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Do you ever think about those you've loved before?

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    #32
    Lady is a tramp
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,208 ✭✭✭Lady is a tramp


    There's an ex of mine I was engaged to. Probably shoulda not ended it. I think of him a lot!


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    #33
    slovakchick
    Closed Accounts Posts: 200 ✭✭slovakchick


    When im with ny husbannd in bed sometimes i imagine he is my ex
    Noddyholder wrote: »
    Have you still got her tattoo ?


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    #34
    suicide_circus
    Registered Users Posts: 19,802 ✭✭✭✭suicide_circus


    slovakchick wrote: »
    When im with ny husbannd in bed sometimes i imagine he is my ex
    that's sad for you


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    #35
    Cutie 3.14
    Registered Users Posts: 610 ✭✭✭Cutie 3.14


    Sometimes you'd wonder what they're up to in life nowadays, I don't look back on any of them with any particular fondness either though. I feel nothing when I think of them, nor do I feel any were 'the one that got away'


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    #36
    slovakchick
    Closed Accounts Posts: 200 ✭✭slovakchick


    Do you never fantasise when love making?
    suicide_circus wrote: »
    that's sad for you


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    #37
    Dr. Kenneth Noisewater
    Registered Users Posts: 3,236 ✭✭✭Dr. Kenneth Noisewater


    suicide_circus wrote: »
    that's sad for you

    I'd say it's sad for her husband!


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    #38
    Outlaw Pete
    Registered Users Posts: 10,423 ✭✭✭✭Outlaw Pete


    Tigger wrote: »
    "The One That Got Away"

    Summer after high school when we first met
    We'd make out in your Mustang to Radiohead
    And on my 18th Birthday
    We got matching tattoos

    Used to steal your parents' liquor
    And climb to the roof
    Talk about our future
    Like we had a clue
    Never planned that one day
    I'd be losing you

    In another life
    I would be your girl
    We'd keep all our promises
    Be us against the world

    In another life
    I would make you stay
    So I don't have to say
    You were the one that got away
    The one that got away

    I was June and you were my Johnny Cash
    Never one without the other, we made a pact
    Sometimes when I miss you
    I put those records on (Whoa)

    Someone said you had your tattoo removed
    Saw you downtown singing the Blues
    It's time to face the music
    I'm no longer your muse

    But in another life
    I would be your girl
    We'd keep all our promises
    Be us against the world

    In another life
    I would make you stay
    So I don't have to say
    You were the one that got away
    The one that got away
    The o-o-o-o-o-one [x3]
    The one that got away

    [Bridge:]
    All this money can't buy me a time machine (Nooooo)
    Can't replace you with a million rings (Nooooo)
    I should've told you what you meant to me (Whoa)
    'Cause now I pay the price

    In another life
    I would be your girl
    We'd keep all our promises
    Be us against the world

    In another life
    I would make you stay
    So I don't have to say
    You were the one that got away
    The one that got away
    The o-o-o-o-o-one [x3]

    In another life
    I would make you stay
    So I don't have to say
    You were the one that got away
    The one that got away

    Jesus Christ. Katy Perry wrong a song about me!


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    #39
    Sleepy
    Registered Users Posts: 24,151 ✭✭✭✭Sleepy


    There's a few I'm still friends with, a few I'm still Facebook "friends" with and a few I've lost contact with entirely, most of whom I've looked up on social media at some point or other tbh.

    Only one ever makes me wonder about the "what ifs" and tbh, it's because I met her at a time when my life was a total train wreck and I didn't treat her anything like she deserved. All of the others, whether I ended it or they did, had traits that would have eventually lead to me ending things. She didn't. Or if she did, we weren't together long enough for me to discover them.

    No doubt there'd have been somethings that would have driven me nuts over the years but with the distance in our lives now, the "best self" nature of social media updates and the fallibility of memory she still seems just as wonderful as she was the day I broke up with her.


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    #40
    Winterlong
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,759 ✭✭✭Winterlong


    slovakchick wrote: »
    Do you never fantasise when love making?

    Most of my fantasies are about love making.


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    #41
    slovakchick
    Closed Accounts Posts: 200 ✭✭slovakchick


    Thats sad
    Winterlong wrote: »
    Most of my fantasies are about love making.


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    #42
    B00!
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,559 ✭✭✭B00!


    are exes ever on your mind?
    Noooooooooo....
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    #43
    YourSuperior
    Closed Accounts Posts: 65 ✭✭YourSuperior


    No, because I've never loved anyone before. It's just a mechanism to keep the species going. And I'm slightly autistic and just generally indifferent.


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    #44
    sjb25
    Registered Users Posts: 3,376 ✭✭✭sjb25


    One particular ex yes this sums it up


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    #45
    indioblack
    Registered Users Posts: 1,936 ✭✭✭indioblack


    YourSuperior wrote: »
    No, because I've never loved anyone before. It's just a mechanism to keep the species going. And I'm slightly autistic and just generally indifferent.

    Ah but rarely - too rarely - it can be the most wonderful experience.


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    #46
    Arghus
    Registered Users Posts: 14,353 ✭✭✭✭Arghus


    Rarely, but sometimes. Not in a romantic sense, just wondering what they are at and where the time goes.


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    #47
    Junkyard Tom
    Registered Users Posts: 10,117 ✭✭✭✭Junkyard Tom


    She told me I had the choice of crime or the beautiful sophisticated woman that she was but I couldn't say goodbye to the joyriding.


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    #48
    qo2cj1dsne8y4k
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    I did for ages, but not anymore. Like I hope they're happy and life is being good for them but I spent enough time thinking about them, I'm happy with my own situation and focus on that.


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    #49
    Cupcake_Crisis
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    slovakchick wrote: »
    Do you never fantasise when love making?

    About exes? No.
    About Tom Hardy? Jesus Christ yes


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    #50
    slovakchick
    Closed Accounts Posts: 200 ✭✭slovakchick


    Perhaps you should have chosen your love mates better in the past then
    Cupcake_Crisis wrote: »
    About exes? No.
    About Tom Hardy? Jesus Christ yes


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    #51
    HalloweenJack
    Registered Users Posts: 7,058 ✭✭✭HalloweenJack


    Sometimes, in a 'I dodged a bullet' kind of way for one particular. The others is just more curiosity as to what they're up to.


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    #52
    mirwillbeback
    Registered Users Posts: 2,003 ✭✭✭mirwillbeback


    slovakchick wrote: »
    Perhaps you should have chosen your love mates better in the past then

    Sounds like your ex has nothing to regret


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    #53
    MRnotlob606
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,642 ✭✭✭MRnotlob606


    Well, currently I am just out of my first relationship. I honestly find it so weird. One minute you think someone loves you to pieces and the next minute you ask them if they love you, and they cannot answer.

    It feels very numbing to be honest. To love someone who doesn't have the same feelings about you is the most isolating experience I've ever felt. In history, there has been eulogies, enconiums, even obituaries about loved ones, but the thing I learned is you need to be stoical. You can't control other people's opinions of you, but you can control how to react to external events.


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    #54
    slovakchick
    Closed Accounts Posts: 200 ✭✭slovakchick


    We all have regrets, its part of the human condition
    mirwillbeback wrote: »
    Sounds like your ex has nothing to regret


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    #55
    suicide_circus
    Registered Users Posts: 19,802 ✭✭✭✭suicide_circus


    slovakchick wrote: »
    Do you never fantasise when love making?
    Sure but I don't fantasize the my partner is my ex, that would be tragic.


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    #56
    jobbridge4life
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,759 ✭✭✭jobbridge4life


    I've never had an ex so I can't comment on it from a personal perspective but I'd think it would surely be very natural to think about people you loved? If someone really meant as much to you that you loved them then it seems only normal to me that they would be in your thoughts on some level forever. I don't mean that you'd always think of them, or even regularly but surely they'd still hold some presence in your head?

    I've quite a number of 'ex-friends', I do on occasion think of them.


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    #57
    slovakchick
    Closed Accounts Posts: 200 ✭✭slovakchick


    Maybe you need to open your eyes many happy alternatives to your line of thinking
    suicide_circus wrote: »
    Sure but I don't fantasize the my partner is my ex, that would be tragic.


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    #58
    Pac1Man
    Registered Users Posts: 4,394 ✭✭✭Pac1Man


    slovakchick wrote: »
    Maybe you need to open your eyes many happy alternatives to your line of thinking

    Surely opening your eyes ruins the illusion of it being someone else?


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    #59
    Glenster
    Registered Users Posts: 2,626 ✭✭✭Glenster


    I'm still friends with one or two of them on Snapchat.

    And I do find myself analysing their stories quite a bit....


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    #60
    slovakchick
    Closed Accounts Posts: 200 ✭✭slovakchick


    I dont know perhaps the other 'serial psychogical cheaters' have another view
    Pac1Man wrote: »
    Surely opening your eyes ruins the illusion of it being someone else?


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    #61
    hullaballoo
    Administrators, Entertainment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 18,710 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭hullaballoo


    I don't have a huge number of exes as most of them were fairly long term but yes, I'd think about them occasionally. Not with regret or pangs of longing, though, mostly just generally wondering are they doing ok for themselves.

    The regret and pangs of longing thoughts all relate to women who should now be exes but I was too stupid to pick up on the blatantly obvious signs. Dat hindsight tho.


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