What do you think of people who never marry?

seven_eleven · 29-03-2013 2:15am #1

Whats your general opinion of people who never marry, or get into relationships? I mean people well past 25, and all the way up into their 60 beyond who have never had a life partner, or anybody significant in their lives?

Do you think its kind of sad? Do you look down upon them, or see them as slightly weird people?

I'm curious to know, as I dont think I struggle to think of many adults who have no partner.

Celly Smunt · 29-03-2013 2:17am

They're usually the happiest.The men that is.

LordSutch · 29-03-2013 2:21am

Well getting married (or not) is one thing, a life partner is another, then there's successive multiple partners, but being alone
without anybody for life is a whole other story, which works for some and not for others. Each to their own I guess.

Ihatecuddles-old · 29-03-2013 2:21am

My uncle died well into his 60's. He never married, had a great life and died a happy man.

I feel worse for people married decades and one dies. Is it better to have loved and lost?

Ranicand · 29-03-2013 2:21am

seven_eleven wrote: »

Whats your general opinion of people who never marry, or get into relationships? I mean people well past 25, and all the way up into their 60 beyond who have never had a life partner, or anybody significant in their lives?

Do you think its kind of sad? Do you look down upon them, or see them as slightly weird people?

I'm curious to know, as I dont think I struggle to think of many adults who have no partner.

Yes it's called Aspergers and people like me find it impossible to form and maintain relationships.

Yes being born with a condition makes us weird and people have every right to look down on us.

However if I catch anybody looking down on me they had better run fast.

Stupid thread what business is it of yours or anybody else what relationships people do not have?

uch · 29-03-2013 2:22am

They must love each other

Tearwave · 29-03-2013 2:23am

Ranicand wrote: »

Yes it's called Aspergers and people like me find it impossible to form and maintain relationships.

Yes being born with a condition makes us weird and people have every right to look down on us.

However if I catch anybody looking down on me they had better run fast.

Stupid thread what business is it of yours or anybody else what relationships people do not have?

*Grabs popcorn and pepsi*

Lenin Skynard · 29-03-2013 2:25am

Different strokes for different folks.

Maybe unmarried people think you're weird for getting married.

Ranicand · 29-03-2013 2:25am

Tearwave wrote: »

*Grabs popcorn and pepsi*

You can grab what you like.

But if I live my life and obey the laws nobody has a right to look down on me.

Madam_X · 29-03-2013 2:25am

seven_eleven wrote: »

Whats your general opinion of people who never marry, or get into relationships? I mean people well past 25, and all the way up into their 60 beyond who have never had a life partner, or anybody significant in their lives?

Do you think its kind of sad? Do you look down upon them, or see them as slightly weird people?

Tbh, in relation to those who are at the older end of the scale, if I thought it wasn't their choice, I'd feel a bit sorry for them as they might be lonely - and for those who have never been in a relationship, they may feel left out, and it must suck for many not to have experienced it ever (although at least they haven't experienced the break-up misery :pac:).

No way would I look down on them though or view them as weird - it would take a hell of a lot more for me to look down on someone/think they're weird. Someone is very long-term single/celibate - hardly a heinous existence. It's not the sum of the person. Plus, despite the movies, there's no guarantee everyone will meet someone they really want to be with. Some people (probably a minority, but nevertheless) "settle" due to fear of being alone and others aren't able for settling so they stay on their own.

Ihatecuddles wrote: »

Is it better to have loved and lost?

That old chestnut really depends on how things are going in your life relationshipwise. If you're blissfully in love, yes. If you're heartbroken, nope. :pac:

C.K Dexter Haven · 29-03-2013 2:26am

Tearwave wrote: »

*Grabs popcorn and pepsi*

*Grabs popcorn-dumps Pepsi in sink- Grabs beer.*

uch · 29-03-2013 2:26am

Madam_X wrote: »

Tbh, in relation to those who are at the older end of the scale, if I thought it wasn't their choice, I'd feel a bit sorry for them as they might be lonely - and for those who have never been in a relationship, they may feel left out, and it must suck for many not to have experienced it ever (although at least they haven't experienced the break-up misery :pac:).

No way would I look down on them though or view them as weird - it would take a hell of a lot more for me to look down on someone/think they're weird. Someone is very long-term single/celibate - hardly a heinous existence. It's not the sum of the person. Plus, despite the movies, there's no guarantee everyone will meet someone they really want to be with. Some people (probably a minority, but nevertheless) "settle" due to fear of being alone and others aren't able for settling so they stay on their own.

Jaysus you type fast!

Celly Smunt · 29-03-2013 2:27am

uch wrote: »

Jaysus you type fast!

you should see her in bed.

Ranicand · 29-03-2013 2:30am

seven_eleven wrote: »

Do you think its kind of sad? Do you look down upon them, or see them as slightly weird people?

Join up and post your question on that forum I dare you.

http://www.wrongplanet.net/forums.html

kowloon · 29-03-2013 2:31am

I read something, could well have been posted here on Boards, that said married women were more unhappy than single ones. I think it might have been the other way around for men. Anyone remember that? I could have it completely wrong as my memory is defective. Could be this magnetic hat.

The Pheasant · 29-03-2013 2:35am

Ranicand wrote: »

Join up and post your question on that forum I dare you.

http://www.wrongplanet.net/forums.html

Tbh I'm certain OP wasn't making a slight towards people with Asbergers, pretty sure he means in general

Smidge · 29-03-2013 2:35am

Lucky, lucky ba5tards

seven_eleven · 29-03-2013 2:36am

Ranicand wrote: »

Yes it's called Aspergers and people like me find it impossible to form and maintain relationships.

Yes being born with a condition makes us weird and people have every right to look down on us.

However if I catch anybody looking down on me they had better run fast.

Stupid thread what business is it of yours or anybody else what relationships people do not have?

Ranicand wrote: »

Join up and post your question on that forum I dare you.

http://www.wrongplanet.net/forums.html

Other peoples relationships are none of my business. I'm not asking anybody in specific. I'm asking what others think about having no partner for their life, whether it be themselves, myself, or yourself.

I understand you have aspergers and I can sympathise with that but I think you're overreacting and missing the point of thread a bit. I'm sorry if I offended you.
Maybe my post was a bit insensitive but whatever.

Anyway, to carry on.

SV · 29-03-2013 2:37am

Ranicand wrote: »

However if I catch anybody looking down on me they had better run fast.

Alrigh, calm down internet warrior

harney · 29-03-2013 2:37am

Meh, each to their own. If they are happy not in a relationship then good for them.

Ranicand wrote: »

Yes it's called Aspergers and people like me find it impossible to form and maintain relationships.

I though after the whole Gary McKinnon thing ye weren’t allowed on the internet anymore incase ye went alien hunting in the wrong places?

Tearwave wrote: »

*Grabs popcorn and pepsi*

C.K Dexter Haven wrote: »

*Grabs popcorn-dumps Pepsi in sink- Grabs beer.*

Salted or buttered?

Ranicand · 29-03-2013 2:39am

The Pheasant wrote: »

Tbh I'm certain OP wasn't making a slight towards people with Asbergers, pretty sure he means in general

Yes I know but people with Aspergers are more normal then you think.

Lack of relationships and seeming a bit weird and the two main symptoms.

I did not suggest burning the OP at the stake I just trying to fix ignorance.

And regardless people still have no right to look down on people for this kind of reason.

C.K Dexter Haven · 29-03-2013 2:42am

harney wrote: »

Salted or buttered?

Salted please- with M&M's thrown in too.

Btw- can you get out of my view please- ure spoiling my flium.

Tanks.

Ranicand · 29-03-2013 2:45am

seven_eleven wrote: »

I understand you have aspergers and I can sympathise with that but I think you're overreacting and missing the point of thread a bit. I'm sorry if I offended you.
Maybe my post was a bit insensitive but whatever.

Anyway, to carry on.

You did not offend me read the lines not in-between them.

Your post was correct people do look down at people who are not in relationships and who seem a bit socially awkward.

The purpose of my strong post was to get people thinking.

You did not say you judged people you asked a question.

I know many do judge and I got my perspective in right under your post.

Sulla Felix · 29-03-2013 2:47am

Ranicand wrote: »

Yes it's called Aspergers and people like me find it impossible to form and maintain relationships.

Yes being born with a condition makes us weird and people have every right to look down on us.

However if I catch anybody looking down on me they had better run fast.

Stupid thread what business is it of yours or anybody else what relationships people do not have?

I'm calling bullshit.
Asperger's makes it difficult sure. Not impossible.
My aunt works damn hard to make her relationship with my Uncle, who has the syndrome, work.

Madam_X · 29-03-2013 2:50am

Ranicand wrote: »

people have every right to look down on us.

Ranicand wrote: »

people still have no right to look down on people for this kind of reason.

They do or they don't? :pac:

I agree with you though - whatever about what thoughts people have regarding those with Aspergers, expressing those thoughts in such a way as to put down people like yourself is out of line.

Gongoozler · 29-03-2013 2:52am

I wouldnt look down on them, but tbh i might assume there's something wrong with them (a 60 year old). Which if i question at all, doesnt stand because i have relations who have been single their entire lives, and i dont think anything odd of them.

But yeah what it comes down to is whether or not they're happy. Just because you wouldnt like to be them,doesnt mean theres anything wrong

Tearwave · 29-03-2013 2:52am

Ranicand wrote: »

You can grab what you like.

Ah here, on Good Friday and everything ;-[

Ranicand · 29-03-2013 2:54am

Sulla Felix wrote: »

I'm calling bullshit.
Asperger's makes it difficult sure. Not impossible.
My aunt works damn hard to make her relationship with my Uncle, who has the syndrome, work.

Autism is a spectrum with Aspergers being part of it.

It affects people to different degrees.

People with Autism tend to think in logical terms.

You have called bull yet you have done Zero reading to back it up.

Some people with the condition can form relationships and some can't.

There is a saying when you have met one person with Aspergers you have met one person with Aspergers.

Starting and maintaining a relationship is a difficult thing to do for those with Asperger syndrome. It requires good communication, the ability to interact socially and be interested in others. In order to have a relationship it is necessary to be able to understand the emotions and feelings of the other person and handle those feelings well. Most of the time these qualities do not come natural to people with Aspergers since they exhibit typical characteristics that effect their ability to relate to others in a meaningful way.

You can read the rest here. http://www.asperger-advice.com/asperger-syndrome-behavior.html

Ranicand · 29-03-2013 2:57am

Madam_X wrote: »

They do or they don't? :pac:

I agree with you though - whatever about what thoughts people have regarding those with Aspergers, expressing those thoughts in such a way as to put down people like yourself is out of line.

Madam X again?

You don't understand sarcasm?

I said they have the right but they better run fast if I hear them.

123 LC · 29-03-2013 2:58am

i know plenty of people 50+ who never married, and to be honest it seems to be a lifestyle choice for many, I think nothing different of them than anyone else?

Tearwave · 29-03-2013 2:59am

Ranicand wrote: »

There is a saying when you have met one person with Aspergers you have met one person with Aspergers.

What if you meet someone with aspergers AND multiple personality disorder, huh, what then???

What do you think of people who never marry?

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