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Passive Agressive use of "Bud" and "Pal"

pilly · 2017-04-19 10:40:49

Anyone else have an issue with this? Have to say whenever I hear people use the terms "Bud" and "Pal" it's in a passive aggressive manner and does my head in. But then that type of behaviour in general drives me mad. I've lately seen it sneaking into Boards as well and I simply ignore any post that has either of those…

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#62 19-04-2017 3:38pm
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Are you alright?

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#63 19-04-2017 3:38pm
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bnt wrote: »

I also get TA-ed at attempts to call me "brother" or variations such as "bro", "bruh", "brah", etc. You wouldn't want me as your brother, "pal". :mad:

What's TA-ed?

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#64 19-04-2017 3:42pm
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pilly wrote: »

What's TA-ed?

See here.

From out there on the moon, international politics look so petty. You want to grab a politician by the scruff of the neck and drag him a quarter of a million miles out and say, ‘Look at that, you son of a bitch’.
— Edgar Mitchell, Apollo 14 Astronaut

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#65 19-04-2017 3:45pm
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whoopsadoodles wrote: »

Indeed, a lot of my.....mates......would call each other Pal or Kid.

Yeah same. I call all my friends, pal.

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#66 19-04-2017 3:47pm
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whoopsadoodles wrote: »

You're welcome. Good lad.

Lad & Man works fine in this neck of the woods. Even Boy works when you're on a bit of a session. And it's spelt Boiiiiiii apparently.

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#67 19-04-2017 4:05pm
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pilly wrote: »

Anyone else have an issue with this?

Have to say whenever I hear people use the terms "Bud" and "Pal" it's in a passive aggressive manner and does my head in. But then that type of behaviour in general drives me mad.

I've lately seen it sneaking into Boards as well and I simply ignore any post that has either of those words in. It's generally someone who's very bitter or angry.

I see you liked this post of mine:

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showpost.php?p=103257902&postcount=209

Yeah, someone uses 'pal', I stop interacting with them immediately.

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#68 19-04-2017 4:10pm
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Murrisk wrote: »

I see you liked this post of mine:

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showpost.php?p=103257902&postcount=209

Yeah, someone uses 'pal', I stop interacting with them immediately.

Me too, no matter whether the argument is a good one or not, just don't want to bother with someone that uses these terms when they run out of arguments.

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#69 19-04-2017 4:35pm
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Glenster wrote: »

I do it with 'mate'.

Can't help it. I'm just so angry when I'm posting and its so cathartic.

Genuine LOL!

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#70 19-04-2017 4:58pm
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Murrisk wrote: »

Genuine LOL!

You can just imagine someone getting really het up and typing the word "mate" helps them. :D:D

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#71 19-04-2017 5:30pm
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greencap wrote: »

Good man.

Said with the right tone and context, basically a way of saying I'm senior to you.

Ugh try being called "good girl" by older men who do the exact same job as you.

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#72 19-04-2017 5:37pm
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neonsofa wrote:

Ugh try being called "good girl" by older men who do the exact same job as you.

Hope your name isn't Sharon!

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#73 19-04-2017 5:38pm
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Armchair Andy wrote: »

Hope your name isn't Sharon!

Your reference is lost on me. Sorry!

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#74 19-04-2017 5:40pm
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neonsofa wrote:

Your reference is lost on me. Sorry!

Just a scene from the snapper. Can't embed videos somebody else might.

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#75 19-04-2017 6:22pm
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whoopsadoodles wrote: »

My mates aren't tossers pal.

They're tossers babe.

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#76 19-04-2017 7:03pm
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Passive aggressive smilies are just as bad.
"Maybe you should go back and reread before replying. "

Even if the person posting it is right it's still annoying. Sham.

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#77 19-04-2017 7:11pm
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Super-Rush wrote: »

They're tossers babe.

Listen mate, my pals are not tossers.

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#78 19-04-2017 7:11pm
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This OP loves vacuous subject matters.

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#79 19-04-2017 7:20pm
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whoopsadoodles wrote: »

Listen mate, my pals are not tossers.

Relax babe your buds are not your pals, just tossers.

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#80 19-04-2017 7:27pm
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Super-Rush wrote: »

Relax babe your buds are not your pals, just tossers.

I'M QUITE RELAXED BUDDY

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#81 19-04-2017 7:33pm
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#82 19-04-2017 7:39pm
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whoopsadoodles wrote: »

I'M QUITE RELAXED BUDDY

Ok, whatever you say,sweetheart.

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#83 19-04-2017 7:42pm
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referring to me as "lad". Get in the sea!

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#84 19-04-2017 7:46pm
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"Wait 'till I tell you this man".

They're turning into American gang members.

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#85 19-04-2017 7:49pm
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Fella..

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#86 19-04-2017 8:16pm
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I remember about ten years ago being the second car at a set of lights and when the light went green the car in front stayed out. It was night time and I didn't want to leave the driver stranded so pulled in and went to see if I could help.

There was a young girl driving and seemed perturbed by my offer of assistance but rolled down the window. She cranked the engine and said 'dunno like - I just filled it up and now it won't start duuude' in a really patronising way.

I said 'This is a diesel, right? Did you fill it with petrol?'.

She double face-palmed and cried "I FILLED IT WITH PETROL. IT'S NOT MY CAR. I'M A COMPLETE MORON"!!

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#87 20-04-2017 12:37am
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pilly wrote: »

Yeah I suppose they can be used in a passive aggressive way as well when I think about it.

To me though pal and bud are never used affectionately. Mate can be.

I don't know about pal but bud can definitely be used affectionately. A lot of fathers Ive seen call their little sons bud or pal, in a nice way obviously

Anyway this is a silly argument because words mean absolutely nothing on their own its entirely about tone! You could call somebody a ****ing **** if they do something cheeky and they'll be grinning

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#88 20-04-2017 12:40am
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cantdecide wrote: »

I remember about ten years ago being the second car at a set of lights and when the light went green the car in front stayed out. It was night time and I didn't want to leave the driver stranded so pulled in and went to see if I could help.

There was a young girl driving and seemed perturbed by my offer of assistance but rolled down the window. She cranked the engine and said 'dunno like - I just filled it up and now it won't start duuude' in a really patronising way.

I said 'This is a diesel, right? Did you fill it with petrol?'.

She double face-palmed and cried "I FILLED IT WITH PETROL. IT'S NOT MY CAR. I'M A COMPLETE MORON"!!

Why did she say dude in a patronising way to a stranger helping her?

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#89 20-04-2017 12:45am
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What about when the Guard calls you 'sonny jim'

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#90 20-04-2017 2:14am
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pilly wrote: »

Just another thought, women don't have an equivalent. I'm a woman by the way.

Adding a string of xxxxx's or a 'hun' and a smiley face after a thinly veiled snide comment on Facebook?

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#91 20-04-2017 1:28pm
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whoopsadoodles wrote: »

I'M QUITE RELAXED BUDDY

Calm down sweet cheeks.

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