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The Online Dating Thread Part II **Mod Warning** Read First Post/or Post 7389

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    #872
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    The problem with dating sites, I find, is that if you've been chatting for a while, you tend to build up this image in your head of how they are, their online-persona, if you will. Sometimes, when you meet them, their online personas don't match how they actually appear to be in real life. It's why I sometimes might ask to meet after a few messages. Unfortunately some women don't think the same.

    It's amusing how many profiles I've seen with women where they're standing in rather uncomfortable positions, just to show off their cleavage.


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    #873
    stupidusername
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    yeah you're right, it's better to meet up not too far down the road, so you know if you click or not.


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    #874
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    stupidusername wrote: »
    yeah you're right, it's better to meet up not too far down the road, so you know if you click or not.

    Yet I've often had women who have thought it was too eager. Only maybe a handful of times has someone agreed to.


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    #875
    stupidusername
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    Deleted User wrote: »
    Yet I've often had women who have thought it was too eager. Only maybe a handful of times has someone agreed to.

    well it has to be at the right time though, not like straight away either.


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    #876
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    stupidusername wrote: »
    well it has to be at the right time though, not like straight away either.

    Ah therein lies the problem. When is it the right time? For me, it might be after, say, 5 messages or so. Yet some would find that too eager.


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    #877
    JennyBurke101
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    Deleted User wrote: »
    Ah therein lies the problem. When is it the right time? For me, it might be after, say, 5 messages or so. Yet some would find that too eager.

    would they be 5 long messages containing a lot of detail or like...

    You: Hey
    Her: Hey
    You: Whats up?
    Her: Not much, you?
    You: Not much either...wanna meet up sometime?


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    #878
    stupidusername
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    yeah see it's all about what's been talked about, how often you talk...what feels right.


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    #879
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    JennyBurke101 wrote: »
    would they be 5 long messages containing a lot of detail or like...

    You: Hey
    Her: Hey
    You: Whats up?
    Her: Not much, you?
    You: Not much either...wanna meet up sometime?

    Generally if the mails were going to be as short as that, then I would probably just not bother continuing with whoever they are. It's OK for maybe an IM function, but not mails. That probably sounds pretty condescending, but if they're not going to make the effort, then neither am I.

    However, if we were actually having proper conversations and I was intrigued by them, then yes, I might ask after 5 mails.


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    #880
    Dravokivich
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    Would have say i'd be kinda in the same idea as boneyarsebogman there Jenny. They really wouldn't be comments worth going back and forward via a messaging.

    Even then a girl IM'd me like that the other day as well and i felt like i was just interviewing her. There was absolutely nothing in her profile at all, so didn't have much to chat generally about.


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    #881
    Pembily
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    OKC sent me a notification that a boardsie was near my current location :pac:


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    #882
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    Pembily wrote: »
    OKC sent me a notification that a boardsie was near my current location :pac:

    Creepy.

    Who is it??


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    #883
    Pembily
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    boneyarsebogman wrote: »
    Pembily wrote: »
    OKC sent me a notification that a boardsie was near my current location :pac:

    Creepy.

    Who is it??
    A boy :p it was kinda weirdly funny :)


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    #884
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    Pembily wrote: »
    A boy :p it was kinda weirdly funny :)

    "X is outside your door. Let him in, it's cold out there! Make him some tea"?


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    #885
    Pembily
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    boneyarsebogman wrote: »
    Pembily wrote: »
    A boy :p it was kinda weirdly funny :)

    "X is outside your door. Let him in, it's cold out there! Make him some tea"?
    Nope it says "x is nearby right now - wanna meet him"


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    #886
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    Pembily wrote: »
    Nope it says "x is nearby right now - wanna meet him"

    I'm not sure which sounds creepier ...

    Bahahaha - if you Google "OKCupid Login", the first result comes up as the URL www.okcupid.com\stalker.


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    #887
    Owen
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    I think there's a huge danger in some girls just wanting Penpals. The last time my account was active, I was chatting 2 girls I liked, but it just seemed like a never ending string of mails back and forwards. I know it's good to get to know someone and all, but after 30 mails or so it gets a bit much!


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    #888
    KTRIC
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    Owen wrote: »
    I think there's a huge danger in some girls just wanting Penpals. The last time my account was active, I was chatting 2 girls I liked, but it just seemed like a never ending string of mails back and forwards. I know it's good to get to know someone and all, but after 30 mails or so it gets a bit much!


    The same could be said for asking for "new friends" when clearly they're looking for more.


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    #889
    missbelle
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    c - 13 wrote: »
    Just found a profile pic on POF of a girl sitting on a toilet with her knickers around her knees. Jeeeesus ...

    Damn need to change my profiler.... :D


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    #890
    booboo88
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    c - 13 wrote: »
    Just found a profile pic on POF of a girl sitting on a toilet with her knickers around her knees. Jeeeesus ...
    your think thats bad, a guy had his profile pic as his crotch.


    and then beneath he had, im living with girlfriend but not getting sex, I just wanna try wit a guy aswell.....wtf :O
    creep


    for clarification, I mean creep that he's in a relationship,not that he wants to ride a guy


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    #891
    uglyjohn
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    ok...i'm back! i didnt think i'd find myself online again but after a few online dates over christmas ( lovely girl but no spark) and a few real world dates (awesome girl who just sorta went cold suddenly despite plenty of spark :( ).....anyway i had forgotten about this when i got a late reply from someone i messages a few weeks back so i logged on to reply and then started browsing and here i am again for better or for worse!

    i'll spend a few days catching up on the thread and then join in.


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    #892
    andreac
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    Do people usually stay local when looking for their matches or would they consider someone who was much further away? ie Meath vs Cork?


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    #893
    Owen
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    I'd generally stay local anyway.


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    #894
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    I would usually stay local, but if the girl's photo/profile intrigued me enough, then I'd consider making contact.


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    #895
    c - 13
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    booboo88 wrote: »
    your think thats bad, a guy had his profile pic as his crotch.


    and then beneath he had, im living with girlfriend but not getting sex, I just wanna try wit a guy aswell.....wtf :O
    creep


    for clarification, I mean creep that he's in a relationship,not that he wants to ride a guy

    Classy - hope you mailed him after all that - what a catch :D


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    #896
    finipops
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    Yeah i always search for local.


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    #897
    LegacyUser
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    Why dont boards do a sort of online dating forum thingy - seems there are plently of singletons on here. A sort of meet up place (rather than just talking about online dating experiences).

    I met a guy off t'internet a few times, who I thought is/was the bees knees, and plently of interest from him, and then he told me there was no spark. We had an awkward (but still nice) kiss after a date. Plently of sparkage on my part, but I was OTT nervous, and was talking drivel, and didnt read his rather subtle come on "signals" very well. I thought he only wanted to be friends, hence I was a bit surprised, but I do like him and now he is gone cold. Burrrrrrrrr.


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    #898
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    funny_POF_giant.jpg

    OK, maybe I'm slightly easily amused, but once again, these two photos on top of each other make it look like one giant lady.


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    #899
    Flaker
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    c - 13 wrote: »
    Just found a profile pic on POF of a girl sitting on a toilet with her knickers around her knees. Jeeeesus ...

    Saw the same with a guy - like wtf? Eeeuuuggghhh!


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    #900
    Deveras
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    Hey there,

    I'm desperately trying to find some Irish penpals of ~20 years of age since I'm interested in the Irish culture. Furthermore, I'm determined to do my study related internship at a company in Ireland. Therefore, I appreciate any advice for nice webpages which help me to get in contact to many people of different cities. :) I'm not really interested in flirting, therefore it doesn't matter whether I'm talking to men or women.

    PS: It seems that Facebook is not the best platform to do so (I cannot even count the number of people I already wrote to :D).

    Many thanks in advance!


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    #901
    newbee22
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    Flaker wrote: »
    Saw the same with a guy - like wtf? Eeeuuuggghhh!

    What kind of people are out there?! I think I may have seen the same one, but the one I saw is a guy with thumbs up and a guy passed out on a toilet behind him? So so strange!


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