Do you ever think about those you've loved before?

mud

The one you loved or lost or left?

Are they still on your mind?

I sometimes do think of them; usually when I'm stressed and I find it a bit funny seeing as realistically it's dead and gone *it's with O'Leary in the grave* :P

Are exes ever on your mind and why?

Usually when I wonder if I made the right decision staying a Bachelor... (Dating does get frustrating or boring as you get older) Then I remember all the reasons why we (various lovers) broke up, and I'm even more determined to stay single.

4Ad

Alot !! Probably too much...

whiskeyman

Only when I'm staring in their bedroom window from the tree outside...

Your Face

Only when I'm horny.

To all the girls I've loved before, who travelled in and out my door...

Outlaw Pete

Yeah, the summer after secondary met this girl.

She had a Mustang and we used to drive around in it and listen to Radiohead.

On her 18th birthday we got matching tattoos.

We used to steal her parents alcohol and climb up on her roof and talk about the future.

Never thought that one day I'd have lost her.

Someone told me she had the tattoo removed.

In a parallel universe, she'd still be mine.

Outlaw Pete

whiskeyman wrote: »

Only when I'm staring in their bedroom window from the tree outside...

George Mc Fly, is that you??

Noddyholder

Sometimes, The old nostalgia goes to work and I think why and where are they now ? I have to bring myself back to reality and remember why we broke up.

Noddyholder

Outlaw Pete wrote: »

Yeah, the summer after secondary met this girl.

She had a Mustang and we used to drive around in it and listen to Radiohead.

On her 18th birthday we got matching tattoos.

We used to steal her parents alcohol and climb up on her roof and talk about the future.

Never thought that one day I'd have lost her.

Someone told me she had the tattoo removed.

In a parallel universe, she'd still be mine.

Have you still got her tattoo ?

The_Valeyard

I'd like to think they are happy and found love.

super_furry

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rVq0ONrSH-Q

Stonedpilot

Feeling soft an lonely so thinking of a gorgeous ex. I use to date. We were to together 3 years. She was from Brazil and miss her, and not just the oral sex but guess you dont know what you got til its gone

topper75

super_furry wrote: »

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rVq0ONrSH-Q

Hate that one.

Everything on the WN Best Of albums is golden, except for that ill-judged, fast-forward billox.

Agent Smith

Outlaw Pete wrote: »

Yeah, the summer after secondary met this girl.

She had a Mustang and we used to drive around in it and listen to Radiohead.

On her 18th birthday we got matching tattoos.

We used to steal her parents alcohol and climb up on her roof and talk about the future.

Never thought that one day I'd have lost her.

Someone told me she had the tattoo removed.

In a parallel universe, she'd still be mine.

I Miss Katy too

biko

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HflsriOWpRI

Winterlong

Old ex-es would not prey on my mind at all. Their loss.

But ex-friends do for some reason. Would spend more time pondering that.

keano_afc

Yeah I think about my first love sometimes. She's American so my life would have been very different had anything ever come of it. She went home and that was that.

99problems

No

Boom_Bap

I'm still friends with them!

pumpkin4life

I wonder about this sometimes.

It seems to be a modern phenomena whereby you work your way through various men and women to get to the "one", the one you settle with, say compared to the past.

The problem is is the post love, nuclear fallout post love, especially if you're a teenager and this stuff all comes up at once like. Those are some of the most intense feelings you'll ever have, and I wonder is it contributing to a modern era which is increasingly cynical and fùcked up with mental health issues. That weird, zombie like state where you're stuck watching old movies and listening to old songs in order to be a tourist in your own youth again. Seems like I'm not the only lad who has this with Radiohead?

fitter, happier, more productive, a pig in a cage, on antibiotics

I think about the first love a fair bit, I'll admit.

tupenny

Winterlong wrote: »

Old ex-es would not prey on my mind at all. Their loss.

But ex-friends do for some reason. Would spend more time pondering that.

Yeah I'd be like that too. People from childhood and teenage years who I thought I'd be close to forever, & seeing them now would probably just be awkward.
Exs rarely cross my mind though

Birneybau

No, I'm dead inside.

SEPT 23 1989

Bambi985

I think about old friends a bit. My best friend from secondary school who I fell out of contact with and now lives on the other side of the world. An old neighbour who was like a sister to me until we fell out over something entirely stupid about seven years ago. Other school friends who I was once close with but are now like strangers to me.

I wonder sometimes if I'll regret not taking better care of my friendships. I can be a bad person for maintaining contact, and as I get older I realise how difficult it is to find really good friends.

corner of hells

Stonedpilot wrote: »

Feeling soft an lonely so thinking of a gorgeous ex. I use to date. We were to together 3 years. She was from Brazil and miss her, and not just the oral sex but guess you dont know what you got til its gone

What did you get ? Crabs ?

Earthhorse

No, never think of them. Or embarrassing situations. Or all the poor life decisions I've made.

Cupcake_Crisis

I do think of exes from time to time, but I'm on speaking terms with most of them so if I want to know how they are I just pop them a message.

I spend more time thinking of friends that fell by the wayside over the years.

Tigger

Outlaw Pete wrote: »

Yeah, the summer after secondary met this girl.

She had a Mustang and we used to drive around in it and listen to Radiohead.

On her 18th birthday we got matching tattoos.

We used to steal her parents alcohol and climb up on her roof and talk about the future.

Never thought that one day I'd have lost her.

Someone told me she had the tattoo removed.

In a parallel universe, she'd still be mine.

"The One That Got Away"

Summer after high school when we first met
We'd make out in your Mustang to Radiohead
And on my 18th Birthday
We got matching tattoos

Used to steal your parents' liquor
And climb to the roof
Talk about our future
Like we had a clue
Never planned that one day
I'd be losing you

In another life
I would be your girl
We'd keep all our promises
Be us against the world

In another life
I would make you stay
So I don't have to say
You were the one that got away
The one that got away

I was June and you were my Johnny Cash
Never one without the other, we made a pact
Sometimes when I miss you
I put those records on (Whoa)

Someone said you had your tattoo removed
Saw you downtown singing the Blues
It's time to face the music
I'm no longer your muse

But in another life
I would be your girl
We'd keep all our promises
Be us against the world

In another life
I would make you stay
So I don't have to say
You were the one that got away
The one that got away
The o-o-o-o-o-one [x3]
The one that got away

[Bridge:]
All this money can't buy me a time machine (Nooooo)
Can't replace you with a million rings (Nooooo)
I should've told you what you meant to me (Whoa)
'Cause now I pay the price

In another life
I would be your girl
We'd keep all our promises
Be us against the world

In another life
I would make you stay
So I don't have to say
You were the one that got away
The one that got away
The o-o-o-o-o-one [x3]

In another life
I would make you stay
So I don't have to say
You were the one that got away
The one that got away

Flibble

The odd time. Mostly when I'm thinking about how far I've come & the lessons I've learned along my 'dating career.'

One ex i used to think about a lot, because i put so much energy into that relationship and it took a lot out of me, and i never felt he got that or understood the impact he had on my mental health. One day i googled him out of curiosity, & found a load of post breakup poetry he wrote online, basically acknowledging & thanking me for everything I did for him. The sense of closure that that brought was HUGE, so it does pay to check them out occasionally

Alun

I accidentally stumbled on an ex of mine on Facebook the other day, someone I always regretted breaking up with and had always wondered what could have been. Took one look at her recent photos and thanked my lucky stars I'd made the right decision

Lady is a tramp

There's an ex of mine I was engaged to. Probably shoulda not ended it. I think of him a lot!

slovakchick

When im with ny husbannd in bed sometimes i imagine he is my ex

Noddyholder wrote: »

Have you still got her tattoo ?

suicide_circus

slovakchick wrote: »

When im with ny husbannd in bed sometimes i imagine he is my ex

that's sad for you

Cutie 3.14

Sometimes you'd wonder what they're up to in life nowadays, I don't look back on any of them with any particular fondness either though. I feel nothing when I think of them, nor do I feel any were 'the one that got away'

slovakchick

Do you never fantasise when love making?

suicide_circus wrote: »

that's sad for you

Dr. Kenneth Noisewater

suicide_circus wrote: »

that's sad for you

I'd say it's sad for her husband!

Outlaw Pete

Tigger wrote: »

"The One That Got Away"

Summer after high school when we first met
We'd make out in your Mustang to Radiohead
And on my 18th Birthday
We got matching tattoos

Used to steal your parents' liquor
And climb to the roof
Talk about our future
Like we had a clue
Never planned that one day
I'd be losing you

In another life
I would be your girl
We'd keep all our promises
Be us against the world

In another life
I would make you stay
So I don't have to say
You were the one that got away
The one that got away

I was June and you were my Johnny Cash
Never one without the other, we made a pact
Sometimes when I miss you
I put those records on (Whoa)

Someone said you had your tattoo removed
Saw you downtown singing the Blues
It's time to face the music
I'm no longer your muse

But in another life
I would be your girl
We'd keep all our promises
Be us against the world

In another life
I would make you stay
So I don't have to say
You were the one that got away
The one that got away
The o-o-o-o-o-one [x3]
The one that got away

[Bridge:]
All this money can't buy me a time machine (Nooooo)
Can't replace you with a million rings (Nooooo)
I should've told you what you meant to me (Whoa)
'Cause now I pay the price

In another life
I would be your girl
We'd keep all our promises
Be us against the world

In another life
I would make you stay
So I don't have to say
You were the one that got away
The one that got away
The o-o-o-o-o-one [x3]

In another life
I would make you stay
So I don't have to say
You were the one that got away
The one that got away

Jesus Christ. Katy Perry wrong a song about me!

Sleepy

There's a few I'm still friends with, a few I'm still Facebook "friends" with and a few I've lost contact with entirely, most of whom I've looked up on social media at some point or other tbh.

Only one ever makes me wonder about the "what ifs" and tbh, it's because I met her at a time when my life was a total train wreck and I didn't treat her anything like she deserved. All of the others, whether I ended it or they did, had traits that would have eventually lead to me ending things. She didn't. Or if she did, we weren't together long enough for me to discover them.

No doubt there'd have been somethings that would have driven me nuts over the years but with the distance in our lives now, the "best self" nature of social media updates and the fallibility of memory she still seems just as wonderful as she was the day I broke up with her.

Winterlong

slovakchick wrote: »

Do you never fantasise when love making?

Most of my fantasies are about love making.

slovakchick

Thats sad

Winterlong wrote: »

Most of my fantasies are about love making.

B00!

are exes ever on your mind?

Noooooooooo....

YourSuperior

No, because I've never loved anyone before. It's just a mechanism to keep the species going. And I'm slightly autistic and just generally indifferent.

sjb25

One particular ex yes this sums it up

indioblack

YourSuperior wrote: »

No, because I've never loved anyone before. It's just a mechanism to keep the species going. And I'm slightly autistic and just generally indifferent.

Ah but rarely - too rarely - it can be the most wonderful experience.

Arghus

Rarely, but sometimes. Not in a romantic sense, just wondering what they are at and where the time goes.

Junkyard Tom

She told me I had the choice of crime or the beautiful sophisticated woman that she was but I couldn't say goodbye to the joyriding.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k

I did for ages, but not anymore. Like I hope they're happy and life is being good for them but I spent enough time thinking about them, I'm happy with my own situation and focus on that.

Cupcake_Crisis

slovakchick wrote: »

Do you never fantasise when love making?

About exes? No.
About Tom Hardy? Jesus Christ yes

slovakchick

Perhaps you should have chosen your love mates better in the past then

Cupcake_Crisis wrote: »

About exes? No.
About Tom Hardy? Jesus Christ yes

HalloweenJack

Sometimes, in a 'I dodged a bullet' kind of way for one particular. The others is just more curiosity as to what they're up to.