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What do you think is equal sex?

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    #62
    Wibbs
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,099 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    In just about any interaction women are always victims and it's always men's fault. That seems to sum up the OP's angle. Abusive. Jesus. I think I strained my optic nerve by eye rolling so hard.

    Rejoice in the awareness of feeling stupid, for that’s how you end up learning new things. If you’re not aware you’re stupid, you probably are.



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    #63
    Mountainsandh
    Registered Users Posts: 6,700 ✭✭✭Mountainsandh


    midlandsmissus wrote: »
    Is sex, where the man orgasms, and doesn´t attempt to make the woman orgasm: Abusive sex?

    I think if you find yourself in that situation in more than one instance, you really need to learn to communicate OP, rather than label any frustration as "abuse".


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    #64
    endacl
    Registered Users Posts: 22,240 ✭✭✭✭endacl


    midlandsmissus wrote: »
    Is sex, where the man orgasms, and doesn´t attempt to make the woman orgasm: Abusive sex?
    Abusive punctuation at best.


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    #65
    bodice ripper
    Registered Users Posts: 4,681 ✭✭✭bodice ripper


    If a woman ****s another woman and only one of them orgasms, is that abuse?

    Or is that question irrelevant in the context of the on going, boring as **** gender war?


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    #66
    retro:electro
    Registered Users Posts: 21,039 ✭✭✭✭retro:electro


    Of course it's abuse op #equality.
    I think you need to report your man.
    Maybe Prime Time could do a special on this?


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    #67
    infogiver
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 2,505 ✭✭✭infogiver


    midlandsmissus wrote: »
    Is sex, where the man orgasms, and doesn´t attempt to make the woman orgasm: Abusive sex?

    This is what happens when you spend too long in Louise O'Neills echo chamber of a twitter page.
    He came, you didn't, and now your wondering if you have a case to go to Women's Aid.
    Please.


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    #68
    suicide_circus
    Registered Users Posts: 19,802 ✭✭✭✭suicide_circus


    Glenster wrote: »
    Your orgasm is your responsibility.
    +1

    No one can "give" you an orgasm, it's 99% of your own making.


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    #69
    infogiver
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 2,505 ✭✭✭infogiver


    MikeenRonanJr wrote: »
    Me and the missus have a very healthy sex life, where generally we both orgasm during sex (be it penetration or oral). The motion that neither her nor me happened to not reach climax is somehow tantamount to "Abusive sex" is complete and utter rubbish.

    If your a 4th wave feminist it's just more evidence that the patriarchy is only after getting fierce worser then it was


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    #70
    RayM
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    I suppose if you were to take pride in your failure to please your partner, and constantly taunted them about the lack of pleasure they experience during sex with you, then maybe it could be construed as abusive. You know, running around the bedroom shouting "1-0! 1-0!" and then saying "Sorry... come again?" when they tell you to grow up.


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    #71
    lukesmom
    Registered Users Posts: 4,400 ✭✭✭lukesmom


    It's definitely abuse. I would compare it to manslaughter at best.


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    #72
    fatknacker
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    Wasn't there a politician who said its not rape if the woman comes? So perhaps by his definition...


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    #73
    infogiver
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    The Hill Billy wrote: »
    Inconsiderate. Not abusive.

    I'm interested to know how you define 'equal sex' though.

    I think in the LON world it's where there was a long discussion before laying down at all re consent.
    There's non of your bit of fooling around suddenly getting out of hand and culminating in a nice tasty quickie with these gals.
    No siree bob.
    I mean a girl can jump on her man and straddle him while he watching the CL penalty shootout if she wants, but he gets the horn watching the ladies final at Wimbledon " new balls please. 15 love" he has to broach the subject of love making in a sensitive non demanding manner devoid of bribes or guilt tripping.


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    #74
    infogiver
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 2,505 ✭✭✭infogiver


    anna080 wrote: »
    Of course it's abuse op #equality.
    I think you need to report your man.
    Maybe Prime Time could do a special on this?

    Or Joe Duffy?


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    #75
    Beyondgone
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,166 ✭✭✭Beyondgone


    Thought this was going to be about varying hands to stop one arm becoming overly muscular.

    Am now confused.


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    #76
    bnt
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    suicide_circus wrote: »
    No one can "give" you an orgasm, it's 99% of your own making.

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    #77
    the_syco
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    midlandsmissus wrote: »
    Is sex, where the man orgasms, and doesn´t attempt to make the woman orgasm: Abusive sex?
    So... you think the women giving head to the man is abusive to the woman?


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    #78
    Fanny Wank
    Registered Users Posts: 1,288 ✭✭✭Fanny Wank


    midlandsmissus wrote: »
    Is sex, where the man orgasms, and doesn´t attempt to make the woman orgasm: Abusive sex?

    Nah, just a fanny ****


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    #79
    [Deleted User]
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    fatknacker wrote: »
    Wasn't there a politician who said its not rape if the woman comes? So perhaps by his definition...

    There was one who said it's not rape if she gets pregnant, because the body has a way of shutting down pregnancy if it's real rape. Only not-real rape results in pregnancy.

    That was Republican Todd Akin on 'legitimate rape'. I think he wanted women to prove they were legit raped by not being pregnant if they wanted an abortion, which kind of made it just an interesting day out at the clinic instead of a medical procedure.

    There was probably one about orgasms too but it's hard to keep up with these guys and their insane ramblings.


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    #80
    Barry Badrinath
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    Well this thread was an anti climax.

    OP is in and out as quick as her sex life.


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    #81
    fullstop
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    brevity wrote: »
    What do you think OP? Could you give an reasoning why you think it might be abusive?

    Just have a look through her posting history and wonder no more. All men are selfish lovers, misogynist and generally horrible people. It's literally all she posts about and quite tiresome.


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    #82
    retro:electro
    Registered Users Posts: 21,039 ✭✭✭✭retro:electro


    fullstop wrote: »
    Just have a look through her posting history and wonder no more. All men are selfish lovers, misogynist and generally horrible people. It's literally all she posts about and quite tiresome.

    Ya. She usually just spouts the same random crap and then disappears and doesn't contribute to the discussion at all whatsoever.


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    #83
    qo2cj1dsne8y4k
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    I feel bad for men if that's the kind of insanity they're dealing with when taking some women out on what they think is a normal date. Thankfully the likes of the OPs mindset is few and far between


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    #84
    fullstop
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    anna080 wrote: »
    Ya. She usually just spouts the same random crap and then disappears and doesn't contribute to the discussion at all whatsoever.

    Yep, it usually goes;
    - rant
    - proven wrong
    - meltdown
    - disappear

    Rinse and repeat


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    #85
    red ears
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    Imagine that for pressure.. you better make me orgasm or this will be considered abuse.


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    #86
    retro:electro
    Registered Users Posts: 21,039 ✭✭✭✭retro:electro


    I don't think the op should stop until she has justice on this issue. #justiceformidlandsmissus


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    #87
    cantdecide
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    fullstop wrote: »
    Yep, it usually goes;
    - rant
    - proven wrong
    - meltdown
    - disappear

    Rinse and repeat

    Not brave enough to rage-quit, though.

    In my day we had the courage of our convictions enough to rage-quit when we started a ridiculous thread and had out behinds handed to us.


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    #88
    Pherekydes
    Registered Users Posts: 16,119 ✭✭✭✭Pherekydes


    JayZeus wrote: »
    No. It's a race with one prize. Not everyone gets a finishers medal.

    What else do you expect someone to answer to that? Seriously. No.

    The notions and bitterness are strong with this one.

    Ah, come on. It's like Athletics. There are two races: one for men and one for women. Always make sure the women finish first!


    "G'wan, honey, you can manage another lap..." :D


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    #89
    Sound Bite
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    Do you not get bored of posting the same thing OP?

    We get it, you hate men & think they are to blame for everything.

    You can't just lie there like a log & think you are owed an orgasm! Yes it's selfish but abusive? Come on, you're having a laugh now.

    The fact there isn't an "Orgasm Abuse" helpline or support group should be a clue!


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    #90
    retro:electro
    Registered Users Posts: 21,039 ✭✭✭✭retro:electro


    Sound Bite wrote: »
    Do you not get bored of posting the same thing OP?

    We get it, you hate men & think they are too blame for everything.

    You can't just lie there like a log & think you are owed an orgasm! Yes it's selfish but abusive? Come on, you're having a laugh now.

    The fact there isn't an "Orgasm Abuse" helpline or support group should be a clue!

    I think the op needs to set one up. #brave


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    #91
    [Deleted User]
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    I agree with absolutely nothing the OP has said, but all this reiteration of the same points and berating her when she's not on thread engaging or defending herself is starting to look a lot like ganging up and bullying.

    We don't know her story and the points have been made repeatedly, that's should be enough.


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