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What do you think is equal sex?

  • 05-05-2017 2:09pm
    #1
    midlandsmissus
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 3,838 ✭✭✭


    Is sex, where the man orgasms, and doesn´t attempt to make the woman orgasm: Abusive sex?


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  • #2
    Winterlong
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,759 ✭✭✭Winterlong


    Selfish -perhaps, crap in bed -definitely, but not abusive.


  • #3
    Digital Solitude
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,397 ✭✭✭✭Digital Solitude


    Abusive?

    Selfish lover more like, you'd be making quite a stretch to call it abusive.


  • #4
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 21,679 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Ah now. How do you see that as being abusive? He might not be the most attentive lover but hardly warrants being deemed abusive.


  • #5
    Irish Guitarist
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,736 ✭✭✭Irish Guitarist


    That's very abusive. Typical of cis males and rape culture.


  • #6
    greencap
    Registered Users Posts: 2,102 ✭✭✭greencap


    Its like a science lab in the dark down there. Pure luck.

    Make it equally easy and you get equal results.

    discussion/2058195983/russia-threadbanned-users-in-op/p3135

    😁



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  • #7
    RobertKK
    Registered Users Posts: 33,758 ✭✭✭✭RobertKK


    Not with a prostitute.


  • #8
    Hector Bellend
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,667 ✭✭✭Hector Bellend


    You cant beat a good ride


  • #9
    brevity
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,606 ✭✭✭brevity


    What do you think OP? Could you give an reasoning why you think it might be abusive?


  • #10
    osarusan
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 16,713 ✭✭✭✭osarusan


    Sex dolls can't orgasm. I've tried.


  • #11
    uch
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,019 ✭✭✭uch


    As an ould lad I used to work with used to say "I don't Care, I always Cum"

    21/25



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  • #12
    kunst nugget
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,375 ✭✭✭✭kunst nugget


    Kate asked me to bring her to orgasm after I had finished but I replied "I'm eating my breakfast Kate".


  • #13
    flutered
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,707 ✭✭✭flutered


    equal sex, that has to be taking turns on who is on top


  • #14
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 3,637 ✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    midlandsmissus wrote: »
    Is sex, where the man orgasms, and doesn´t attempt to make the woman orgasm: Abusive sex?

    No. It's a race with one prize. Not everyone gets a finishers medal.

    What else do you expect someone to answer to that? Seriously. No.

    The notions and bitterness are strong with this one.


  • #15
    ancapailldorcha
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 40,099 CMod ✭✭✭✭ancapailldorcha


    midlandsmissus wrote: »
    Is sex, where the man orgasms, and doesn´t attempt to make the woman orgasm: Abusive sex?

    Of course not. Stop trying to invent forms of abuse. There are already plenty of real problems that need solving without internet feminists adding their pet hates to the mix.

    The foreigner residing among you must be treated as your native-born. Love them as yourself, for you were foreigners in Egypt. I am the LORD your God.

    Leviticus 19:34



  • #16
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 26,052 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    midlandsmissus wrote: »
    Is sex, where the man orgasms, and doesn´t attempt to make the woman orgasm: Abusive sex?

    I've never claimed to be abused by a restaurant because I didn't enjoy the meal.

    One sided =/= abusive.


  • #17
    One eyed Jack
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,361 ✭✭✭✭One eyed Jack


    midlandsmissus wrote: »
    Is sex, where the man orgasms, and doesn´t attempt to make the woman orgasm: Abusive sex?


    That's a different question to the question you ask in the thread title!


  • #18
    RobertKK
    Registered Users Posts: 33,758 ✭✭✭✭RobertKK


    The song for this thread



  • #19
    andekwarhola
    Registered Users Posts: 4,639 ✭✭✭andekwarhola


    That's some grudge you've got there.


  • #20
    kunst nugget
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,375 ✭✭✭✭kunst nugget


    Is it abusive sex if I pull out before I come and squirt it in her eye?


  • #21
    gerrybbadd
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,301 ✭✭✭✭gerrybbadd


    A buddy of mine used to say if he came first and the girl complained, he would tell her "you had the same chance I had"


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  • #22
    Hector Bellend
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,667 ✭✭✭Hector Bellend


    She can have an orgasm if she wants.

    It will involve me sticking golf balls up her anus though


  • #23
    kfallon
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 25,775 ✭✭✭✭kfallon


    midlandsmissus wrote: »
    Is sex, where the man orgasms, and doesn?t attempt to make the woman orgasm: Abusive sex?

    For the love of f?cking Jaysus! No wonder I'm getting more & more sick of this place!

    Abusive me f?cking hole, Christ on a bike!


  • #24
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 26,052 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    midlandsmissus wrote: »
    Is sex, where the man orgasms, and doesn´t attempt to make the woman orgasm: Abusive sex?

    In all seriousness, if someone consistently shows no interest in your satisfaction and you've made the point repeatedly to them and taken steps to help yourself, find someone else.

    Big difference between self-centredness and abuse. You belittle abuse by conflating the two.


  • #25
    kunst nugget
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,375 ✭✭✭✭kunst nugget


    gerrybbadd wrote: »
    A buddy of mine used to say if he came first and the girl complained, he would tell her "you had the same chance I had"

    Tis a pity his combination of microscopic penis and persistent premature ejaculation meant the women hadn't even realised he'd finished when they were waiting for him to start.


  • #26
    Hector Bellend
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,667 ✭✭✭Hector Bellend


    kfallon wrote: »
    For the love of f?cking Jaysus! No wonder I'm getting more & more sick of this place!

    Abusive me f?cking hole, Christ on a bike!

    I bet he had an orgasm


  • #27
    kunst nugget
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,375 ✭✭✭✭kunst nugget


    Hector Bellend wrote: »
    I bet he had an orgasm

    Well, he was laid in the tomb…


  • #28
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 21,679 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    kunst nugget wrote: »
    Well, he was laid in the tomb…

    :pac:


  • #29
    drunkmonkey
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 28,576 ✭✭✭✭drunkmonkey


    midlandsmissus wrote: »
    Is sex, where the man orgasms, and doesn´t attempt to make the woman orgasm: Abusive sex?

    ztjym.jpg


  • #30
    givyjoe
    Registered Users Posts: 3,287 ✭✭✭givyjoe


    ancapailldorcha wrote: »
    Of course not. Stop trying to invent forms of abuse. There are already plenty of real problems that need solving without internet feminists adding their pet hates to the mix.

    This poster has a particular knack for it in their posts.


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  • #31
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 3,637 ✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    kunst nugget wrote: »
    Well, he was laid in the tomb…

    Yeah, but it took him 3 days to rise again. Imagine the OP's disappointment with that kind of poor performance.


  • #32
    Jayop
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,388 ✭✭✭✭Jayop


    Sure what in the jesus is he supposed to do after he's finished? Unless she'd get off by him thumbing a softie up it there's no point. The best bet is to wait a while and go again.


  • #33
    eviltwin
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,495 ✭✭✭✭eviltwin


    No it's not abusive. It's selfish alright but we have a responsibility for our own happiness. If you feel your partner is not satisfactory in bed, tell them, teach them, guide them. If they aren't interested then find someone who is. Life is too short to be putting up with bad sex.


  • #34
    iDave
    Registered Users Posts: 3,750 ✭✭✭iDave


    midlandsmissus wrote: »
    Is sex, where the man orgasms, and doesn´t attempt to make the woman orgasm: Abusive sex?

    Which SJW came up with this?


  • #35
    Glenster
    Registered Users Posts: 2,626 ✭✭✭Glenster


    Women are too complicated to expect a 100% success rate.

    I do my best and I'm secure in the knowledge that these particular moves have been successful in the past.

    Your orgasm is your responsibility.


  • #36
    NinjaKirby
    Closed Accounts Posts: 221 ✭✭NinjaKirby


    midlandsmissus wrote: »
    Is sex, where the man orgasms, and doesn´t attempt to make the woman orgasm: Abusive sex?

    I think you already know the answer to this but I will go ahead anyway.

    I think your question is WAY too simplistic to give any kind of reasonable answer.

    I'd have to say, no, it is not abusive sex at least not based on how you've presented it here.

    Obviously any kind of non-consensual sex is abusive (and illegal) so it doesn't really matter about the orgasms. Just putting that here first.

    If one partner is initiating consensual sex and then having their orgasm first then telling the other partner to stop then I would say that is probably an abusive, or at least unhealthy, relationship.

    Like if the man gets her consent and then he orgasms and then the just stops and walks out the room or something? Yeah, probably abusive.

    If he doesn't attempt to make the woman orgasm but is maybe apologetic and/or even sad because he can't satisfy her? Like he's saying they can work it out or something? No, probably not abusive.

    If one partner basically doesn't give a crap about the other partner and doesn't give a damn if they enjoy sex or not then I would lean towards calling that an abusive relationship and would certainly say it's an unhealthy relationship.

    That's about the best answer I can give. Thoughts?


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  • #37
    Ash.J.Williams
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 21,294 ✭✭✭✭Ash.J.Williams


    uch wrote: »
    As an ould lad I used to work with used to say "I don't Care, I always Cum"

    jaysus dude hope you're ok


  • #38
    The Hill Billy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 22,806 ✭✭✭✭The Hill Billy


    Inconsiderate. Not abusive.

    I'm interested to know how you define 'equal sex' though.


  • #39
    ohnonotgmail
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 40,573 ✭✭✭✭ohnonotgmail


    Jayop wrote: »
    Sure what in the jesus is he supposed to do after he's finished? Unless she'd get off by him thumbing a softie up it there's no point. The best bet is to wait a while and go again.

    you know there are other things a man can do, right?


  • #40
    Parchment
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,203 ✭✭✭Parchment


    gerrybbadd wrote: »
    A buddy of mine used to say if he came first and the girl complained, he would tell her "you had the same chance I had"

    He sounds like a catch


  • #41
    Parchment
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,203 ✭✭✭Parchment


    Jayop wrote: »
    Sure what in the jesus is he supposed to do after he's finished? Unless she'd get off by him thumbing a softie up it there's no point. The best bet is to wait a while and go again.

    Wow....


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  • #42
    Jayop
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,388 ✭✭✭✭Jayop


    ohnonotgmail wrote: »
    you know there are other things a man can do, right?

    Aye I suppose. Better to get the job done right first time though when there's still plenty of enthusiasm.


  • #43
    Sleepy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,289 ✭✭✭✭Sleepy


    I think we should strike for orgasm equality!

    It's the Matriarchy's fault that men have less orgasms! And I don't want to hear any whataboutery about women just being more biologically inclined to be multi-orgasmic, if some men can achieve that, the government should be spending our taxes to ensure men are experieincing as many orgasms in a play session as women are!


  • #44
    Roger Hassenforder
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,555 ✭✭✭Roger Hassenforder


    Jayop wrote: »
    Sure what in the jesus is he supposed to do after he's finished? Unless she'd get off by him thumbing a softie up it there's no point. The best bet is to wait a while and go again.

    ^^
    Worst rider ever.

    Even the neighbours are smoking fags by the time I'm finished with my auld doll.


  • #45
    mzungu
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 6,309 Mod ✭✭✭✭mzungu


    Sleepy wrote: »
    I think we should strike for orgasm equality!

    It's the Matriarchy's fault that men have less orgasms! And I don't want to hear any whataboutery about women just being more biologically inclined to be multi-orgasmic, if some men can achieve that, the government should be spending our taxes to ensure men are experieincing as many orgasms in a play session as women are!
    No more sexual austerity!!!


  • #46
    Jayop
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,388 ✭✭✭✭Jayop


    Roger Hassenforder wrote: »
    ^^
    Worst rider ever.

    Even the neighbours are smoking fags by the time I'm finished with my auld doll.

    See, none of my post was in the first person. I was referring to the OP's jockey.


  • #47
    Wetbench4
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,230 ✭✭✭Wetbench4


    Nice guys finish last..


  • #48
    Roger Hassenforder
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,555 ✭✭✭Roger Hassenforder


    Jayop wrote: »
    See, none of my post was in the first person. I was referring to the OP's jockey.

    Ah go on, I'll drop round and give your auld doll a right good service, you can take a few notes!


  • #49
    Jayop
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,388 ✭✭✭✭Jayop


    Roger Hassenforder wrote: »
    Ah go on, I'll drop round and give your auld doll a right good service, you can take a few notes!

    I do alright my good man but thanks for the kind offer!


  • #50
    Roger Hassenforder
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,555 ✭✭✭Roger Hassenforder


    Jayop wrote: »
    I do alright my good man but thanks for the kind offer!

    Fair enough.


  • #51
    Kimbot
    Moderators, Computer Games Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 18,751 Mod ✭✭✭✭Kimbot


    Abusive - No, Selfish - Yes.


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