Anxiety and/or depression discussion.

alaskayoung

greenfrogs wrote: »

Does anyone else feel like burying their head under pillow rather than go out and socialise. I'm so anti social. It's not helping me find new friends funnily enough. I just don't know.

Yessssss. Orientation week for college next week and I'm dreading it to say the least.

Euphoria Intensifies

I literally cannot stop self-sabotaging.

greenfrogs

alaskayoung wrote: »

Yessssss. Orientation week for college next week and I'm dreading it to say the least.

It's so annoying isn't it. If I have to go somewhere I will go. But if there is any chance I can get out of it, I will.

Euphoria Intensifies wrote: »

I literally cannot stop self-sabotaging.

Anything you want to talk about. I feel a bit like that myself recently.

Euphoria Intensifies

I just keep getting in the way of myself and refusing the help that is there. So then people start getting fed up/patience wears out. I need to cop on.

greenfrogs

Euphoria Intensifies wrote: »

I just keep getting in the way of myself and refusing the help that is there. So then people start getting fed up/patience wears out. I need to cop on.

So much easier said than done. I know what is good for me yet I still won't do it. If other people get frustrated then that is their issue. You can only look after yourself.

mg1982

Euphoria Intensifies wrote: »

I just keep getting in the way of myself and refusing the help that is there. So then people start getting fed up/patience wears out. I need to cop on.

I was never good at taking advice. Im ok at giving it but not taking it. Is it the doctors who you think are getting fed up or friends.

Euphoria Intensifies

You're right I guess. I just feel guilty though for not using to help I have available to me. I'm lucky to be in a position/area where I can access such help, but I just keep blowing it off and avoiding.

Mg - mainly non-medical people who are there to help (e.g. therapist, college access office etc). I keep making apps and then not showing up, which I feel really bad about. Especially as I know if I actually went, it'd be really useful.

scrimshanker

Euphoria Intensifies wrote: »

You're right I guess. I just feel guilty though for not using to help I have available to me. I'm lucky to be in a position/area where I can access such help, but I just keep blowing it off and avoiding.

That's okay. It's okay to not be able to avail of it yet. But if you're hanging in there, you're doing okay. You can only go at your pace. Mind yourself x

Wilberto

Hugo Stiglitz wrote: »

Judging by your avatar and sig, I presume you're big into Miss Swift, yeah?!

Sorry I left so suddenly. Had to go to sleep (not that I got much as I was awake since 4 or half past! I was wrecked all day).

To answer your question though, yeah I'm massively into Taylor Swift. I used to keep that to myself because, as a 29 y/o male, I don't exactly fall into her target audience (:pac:) but after her concert in Manchester, and her amazingly inspirational speech, I have no qualms about telling everybody how much I adore her!!

greenfrogs

Wilberto wrote: »

Sorry I left so suddenly. Had to go to sleep (not that I got much as I was awake since 4 or half past! I was wrecked all day).

To answer your question though, yeah I'm massively into Taylor Swift. I used to keep that to myself because, as a 29 y/o male, I don't exactly fall into her target audience (:pac:) but after her concert in Manchester, and her amazingly inspirational speech, I have no qualms about telling everybody how much I adore her!!

There's definitely something about Taylor Swift. I like her music but her whole image and persona is what I find most appealing. She comes across as a genuine, caring person. I think she was badly bullied in school and I think that comes across in her personality, very empathetic

is mise spartacus

alaskayoung wrote: »

What are you on? I'm so happy that you managed to get your course sorted out. Where are you gonna go to college if you don't mind me asking?

Sertraline, and UCC!

Gremlinertia

I'm sorry to hear so many of you are struggling currently - my only contribution to it is to say please don't worry too much about medication, it's a mental plaster for most of us.. Sure enough it won't suit us all but I self medicated with alcohol for many many years and still do at low times or even manic times. It never really goes well.. Short term relief, long term damage.. I would love to wave a giant wand over you all. If only..

greenfrogs

I play a sport with a team but some days I really struggle to go to training. I really don't know what is wrong with me. I am bored out of my tree at home. I had training tonight and have two nights out this weekend. I look forward to them all week but when the times comes my anxiety goes into overdrive. I didn't go to training and I'm not sure if I will go out the next 2 nights. Do you think I should tell one of the trainers that there are health reasons why I miss training regularly. I'm thinking I will make a gp visit next week. I need this sorted. I am depressed sitting at home all day yet too anxious to socialise. Or maybe it's not anxiety.

freudiangirl

Laid out plan with ex. Am being left with nothing, no place to stay to call my own, no financial support all I asked for was help with deposit in regards to ensuring I can put custody arrangements in place.
Life is getting worse and worse. Totally low and just not seeing a point. I have nothing.

mg1982

freudiangirl wrote: »

Laid out plan with ex. Am being left with nothing, no place to stay to call my own, no financial support all I asked for was help with deposit in regards to ensuring I can put custody arrangements in place.
Life is getting worse and worse. Totally low and just not seeing a point. I have nothing.

Im so sorry to hear that fg. Is going back to your parents an option at all. Just so you have a roof over your head.

freudiangirl

mg1982 wrote: »

Im so sorry to hear that fg. Is going back to your parents an option at all. Just so you have a roof over your head.

My mum has threatened to kill my son and won't accept that what she said was wrong so not an option. My dad went to galway with his girlfriend about 3.5 years ago and haven't heard from.him since so even my parents won't help or want me around.

I am living in my nans for now but need some space as I am.sharing a box room and living out of my suitcase.

mg1982

freudiangirl wrote: »

My mum has threatened to kill my son and won't accept that what she said was wrong so not an option. My dad went to galway with his girlfriend about 3.5 years ago and haven't heard from.him since so even my parents won't help or want me around.

I am living in my nans for now but need some space as I am.sharing a box room and living out of my suitcase.

Well make sure your in contact with social services about your situation. Living in a box room is not sustainable long term.

Gremlinertia

Freudiangirl, have you thought about approaching threshold or some group like that?.

timecurve12

Fg, I'm really sorry to hear about your situation, sounds like so much stress at such a difficult time. Just remember things can get better, I think you are doing so well.

freudiangirl

mg1982 wrote: »

Well make sure your in contact with social services about your situation. Living in a box room is not sustainable long term.

Ya see kids are with my ex so doubt Ss or threshold would be open to.helping me.

Cue subjugation life trap

freudiangirl

timecurve12 wrote: »

Fg, I'm really sorry to hear about your situation, sounds like so much stress at such a difficult time. Just remember things can get better, I think you are doing so well.

I'm not really. I am falling apart at seams. I have to self medicate to just cope which I never did before.
Life is crumbling all around me and I have no control.

greenfrogs

You should not be self medicating. You need to discuss this with your doctor asap.

Hugo Stiglitz

Wilberto wrote: »

Sorry I left so suddenly. Had to go to sleep (not that I got much as I was awake since 4 or half past! I was wrecked all day).

To answer your question though, yeah I'm massively into Taylor Swift. I used to keep that to myself because, as a 29 y/o male, I don't exactly fall into her target audience (:pac:) but after her concert in Manchester, and her amazingly inspirational speech, I have no qualms about telling everybody how much I adore her!!

Have no shame in your game, Wilberto!

Hugo Stiglitz

greenfrogs wrote: »

Does anyone else feel like burying their head under pillow rather than go out and socialise. I'm so anti social. It's not helping me find new friends funnily enough. I just don't know.

I do this. I don't really have a no choice anymore though. Have no real friends, no real avenues to make any either.

Am gonna end up a lonely old bachelor.

Gremlinertia

freudiangirl wrote: »

I'm not really. I am falling apart at seams. I have to self medicate to just cope which I never did before.
Life is crumbling all around me and I have no control.

You are still a parent - though self medicating is going to count strongly against you I fear.. I don't have any great knowledge in this area though so all I can say is consult with any and all professionals you can. Docs, citizens advice, anything at all.

timecurve12

freudiangirl wrote: »

I'm not really. I am falling apart at seams. I have to self medicate to just cope which I never did before.
Life is crumbling all around me and I have no control.

You're doing the best you can... chronic stress is pretty devastating on your mental health. You can get through this, just keep continuing to seek help and support.

timecurve12

Euphoria Intensifies wrote: »

You're right I guess. I just feel guilty though for not using to help I have available to me. I'm lucky to be in a position/area where I can access such help, but I just keep blowing it off and avoiding.

Mg - mainly non-medical people who are there to help (e.g. therapist, college access office etc). I keep making apps and then not showing up, which I feel really bad about. Especially as I know if I actually went, it'd be really useful.

Do you feel there's a deeper reason why you're doing this, or is it a lack of motivation/apathy? Don't be too hard on yourself, but also balance self-compassion with honesty.

mg1982

freudiangirl wrote: »

Ya see kids are with my ex so doubt Ss or threshold would be open to.helping me.

Cue subjugation life trap

They still have an obligation to help you in the situation your in. The kids being with your ex doesnt effect that.

greenfrogs

freudiangirl wrote: »

Laid out plan with ex. Am being left with nothing, no place to stay to call my own, no financial support all I asked for was help with deposit in regards to ensuring I can put custody arrangements in place.
Life is getting worse and worse. Totally low and just not seeing a point. I have nothing.

Are you receiving any social welfare payments. Also maybe people didn't help with the deposit as they feel you have a place to stay with family for the moment. Living alone can be lonely.

Gremlinertia

Freudiangirl, social welfare office and then community welfare office seem like your next ports of call I think. As a person coming out of hospital into changing circumstances there should be some help available, the unfortunate thing is it can be a bit of a lottery with who you get in the welfare offices. I know you must be utterly sick of me mentioning groups etc but citizens advice would probably be helpful here.. They most definitely were to me when I lost my home..