Passive Agressive use of "Bud" and "Pal"

pilly

Anyone else have an issue with this?

Have to say whenever I hear people use the terms "Bud" and "Pal" it's in a passive aggressive manner and does my head in. But then that type of behaviour in general drives me mad.

I've lately seen it sneaking into Boards as well and I simply ignore any post that has either of those words in. It's generally someone who's very bitter or angry.

Glenster

pilly wrote: »

Anyone else have an issue with this?

Have to say whenever I hear people use the terms "Bud" and "Pal" it's in a passive aggressive manner and does my head in. But then that type of behaviour in general drives me mad.

I've lately seen it sneaking into Boards as well and I simply ignore any post that has either of those words in. It's generally someone who's very bitter or angry.

I do it with 'mate'.

Can't help it. I'm just so angry when I'm posting and its so cathartic.

C Montgomery Gurns II

pilly wrote: »

Anyone else have an issue with this?

Have to say whenever I hear people use the terms "Bud" and "Pal" it's in a passive aggressive manner and does my head in. But then that type of behaviour in general drives me mad.

I've lately seen it sneaking into Boards as well and I simply ignore any post that has either of those words in. It's generally someone who's very bitter or angry.

Alright steady on pal.

I'm not your bud, pal

Allah snackbar

pilly wrote: »

I've lately seen it sneaking into Boards as well and I simply ignore any post that has either of those words in. It's generally someone who's very bitter or angry.

Unlike you I see , pal

BattleCorp

One ar5ehole in work calls me Pal even though we don't like each other. He uses it as a type of insult.

I stopped him in his tracks a few weeks ago and told him 'I'm not your fcuking pal'. He hasn't spoken to me since. Happy days.

mejulie805

valoren

Howya doin' ole buddy ole pal???????

One eyed Jack

It depends on the tone it's used, context. People I'd meet call me bud, pal, horse all the time, but a passive aggressive attitude drives me spare.

GBX

The Dublin bloke from the Stop Search Seize show on Sky One was at it with people arriving into Dublin Airport:

"Don't call me buddy pal"

Glenster

BattleCorp wrote: »

One ar5ehole in work calls me Pal even though we don't like each other. He uses it as a type of insult.

I stopped him in his tracks a few weeks ago and told him 'I'm not your fcuking pal'. He hasn't spoken to me since. Happy days.

In other news, man rounds on work colleague for no reason.

suicide_circus

BattleCorp

Glenster wrote: »

In other news, man rounds on work colleague for no reason.

There's more to that story, pal.

andekwarhola

Surely the issue is with the passive-aggression rather than the noun of choice.

Do you have trouble understanding what I mean, informal internet acquaintance?

Noddyholder

Buddy, Pal, Dublin words no ? mate be English/London ? Bohy be Cork , There just words & I have no problem with them being used, righ bud.

pilly

Glenster wrote: »

I do it with 'mate'.

Can't help it. I'm just so angry when I'm posting and its so cathartic.

Mate is another version yeah.

pilly

Allah snackbar wrote: »

Unlike you I see , pal

True, I'm not angry at all. Having a great day actually.

Gavlor

BattleCorp wrote: »

One ar5ehole in work calls me Pal even though we don't like each other. He uses it as a type of insult.

I stopped him in his tracks a few weeks ago and told him 'I'm not your fcuking pal'. He hasn't spoken to me since. Happy days.

Are you 8 and is "work" actually 2nd class maths?

messy tessy

pilly wrote: »

I've lately seen it sneaking into Boards as well and I simply ignore any post that has either of those words in. It's generally someone who's very bitter or angry.

I have seen it recently too, reminds me of Ocean's Eleven scene:

Sorry about that buddy.
Who are you calling buddy, Pal?
Who are you calling pal, friend?
Who are you calling friend, Jackass?!

Zulu

I'm not your pal, mate

pilly

Just another thought, women don't have an equivalent. I'm a woman by the way.

Glenster

pilly wrote: »

Just another thought, women don't have an equivalent. I'm a woman by the way.

Everything a woman says?

"Will you be home for dinner?" could have 60 layers of meaning.

They don't need to put mate on the end of what they say, its always implied.

Pat Mustard

Listen here, bucko


That's only semi aggressive, so it's grand.

andekwarhola

pilly wrote: »

Just another thought, women don't have an equivalent. I'm a woman by the way.

Not strictly true, love.


:pac:

messy tessy

pilly wrote: »

Just another thought, women don't have an equivalent. I'm a woman by the way.

Hun, pet, chicken, love.

Argh!!!

One eyed Jack

pilly wrote: »

Just another thought, women don't have an equivalent. I'm a woman by the way.

Bitch?

Not you obviously, I mean that's what I've often heard women use as either a term of endearment, or indeed in a passive aggressive context.

pilly

messy tessy wrote: »

Hun, pet, chicken, love.

Argh!!!

Yeah I suppose they can be used in a passive aggressive way as well when I think about it.

To me though pal and bud are never used affectionately. Mate can be.

andekwarhola

messy tessy wrote: »

Hun, pet, chicken, love.

Argh!!!

Kimbot

pilly wrote: »

Yeah I suppose they can be used in a passive aggressive way as well when I think about it.

To me though pal and bud are never used affectionately. Mate can be.

Story pal :P

Noddyholder

And if your ever in Morocco or Turkey the folks in the markets be all calling you friend...

andekwarhola

pilly wrote: »

To me though pal and bud are never used affectionately.

Not true at all.

sunny2004

Can't all the pals and mates just get along

HenryHill

andekwarhola wrote: »

Not strictly true, love.


:pac:

That's correct, Hun

theteal

MrsTeal uses "pal" affectionately. That's what 5 years of living in Scotland gets you.

I tend to stick with "chief". . .








. . . .or the occasional "horse"

One eyed Jack

Noddyholder wrote: »

And if your ever in Morocco or Turkey the folks in the markets be all calling you friend...

I work with a good many Indians (the sub-continental variety, not the American native ), and it's only when you mentioned it, I realised how many of them will call me friend. They're genuinely a friendly sort anyway... now it occurs to me, lads from the Middle East, Mauritius - "Hello friend..."

I remember Dave Allen discussing exactly this.

cbyrd

Pat Mustard wrote:

Listen here, bucko

I use this all the time with my kids in a semi jokey manner when they're being cheeky or not listening to me, it's the warning shot before hell breaks loose

Glenster

theteal wrote: »

MrsTeal uses "pal" affectionately. That's what 5 years of living in Scotland gets you.

I tend to stick with "chief". . .

. . . .or the occasional "horse"

Chief always reminds me of when Robin Williams went hard on Matt Damon in Good Will Hunting.

That might be the most aggressive appellation yet.

Archeron

Me auld segotia

BBDBB

hello chums

Yourself isit

Except for "story,bud" I don't think I've heard pal or bud used affectionately in Ireland.

Esel

theteal wrote: »

MrsTeal uses "pal" affectionately. That's what 5 years of living in Scotland gets you.

I tend to stick with "chief".

.or the occasional "horse"

Heard an off-duty Garda I know give this reply when someone addressed him as 'Horse' -

"If there was a tail (tale?) to my butt I'd be a horse".

Your Face

I call everyone sweetheart.

boombang

m8 for added aggression.

I'm not sure if I've seen mate used online in a way that wasn't nasty.

RWCNT

I say "Bud" and "Pal" all the time, I thought I was being friendly

La.de.da

In Waterford they say butty. "How are ya butty?" :mad:

Brad Socrates Osmund

pilly wrote: »

Just another thought, women don't have an equivalent. I'm a woman by the way.

U OK, Hun?

pilly

Brad Socrates Osmund wrote: »

U OK, Hun?

Yeah, that one drives me mad but it's not really passive aggressive.

Brad Socrates Osmund

pilly wrote: »

Yeah, that one drives me mad but it's not really passive aggressive.

Fair point. It's more of a standard reply to passive aggressive Facebook updates.

pilly

Brad Socrates Osmund wrote: »

Fair point. It's more of a standard reply to passive aggressive Facebook updates.

Or full on rants. :D:D:D

whoopsadoodles

andekwarhola wrote: »

Not true at all.

Indeed, a lot of my.....mates......would call each other Pal or Kid.