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Zzippy

Man, I really really love Italian food. And wine. Especially Montepulciano. And now grappa. Mmmmm....

awec

Only been very casually looking at wedding stuff for about a day and I am already stressed. The cost of everything is unreal.

mfceiling

awec wrote: »

Only been very casually looking at wedding stuff for about a day and I am already stressed. The cost of everything is unreal.

*laughs uncontrollably*

Wait to you have kids buddy!! I remember back in 2003 having a thing called disposable income.

molloyjh

awec wrote: »

Only been very casually looking at wedding stuff for about a day and I am already stressed. The cost of everything is unreal.

If it's any consolation you can make a lot of it back through presents if you ask for cash. It can be very expensive though, especially if your OH has expensive taste. Like mine does.

awec

molloyjh wrote: »

If it's any consolation you can make a lot of it back through presents if you ask for cash. It can be very expensive though, especially if your OH has expensive taste. Like mine does.

Nah she has not got expensive taste at all, she would very happily get married in her mum and dad's back garden if it were logistically possible!

We have the added issue of being from opposite ends of the country. Hard to know what to do location wise whether you make one family travel the entire distance or you meet in the middle and have both travel (and probably pay a bit more). The other issue then is with all the travel you have to invite everyone to the full day, can't exactly expect anyone to travel anywhere for an evening invite.

irishbucsfan

The best part of the wedding will be when the best man produces a "best wishes" video from John Lacey and Jerome Garces.

Yeah_Right

What's wrong with eloping? It's cheaper and you're already on your honeymoon. The added bonus is it might piss your families off so much that they stop talking to you. No dealing with in-laws, you don't have to attend stupid family functions and there's no arguing about where you're going to spend Xmas.

Trust me, elope.

mfceiling

awec wrote: »

Nah she has not got expensive taste at all, she would very happily get married in her mum and dad's back garden if it were logistically possible!

We have the added issue of being from opposite ends of the country. Hard to know what to do location wise whether you make one family travel the entire distance or you meet in the middle and have both travel (and probably pay a bit more). The other issue then is with all the travel you have to invite everyone to the full day, can't exactly expect anyone to travel anywhere for an evening invite.

I'd say whatever is handy for you. Molloyjh, myself and .ak will probably run a bus to it anyway...road trip for us and a free feed!!

Dinner Options....

"Bacon and Egg Soda or Sausage and Egg Soda sir?"

Stheno

awec wrote: »

Only been very casually looking at wedding stuff for about a day and I am already stressed. The cost of everything is unreal.

There's a decent wedding forum on here which has budget calculators and bargain alerts and loads of info

irishbucsfan

irishbucsfan wrote: »

The best part of the wedding will be when the best man produces a "best wishes" video from John Lacey and Jerome Garces.

That is ingenious. I would imagine they would do it if you got in touch :pac:

[Deleted User]

[Deleted User] wrote: »

That is ingenious. I would imagine they would do it if you got in touch :pac:

"Is there anyone here who for any reason deems that these two should not be married"

Lacey stands up at the back of the church grasping a red card and Garces is standing at station 4 pointing a flag at Awec.

Sorry... fleg.

phog

awec wrote: »

Nah she has not got expensive taste at all, she would very happily get married in her mum and dad's back garden if it were logistically possible!

We have the added issue of being from opposite ends of the country. Hard to know what to do location wise whether you make one family travel the entire distance or you meet in the middle and have both travel (and probably pay a bit more). The other issue then is with all the travel you have to invite everyone to the full day, can't exactly expect anyone to travel anywhere for an evening invite.

Most people overnight nowadays anyway, so aside from cost of fuel there isn't a huge extra cost in travelling.

Fools advice, go with a location you (the couple) want or go for a foreign wedding.

I also think evening invites are/should be a thing of the past.

Moflojo

awec wrote: »

Nah she has not got expensive taste at all, she would very happily get married in her mum and dad's back garden if it were logistically possible!

We have the added issue of being from opposite ends of the country. Hard to know what to do location wise whether you make one family travel the entire distance or you meet in the middle and have both travel (and probably pay a bit more). The other issue then is with all the travel you have to invite everyone to the full day, can't exactly expect anyone to travel anywhere for an evening invite.

Meeting in the middle inconveniences both sides. Tradition usually dictates that the wedding takes place in the bride's home place - she can get ready in her parent's house. Whoever has to travel will have to stay overnight regardless, whether it's in the middle of the country or the far side.

swiwi_

So I have cast my vote in the first part of the NZ flag referendum.

Sadly (and I imagine incomprehensibly to many people on this forum), it looks like we will probably stick with the generic British colonial design.

There is zero chance I will ever fly a flag that is continually mistaken for Australia's.

I'm not actually that much of a flag person, but the Swiss are fairly wild for the their flags, "Japanesque" you could say.

swiwi_

swiwi_ wrote: »

There is zero chance I will ever fly a flag that is continually mistaken for Australia's.

G'day mate!

Zzippy

awec wrote: »

Only been very casually looking at wedding stuff for about a day and I am already stressed. The cost of everything is unreal.

Just been through it. Seriously, don't sweat it. Shop around, haggle, especially with hotels, but don't worry about the cost - unless you go all extravagant you'll get loads of cash presents that will cover a lot of the costs. Pick a nice venue ye both like, pick a good band that you know will pack the floor, and pick only the people you really want at your wedding - do those 3 and the rest will fall into place and you'll have a great day.

molloyjh

mfceiling wrote: »

I'd say whatever is handy for you. Molloyjh, myself and .ak will probably run a bus to it anyway...road trip for us and a free feed!!

Dinner Options....

"Bacon and Egg Soda or Sausage and Egg Soda sir?"

I'm in....

molloyjh

phog wrote: »

Most people overnight nowadays anyway, so aside from cost of fuel there isn't a huge extra cost in travelling.

Fools advice, go with a location you (the couple) want or go for a foreign wedding.

I also think evening invites are/should be a thing of the past.

This. Especially the bit about picking where you want to go. It's your wedding, and with all the politics that can be easily forgotten. Don't go forgetting that trying to keep everyone else happy.

mfceiling

molloyjh wrote: »

This. Especially the bit about picking where you want to go. It's your wedding, and with all the politics that can be easily forgotten. Don't go forgetting that trying to keep everyone else happy.

Except trying to keep all us on here happy. Very important that happens.

Stheno

molloyjh wrote: »

This. Especially the bit about picking where you want to go. It's your wedding, and with all the politics that can be easily forgotten. Don't go forgetting that trying to keep everyone else happy.

And have the service you want. I've never forgotten two things from my former wedding, the first being my mil/fil rocking up to the house at 9am after we had finished an 11 hour nightshift, and informing us they would not be attending as they were not happy with the service we were having, and the second being the evil old cowbag telling me I looked too "gummy" in the wedding photographs.

THe first caused us to change the entire service, the second was just being a bitter and evil cowbag.

mfceiling wrote: »

Except trying to keep all us on here happy. Very important that happens.

Sure a tent behind the hotel with bacon sammiches will be fine As long as there is beer, proper beer.

And good red wine for myself and Zzippy

awec

There'll be Harp.

Stheno

awec wrote: »

There'll be Harp.

:eek::eek:

mfceiling

awec wrote: »

There'll be Harp.

Cans I hope...none of this fancy bottle nonsense.

I presume there'll only be one choice of wine for the toast...The Lurgan champagne*




*buckfast*

Series link 'Don't Tell the Bride' for plenty of top tips on what is and what is not acceptable to organise...

Clearlier

Deleted User wrote: »

Series link 'Don't Tell the Bride' for plenty of top tips on what is and what is not acceptable to organise...

Be prepared to have the TV monopolised for various wedding shows right up until you tie the knot.

After a brief honeymoon if you haven't bought a place already the wedding will be followed by endless Kevin McCloud broadcasts. If you have already bought a place you're looking at Sarah Beeny et al telling you how to renovate/extend it.

When you have a suitable nest you'll be astonished to find out just how many baby programmes are broadcast.

Good luck awec!

molloyjh

Deleted User wrote: »

Series link 'Don't Tell the Bride' for plenty of top tips on what is and what is not acceptable to organise...

I'm sure awec already has his application in for the show himself. Maybe we should be series linking it so that we don't miss him!

dregin

awec wrote: »

Nah she has not got expensive taste at all, she would very happily get married in her mum and dad's back garden if it were logistically possible!

We have the added issue of being from opposite ends of the country. Hard to know what to do location wise whether you make one family travel the entire distance or you meet in the middle and have both travel (and probably pay a bit more). The other issue then is with all the travel you have to invite everyone to the full day, can't exactly expect anyone to travel anywhere for an evening invite.

A compromise might be this place in Westmeath: http://www.boutiquecamping.ie/

My cousin had his wedding there. A selection of churches in the area and a non-denominational one on the grounds. We took over the whole place for 4 days. It was pretty great and reasonably priced.

pickarooney

There's no phone coverage but it's good craic. Silly prices for some of the little huts though.

dregin

My yurt looked out over a lake and you couldn't see any others from it. Twas glorious! The houses you can rent are fairly savage. The little huts are grand, but I've no idea how much they cost. This was a couple of years ago, so chances are prices have crept up since. I know they had a BYOB policy, but have since built a bar.

mfceiling

Clearlier wrote: »

Be prepared to have the TV monopolised for various wedding shows right up until you tie the knot.

After a brief honeymoon if you haven't bought a place already the wedding will be followed by endless Kevin McCloud broadcasts. If you have already bought a place you're looking at Sarah Beeny et al telling you how to renovate/extend it.

When you have a suitable nest you'll be astonished to find out just how many baby programmes are broadcast.

Good luck awec!

Then when you have kids, and a dog, and a goldfish and a hamster you will have watched every cartoon under the sun.
You will arrive home and find her watching the kardashians and Geordie Shore. At this stage you will start to wonder how many years you will have left until you die.
By the way...do you know how much it costs to have a kid and send them to school....and that gets more expensive every year.

Good luck with everything though....