Do you cringe when people use the C word?

Stench Blossoms

awec wrote: »

If someone called me a vagina I'd laugh.

It's not sexist. Not even a little bit.

Awec you're an awful fanny !

Honey-ec

Sharrow wrote: »

That's nice but this thread wasn't aimed at you, it is aimed at people for whom it does have a negative impact on and was aimed at seeing if any of those people would have shared their experiences.

Your thread title is "Do you cringe when people use the C word?" People have answered that. You can't now decide that it wasn't aimed at them (us) just because you're not getting the response you wanted.

kylith

It's only taboo and offensive it you allow it to be; it's just a word, and it only has the power you give it. I use "the c-word" myself, I probably use it quite often and, as Honey-ec said I don't make any connection between it and my reproductive system when swearing.

TBH the euphemisms the people use instead of "the c-word", and when they're two repressed to say 'vagina' probably offend me more because of they're wishy-washy beating about the bush. Things like 'her flower' or 'her sex', mound etc... at least with the big C they're saying what they mean.

kylith

Sharrow wrote: »

:rolleyes:



That's bullshít.



If it causes them stress and that stress is something they are exposed to on a daily bases then yes it can be harmful.

Perhaps I'm a heartless wagon, but if people are getting stressed over a particular word, rather than over some campaign of bullying, then they need to get a grip, there are much more important things to get worked up about.

You can't ban people from using a word because you happen not to like it.

Stench Blossoms

Stench Blossoms wrote: »

Awec you're an awful fanny !

I'd go as far as to say he's a vagina.

Lyaiera

kylith wrote: »

TBH the euphemisms the people use instead of "the c-word", and when they're two repressed to say 'vagina' probably offend me more because of they're wishy-washy beating about the bush. Things like 'her flower' or 'her sex', mound etc... at least with the big C they're saying what they mean.

I have no problem admitting that I have read a little bit of erotic fiction in my time, and the use of the phrase 'her sex' is an instant sign that the author is batshit insane. Unlike c*nt that phrase will make me physically angry and my face will do a little grimace. Extend the logic, would the author have to call a mouth, "her eat" or "her talk." It's ridiculous baby language designed to cover up some weird hangups in what is should be liberating fiction. I'll take an erotic fiction author who is willing to say, "her throbbing c*nt ate his pulsating cock like a 3am drunk on a battered sausage." (That's my kind of porn, a vagina with agency and a drunken feed.)

Stench Blossoms

Lyaiera wrote: »

, "her throbbing c*nt ate his pulsating cock like a 3am drunk on a battered sausage."

Mother of god. I started choking with laughter when I read that.

Sir Digby Chicken Caesar

kylith wrote: »

It's only taboo and offensive it you allow it to be; it's just a word, and it only has the power you give it. I use "the c-word" myself, I probably use it quite often and, as Honey-ec said I don't make any connection between it and my reproductive system when swearing.

TBH the euphemisms the people use instead of "the c-word", and when they're two repressed to say 'vagina' probably offend me more because of they're wishy-washy beating about the bush. Things like 'her flower' or 'her sex', mound etc... at least with the big C they're saying what they mean.

her mossy cleft

Lyaiera

Stench Blossoms wrote: »

Mother of god. I started choking with laughter when I read that.

See, dicks are cute and shy. C*nts are inspirational and emotive.

larrymickdick

I actually use it a lot and it makes my boyfriend cringe - though it's kinda funny when you think about it - people use men's privates as curse words but its never as bad as saying c*nt. why is that a woman's privates is a worse thing to be called that something like pr!ck, d!ck, kn0b etc?

why do certain words make some people so uncomfortable? they're only words at the end of the day - suppose the manner/tone in which you say something should have more emphasis than the word itself?

I don't know.... :rolleyes:

krudler

kylith wrote: »

It's only taboo and offensive it you allow it to be; it's just a word, and it only has the power you give it. I use "the c-word" myself, I probably use it quite often and, as Honey-ec said I don't make any connection between it and my reproductive system when swearing.

TBH the euphemisms the people use instead of "the c-word", and when they're two repressed to say 'vagina' probably offend me more because of they're wishy-washy beating about the bush. Things like 'her flower' or 'her sex', mound etc... at least with the big C they're saying what they mean.

*snigger*

Morag

kylith wrote: »

It's only taboo and offensive it you allow it to be; it's just a word, and it only has the power you give it. I use "the c-word" myself, I probably use it quite often and, as Honey-ec said I don't make any connection between it and my reproductive system when swearing.

TBH the euphemisms the people use instead of "the c-word", and when they're two repressed to say 'vagina' probably offend me more because of they're wishy-washy beating about the bush. Things like 'her flower' or 'her sex', mound etc... at least with the big C they're saying what they mean.

I used the "c word" in my posts in this thread for two reasons, the word is on the swear filter and as the thread was aimed at people who do find it unsettling I didn't want to use the word as it could be off putting to them contributing to the thread.

Lyaiera

larrymickdick wrote: »

I actually use it a lot and it makes my boyfriend cringe - though it's kinda funny when you think about it - people use men's privates as curse words but its never as bad as saying c*nt. why is that a woman's privates is a worse thing to be called that something like pr!ck, d!ck, kn0b etc?

That's the thing, I think there's definitely a case to be made that slang for female genitalia is used in a way that is demeaning. Such slang is often seen as more crude and more intimidating. Balancing the thought of women being demure while women wanting to express and using their sexuality is something not right and shouldn't be allowed therefore the slang is the most offensive you can get.

On the contrary to that, seanut is a damn good word. It packs a punch and lands hard. I'm all for the idea that women (and female genitalia) can be the aggressors and instigators as something so lurid as sex. And the desensitizing of society to words that encapsulate that idea is a broadly good thing.

Das Kitty

I love the word. Said in the correct context I find it incredibly erotic actually.

I think it's more damaging that the only taboo swear word is one for the female genetalia. We call people cocks and pricks all the time and no one bats an eyelid (in fact up until recently this site had the written rule of "Don't be a dick.")

I think far too much power is being given to c*nt by people saying it's the only word they cannot stand.

(I'm also noticing that out of all the words I have just typed, it is the only one swear filtered...)

Lyaiera

I have just decided that if I ever own a race horse I'm totally going to call it Seanut. I might even call it T.L.L. Seanut, because that sounds like the name of one badass horse. So badass it has initials.

kylith

Sir Digby Chicken Caesar wrote: »

her mossy cleft

Jaysus, I know my lady gardening isn't always kept up with, but mossy is taking it a bit far...

larrymickdick

kylith wrote: »

Jaysus, I know my lady gardening isn't always kept up with, but mossy is taking it a bit far...

hilarious!!! :D:D

Das Kitty

Das Kitty wrote: »

I love the word. Said in the correct context I find it incredibly erotic actually.

I, for one, think you should give examples of the above. For science, mind.

Stench Blossoms

Deleted User wrote: »

I, for one, think you should give examples of the above. For science, mind.

I, for one, think you are coming across as a bit of a perv

Millicent

I have to say, I love the C-word. Hard, guttural and monosyllabic, I love saying the word. Its sound appeals to me, the same as "cock" does when referring to a penis.

Besides that, I like my own. It does good things, is a part of me and I fail to see the insult in being compared to one -- I see far greater insult in being called a slut (judged on my sexual choices) or called a bitch (which is loaded with judgement on the "correct" way for a woman to behave). I also find words like "gash", "axe-wound" or "pussy" far more distasteful.

I was in my late teenage years before I realised that people found the word incredibly offensive and I was baffled. Why is being compared to a vagina so heinous? It's been used for many years, in Old Norse and Medieval English, and may relate to the Latin word for "vulva".

I think the perceived horror, insult and shocking nature of the word is just another way to inflict shame on women for their genital equipment. "Cunt" is a precise word and an indelicate one and that suits me just fine. I am not a delicate creature, nor is my lady garden, and I'm not offended to be compared to it. In fact, I take it as a compliment. :pac:

Another reaction on it here, which I enjoyed.

meeeeh

If somebody doesn't like swear words, fine. I can understand they could be insulted, they could feel it's inappropriate and people could feel threatened sometimes. It very often depends on the context in which something is said (threateningly, jokingly...). I don't use ****, dick, knob and similar words, not because of their meaning but because I got used using other swear words. I don't even pay much attention to what they actually mean.

For me swear words are just words. It's up to us to give them meaning and judge context in which they were said and I refuse to blush and storm out every time somebody mentions female reproductive organs. But if someone would say, I'm gonna kill you, you ****, then I'd feel differently.

It was a bit of a cultural shock for me when I moved, because I think that in general Irish do swear a bit more than where I come from. And it takes some getting used to. And now I'm getting weird looks when we travel to my home country and I'm talking to my boyfriend because I swear so much more now. But I don't want to start distinguishing between PC and non PC swear words. Either you like swearing or you don't. Either you feel threatened by it or you don't. And of course context is the far most important factor in any situation anyway.

mathepac

krudler wrote: »

Its a fantastic swear word tbh, there's no comeback to it.

Yo' Mommah, dawg!

Ickle Magoo

Deleted User wrote: »

I, for one, think you should give examples of the above. For science, mind.

I appreciate you are meaning it in humour rather than trying to be sleezy but there's a fine line - could you please remember the forum you are in and the ethos it has while posting here, please.

Cheers

krudler

Sharrow wrote: »

So you insult a man by telling him he's nothing but a vagina and tell people to stop being dramatic by saying they are acting like a vagina or someone with one but it's not sexist, rigth suuuuure it's not.

I'd also tell a girl to stop being a dick, its all about context. I've never met anyone who was so offended by four letters in a sentence it caused them dread and stress. Not all women are delicate little flowers who cower into a ball when someone says something they dont agree with, that article smacks of "you're a woman, be offended!".

LittleBook

Das Kitty wrote: »

We call people cocks and pricks all the time and no one bats an eyelid (in fact up until recently this site had the written rule of "Don't be a dick.")

(I'm also noticing that out of all the words I have just typed, it is the only one swear filtered...)

I wouldn't read too much into that ... cock, prick and dick all have a non-"swear word" meaning, whereas f*ck and c*nt are pretty specific swear words.

Millicent wrote: »

I also find words like "gash", "axe-wound" or "pussy" far more distasteful.

My (English) partner had a word/expression for women that I'd never heard before and found very distasteful but which he'd grown up with so it was normalised and casual for him.

krudler wrote: »

its all about context

Exactly. I'd be highly offended if some randomer aggressively called me a c*nt because I'd annoyed them for some reason or other, but hearing the word in a conversation wouldn't bother me in the slightest. And hearing it in the context of sex or porn is actually a positive thing.

Millicent

LittleBook wrote: »

My (English) partner had a word/expression for women that I'd never heard before and found very distasteful but which he'd grown up with so it was normalised and casual for him.

What's the word, out of curiosity?

Bad Panda

Stench Blossoms wrote: »

I, for one, think you are coming across as a bit of a perv

I'd go so far as to call him a bit of a cnut actually.

It's the same as saying 'prick' or whatever. It's a word. This is utterly ridiculous carry on imo. People getting emotionally affected by a word. These people are unstable to being with. It's a WORD.

LittleBook

Millicent wrote: »

What's the word, out of curiosity?

Here you go, please don't judge him.

Millicent

LittleBook wrote: »

Here you go, please don't judge him.

WTF?!?! I'm with you on that one. :eek:

Dolbert

It's a very satisfying swear to use, though for me the situation really needs to call for it, to retain it impact like