is it ever ok to punch a bully in the f**kin face?

Molester Stallone II

Fat Christy wrote: »

System failure. Response invalid.

I'm thinking of a Bad Manners song title

Fat Christy

Molester Stallone II wrote: »

I'm thinking of a Bad Manners song title

Are ya starting?

wazky

Fat Christy wrote: »

Are ya starting?

I'ma gon' shank you boy..

looking_around

Molester Stallone II wrote: »

Incorrect

I speak from experience..and you?

If I'm incorrect what do they do?

anncoates

Drop a few hints around the biggest kid in the school about a new playstation if the bully somehow happened to get a few clatters

Fat Christy

wazky wrote: »

I'ma gon' shank you boy..

You're only ****e in a bucket, ya innocent b*stard ya.

Mickey H

Fat Christy wrote: »

System failure. Response invalid.

[A]bort [R]etry [F]ail

wazky

Fat Christy wrote: »

You're only ****e in a bucket, ya innocent b*stard ya.

You're the king of nathing!, the king of dawg sh1te!!

looking_around

Joeytheparrot wrote: »

Have you evidence of that?

aside from what I've seen first hand?

Molester Stallone II

Fat Christy wrote: »

Are ya starting?

Lip up fatty

mcko

My son was bullied in 5th class I reported it to the school heard nothing and it still went on I told my son to kick the next bully in the crown jewels. I called to his teacher and told him what I had done and don't call me if my son kicked someone.
Next week to a note to contact the teacher as the above happened. I called and reminded him of what I had said, bullys stopped after this. I am afraid this is all that bullys understand.

Annasopra

looking_around wrote: »

aside from what I've seen first hand?

Oh ok. I thought you were talking about this happened Nationally rather than an anecdote.

looking_around

Joeytheparrot wrote: »

Oh ok. I thought you were talking about this happened Nationally rather than an anecdote.

you're just trolling now. which is pretty shameful for a mod.

The fact is most victims of bullying will tell you teachers did feck all. They STILL do feck all.
because in the end feck all is all they can do.

Got some evidence that shows otherwise?

shruikan2553

What can the schools do? They appear to be quite limited if they get no help from the parents. Sadly instead of the cause of the problem suffering the victim has to suffer.

Fat Christy

wazky wrote: »

You're the king of nathing!, the king of dawg sh1te!!

Molester Stallone II wrote: »

Lip up fatty

Come out and fight me. I'm ready for ye now bai's.

freshpopcorn

I went to primary/secondary school between the 1990's/2000's and I experienced a little bit of bullying here and there.
In primary school I experienced a little bit of bullying and at first I did nothing and then I confronted the bully and it stopped. This a couple of times and the bullying always stoped.
I then went into secondary school and a couple of things happened. With a bully and I did the proper thing(I. Thought) now the school did the best they could. They talked to the bully(who wouldn't admit it) so they couldn't do much which I could kind of understand. The school also said I could talk to the school councillor if I wanted.
They could do nothing with the bully and he told his friends what I did and they all turned on me. I was made miserable for ages but these people but I just got on with it.
My second experience with a bully would have being in second year and I stood up to him I punched him a couple of times and he was sort of impressed. We got on very well after become free fiends.

spitfireIRL

Gotta agree with what people are saying. Got bullied quite badly for two years until I bate the sh!te out of them with a chair. Problem solved.

It really is the only thing they understand. I get the feeling the people saying "tell the teacher" haven't really experienced what it's like..

Mint Aero

SMASH HIS FACE IN.

Adamantium

Violence should be used sooner rather than later, and damn it can some of the most satisfying, electric, vivid stuff you'll ever remember

I spent years in 2nd level having good friends, but there was this crowd (GAA) who has this guy ringleading who was nothing but high on his own fumes.

In science class we used to have this fantastic physics teacher who was incredibly enthusiastic, but would often be left in near tears once a week for many years, every class a madhouse, couldn't be taught, their heads already packed, it was insufferable and unfair to the teacher, one day in LC the ringleader who was bad out of class of 14 or so and inside was doing some experiment and the classes were standing around 5 or so tables. I was finished helping the obnoxious **** and as I'm walking away just makes a snide remark, lick remark again and I want to say something "snapped" but it was the opposite, a pure zen clarity moment, I walked back with a spring in my step and I decked the guy square in the face.

There was audible gasps and "oh yes" from others as I was considered the sound witty guy, friendly but quiet who took a lot of **** for no apparent reason (turns when I went to college I was an oppressed extrovert all the time). Anyway the guy was so stunned, and I was trembling and I finally let him know, that was all I wanted, I couldn't have left school not doing it I realised. The GAA crowd never spoke to me for the rest of the year.

Th teacher made the guy sit down and ignored me completely, and as he turned his back to the board, you could see a barely concealed smile.

Buona Fortuna

wazky wrote: »

I'ma gon' shank you boy..

Call me an old Fecker but I'm kinda stuggling with the stabbing humour

Molester Stallone II

Buona Fortuna wrote: »

Call me an old Fecker but I'm kinda stuggling with the stabbing humour

Old fecker!

Candy_Girl

shruikan2553 wrote: »

What can the schools do? They appear to be quite limited if they get no help from the parents. Sadly instead of the cause of the problem suffering the victim has to suffer.

They call in the bully's parents to have a chat with them about their child's behavior and how to stop it. Most of the time the parents are bullies also so it's a losing battle for the School.

Op as your child is only 5 I'd go and and have a chat with the teacher.

wazky

Buona Fortuna wrote: »

Call me an old Fecker but I'm kinda stuggling with the stabbing humour

You'll get the point soon enough.

bnt

I did exactly that when I was around 17, in my last year of school. It was just before a class was about to start. This other kid had been bullying other kids, started on me, and so I just walloped him one on the nose. He ran out, blood everywhere. The teacher was right there, saw it all, and didn't say a word. Was it right? Yes, I think so.

Buona Fortuna

Buona Fortuna wrote: »

Call me an old Fecker but I'm kinda stuggling with the stabbing humour

Molester Stallone II wrote: »

Old fecker!

wazky wrote: »

You'll get the point soon enough.

I'm sure that the fault is all mine and that its an hilarious joke especially if you've been stabbed before or someone close to you has.

Molester Stallone II

Buona Fortuna wrote: »

I'm sure that the fault is all mine and that its an hilarious joke especially if you've been stabbed before or someone close to you has.

Sorry, today is all about yellow cards, black cards & red cards, no room for sympathy cards I'm afraid

Fat Christy

Molester Stallone II wrote: »

Sorry, today is all about yellow cards, black cards & red cards, no room for sympathy cards I'm afraid

Buona, we're only messing with each other. I was quoting this video:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wL6aDrzs3Fs

Wazky isn't actually going to shank me or whatever he said.

The Strawman Argument

It doesn't necessarily have to involve violence (but it probably will at least involve the threat of it in school), but, from my own experience, it was very important to stand up for myself. From my extensive list of bullies, the only ones which still bother me and feel like they've had a negative impact on me are the girls, purely because I couldn't figure out a way to stand up for myself (retrospectively, I should've just gone straight for their looks).

Think telling a teacher or whoever can work a bit, but you've really got to own it, a sort of "I'm well aware this is bull**** and I've no problem openly calling you out on it" type thing. Trying to handle it all in the quiet or it all happening in a big emotional outburst ain't gonna get nowhere.



Ultimately, you've got to encourage your kid to stand up for themselves. It's probably a lot easier to get to your child how to stop being a **** for overdoing the whole standing up for themselves thing than it is to get them to regain their self esteem after being treated like crap for months/years for some idiot bully.

Summer wind

My little boy is nine and I've told him if someone hits him to hit them back. If someone hits you and gets away with it you can be guaranteed it will carry on and on.

wazky

Buona Fortuna wrote: »

I'm sure that the fault is all mine and that its an hilarious joke especially if you've been stabbed before or someone close to you has.

Get a grip, we're at the sharp end here.