The Online Dating Thread Part II **Mod Warning** Read First Post/or Post 7389

G-Money

Busy Lizzie wrote: »

Hey Everyone,

So the "Larianne method" doesn't seem to be working so well for me on POF. Online a month and NOTHING! Maybe my profile needs more work, but I've lots of info and a few pics, and I always send detailed messages. I've been mailing guys but they all trail off. Haven't gotten into a proper conversation with anyone really.
So I'm considering going public with my profile, but there's a few on there I do not want contacting me. (I know them) Can you block someone before they contact you...like a pre-emptive stike?!

My pet peeve with girls profiles are usually the following things:

Pictures of them plastered drunk wearing outfits that are far too small for them.

Profiles that say some variation of the following:

"I like socialising, going out to dinner, the gym and spending time with my friends. I like a good night out but also like a night in with a DVD and a glass of vino". It reads like a fecking CV for a job!

A lot girls on dating sites have stuff like that on their profile and sometimes that's all they have and to be blunt, it's pretty boring. The profiles that I always like are the ones where you can really see the girls personality and she perhaps starts talking about nutty things and the like.

So to summarise, less/no CV style and more personality

Busy Lizzie

Larianne wrote: »

The Larianne method, Ha! That way does take more effort, and its not 100% successful.

I don't think you can block them before they message you but you can then block them after the first message.

Have you had any of the lads on here have a look at your profile? THey're usually good offering their advice.

Actually I haven't! Maybe I should...

I'm pretty fed-up of internet dating. There seems to be so few girls who really grab my interest and the rest seem fine, but don't really make me want to desperately get in contact, but as a guy you have to cast a very wide net in order to get any replies.

I guess what bothers me is that the alternative is meeting girls in real life and that has been a much worse success rate (it never happens) which doesn't fill me with confidence either

G-Money - I feel the exact same! That's what keeps me sane, knowing that people out there are feeling the same way. Else you'd take it too personally and get depressed over it. I'm trying to look at it like, trying something new, and if I get a date or two out of it, at least I'll have something fun going on, and who knows what might happen!

awec

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Busy Lizzie

G-Money wrote: »

So to summarise, less/no CV style and more personality

Uh oh! I cant remember exactly what I have but it is a bit like.... "I like this and that"! Maybe I have some work to do after all. It's hard though getting your personality across when you're just putting the info out there and it's not in a response to a question or anything. I think that's why so many people dont fill it in, because they dont know what to say.

stripysocks85

G-Money wrote: »

My pet peeve with girls profiles are usually the following things:

Pictures of them plastered drunk wearing outfits that are far too small for them.

Profiles that say some variation of the following:

"I like socialising, going out to dinner, the gym and spending time with my friends. I like a good night out but also like a night in with a DVD and a glass of vino". It reads like a fecking CV for a job!

A lot girls on dating sites have stuff like that on their profile and sometimes that's all they have and to be blunt, it's pretty boring. The profiles that I always like are the ones where you can really see the girls personality and she perhaps starts talking about nutty things and the like.

So to summarise, less/no CV style and more personality

That's fair enough, BUT at the same time the 'nutty things' could be what turns someone else OFF and they might think 'oh well she said nothing about her likes/interests there!' so it's a lose-lose scenario!

When I had a profile, I used to write completely random things about myself, like, I don't like yogurts but I like petit filous, I've never eaten lobster, I talk Irish to Polish people when I'm drunk, that kinda thing. But some men could read that and think 'Jesus Christ this woman is insane!' ...............:rolleyes:

Honey-ec

My profile is four lines long. Short, sweet, and (imho!) funny.

Larianne

I find a guy is more likely to message you if you have a pretty photo up. A lot don't even read your profile.

stripysocks85

Larianne wrote: »

I find a guy is more likely to message you if you have a pretty photo up. A lot don't even read your profile.

I had 3/4 up. I find 1 photo doesn't give a proper account of what someone looks like, and could be very deceiving, leading to possible disappointment when meeting. So I used have 3/4 different kinds of photos up so they can form a better opinion. To be honest, guys that actually wrote things on their profile or commented on things that I had written on mine, when sending a message, would fair far better in my books.

I'm not looking just for a pretty face!

awec

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G-Money

Perhaps nutty was the wrong word to use.

What I mean is I kind of like profiles where the girl is a bit random and perhaps can go off on a tangent about something and is funny. They really grab my interest, but perhaps that's just me.

There's nothing wrong with adding your interests to a profile, I'd encourage it. But kind of putting just basic statements saying "I like X and Y" and not even elaborating a bit or anything, can come across a bit dry.

I guess an example would be if a girl said she liked running, and perhaps has competed in some races and/or was planning to or even hates the idea of it. She could elaborate on that rather than just saying "I like running" full stop and that's it.

Honey-ec

Larianne wrote: »

I find a guy is more likely to message you if you have a pretty photo up. A lot don't even read your profile.

Well obviously. It's internet dating, your picture is the first thing people have to form an impression on. Then they read your profile and then (hopefully!) they message you.

Personally I wouldn't be bothered trawling through all the profiles of men with no pic up in the hope that one of them might have such an epic profile that I'll feel compelled to message him.

G-Money

stripysocks85 wrote: »

That's fair enough, BUT at the same time the 'nutty things' could be what turns someone else OFF and they might think 'oh well she said nothing about her likes/interests there!' so it's a lose-lose scenario!

When I had a profile, I used to write completely random things about myself, like, I don't like yogurts but I like petit filous, I've never eaten lobster, I talk Irish to Polish people when I'm drunk, that kinda thing. But some men could read that and think 'Jesus Christ this woman is insane!' ...............:rolleyes:

Those are exactly the type of profiles I usually go for haha :pac:

stripysocks85

G-Money wrote: »

Those are exactly the type of profiles I usually go for haha :pac:

Me too. If I gauge a good sense of humour from a profile, I'm so there

I fared okay from it in the long run haha.

Busy Lizzie

awec wrote: »

Lizzie if ye want your profile looked feel free to send it on if you want, I can take a look later if I get a minute.

Thanks awec, I might take you up on that, but I'll have to send it on later this evening if that's ok.

awec

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Busy Lizzie

Honey-ec wrote: »

Well obviously. It's internet dating, your picture is the first thing people have to form an impression on. Then they read your profile and then (hopefully!) they message you.

Personally I wouldn't be bothered trawling through all the profiles of men with no pic up in the hope that one of them might have such an epic profile that I'll feel compelled to message him.

Hmmm Im already at the stage where Im relying on emailing guys with profiles with no pics up. :cool: When I search now I've nearly seen all the guys with pics up! Sounds like I'm on the site all the time, Im not!

Larianne

Honey-ec wrote: »

Well obviously. It's internet dating, your picture is the first thing people have to form an impression on. Then they read your profile and then (hopefully!) they message you.

Personally I wouldn't be bothered trawling through all the profiles of men with no pic up in the hope that one of them might have such an epic profile that I'll feel compelled to message him.

I meant a lot don't even bother reading your profile before messaging. Hence why I took mine down/hid profile and message guys myself.

davycc

Southern Hero wrote: »

Just deleting my pof account now. /

Why? Its the only site Im actually on:)

Dolly Daydreams

Larianne wrote: »

I meant a lot don't even bother reading your profile before messaging. Hence why I took mine down/hid profile and message guys myself.

You're so right there.. I was talking to a guy for a few days and said I had a daughter. He said really? Err yeah it's on my profile.. Oh right I didn't look at what you said just your pics.. NEXT!:pac:

stripysocks85

Dolly Daydreams wrote: »

You're so right there.. I was talking to a guy for a few days and said I had a daughter. He said really? Err yeah it's on my profile.. Oh right I didn't look at what you said just your pics.. NEXT!:pac:

Proof HE [and anyone else!] should actually read profiles correctly.

Someone with a kid isn't a leper !

Edit: My mistake. Turns out I need to read properly! Sorry! [Thanks chaterpillar!]

The Big Red Button

stripysocks85 wrote: »

Well maybe actually read the profile next time.

Someone with a kid isn't a leper ya know.

Err ... I'd say she knows that ... seeing as she has a daughter, and all?

Dolly Daydreams

stripysocks85 wrote: »

Proof HE [and anyone else!] should actually read profiles correctly.

Someone with a kid isn't a leper !

Edit: My mistake. Turns out I need to read properly! Sorry! [Thanks chaterpillar!]

Ha ha no worries, I worded it a bit ar*e ways. I was wondering what you was on about

Larianne

Got my first willy!! :pac: Oh my!

mc_grens

stripysocks85 wrote: »

That's fair enough, BUT at the same time the 'nutty things' could be what turns someone else OFF and they might think 'oh well she said nothing about her likes/interests there!' so it's a lose-lose scenario!

When I had a profile, I used to write completely random things about myself, like, I don't like yogurts but I like petit filous, I've never eaten lobster, I talk Irish to Polish people when I'm drunk, that kinda thing. But some men could read that and think 'Jesus Christ this woman is insane!' ...............:rolleyes:

Maybe, but if those things are really an insight to your nuttiness and he doesn't like them, then he's probably the wrong guy for you anyway. If, however he thinks you sound just the right kind of nutty for him- all the better!

mc_grens

Larianne wrote: »

I find a guy is more likely to message you if you have a pretty photo up. A lot don't even read your profile.

I dunno. Pretty photo or not, if someone doesn't write a decent bit about themselves they won't hear from me.

awec

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stupidusername

Larianne wrote: »

Got my first willy!! :pac: Oh my!

that's what she said

:pac:

Defiler Of The Coffin

Larianne wrote: »

Got my first willy!! :pac: Oh my!

What was it like?

Larianne

Defiler Of The Coffin wrote: »

What was it like?

phallus like. :pac:

Also, had another guy asking did I want to see him **** off on camera. They're all out tonight!! See this is what happens when you unhide your profile!!

Dolly Daydreams

Larianne wrote: »

Got my first willy!! :pac: Oh my!

No longer a willy virgin yay