Just had a bit of a barney with a neighbour

Specialun

So i was up stairs an hour ago and i could hear my dog going nuts barking..a ran down, opened the door to see 3 kids staring in my living room window..they were actually leaning on the window sill. I went out a said go away..10 mins later its off again..i stormed out and shouted at them " i said go away, this isnt your house and get off my lawn" . I caught a kids bike and pushed it back into the middle of the green

15 mins later i hear my door bell and its my neighbour

"What gets you off shouting at my kids" is what im greeted with
" they were on my lawn twice pal, this is my house and not there playground" says I
" you have no right to raise your voice at my kids" says he
Im a bit pissed off now so I says " listen her pal dont come to my door mouthing off. Wouldnt it be more in line if you disciplined the kids. You dont own this green and they shouldnt be on my lawn. Now go away "

He this boots my front door and storms off

What a massive dick.

Have you had any instances like this. Are your neighbours dicks

Little CuChulainn

You both sound like great people to live beside

Specialun

Little CuChulainn wrote: »

You both sound like great people to live beside

Oh right. How am i in the wrong

s15r330

Get the kids, kick one in the face and say "tell your dad he'll get the same if he annoys me again". Call him a little dikhead for good measure

amcalester

When I was a kid the only neighbours we purposely annoyed were the ones who got reacted like you OP.

Old Perry

I ain't your pal, friend.

jacksie66

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amcalester

Old Perry wrote: »

I ain't your pal, friend.

I'm no friend of yours, mate.

vicwatson

You have a lawn? Wooooo

Miss Demeanour

It could be worse.....you could be neighbours with Kate.

Cantona's Collars

You should have kicked the sh1te out of him in front of his kids,that would have showed the little feckers.
Seriously, had somebody booted my door they'd be getting a smack.
Says a lot about the da,when he comes after you instead of telling his kids to stay off other peoples property.

Gavinz

Miss Demeanour wrote: »

It could be worse.....you could be neighbours with Kate.

The breakfast interrupting bitch.

DopeTech

Go outside and tell them that Santa is not real.

Akrasia

Old Perry wrote: »

I ain't your pal, friend.

I'm not your friend, guy!

ytpe2r5bxkn0c1

I think you overreacted and could have dealt with neighbour kids on your lawn in a much more measured and proportional way.

0ph0rce0

Put up a sign on the gate that says "FREE SWEETS FOR UNDER 12'S", The neighbours wont let the kids near your house.

smelly sock

What age are the chaps?

Specialun

vicwatson wrote: »

You have a lawn? Wooooo

No recession here

Specialun

smelly sock wrote: »

What age are the chaps?

Dunno tbh. Old enough to know better. Id say 10-12

Erik Shin

Specialun wrote: »

Oh right. How am i in the wrong

You're not, some posts just aren't worth reading

demanufactured

Tell them to get off your fuppin spot and call them grassholes

smelly sock

Specialun wrote: »

Dunno tbh. Old enough to know better. Id say 10-12

Looking for a reaction and got one.

pablo128

zerks wrote: »

You should have kicked the sh1te out of him in front of his kids,that would have showed the little feckers.
Seriously, had somebody booted my door they'd be getting a smack.
Says a lot about the da,when he comes after you instead of telling his kids to stay off other peoples property.

I can't agree with this more. Someone comes and has an argument, fair enough. If someone booted my door I wouldn't hold back.

One eyed Jack

Specialun wrote: »

..i stormed out and shouted at them " i said go away, this isnt your house and get off my lawn"...

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Specialun wrote: »

Have you had any instances like this. Are your neighbours dicks

Never had any incidents even remotely like that tbh, the odd time the neighbour downstairs plays their music a bit too loud, but they don't have parties too often and it's Caribbean music which I don't mind, other than that though, nope, all my neighbours and their children are great

Little CuChulainn

Specialun wrote: »

Oh right. How am i in the wrong

By being aggressive and confrontational. When you say you caught one of the bikes do you mean while the kid was on it?

Specialun

Little CuChulainn wrote: »

By being aggressive and confrontational. When you say you caught one of the bikes do you mean while the kid was on it?

No. the bike was in my lawn. How was i aggressive. I asked them to FO, they came back. When somebody comes to my door looking 4 a barney and having a go am i to offer them a box of butlers chocs and a spa weekend away

frag420

If they want to play with the dog then let them play with the dog!!

But first starve the dog for a week and rub bacon on the kids faces!!

PANDDDKP

Specialun wrote: »

No. the bike was in my lawn. How was i aggressive. I asked them to FO, they came back. When somebody comes to my door looking 4 a barney and having a go am i to offer them a box of butlers chocs and a spa weekend away

Course you are, and 300 quid spending money.

pablo128

Little CuChulainn wrote: »

By being aggressive and confrontational. When you say you caught one of the bikes do you mean while the kid was on it?

I live on a corner in an estate in Tallaght. We get hounded, if it's not kids coming in banging on the windows or staring in the windows, its some other knacker behaviour. We are here 7 years and still get it.

We managed to stop the ones who would stand outside and abuse my partner when she went outside, by finding where they lived and telling the parents, although like the OP, one of them came around first shouting the odds about 'abusing' his darling child. He fcuked off with his tail between his legs when he realised exactly what his angel was doing. We haven't seen his kid since either.

Then there was the Romanian kid who was terrorising the road with his cousin. Until he put a brick through my window. Then I went around to his house, marched straight in to the sitting room when the door opened, and went ballistic to his father, letting him know what I was going to do if he didn't pay for my window.

I had 90 euro the next day off him.

frozenfrozen

you did the right thing, next time tell angry dad you ****ed his wife and the little fat kid is yours and you can shout at him if you want to and he can mind his own business how you parent your own child thank you very much

suicide_circus

As a child, if I told my dad that a neighbour had shouted at me I would have got in trouble for annoying the neighbours. I should probably go get some counselling.

Tzardine

suicide_circus wrote: »

As a child, if I told my dad that a neighbour had shouted at me I would have got in trouble for annoying the neighbours. I should probably go get some counselling.

Tell me about your relationship with your father.

Demonique

Westley Gorgeous Mucus wrote: »

I think you overreacted and could have dealt with neighbour kids on your lawn in a much more measured and proportional way.

Thinking yelling at kids for being brats is overreacting is one of the reasons we've got so many overly sensitive cry baby adults nowadays

suicide_circus

Tzardine wrote: »

Tell me about your relationship with your father.

*sobs incoherently*

Little CuChulainn

Specialun wrote: »

No. the bike was in my lawn. How was i aggressive. I asked them to FO, they came back. When somebody comes to my door looking 4 a barney and having a go am i to offer them a box of butlers chocs and a spa weekend away

There is a middle ground between confrontation and surrender. Aggressive people don't usually see that, which is why I'd consider you to be aggressive.

pablo128 wrote: »

I live on a corner in an estate in Tallaght. We get hounded, if it's not kids coming in banging on the windows or staring in the windows, its some other knacker behaviour. We are here 7 years and still get it.

We managed to stop the ones who would stand outside and abuse my partner when she went outside, by finding where they lived and telling the parents, although like the OP, one of them came around first shouting the odds about 'abusing' his darling child. He fcuked off with his tail between his legs when he realised exactly what his angel was doing. We haven't seen his kid since either.

Then there was the Romanian kid who was terrorising the road with his cousin. Until he put a brick through my window. Then I went around to his house, marched straight in to the sitting room when the door opened, and went ballistic to his father, letting him know what I was going to do if he didn't pay for my window.

I had 90 euro the next day off him.

Sounds like your tactics aren't working too well.

beertons

Next time he knocks in, answer the door with a cordless nail gun in your hand. If he raises his voice, shoot him in the foot. Then just say it went off.

blinding

Do you have a canon.........for firing canon balls.....you will need some canon balls and some gun powder.........

Samuel T. Cogley

If I had to shout at the kids here (and I have done once) the last person they'd tell would be their parents. The reaction of you're neighbour shows that doing anything else, such as going over and having a word, would have, at best, fell of deaf ears. Unless you swore at the kids or made it look like your were threatening violence you're completely within your rights to tell them to back off. Any parent who thinks otherwise needs to seriously look at how they're raising their kids and are you and them an annoyance to people around you.

pablo128

Little CuChulainn wrote: »

There is a middle ground between confrontation and surrender. Aggressive people don't usually see that, which is why I'd consider you to be aggressive.



Sounds like your tactics aren't working too well.

Well neither do yours given the profession that you are in. We tried that route first.

Any suggestions rather than idle remarks?

Actually my tactics worked better than expected. The new window only cost 60 euro.

Little CuChulainn

pablo128 wrote: »

Well neither do yours given the profession that you are in. We tried that route first.

Any suggestions rather than idle remarks?

Yeah, don't be so aggressive and confrontational with your neighbours.

endacl

Net curtains.

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pablo128

Little CuChulainn wrote: »

Yeah, don't be so aggressive and confrontational with your neighbours.

You don't live in a rough area, do you? You let things like that go, and you are seen as a soft touch and will be hounded day and night.

Don't get me wrong. I've no problem with a ball coming in the garden or nick nack or kids making noise. But when your family are being abused and your property attacked and the gardai can't or won't do anything, well in my book it's time to take matters into your own hands.

Specialun

Little CuChulainn wrote: »

There is a middle ground between confrontation and surrender. Aggressive people don't usually see that, which is why I'd consider you to be aggressive.



Sounds like your tactics aren't working too well.

You must be on the wind up..so the 2nd time they came back what am i to do..ask them kindly again???

Little CuChulainn

pablo128 wrote: »

You don't live in a rough area, do you? You let things like that go, and you are seen as a soft touch and will be hounded day and night.

Don't get me wrong. I've no problem with a ball coming in the garden or nick nack or kids making noise. But when your family are being abused and your property attacked and the gardai can't or won't do anything, well in my book it's time to take matters into your own hands.

And in many cases that just escalates things.

Specialun wrote: »

You must be on the wind up..so the 2nd time they came back what am i to do..ask them kindly again???

Yes.

Atlantic Dawn

Good walls make good neighbours.

Specialun

Little CuChulainn wrote: »

And in many cases that just escalates things.



Yes.

Haha. Yeah coz that clearly worked the first time.

Samuel T. Cogley

Well to be fair OP you didn't even ask nicely once. You may have tried that at least once, as you've nowhere to go now. I'd still have shouted at the kids and I wouldn't have bothered going over but I do think once the neighbour is on the door step a middle road might have been worth trying. That said dunno if I'd have the presence of mind at that point, I'd probably bite back too.

RoYoBo

Fart smell aerosol can:

• Open window
• Quick couple of sprays
• Close window (very important)
• Kids vanish
• Smell clears after 15 minutes

Father calls round:

• Tell him about your flatulence problem
• Quick spray behind your back
• Father clears off

Win, win all round.

Specialun

Samuel T. Cogley wrote: »

Well to be fair OP you didn't even ask nicely once. You may have tried that at least once, as you've nowhere to go now. I'd still have shouted at the kids and I wouldn't have bothered going over but I do think once the neighbour is on the door step a middle road might have been worth trying. That said dunno if I'd have the presence of mind at that point, I'd probably bite back too.

I opened the door and off he rattled. The kids should not be on my property, not once or not twice. They were asked to leave. They came back.

anewme

Samuel T. Cogley wrote: »

Well to be fair OP you didn't even ask nicely once. You may have tried that at least once, as you've nowhere to go now. I'd still have shouted at the kids and I wouldn't have bothered going over but I do think once the neighbour is on the door step a middle road might have been worth trying. That said dunno if I'd have the presence of mind at that point, I'd probably bite back too.

The neighbours attitude is what was wrong, not the OP's.

Op was already annoyed so a narky neighbour giving out on his own doorstep would not have gone down well.

Agree with the other posters, if we had gone home and said Mr. Smith or whoever gave out to us for looking in the windows, we'd have been given short shrift.

If someone kicked my door in a threatening manner, damaging property , I'd be calling the Gardai. These stupid minor neighbour disputes can often get out of hand where red mist sets in and end in a tragedy like someone being stabbed.

WoollyRedHat

Wait if you have a dog, why didn't you release the hounds. Honestly some people.