Ghosted after a few good dates

YellowLead

Prelude In E Minor wrote: »

Ah yes the lethal virus that only kills the very elderly and the morbidly obese. So glad we lost a year of our lives to fight it.

Escorts are around virus or no virus so how exactly are you impacted

Prelude In E Minor

Prelude In E Minor wrote: »

Ah yes the lethal virus that only kills the very elderly and the morbidly obese. So glad we lost a year of our lives to fight it.

I couldn't care less what you think about it.

YellowLead

Prelude In E Minor wrote: »

You know if it wasn't for the lockdown I won't have started seeing escorts. Thanks for getting me laid Tony!

So what do you do to get women usually if the apps don’t work for you? Get them drunk?

Prelude In E Minor

Prelude In E Minor wrote: »

Cared enough to respond

It was a "let me stop you right there" response. I'm not interested in your views on Covid or anything related to it. Thanks.

Prelude In E Minor

Prelude In E Minor wrote: »

Ok but still not getting vaccinated.

I don't care if you do or what happens to you.

The Slimeball

The Slimeball wrote: »

You seem to care.

Good for you.

sporina

ZoZoZo wrote: »

Why wouldn't it be ?

its beyond ridiculous.. :eek:

nj27

Johnnytractors wrote: »

So, I recently matched with the one on tinder who was very cute, charming a funny. Within a few weeks we exchanged numbers and started chatting on WhatsApp. After a while we agreed to meet up in person and we clicked like a house on fire. We met the following week again and had a ball of time together. The following two weeks were Easter Sunday and the following Sunday I was tied the following Sunday helping a friend. We stayed in contact every day and night and shared messages and Snap chatting each other every day. Met her last Sunday and we had a brilliant time together. We chatted Sunday night when I got home and I fell asleep then. Monday morning I texted her and I got the following message back “ You're fine, sooo tired this morning getting up for work how's you? xx “ this is the last message I have got as I have been blocked on WhatsApp and on Snapchat. I’m still a match on tinder with her and friends on Instagram with her. I have reached out to her and asked her what is going on but I have been ghosted!!! To be honest I didn’t think she was like this and if she was to message me again later in life I would accept her back into my life.

How do people cope when someone ghosts you? To be honest I’m a nervous wreck, not sleeping properly, not eating much and can’t focus at work. I’m stressed out and I would love to hear from her is all

Forget this semi-professional cuck stuff kid, you could easily go all the way to the major league.

Winter Potatoe

YellowLead wrote: »

Yes we are all getting sex too, and we don’t need to pay for it!!! It’s not that real life or escorts are the only option. The dating apps have their place! For me they only really work for casual sex. So why would I be paying for that when I can get it at the click of a (free) button.

The thing about escorts is that you don't need to be "happy" in order to get laid. Sex is only offered to guys who appear to be doing well. If a dude is feeling sad no woman is going to want his company. Is he likely to want sex while he's feeling down? Of course. Therefore his only option is an escort.

YellowLead

Winter Potatoe wrote: »

The thing about escorts is that you don't need to be "happy" in order to get laid. Sex is only offered to guys who appear to be doing well. If a dude is feeling sad no woman is going to want his company. Is he likely to want sex while he's feeling down? Of course. Therefore his only option is an escort.

If somebody wants to pay for sex then fine. I was just pointing out that we don’t all have to. The pandemic didn’t curtail all of us...

raclle

What's the ratio of men to women on Tinder?

Winter Potatoe

YellowLead wrote: »

If somebody wants to pay for sex then fine. I was just pointing out that we don’t all have to. The pandemic didn’t curtail all of us...

But it's not fine. It's illegal!

Winter Potatoe

raclle wrote: »

What's the ratio of men to women on Tinder?

If that's meant as a rhetorical question, then please... do tell!

raclle

Winter Potatoe wrote: »

If that's meant as a rhetorical question, then please... do tell!

Mother of god, can no one ask a simple question anymore without it having to mean something?

raclle

raclle wrote: »

What's the ratio of men to women on Tinder?

No idea, but I've heard many times that men outnumber women on dating apps.

corks finest

Leg End Reject wrote: »

It sounds like she got back with an ex, or was seeing others at the same time and opted for one of them.

Don't let her back into your life if she makes contact later, it's very disrespectful not to send a text or call to let you know where you stand.

She's toxic bud , move on slowwwllllyy

Beatty69

The problem with online dating at the moment is people have nothing to talk about. I did give it go last year out of boredom during the 1st lockdown but what do you talk to people about?

How was your day? Same aul same aul. Cases very high aren't they, it just got boring very quick.

I don't even text friends as often anymore because there's just no news.

Also, anyone who texts you "you okay?" if you haven't text them back after 5 minutes pisses me off. Yes I'm alright but I'm in work/with family/in a shop!

Beatty69

Beatty69 wrote: »

The problem with online dating at the moment is people have nothing to talk about. I did give it go last year out of boredom during the 1st lockdown but what do you talk to people about?

How was your day? Same aul same aul. Cases very high aren't they, it just got boring very quick.

I don't even text friends as often anymore because there's just no news.

Also, anyone who texts you "you okay?" if you haven't text them back after 5 minutes pisses me off. Yes I'm alright but I'm in work/with family/in a shop!

I try get to the point ASAP. I'll generally ask for a date after a day or two.

Beatty69

Deleted User wrote: »

I try get to the point ASAP. I'll generally ask for a date after a day or two.

Yeah, it's the best approach to see if you have a spark but where do you go nowadays except for a walk or a drive? Tough times for us singletons. :D

raclle

Casual chat generally means its not going to happen but if you're serious and want to get to know one another then that's a different story.

Getting to the point too soon could come across as just looking for the ride.

Online dating is harder than most think

Beatty69

Beatty69 wrote: »

Yeah, it's the best approach to see if you have a spark but where do you go nowadays except for a walk or a drive? Tough times for us singletons. :D

Coffee and walk. Coffee and walk.

That sums up the past year for me...

Beatty69

Deleted User wrote: »

Coffee and walk. Coffee and walk.

That sums up the past year for me...

As soon as I have a coffee I want a pee as well so it's even more awkward. :D

Beatty69

Beatty69 wrote: »

As soon as I have a coffee I want a pee as well so it's even more awkward. :D

Coffee makes the other end wake up for me!

Em ugh pop pfft

I tried online dating for a while but it wasn't for me. I just found it too overwhelming.

Op, ghosting is not nice and considering you had been on actual dates with the woman, then she should have contacted you.

With online dating, many people will stop chatting and might not give an explanation and it's not nice but you don't know their reasons.

YellowLead

raclle wrote: »

Casual chat generally means its not going to happen but if you're serious and want to get to know one another then that's a different story.

Getting to the point too soon could come across as just looking for the ride.

Online dating is harder than most think

Yeah is a fine balance. And then every woman is different! I think it’s good to wait a few days but not as long as a week (if you have been chatting a bit every day). I’ve never encountered anyone who didn’t want to meet and just penpal it - but I’ve heard that’s a problem for guys.
If a gut asks me to meet and it’s only been a few messages it just feels a bit aggressive to me.

Beatty69

YellowLead wrote: »

Yeah is a fine balance. And then every woman is different! I think it’s good to wait a few days but not as long as a week (if you have been chatting a bit every day). I’ve never encountered anyone who didn’t want to meet and just penpal it - but I’ve heard that’s a problem for guys.
If a gut asks me to meet and it’s only been a few messages it just feels a bit aggressive to me.

Some ask you meet after just one text message! That's a definite red flag. They're either just after the ride or serial killers. :D

The reason I ask quicker is because I got locked into a penpal situation a couple of times. Never again.

YellowLead

[Deleted User] wrote: »

The reason I ask quicker is because I got locked into a penpal situation a couple of times. Never again.

I assume you would wait for a day or two depending on volume of texts? Like it wouldn’t be text number 3 or 4?

YellowLead

YellowLead wrote: »

I assume you would wait for a day or two depending on volume of texts? Like it wouldn’t be text number 3 or 4?

Oh god no, like if I can get a conversation going I'll ask. That could take a day or two, maybe a bit more. I definitely wouldn't go beyond 5 days without asking for a coffee.

Beatty69

Guys do need to understand that women are in a lot more danger using the likes of Tinder.

Court case this week about a woman raped after meeting a Tinder date.

Definitely more dodgy at the moment because you can't meet in a restaurant or bar so it's either a walk or a drive, both of which can be dangerous when you don't know someone.