What do you think of people who never marry?

seven_eleven

Whats your general opinion of people who never marry, or get into relationships? I mean people well past 25, and all the way up into their 60 beyond who have never had a life partner, or anybody significant in their lives?

Do you think its kind of sad? Do you look down upon them, or see them as slightly weird people?

I'm curious to know, as I dont think I struggle to think of many adults who have no partner.

Celly Smunt

They're usually the happiest.The men that is.

LordSutch

Well getting married (or not) is one thing, a life partner is another, then there's successive multiple partners, but being alone
without anybody for life is a whole other story, which works for some and not for others. Each to their own I guess.

Ihatecuddles-old

My uncle died well into his 60's. He never married, had a great life and died a happy man.

I feel worse for people married decades and one dies. Is it better to have loved and lost?

Ranicand

seven_eleven wrote: »

Whats your general opinion of people who never marry, or get into relationships? I mean people well past 25, and all the way up into their 60 beyond who have never had a life partner, or anybody significant in their lives?

Do you think its kind of sad? Do you look down upon them, or see them as slightly weird people?

I'm curious to know, as I dont think I struggle to think of many adults who have no partner.

Yes it's called Aspergers and people like me find it impossible to form and maintain relationships.

Yes being born with a condition makes us weird and people have every right to look down on us.

However if I catch anybody looking down on me they had better run fast.

Stupid thread what business is it of yours or anybody else what relationships people do not have?

uch

They must love each other

Tearwave

Ranicand wrote: »

Yes it's called Aspergers and people like me find it impossible to form and maintain relationships.

Yes being born with a condition makes us weird and people have every right to look down on us.

However if I catch anybody looking down on me they had better run fast.

Stupid thread what business is it of yours or anybody else what relationships people do not have?

*Grabs popcorn and pepsi*

Lenin Skynard

Different strokes for different folks.

Maybe unmarried people think you're weird for getting married.

Ranicand

Tearwave wrote: »

*Grabs popcorn and pepsi*

You can grab what you like.

But if I live my life and obey the laws nobody has a right to look down on me.

Madam_X

seven_eleven wrote: »

Whats your general opinion of people who never marry, or get into relationships? I mean people well past 25, and all the way up into their 60 beyond who have never had a life partner, or anybody significant in their lives?

Do you think its kind of sad? Do you look down upon them, or see them as slightly weird people?

Tbh, in relation to those who are at the older end of the scale, if I thought it wasn't their choice, I'd feel a bit sorry for them as they might be lonely - and for those who have never been in a relationship, they may feel left out, and it must suck for many not to have experienced it ever (although at least they haven't experienced the break-up misery :pac:).

No way would I look down on them though or view them as weird - it would take a hell of a lot more for me to look down on someone/think they're weird. Someone is very long-term single/celibate - hardly a heinous existence. It's not the sum of the person. Plus, despite the movies, there's no guarantee everyone will meet someone they really want to be with. Some people (probably a minority, but nevertheless) "settle" due to fear of being alone and others aren't able for settling so they stay on their own.

Ihatecuddles wrote: »

Is it better to have loved and lost?

That old chestnut really depends on how things are going in your life relationshipwise. If you're blissfully in love, yes. If you're heartbroken, nope. :pac:

C.K Dexter Haven

Tearwave wrote: »

*Grabs popcorn and pepsi*

*Grabs popcorn-dumps Pepsi in sink- Grabs beer.*

uch

Madam_X wrote: »

Tbh, in relation to those who are at the older end of the scale, if I thought it wasn't their choice, I'd feel a bit sorry for them as they might be lonely - and for those who have never been in a relationship, they may feel left out, and it must suck for many not to have experienced it ever (although at least they haven't experienced the break-up misery :pac:).

No way would I look down on them though or view them as weird - it would take a hell of a lot more for me to look down on someone/think they're weird. Someone is very long-term single/celibate - hardly a heinous existence. It's not the sum of the person. Plus, despite the movies, there's no guarantee everyone will meet someone they really want to be with. Some people (probably a minority, but nevertheless) "settle" due to fear of being alone and others aren't able for settling so they stay on their own.

Jaysus you type fast!

Celly Smunt

uch wrote: »

Jaysus you type fast!

you should see her in bed.

Ranicand

seven_eleven wrote: »

Do you think its kind of sad? Do you look down upon them, or see them as slightly weird people?

Join up and post your question on that forum I dare you.

http://www.wrongplanet.net/forums.html

kowloon

I read something, could well have been posted here on Boards, that said married women were more unhappy than single ones. I think it might have been the other way around for men. Anyone remember that? I could have it completely wrong as my memory is defective. Could be this magnetic hat.

The Pheasant

Ranicand wrote: »

Join up and post your question on that forum I dare you.

http://www.wrongplanet.net/forums.html

Tbh I'm certain OP wasn't making a slight towards people with Asbergers, pretty sure he means in general

Smidge

Lucky, lucky ba5tards

seven_eleven

Ranicand wrote: »

Yes it's called Aspergers and people like me find it impossible to form and maintain relationships.

Yes being born with a condition makes us weird and people have every right to look down on us.

However if I catch anybody looking down on me they had better run fast.

Stupid thread what business is it of yours or anybody else what relationships people do not have?

Ranicand wrote: »

Join up and post your question on that forum I dare you.

http://www.wrongplanet.net/forums.html

Other peoples relationships are none of my business. I'm not asking anybody in specific. I'm asking what others think about having no partner for their life, whether it be themselves, myself, or yourself.

I understand you have aspergers and I can sympathise with that but I think you're overreacting and missing the point of thread a bit. I'm sorry if I offended you.
Maybe my post was a bit insensitive but whatever.

Anyway, to carry on.

SV

Ranicand wrote: »

However if I catch anybody looking down on me they had better run fast.

Alrigh, calm down internet warrior

harney

Meh, each to their own. If they are happy not in a relationship then good for them.

Ranicand wrote: »

Yes it's called Aspergers and people like me find it impossible to form and maintain relationships.

I though after the whole Gary McKinnon thing ye weren’t allowed on the internet anymore incase ye went alien hunting in the wrong places?

Tearwave wrote: »

*Grabs popcorn and pepsi*

C.K Dexter Haven wrote: »

*Grabs popcorn-dumps Pepsi in sink- Grabs beer.*

Salted or buttered?

Ranicand

The Pheasant wrote: »

Tbh I'm certain OP wasn't making a slight towards people with Asbergers, pretty sure he means in general

Yes I know but people with Aspergers are more normal then you think.

Lack of relationships and seeming a bit weird and the two main symptoms.

I did not suggest burning the OP at the stake I just trying to fix ignorance.

And regardless people still have no right to look down on people for this kind of reason.

C.K Dexter Haven

harney wrote: »

Salted or buttered?

Salted please- with M&M's thrown in too.

























Btw- can you get out of my view please- ure spoiling my flium.




Tanks.

Ranicand

seven_eleven wrote: »

I understand you have aspergers and I can sympathise with that but I think you're overreacting and missing the point of thread a bit. I'm sorry if I offended you.
Maybe my post was a bit insensitive but whatever.

Anyway, to carry on.

You did not offend me read the lines not in-between them.

Your post was correct people do look down at people who are not in relationships and who seem a bit socially awkward.

The purpose of my strong post was to get people thinking.

You did not say you judged people you asked a question.

I know many do judge and I got my perspective in right under your post.

Sulla Felix

Ranicand wrote: »

Yes it's called Aspergers and people like me find it impossible to form and maintain relationships.

Yes being born with a condition makes us weird and people have every right to look down on us.

However if I catch anybody looking down on me they had better run fast.

Stupid thread what business is it of yours or anybody else what relationships people do not have?

I'm calling bullshit.
Asperger's makes it difficult sure. Not impossible.
My aunt works damn hard to make her relationship with my Uncle, who has the syndrome, work.

Madam_X

Ranicand wrote: »

people have every right to look down on us.

Ranicand wrote: »

people still have no right to look down on people for this kind of reason.

They do or they don't? :pac:

I agree with you though - whatever about what thoughts people have regarding those with Aspergers, expressing those thoughts in such a way as to put down people like yourself is out of line.

Gongoozler

I wouldnt look down on them, but tbh i might assume there's something wrong with them (a 60 year old). Which if i question at all, doesnt stand because i have relations who have been single their entire lives, and i dont think anything odd of them.

But yeah what it comes down to is whether or not they're happy. Just because you wouldnt like to be them,doesnt mean theres anything wrong

Tearwave

Ranicand wrote: »

You can grab what you like.

Ah here, on Good Friday and everything ;-[

Ranicand

Sulla Felix wrote: »

I'm calling bullshit.
Asperger's makes it difficult sure. Not impossible.
My aunt works damn hard to make her relationship with my Uncle, who has the syndrome, work.

Autism is a spectrum with Aspergers being part of it.

It affects people to different degrees.

People with Autism tend to think in logical terms.

You have called bull yet you have done Zero reading to back it up.

Some people with the condition can form relationships and some can't.

There is a saying when you have met one person with Aspergers you have met one person with Aspergers.

Starting and maintaining a relationship is a difficult thing to do for those with Asperger syndrome. It requires good communication, the ability to interact socially and be interested in others. In order to have a relationship it is necessary to be able to understand the emotions and feelings of the other person and handle those feelings well. Most of the time these qualities do not come natural to people with Aspergers since they exhibit typical characteristics that effect their ability to relate to others in a meaningful way.

You can read the rest here. http://www.asperger-advice.com/asperger-syndrome-behavior.html

Ranicand

Madam_X wrote: »

They do or they don't? :pac:

I agree with you though - whatever about what thoughts people have regarding those with Aspergers, expressing those thoughts in such a way as to put down people like yourself is out of line.

Madam X again?

You don't understand sarcasm?

I said they have the right but they better run fast if I hear them.

123 LC

i know plenty of people 50+ who never married, and to be honest it seems to be a lifestyle choice for many, I think nothing different of them than anyone else?

Tearwave

Ranicand wrote: »

There is a saying when you have met one person with Aspergers you have met one person with Aspergers.

What if you meet someone with aspergers AND multiple personality disorder, huh, what then???

melekalikimaka

Ranicand wrote: »

Autism is a spectrum with Aspergers being part of it.

It affects people to different degrees.

People with Autism tend to think in logical terms.

You have called bull yet you have done Zero reading to back it up.

Some people with the condition can form relationships and some can't.

There is a saying when you have met one person with Aspergers you have met one person with Aspergers.



You can read the rest here. http://www.asperger-advice.com/asperger-syndrome-behavior.html

you need to get off this thread, this is AH, it will not end well for you

Ranicand

melekalikimaka wrote: »

you need to get off this thread, this is AH, it will not end well for you

Fine I tend to go on.

But my original point stands looking down on somebody because they are not in a relationship is wrong.

SV

Ranicand wrote: »

Some people with the condition can form relationships and some can't.

There is a saying when you have met one person with Aspergers you have met one person with Aspergers.

Some people without the condition can't form relationships either, or find it very difficult.

Not quite sure what point you're trying to make here.

melekalikimaka

Ranicand wrote: »

Fine I tend to go on.

But my original point stands looking down on somebody because they are not in a relationship is wrong.

looking down on anybody for any reason is wrong mate, dont mean we all dont do it

seven_eleven

Perhaps we should get back to the question at hand?

Chuck Stone

Gongoozler wrote: »

i have relations who have been single their entire lives

I just think that's incredibly sad that someone never experienced all the amazing/wonderful/horrible/mad feelings that come with a relationship. I guess we never miss what we've never come to know though so it makes little difference.

hatrickpatrick

I honestly believe that couples who never get legally married have a better chance at a lasting happy relationship. Security can cause people to get lazy.
Last time I brought up this viewpoint though I also stirred up an absolute hornet's nest of controversy, so I think this time, to quote my favourite Irish YouTube star, I'll "leave it bleedin' ouuuuuuu"

LizT

Mod
The Asperger's debate, interesting though it is, is completely off topic. Can we get back to the original debate here?

The Pheasant

Honestly sometimes I worry that they're lonely, but for the most part if they seem "getalongwithable" I just assume their singleness is a choice rather than something they can't control

kraggy

Big ball of WTF going around my brain after reading the last few pages.

hatrickpatrick

LizT wrote: »

Mod
The Asperger's debate, interesting though it is, is completely off topic. Can we get back to the original debate here?

This is After Hours, as long as we're still roughly in the same universe as the OP we're good to go I think? >_>

Tearwave

Chuck Stone wrote: »

I just think that's incredibly sad that someone never experienced all the amazing/wonderful/horrible/mad feelings that come with a relationship.

Some people never experienced all the amazing/wonderful/horrible/mad feelings that come with taking LSD either -doesn't mean it's right for everyone or warrant your "sadness" for them

ahnowbrowncow

Yo Liz, what's TCH and why can't I access it?

Miss Lockhart

When I was in my teens I thought they were sad and lonely and I wondered what must be wrong with them to end up like that.

Now though I realise that I will most likely be the same and I really don't give a f#ck what people think.

December2012

The only thing I think is that I do not know the whole story and so I shouldn't even think about it.

Super-Rush

ahnowbrowncow wrote: »

Yo Liz, what's TCH and why can't I access it?

PM her and ask her.

Super-Rush

Each to their own really.

There's way to much emphasis in this country on getting married.

Tearwave

ahnowbrowncow wrote: »

Yo Liz, what's TCH and why can't I access it?

"Yo Liz" ? Do you know this person in a formal capacity?

Ruudi_Mentari

I think people who expect people to automatically pair off, like swans are birdbrains

Weathering

I lost track is this an assburgers thread?