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The Online Dating Thread Part II **Mod Warning** Read First Post/or Post 7389

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    #812
    awec
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    #813
    stargazer 68
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    awec wrote: »
    He must think you came up the liffy in a bubble.

    Even if your ex was nuts you'd hardly spur them on by telling them you love them.

    Thats what I thought - so Im not being unreasonable then? :confused:


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    awec
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    #815
    wobblyknees
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    Dovies wrote: »
    Thats what I thought - so Im not being unreasonable then? :confused:

    You've got to do what you feel is right. Text messages can be misleading but you went with your gut and that's probably the right thing to do.


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    #816
    stargazer 68
    Registered Users Posts: 5,092 ✭✭✭stargazer 68


    awec wrote: »
    IMO if he loved her hed be with her. :pac:
    wobblyknees wrote: »
    You've got to do what you feel is right. Text messages can be misleading but you went with your gut and that's probably the right thing to do.

    Ah lads now you are making me think I have over reacted!! :confused:


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    #817
    Pembily
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    NO YOU DIDN'T! GO WITH YOU GUT!?


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    #818
    hollypink
    Registered Users Posts: 1,508 ✭✭✭hollypink


    awec wrote: »
    IMO if he loved her hed be with her. :pac:

    Well maybe he is in fact with her. He wouldn't be the first person in a relationship to use an online dating site :mad: Dovies, I don't think you overreacted at all. Whatever way you look at it, his explanation for that text is full of holes.


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    #819
    wobblyknees
    Registered Users Posts: 1,435 ✭✭✭wobblyknees


    Dovies wrote: »
    Ah lads now you are making me think I have over reacted!! :confused:

    Not all. You would know best to be honest. If it wasn't that serious then it shouldn't be a big deal and your gut instinct was right...


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    #820
    stargazer 68
    Registered Users Posts: 5,092 ✭✭✭stargazer 68


    hollypink wrote: »
    Well maybe he is in fact with her. He wouldn't be the first person in a relationship to use an online dating site :mad: Dovies, I don't think you overreacted at all. Whatever way you look at it, his explanation for that text is full of holes.

    Thats what I thought. Ah well back to the drawing board! :rolleyes:


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    #821
    mood
    Registered Users Posts: 4,264 ✭✭✭mood


    JennyBurke101 wrote: »
    I think girls just want the compliments ...I am not actually joking .... Its like look "Look, this funny, smart guy sent me a message, this has stroked my ego, I feel good about myself now, I wont reply, but when I feel down I will come back and look at that message"...and that is the female mind....

    No. I'm female and I certainly don't think like that. I don't reply if I'm not interested or if I feel we would not be compatible. From experience sending a polite reply to say thanks but no thanks just leads to abuse or begging!


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    #822
    mood
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    wobblyknees wrote: »
    Oh no. Was it really that bad? I must be really old fashioned because I wouldn't dream of juggling a couple of dates, in fact even though I've only arranged a second date for this weekend, I've already switched off from the websites. I just think its best to focus on one person at a time and give things a chance. Does this seem weird to anyone else?

    No. That's the right way to do it.


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    #823
    Daisies
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators Posts: 4,644 Mod ✭✭✭✭Daisies


    wobblyknees wrote: »
    Oh no. Was it really that bad? I must be really old fashioned because I wouldn't dream of juggling a couple of dates, in fact even though I've only arranged a second date for this weekend, I've already switched off from the websites. I just think its best to focus on one person at a time and give things a chance. Does this seem weird to anyone else?

    Not at all. I think focusing on one person at a time is good.
    Dovies wrote: »
    Ah lads now you are making me think I have over reacted!! :confused:

    Dear God NO. You did not over-react at all. I'd do the exact same in your shoes


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    #824
    Dravokivich
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Music Moderators, Politics Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 22,360 CMod ✭✭✭✭Dravokivich


    Checked out Connecting Singles seeing as it was being mentioned last night. Bloody heck that site is a sight for sore eyes. The layout of it is terrible.


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    #825
    AnnyHallsal
    Registered Users Posts: 4,117 ✭✭✭AnnyHallsal


    Dovies, I think that could be the worst yet :eek:

    Talk about an unfortunate message to misdirect :eek:

    But good for you though, he's clearly up to his eyeballs in baggage as it is.


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    #826
    That_Guy
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    A lady that plays drums on POF. I are intrigued.


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    #827
    Galvasean
    Registered Users Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    Dovies wrote: »
    Juggling a couple of dates I can cope with - do it myself. HOWEVER, he sent me a text last night addressed to someone else telling her he loved her!! :eek:
    No it wasn't his sister, mother etc. He tried to tell me it was his ex and he had to say that as she is insane and keeps texting him!! Eh I didnt fall off the banana boat yesterday! Even if he is telling the truth that kind of baggage I can do without! SO THERE! :P

    Pfft, my ex texted me yesterday. I didn't text her back I CERTAINLY didn't tell her that I loved her!
    Dovies wrote: »
    Ah lads now you are making me think I have over reacted!! :confused:

    While I don't like using my 'gut instinct' to make decisions (guts are for making poo, not thinking), you made the right call. If he's lying he's a liar and that's no good. If he's telling the truth he's got that 'emotional baggage' which is never fun either. So either way you did right to kick him into touch.


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    #828
    Galvasean
    Registered Users Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    That_Guy wrote: »
    A lady that plays drums on POF. I are intrigued.

    I used to know two girls from school that played drums. They were both fit and quite sound. Ergo, this one must be fit and quite sound too. Go for it.


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    #829
    That_Guy
    Registered Users Posts: 51,342 ✭✭✭✭That_Guy


    Galvasean wrote: »
    I used to know two girls from school that played drums. They were both fit and quite sound. Ergo, this one must be fit and quite sound too. Go for it.

    I sent her a message with the title, "Fancy a bang...."

    And the body started with:

    ... of my drums. I see you're a drummer too. etc etc etc

    EDIT: She's probably too afraid to open the message. :pac:


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    #830
    AnnyHallsal
    Registered Users Posts: 4,117 ✭✭✭AnnyHallsal


    That_Guy wrote: »
    I sent her a message with the title, "Fancy a bang...."

    And the body started with:

    ... of my drums. I see you're a drummer too. etc etc etc

    EDIT: She's probably too afraid to open the message. :pac:

    This is a distinct danger, I'm afraid :D


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    #831
    That_Guy
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    AnnyHallsal wrote: »
    This is a distinct danger, I'm afraid :D

    Should really stop being so suggestive. My tagline is "Just sticking my rod out there" :pac:


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    #832
    AnnyHallsal
    Registered Users Posts: 4,117 ✭✭✭AnnyHallsal


    I hope the "...." saves it for you. Pervs don't do ellipses. Well the illiterate ones anyway :pac:


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    #833
    That_Guy
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    No reply...

    Was half thinking about sending her another message saying,

    "By the way, I promise you that the last message I sent doesn't contain a picture of my cawk"

    No wonder I'm having no such luck with this dating lark.

    Back to the drawing board


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    #834
    KamiKazeKitten
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,399 ✭✭✭KamiKazeKitten


    That_Guy wrote: »
    No reply...

    Was half thinking about sending her another message saying,

    "By the way, I promise you that the last message I sent doesn't contain a picture of my cawk"

    No wonder I'm having no such luck with this dating lark.

    Back to the drawing board

    Give it some time before you start getting so worried :)


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    #835
    That_Guy
    Registered Users Posts: 51,342 ✭✭✭✭That_Guy


    KamiKazeKitten wrote: »
    Give it some time before you start getting so worried :)

    I'm not getting worried about the lack of reply. I'm worried that I'll get a reputation for being a sex pest. :pac:


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    #836
    Sanjuro
    Registered Users Posts: 4,236 ✭✭✭Sanjuro


    That_Guy wrote: »
    I'm not getting worried about the lack of reply. I'm worried that I'll get a reputation for being a sex pest. :pac:

    There's gotta be a site that caters specifically for people like you.



    And if you know it, can I have the name?


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    #837
    That_Guy
    Registered Users Posts: 51,342 ✭✭✭✭That_Guy


    Sanjuro wrote: »
    There's gotta be a site that caters specifically for people like you.



    And if you know it, can I have the name?

    redtube.com I believe. :pac:


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    #838
    AnnyHallsal
    Registered Users Posts: 4,117 ✭✭✭AnnyHallsal


    That_Guy wrote: »
    I'm not getting worried about the lack of reply. I'm worried that I'll get a reputation for being a sex pest. :pac:

    Too late. But in the harmless Carry On tradition kind of way, I'm sure :D


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    #839
    BornIn84
    Registered Users Posts: 483 ✭✭BornIn84


    got a date from POF tonight. In 3 hours actually. just as i was shutting down my profile a couple of weeks ago i met one nice girl. dropped her my number as in "im leaving this site but sure give me a shout" and i deactivated it. Didnt have much faith in the site. she text me any way and we're going out tonight. for some reason im mad nervous. been on dates before, maybe its the fact i havent met her in person. anyway..hope it goes well!


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    #840
    Balobas87
    Closed Accounts Posts: 21 ✭Balobas87


    BornIn84 wrote: »
    got a date from POF tonight. In 3 hours actually. just as i was shutting down my profile a couple of weeks ago i met one nice girl. dropped her my number as in "im leaving this site but sure give me a shout" and i deactivated it. Didnt have much faith in the site. she text me any way and we're going out tonight. for some reason im mad nervous. been on dates before, maybe its the fact i havent met her in person. anyway..hope it goes well!

    great best of luck with it!!

    This actually happened to me in reverse months ago, I had enough of POF after a week and decided to shut down my account, got chatting to a guy that evening and he gave me his number but I deleted my account and totally forgot to take it down. duh. think i will go back on POF again. I want a date!! (just one! without sounding toooo desperate :D!!)


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    #841
    KamiKazeKitten
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,399 ✭✭✭KamiKazeKitten


    BornIn84 wrote: »
    got a date from POF tonight. In 3 hours actually. just as i was shutting down my profile a couple of weeks ago i met one nice girl. dropped her my number as in "im leaving this site but sure give me a shout" and i deactivated it. Didnt have much faith in the site. she text me any way and we're going out tonight. for some reason im mad nervous. been on dates before, maybe its the fact i havent met her in person. anyway..hope it goes well!

    Aww, good luck! Be sure to come back and tell us everything now, y'hear? :D


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