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"Why I did not report my rapist"
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Secured in the notion of a "rape culture" is the stipulation that considers all men to be rapists. I do not want to live in a society which sees my brother, father, and boyfriend as rapists. This rape culture theory disgusts me. Something needs to happen as it's a seriously damaging supposition and one that I do not subscribe to.
But to oppose of such an unfair concept means I'm betraying women apparently, and denouncing my gender. I've been called a Man's Rights Activist by RMC because I oppose her views. I'm not a MRA,(or am I? Who knows) but if I was, is that meant to be an insult? I don't get it. Do men not have rights that need advocating as well? Or is it always just women whom are treated unfairly/oppressed/exploited?
While Mans Rights Activist should not be a pejorative, unfortunately the actions of the men in that movement make it so. Usually, MRA is used as an insult, and is often thrown at women who take the male side of the argument in online gender war debates. You usually find this a lot on Twitter or on Reddit because it is mostly an American thing. That was why I found it strange that MRA be used to shut down discussion on an Irish forum, because to the best of my knowledge the MRA don't really exist in Ireland in any official or unofficial form. At most, there are a few MGTOW (a sub group) or "Red Pillers" (another sub-group) scattered around the country who have bought into American culture wars a bit too heavy, and these would mostly be keyboard activists. So, while I have no doubt there are heads in this country who subscribe to it, they would not be an active movement as such and very few in number.
I think things like fathers rights are really important issues. However, the MRA are to men, what Tumblr feminism is to women. Does more harm than good, and is mostly lead by a bunch of numptys with axes to grind. They certainly don't do much for fathers rights in the US where they do have a presence. I am not sure how big fathers rights movements are in this country (aside from the Rose of Tralee stage invasion) but they don't seem to get much airtime (if any). That is a shame and something that needs to be looked at.
Just as an aside, the MRA are what happens when a movement suppresses dissent and enters its own self congratulating echo chamber. What happened was, back the 1970s, the MLM (Mens Liberation Movement) was founded by academics in the US and its aim was to be an egalitarian movement set up to emancipate men from traditional gender roles. The founders of the movement knew that society was going to change when women started joining the workforce, hence it was hoped the movement could offer an outlet for young men who might need guidance in a world where traditional norms were changing. I must add, at this stage, the MLM would have been on pretty good terms with feminist groupings as both wished to further the cause of their respective genders by working together.
So far so good, right?
Anyways, sometime around 1975-76 the more conservative factions of the MLM started causing a bit of internal strife in the movement. The move towards proper egalitarianism was a big no-no for them. In essence, they wanted male supremacy. This caused a split within the MLM between conservatives and liberals. The pro-feminist liberal elements split off, but instead of forming another grouping, most absorbed themselves into various 70s feminist movements. The conservatives went on to become the MRA. Hence, todays MRA is what you get when you have 40 years of an echo chamber for male supremacist "ideas". The MRA exist today in a wide subset of groupings (manosphere, red pill, MGTOW, Return of Kings etc), but all these can trace their lineage back to the split in the 70s of the MLM. They all spout the same tired tropes and warped "philosophies" with a few odd changes thrown in here and there.
TLDR? Being called an MRA is not a compliment!
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What was the body shaming?
I looked on her twitter and saw she shared a pic of a Zara ad? Was that it? If so I don't think she was body shaming them. I think it was more a comment on the expectations advertising places on women. I for one would like to see the average woman and the average man better represented in our media and advertising.
I'm not addressing this at you Jameorahiely.
She isn't all bad or the worst person who has ever lived or anything though. I think she made a massive mistake with the rape thing and has some off the wall views but you could pick through any of our online presences over a course of years and create a self serving monster and a hypocrite with enough careful editing.
I think she can make some salient points on some issues from what I've seen looking through the last few days in terms of mental health awareness and body positivity. She's far from a perfect person though. She's not what's wrong with the modern world herself though, that people are tuning in desperate for views of just anyone off the street with a phone is what's wrong.
It's probably hypocritical of me myself but I think that maybe we can disagree with her views without requiring a complete denouncement of her entire character or her career.
I mostly agree with your post except for the bit in bold.
Obviously, she's not what's wrong with the modern world, but by going along with what's wrong, by indulging in all that cráp, and spreading it around as a public figure, she's part of the problem.
And to come back to the blog post being discussed here, look at what she spread.
It caused a lot of upset, and rightly so.
I would really like to think that yes, she's a nice girl just going about her business, and she comes across as a nice girl, but I find it hard to blank such a serious post, and the constant new feminist rehashing of notions that have the potential to mess up young girls, and society in general.
Now of course she would view my words as the MRA (I didn't even know what that was before looking at this thread ! A little chuffed with myself for knowing some of the initials now
) or the "enemy" putting her back into her gender role. You know, young lady, play with your blog on fashion and make up by all means, but don't talk about more serious issues.
That's not the case, I think she'd be great at tackling serious issues, she would definitely have a positive impact, and on even more followers imo, if she were able to "zoom out" from the crater she is in, where all the new feminists live. Deprogram herself, and take in more than the funnel view she's in right now.
I greatly admire journalists who are able to debate and highlight serious issues with the professionalism to keep their opinions to themselves. Sometimes you get hints and clues about their personal beliefs from an article on the side, or an oops moment in a heated debate, and it's great when that happens (for pure gossipy gratification), but it's a relief when they're able to put it aside and let their readers/viewers decide for themselves.
I've only looked at a small sample of what she does, but it looks to me as if she's attempting to do that at times, but then all that group think sticky gunk pulls her back in. The Stranger Things gunk thingy type.0 -
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