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The Pregnant Womans Moan Thread.
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Give them baby pictures of random babies off the internet when they ask you for pictures of them for Facebook. Not like they'd notice if they are really your children or not. Blame sleep deprivation if you get caught. Or texting while breastfeeding. It's tricky forwarding pictures on your phone one-handed...
Hahaha that sounds like a good plan. No doubt the random pictures of the babies off the Internet would still be "the image of his daddy when he was that age" lol.
Bunch of crazies.
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Noahboah2014 wrote: »Is there actually anything worse then in laws? Mine haven't spoken to me or my little boy in 18 months, during that time came to my wedding (without speaking to me & had faces like slapped arses) but yet claim to all their friends & on social media that they are "sooooooo excited & can't wait" for this baby to arrive.
PLEASE.Give them baby pictures of random babies off the internet when they ask you for pictures of them for Facebook. Not like they'd notice if they are really your children or not. Blame sleep deprivation if you get caught. Or texting while breastfeeding. It's tricky forwarding pictures on your phone one-handed...Noahboah2014 wrote: »Hahaha that sounds like a good plan. No doubt the random pictures of the babies off the Internet would still be "the image of his daddy when he was that age" lol.
Bunch of crazies.
I actually think you should send them pictures off the internet of children who are a completely different colour/ethnicity to both you and your husband.
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Noahboah2014 wrote: »Is there actually anything worse then in laws? Mine haven't spoken to me or my little boy in 18 months, during that time came to my wedding (without speaking to me & had faces like slapped arses) but yet claim to all their friends & on social media that they are "sooooooo excited & can't wait" for this baby to arrive.
PLEASE.Give them baby pictures of random babies off the internet when they ask you for pictures of them for Facebook. Not like they'd notice if they are really your children or not. Blame sleep deprivation if you get caught. Or texting while breastfeeding. It's tricky forwarding pictures on your phone one-handed...Noahboah2014 wrote: »Hahaha that sounds like a good plan. No doubt the random pictures of the babies off the Internet would still be "the image of his daddy when he was that age" lol.
Bunch of crazies.
I actually think you should send them pictures off the internet of children who are a completely different colour/ethnicity to both you and your husband.
Hahaha imagine the scandal of it. But worth it to see the look on MILs face 0 -
dori_dormer wrote: »Something that you may not be up for but we found helpful in our family was creating. Whatsapp group for the kids. So we have one simply called our sons name, then any news about him / pictures, scans etc get put on that. My sister is way more active to the point of slightly annoying with my nephews one but that's partly because her inlaws don't seem to realise that our side don't care about their weekend plans.... Anyway! Everyone gets informed of goings on at the exact sme time which is handy, no one is left out
Thanks for the idea Dori, we tried something similar when we were getting married. It got to the point were there was just toooooo many cooks. We were getting so much input on every little thing.
I genuinely am happy for them to be involved. I totally get their excitement but I just don't want to have to share every single detail with them and most certainly do not want to be pulled up because I forgot to mention an appointment or tell them I bought an outfit....
And I just can't handle the twice a week visits, especially straight after work.
Noahboah2014 wow, that is awful! Does your 18 month old even know them?0 -
He's two now, so they were involved at the beginning and then just totally lost the run of themselves to the point that we had to remove ourselves from a relationship with them. So no, he wouldn't no them at all. Occasionally we see one of the younger sisters and she automatically picks him up and starts cuddling him & he usually cries or calls for me & she just doesn't understand & gets very annoyed with him each time.stickybean wrote: »dori_dormer wrote: »Something that you may not be up for but we found helpful in our family was creating. Whatsapp group for the kids. So we have one simply called our sons name, then any news about him / pictures, scans etc get put on that. My sister is way more active to the point of slightly annoying with my nephews one but that's partly because her inlaws don't seem to realise that our side don't care about their weekend plans.... Anyway! Everyone gets informed of goings on at the exact sme time which is handy, no one is left out
Thanks for the idea Dori, we tried something similar when we were getting married. It got to the point were there was just toooooo many cooks. We were getting so much input on every little thing.
I genuinely am happy for them to be involved. I totally get their excitement but I just don't want to have to share every single detail with them and most certainly do not want to be pulled up because I forgot to mention an appointment or tell them I bought an outfit....
And I just can't handle the twice a week visits, especially straight after work.
Noahboah2014 wow, that is awful! Does your 18 month old even know them?
It's all such a mess to be honest. Not good for the anxiety levels
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Noahboah2014 wrote: »He's two now, so they were involved at the beginning and then just totally lost the run of themselves to the point that we had to remove ourselves from a relationship with them. So no, he wouldn't no them at all. Occasionally we see one of the younger sisters and she automatically picks him up and starts cuddling him & he usually cries or calls for me & she just doesn't understand & gets very annoyed with him each time.
It's all such a mess to be honest. Not good for the anxiety levels
Aw, I am sorry to hear that! Sometimes families really suck!!!0 -
Just need a quick 2 minute rant, not posting under my usual name just in case. A common moan on this thread, family. But not in-laws for a change, this time it's my own lot
I'm pregnant with first baby, my three sisters have all had their babies, some of whom are in their early teens by now.
But.......they seem bloody determined to try & tell me every possible horror story & all the negative parts of both pregnancy & childbirth. I'm really upset about this. They just seem to be almost gleeful that now it's 'my turn' to put up with the pain & if I hear 'this'll put a halt to your gallop' one more time.......
They know I'm an anxious person at the best of times, and I've asked them not to tell me all this stuff but they just keep saying how they are just trying to help so I don't go in to it unprepared.
I'm on the verge of tears here at work today, just feel they are being horrible bitches and not being one bit supportive, it's like it's all a big joke to them.
Ok.......and breathe.........most of the time I don't let it get to me but it just has today for some reason. I think a bit of space is needed & a chat with my bestie who will tell me it's all going to be ok......
Sorry, and thanks for listening/reading - great to have somewhere to spew up this stuff!0 -
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fedupsusan wrote: »Just need a quick 2 minute rant, not posting under my usual name just in case. A common moan on this thread, family. But not in-laws for a change, this time it's my own lot
I'm pregnant with first baby, my three sisters have all had their babies, some of whom are in their early teens by now.
But.......they seem bloody determined to try & tell me every possible horror story & all the negative parts of both pregnancy & childbirth. I'm really upset about this. They just seem to be almost gleeful that now it's 'my turn' to put up with the pain & if I hear 'this'll put a halt to your gallop' one more time.......
They know I'm an anxious person at the best of times, and I've asked them not to tell me all this stuff but they just keep saying how they are just trying to help so I don't go in to it unprepared.
I'm on the verge of tears here at work today, just feel they are being horrible bitches and not being one bit supportive, it's like it's all a big joke to them.
Ok.......and breathe.........most of the time I don't let it get to me but it just has today for some reason. I think a bit of space is needed & a chat with my bestie who will tell me it's all going to be ok......
Sorry, and thanks for listening/reading - great to have somewhere to spew up this stuff!
One great bit of advice I got, was to think of that one woman you know (who has more than one child) who is a moaner about every little pain and twinge outside of pregnancy. You know, the workmate /bestie/ friend of your mum's who always has a 'migraine' or the 'flu' and is such a martyr about any minor ailment. Focus on her and remember that if that wuss did it, then it really cant be that bad if she's had a second child.
When I was expecting, I went to the OH's Christmas party. One woman who seemed fairly senior, was hell bent on describing her horror births, even though I politely told her I didn't want to hear those kind of stories, and even though two of her colleagues told her to shut up midway through her monologue. She was an arsehole and shut up when I asked if her first time was that bad, why did she go again with her second child? She had no comeback.
It will be fine. My view is that your body is doing something its designed to do. And for anything outside of that, there's drugs and medical interventions to keep you and baby safe.
Maybe send them all a group text and call them out on it (or even get your OH to do it). Tell them to stop being arseholes to you and that they could actually act like proper sisters for a change.0 -
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stickybean wrote: »Just had yet another conversation trying to justify why we aren't finding out the sex of our baby. I have total respect for people whichever way they choose... we personally have decided together to wait until the birth... I'll be honest, it's 50-50, boy or girl... it really doesn't matter to us, we are just so delighted to be having a baby.
So why so I have my mother in law telling me I should find out, it'll make things easier in the long run. Names, clothes, the room.
My friends are all at me to find out because THEY want to start buying.
People are work with are telling me I can't properly prepare and am making things harder on myself.
I mean does it really matter if the first day we have our baby dressed in white or lemon? Or God forbid a boy in pink or girl in blue?????
I am getting so annoyed trying to explain why we want to have our baby's gender a surprise..........
Oh this is where you can have some real fun.
Like, think up awfully cringy fake names for them to get worked up about - even better if you have a surname or do a hyphenated name combo that could lend itself to some hilarious phrases. Like Ben Dover, Joe King that sort of thing.
Or tell them that you plan to raise your child as genderless after your lotus birth obviously so nobody but you and your husband will be told the gender. That will drive them mad. Especially if you combine it with a bonkers gender neutral name.
G'wan... mess with their heads and get a bit of revenge :pac:0 -
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Now I get the "when you're pregnant you're suddenly public property" thing.
I'm only 14 weeks, so still at the stage of telling people and or meeting people who've heard it off others.
Everything from "have you been sick, how are you feeling"? (perfectly nice and well meaning questions), to enquiring as to how much time I'll take off and how much money I'll be taking in while I'm off. From a woman I'd literally been introduced to. Ehhhh, fup off luv.
Everyone's obsessed about us finding out what sex it is. I'm gonna have great craic telling them it's a baby dinosaur 0 -
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Now I get the "when you're pregnant you're suddenly public property" thing.
I'm only 14 weeks, so still at the stage of telling people and or meeting people who've heard it off others.
Everything from "have you been sick, how are you feeling"? (perfectly nice and well meaning questions), to enquiring as to how much time I'll take off and how much money I'll be taking in while I'm off. From a woman I'd literally been introduced to. Ehhhh, fup off luv.
Everyone's obsessed about us finding out what sex it is. I'm gonna have great craic telling them it's a baby dinosaur
Gross them out talking about placenta capsules too
More invasive questions I was asked:
Hands on bump? Check
Horror birth stories? Check
Remedies for pregnancy ailments I never had nor mentioned? Check
Asked if it was planned? Check
Asked if said baby had a father or am I just a slut? Check0 -
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Standing in the middle of the local supermarket last week, I got asked how long we'd been trying
Lord but I despair of the insensitivity of people when it comes to pregnancy. I usually have people assume that my second and third are 'accidents'.
The other thing I love about pregnancy is people's desire to tell you the WORST possible stories about childbirth/early days of parenthood. I was induced for my first two and am mentally preparing for it again this time but the amount of people who told me it was awful, you want to go 'naturally' etc was unbelievable. I remember one mother telling me this When I was very overdue when I was booked in the following day. Says I, 'I didn't realise you'd been induced'. 'Oh no, I've just heard' says she.0 -
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Hello
17 weeks in - so, so SO tired after eating. Like had a not-enormous lunch 2 hours ago and still yawning and slithering down behind my desk now. AND I had to go lie down in an empty office* at around 2.30. Am I not due a huge burst of energy and glowingness around now? I could do with a little more bounce in my step and a little less trudge.
*On my coat in the disabled bathrooms but I will not be admitting that to people in work0 -
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MissFlitworth wrote: »Hello
17 weeks in - so, so SO tired after eating. Like had a not-enormous lunch 2 hours ago and still yawning and slithering down behind my desk now. AND I had to go lie down in an empty office* at around 2.30. Am I not due a huge burst of energy and glowingness around now? I could do with a little more bounce in my step and a little less trudge.
*On my coat in the disabled bathrooms but I will not be admitting that to people in work
Oh god this is me!!
After lunch every day I'm an absolute wreck. I've toyed with not eating to see if it helps :rolleyes:
I've snuck to the car at lunchtime for a nap, and hidden in an empty stockroom too 0
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