    raclle
    Registered Users Posts: 2,358 ✭✭✭raclle


    I matched with someone last night. I got one reply when she questioned my age. I confirmed and haven't heard back. In my experience 90% of the time I'll never hear from them again. I admit I look young for my age but I didn't think it would deter people especially ones in their late 30s


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    #563
    [Deleted User]
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    raclle wrote: »
    I matched with someone last night. I got one reply when she questioned my age. I confirmed and haven't heard back. In my experience 90% of the time I'll never hear from them again. I admit I look young for my age but I didn't think it would deter people especially ones in their late 30s

    Does the app not show your age?


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    #564
    raclle
    Registered Users Posts: 2,358 ✭✭✭raclle


    Deleted User wrote: »
    Does the app not show your age?
    It does but she prob didn't believe me :D


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    #565
    [Deleted User]
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    raclle wrote: »
    It does but she prob didn't believe me :D

    Take it as a compliment I suppose!


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    #566
    YellowLead
    Registered Users Posts: 7,706 ✭✭✭YellowLead


    Maybe be realistic in your age settings? You haven’t said what age you are but even if you look young etc but are 65, you won’t really get 30 somethings willing to date you (unless you are filthy rich lol)

    Also if you are a good bit older though younger women might find you attractive - if they know you are a certain age they might assume you don’t want kids and if it’s something they want they will just pass on by...


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    #567
    raclle
    Registered Users Posts: 2,358 ✭✭✭raclle


    I'm mid thirties


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    #568
    YellowLead
    Registered Users Posts: 7,706 ✭✭✭YellowLead


    raclle wrote: »
    I'm mid thirties

    Ah sorry - so it is the opposite problem! I’m 36 and wouldn’t date younger - 35 at a push so not surprised late 30s women wouldn’t all be comfortable with a younger man. (Sex - fine. Dating - no)
    Sure you have a whole cache of 25 - mid 30s you can date, or are you looking for older specifically?


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    #569
    raclle
    Registered Users Posts: 2,358 ✭✭✭raclle


    I'm actually 37 but like to call it mid thirties so I don't sound too old xD

    I have my preferences set to between 30-40. I wouldn't date younger than 30...seems a bit wrong


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    #570
    sassyj
    Registered Users Posts: 733 ✭✭✭sassyj


    raclle wrote: »
    I matched with someone last night. I got one reply when she questioned my age. I confirmed and haven't heard back. In my experience 90% of the time I'll never hear from them again. I admit I look young for my age but I didn't think it would deter people especially ones in their late 30s

    The issue is there are heaps of young guys now on the dating sites with their age set as older (late 30s/40s) in order to get past any age limits women have set. I'm talking 20 something year olds. I had 2 lads that were particularly bad, they were registering on one app several times a week overva period of months to swipe right on me to the point of making me extremely uncomfortable.
    Likely she didn't believe you, you wouldn't believe how frequent an issue this has become. The sites should ban anyone very obviously lying. This is the thing with online dating, you are suffering for the sins of those that came before you.


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    #571
    raclle
    Registered Users Posts: 2,358 ✭✭✭raclle


    sassyj wrote: »
    Likely she didn't believe you, you wouldn't believe how frequent an issue this has become. The sites should ban anyone very obviously lying. This is the thing with online dating, you are suffering for the sins of those that came before you.
    Would it help if sites implement an age verification?


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