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What do you think is equal sex?

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    #32
    Jayop
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,388 ✭✭✭✭Jayop


    Sure what in the jesus is he supposed to do after he's finished? Unless she'd get off by him thumbing a softie up it there's no point. The best bet is to wait a while and go again.


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    #33
    eviltwin
    Registered Users Posts: 17,495 ✭✭✭✭eviltwin


    No it's not abusive. It's selfish alright but we have a responsibility for our own happiness. If you feel your partner is not satisfactory in bed, tell them, teach them, guide them. If they aren't interested then find someone who is. Life is too short to be putting up with bad sex.


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    #34
    iDave
    Registered Users Posts: 3,750 ✭✭✭iDave


    midlandsmissus wrote: »
    Is sex, where the man orgasms, and doesn´t attempt to make the woman orgasm: Abusive sex?

    Which SJW came up with this?


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    #35
    Glenster
    Registered Users Posts: 2,626 ✭✭✭Glenster


    Women are too complicated to expect a 100% success rate.

    I do my best and I'm secure in the knowledge that these particular moves have been successful in the past.

    Your orgasm is your responsibility.


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    #36
    NinjaKirby
    Closed Accounts Posts: 221 ✭✭NinjaKirby


    midlandsmissus wrote: »
    Is sex, where the man orgasms, and doesn´t attempt to make the woman orgasm: Abusive sex?

    I think you already know the answer to this but I will go ahead anyway.

    I think your question is WAY too simplistic to give any kind of reasonable answer.

    I'd have to say, no, it is not abusive sex at least not based on how you've presented it here.

    Obviously any kind of non-consensual sex is abusive (and illegal) so it doesn't really matter about the orgasms. Just putting that here first.

    If one partner is initiating consensual sex and then having their orgasm first then telling the other partner to stop then I would say that is probably an abusive, or at least unhealthy, relationship.

    Like if the man gets her consent and then he orgasms and then the just stops and walks out the room or something? Yeah, probably abusive.

    If he doesn't attempt to make the woman orgasm but is maybe apologetic and/or even sad because he can't satisfy her? Like he's saying they can work it out or something? No, probably not abusive.

    If one partner basically doesn't give a crap about the other partner and doesn't give a damn if they enjoy sex or not then I would lean towards calling that an abusive relationship and would certainly say it's an unhealthy relationship.

    That's about the best answer I can give. Thoughts?


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    #37
    Ash.J.Williams
    Registered Users Posts: 20,929 ✭✭✭✭Ash.J.Williams


    uch wrote: »
    As an ould lad I used to work with used to say "I don't Care, I always Cum"

    jaysus dude hope you're ok


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    #38
    The Hill Billy
    Registered Users Posts: 22,754 ✭✭✭✭The Hill Billy


    Inconsiderate. Not abusive.

    I'm interested to know how you define 'equal sex' though.


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    #39
    ohnonotgmail
    Registered Users Posts: 40,214 ✭✭✭✭ohnonotgmail


    Jayop wrote: »
    Sure what in the jesus is he supposed to do after he's finished? Unless she'd get off by him thumbing a softie up it there's no point. The best bet is to wait a while and go again.

    you know there are other things a man can do, right?


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    #40
    Parchment
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,203 ✭✭✭Parchment


    gerrybbadd wrote: »
    A buddy of mine used to say if he came first and the girl complained, he would tell her "you had the same chance I had"

    He sounds like a catch


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    #41
    Parchment
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    Jayop wrote: »
    Sure what in the jesus is he supposed to do after he's finished? Unless she'd get off by him thumbing a softie up it there's no point. The best bet is to wait a while and go again.

    Wow....


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    #42
    Jayop
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,388 ✭✭✭✭Jayop


    ohnonotgmail wrote: »
    you know there are other things a man can do, right?

    Aye I suppose. Better to get the job done right first time though when there's still plenty of enthusiasm.


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    #43
    Sleepy
    Registered Users Posts: 24,162 ✭✭✭✭Sleepy


    I think we should strike for orgasm equality!

    It's the Matriarchy's fault that men have less orgasms! And I don't want to hear any whataboutery about women just being more biologically inclined to be multi-orgasmic, if some men can achieve that, the government should be spending our taxes to ensure men are experieincing as many orgasms in a play session as women are!


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    #44
    Roger Hassenforder
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,555 ✭✭✭Roger Hassenforder


    Jayop wrote: »
    Sure what in the jesus is he supposed to do after he's finished? Unless she'd get off by him thumbing a softie up it there's no point. The best bet is to wait a while and go again.

    ^^
    Worst rider ever.

    Even the neighbours are smoking fags by the time I'm finished with my auld doll.


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    #45
    mzungu
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 6,307 Mod ✭✭✭✭mzungu


    Sleepy wrote: »
    I think we should strike for orgasm equality!

    It's the Matriarchy's fault that men have less orgasms! And I don't want to hear any whataboutery about women just being more biologically inclined to be multi-orgasmic, if some men can achieve that, the government should be spending our taxes to ensure men are experieincing as many orgasms in a play session as women are!
    No more sexual austerity!!!


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    #46
    Jayop
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,388 ✭✭✭✭Jayop


    Roger Hassenforder wrote: »
    ^^
    Worst rider ever.

    Even the neighbours are smoking fags by the time I'm finished with my auld doll.

    See, none of my post was in the first person. I was referring to the OP's jockey.


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    #47
    Wetbench4
    Registered Users Posts: 1,229 ✭✭✭Wetbench4


    Nice guys finish last..


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    #48
    Roger Hassenforder
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,555 ✭✭✭Roger Hassenforder


    Jayop wrote: »
    See, none of my post was in the first person. I was referring to the OP's jockey.

    Ah go on, I'll drop round and give your auld doll a right good service, you can take a few notes!


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    #49
    Jayop
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,388 ✭✭✭✭Jayop


    Roger Hassenforder wrote: »
    Ah go on, I'll drop round and give your auld doll a right good service, you can take a few notes!

    I do alright my good man but thanks for the kind offer!


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    #50
    Roger Hassenforder
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,555 ✭✭✭Roger Hassenforder


    Jayop wrote: »
    I do alright my good man but thanks for the kind offer!

    Fair enough.


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    #51
    Kimbot
    Moderators, Computer Games Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 18,455 Mod ✭✭✭✭Kimbot


    Abusive - No, Selfish - Yes.


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    #52
    MikeenRonanJr
    Registered Users Posts: 24 ✭MikeenRonanJr


    Me and the missus have a very healthy sex life, where generally we both orgasm during sex (be it penetration or oral). The motion that neither her nor me happened to not reach climax is somehow tantamount to "Abusive sex" is complete and utter rubbish.


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    #53
    arayess
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,707 ✭✭✭arayess


    givyjoe wrote: »
    This poster has a particular knack for it in their posts.

    this Op has serious issues with men, on the basis of her postings, that isn't healthy.
    suppose at least she is consistent


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    #54
    arayess
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,707 ✭✭✭arayess


    jonnycivic wrote: »
    Abusive - No, Selfish - Yes.

    i disagree on a once off basis on the assumption that one's sex life (or a person) can't be judged on a singular event.

    if it happens regularly then yeah for sure he is selfish.


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    #55
    ceadaoin.
    Registered Users Posts: 8,122 ✭✭✭ceadaoin.


    if they were also pressuring or coercing the partner into doing things they weren't comfortable with just to suit them then maybe it's abusive. Otherwise, no just extremely selfish and it's akin to viewing a person as a sex toy and not very attractive.


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    #56
    qo2cj1dsne8y4k
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    Nope it's not abusive sex. If I orgasm and he doesn't get off, does that mean I'm abusing him sexually?


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    #57
    cantdecide
    Registered Users Posts: 11,465 ✭✭✭✭cantdecide


    iDave wrote: »
    Which SJW came up with this?

    You know that victimmy one who wouldn't take responsibility for their own shortcomings...


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    #58
    Help!!!!
    Registered Users Posts: 2,965 ✭✭✭Help!!!!


    midlandsmissus wrote: »
    Is sex, where the man orgasms, and doesn´t attempt to make the woman orgasm: Abusive sex?

    Id be more inclined to call it rape, mainly because if the woman doesn't orgasm she is fully entitled to take back her consent thus making it rape


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    #59
    PARlance
    Registered Users Posts: 21,099 ✭✭✭✭PARlance


    Not a big fan of equal sex.

    = one lies on top of the other whilst trying to keep both bodies as straight as possible.


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    #60
    Jayop
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,388 ✭✭✭✭Jayop


    PARlance wrote: »
    Not a big fan of equal sex.

    = one lies on top of the other whilst trying to keep both bodies as straight as possible.

    Tantric baby


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    #61
    bnt
    Registered Users Posts: 12,962 ✭✭✭✭bnt


    midlandsmissus wrote: »
    Is sex, where the man orgasms, and doesn´t attempt to make the woman orgasm: Abusive sex?
    Depends. Is the idea to have sex with the same person more than once? :rolleyes:

    Besides - as long as women get muliple orgasms, but men only get the one, sex will never be equal.

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