Breast Feeding in Restaurant

LeeHoffmann

babies don't slot around your life

no they don´t. You have to change your life and plan it almost entirely around them. That doesn´t make it necessary to breastfeed in public though

dark crystal

Cheeky_gal wrote: »

I never once gave that woman today a filthy look, nor did I pass any comment. I minded my own business. However, I thought it would be interesting on a Saturday night in to have the discussion. Never once did I think it would turn into a "let's all attack the OP thread". You're all entitled to your opinions and I'm entitled to mine.

I find it inappropriate to breast feed in public end of. If a woman wants to do it she can do it and I won't say two words but that's how I feel. I would also like to say I am not a prude as some posters have assumed, pathetic assumption for one to come to.

If you're not a prude, why on earth would you find breastfeeding inappropriate and be shocked by it.

howsyourtusk

LeeHoffmann wrote: »

no they don´t. You have to change your life and plan it almost entirely around them. That doesn´t make it necessary to breastfeed in public though

Doesn't make it necessary but I think what most people on here are saying is that they couldn't care less about it. Why go to all the hassle of planning ahead when there's no need to?

IcedJade

LeeHoffmann wrote: »

no they don´t. You have to change your life and plan it almost entirely around them. That doesn´t make it necessary to breastfeed in public though

What if baby doesn''t follow the plan? maybe she used expressed milk already but baby was still hungry.

Dempsey

LeeHoffmann wrote: »

no they don´t. You have to change your life and plan it almost entirely around them. That doesn´t make it necessary to breastfeed in public though

Admit it, your mother teased you about breastfeeding you as a child and you never got over it.

LeeHoffmann

Did you get offended by the amount of topless women on the beach?

I never said I got offended. I said it makes me uncomfortable. Do topless women on beaches make me uncomfortable? If they´re near me, yes

LETHAL LADY

LeeHoffmann wrote: »

I never said I got offended. I said it makes me uncomfortable. Do topless women on beaches make me uncomfortable? If they´re near me, yes

Why so?

LeeHoffmann

What if baby doesn''t follow the plan? maybe she used expressed milk already but baby was still hungry.

I´m not sure what you´re asking? You couldn´t mean that there is no other choice but to breastfeed in public

howsyourtusk

Why would a topless woman coming near you make you feel weird?? That just makes no sense to me It's definitely a shame thing. Not judging or saying you should be cool with it but feel a bit sorry for you Lee! :P

hondasam

Cheeky_gal wrote: »

I never once gave that woman today a filthy look, nor did I pass any comment. I minded my own business. However, I thought it would be interesting on a Saturday night in to have the discussion. Never once did I think it would turn into a "let's all attack the OP thread". You're all entitled to your opinions and I'm entitled to mine.

I find it inappropriate to breast feed in public end of. If a woman wants to do it she can do it and I won't say two words but that's how I feel. I would also like to say I am not a prude as some posters have assumed, pathetic assumption for one to come to.

As another poster said it's not life or death "I must breast feed my baby now in this restaurant!" - you can plan. Ridiculous to suggest otherwise. People on their high horses here going mad and cursing at others, it's madness.

Please note; I never said it was "disgusting".

Don't take it to heart, if we all agreed on everything it would make life boring. If you look at your op again you can see why people went on the defensive.
I don't think you are a prude or anything like that and I think you have got a hard time on here.
I would be one to plan ahead for my own convenience and comfort.

Dempsey

howsyourtusk wrote: »

Why would a topless woman coming near you make you feel weird?? That just makes no sense to me It's definitely a shame thing. Not judging or saying you should be cool with it but feel a bit sorry for you Lee! :P

A porn star would make him jump off a cliff! :pac:

IcedJade

LeeHoffmann wrote: »

I´m not sure what you´re asking? You couldn´t mean that there is no other choice but to breastfeed in public

Yes sometimes. I don't drive. so no car to "hide" in. I will not feed her in the toilets, have you smelled the changing rooms? So somewhere I can sit, have a drink and feed my baby. Options restaurant or coffee shop.

hondasam

howsyourtusk wrote: »

Doesn't make it necessary but I think what most people on here are saying is that they couldn't care less about it. Why go to all the hassle of planning ahead when there's no need to?

There is always a need for a plan when children are involved. These little people have a mind of their own and constantly amaze us, I mean annoy us really:D

LeeHoffmann

that´s ok hyt. Pity doesn´t bother me (it´s generally useful!). Why would it make me uncomfortable? because it´s a very unfamiliar situation for me. I´d be thinking all sorts of things...is she trying to show off or does she just want a tan? How do I compare? What if I accidentally look...will she be offended? Am I out of place for not being topless? Easier rules if she´s not topless

Cheeky_gal

jluv wrote: »

Breastfeeding= doing what nature intended.
Being a prude=a choice

How am I a prude?

IcedJade

LeeHoffmann wrote: »

that´s ok hyt. Pity doesn´t bother me (it´s generally useful!). Why would it make me uncomfortable? because it´s a very unfamiliar situation for me. I´d be thinking all sorts of things...is she trying to show off or does she just want a tan? How do I compare? What if I accidentally look...will she be offended? Am I out of place for not being topless? Easier rules if she´s not topless

That's alot of internal dialog. Imagine the head space you'd have if you learn to not mind what other people think.

howsyourtusk

LeeHoffmann wrote: »

that´s ok hyt. Pity doesn´t bother me (it´s generally useful!). Why would it make me uncomfortable? because it´s a very unfamiliar situation for me. I´d be thinking all sorts of things...is she trying to show off or does she just want a tan? How do I compare? What if I accidentally look...will she be offended? Am I out of place for not being topless? Easier rules if she´s not topless

I think topless people are generally not offended if you have a gander And the comparison thing, possibly an issue but that's self esteem related so can't see why that's too important. Ah, look, I think we should be all able to walk around in the nip so we're probably not going to agree on it :P

IcedJade

@Cheeky girl What do you think about the legislation then?

Cheeky_gal

dark crystal wrote: »

If you're not a prude, why on earth would you find breastfeeding inappropriate and be shocked by it.

As someone said your body is private. It is not socially acceptable to walk around in the nip is it? Fair enough she didn't exactly whip off her top but she was breast feeding and I wasn't comfortable, end of.

IcedJade

Cheeky_gal wrote: »

As someone said your body is private. It is not socially acceptable to walk around in the nip is it? Fair enough she didn't exactly whip off her top but she was breast feeding and I wasn't comfortable, end of.

You said you want a debate but haven't answered any of my questions.

why weren't you comfortable?

LeeHoffmann

That's alot of internal dialog. Imagine the head space you'd have if you learn to not mind what other people think.

God I know. Life would be so much easier (and quieter)

jluv

LeeHoffmann wrote: »

I´m not sure what you´re asking? You couldn´t mean that there is no other choice but to breastfeed in public

Breastfeeding in public is not something that should be considered a "choice" It is something that should naturally happen.It is what breasts were designed for;)

Mr. Presentable

Cheeky_gal wrote: »

As someone said your body is private. It is not socially acceptable to walk around in the nip is it? Fair enough she didn't exactly whip off her top but she was breast feeding and I wasn't comfortable, end of.

And you are the one with the problem. I suggest counselling

Cheeky_gal

hondasam wrote: »

Don't take it to heart, if we all agreed on everything it would make life boring. If you look at your op again you can see why people went on the defensive.
I don't think you are a prude or anything like that and I think you have got a hard time on here.
I would be one to plan ahead for my own convenience and comfort.

Thanks Hondasam, I am not taking it to heart but I am genuinely shocked at the manner in which people are posting.

Dudess in particular, shame on you, you're probably in or around 20/30 years older than me and you're telling me to "grow the FUK up" - foul language, ladies don't speak like that.

All I was wanting was a conversation. I'm not angry by people's opinions, they seem to be angry with mine! ha

WesternNight

Cheeky_gal wrote: »

As someone said your body is private. It is not socially acceptable to walk around in the nip is it? Fair enough she didn't exactly whip off her top but she was breast feeding and I wasn't comfortable, end of.

Have you tried to understand where your discomfort comes from? Might be worth giving consideration to, if only to save yourself having your lunch ruined if it happens again.

howsyourtusk

jluv wrote: »

Breastfeeding in public is not something that should be considered a "choice" It is something that should naturally happen.It is what breasts were designed for;)

Exactly! Breasts primarily function to feed children. It's just coincidental they arouse many men and some women. It's bonkers how a few thousand years of brainwashing can erode a million years of evolution isn't it?

poppyvally

Cheeky_gal wrote: »

Was out for lunch in a very busy restaurant today and a woman at the table next to us started breast feeding. Couldn't believe it. I thought it was so ignorant. I looked around at people's reactions and everyone seemed shocked. Obviously it's not something people haven't seen before, but in a restaurant while people are eating?

There's a time and a place.

I wonder if the majority of people feel this way. Going by people's facial expressions in the restaurant they weren't too impressed.

They werent shocked..they were just newfangled. a lot more of this & nobody'd take a blind bit of notice

IcedJade

angry. probably because in this day and age people should know better.

jluv

Cheeky_gal wrote: »

How am I a prude?

Because you think there is something wrong with breastfeeding in public. It makes you feel uncomfortable.I can only assume it's because a woman had her breast out in a public place.Apologies if thats not the case..

krudler

Cheeky_gal wrote: »

Thanks Hondasam, I am not taking it to heart but I am genuinely shocked at the manner in which people are posting.

Dudess in particular, shame on you, you're probably in or around 20/30 years older than me and you're telling me to "grow the FUK up" - foul language, ladies don't speak like that.

All I was wanting was a conversation. I'm not angry by people's opinions, they seem to be angry with mine! ha

ohhhhh no you did-ent!