Anyone else enjoy being single?

Charles Ingles · 14-04-2019 3:01pm

joeguevara wrote: »

I admire the fact that you stick to your guns even though you must see how ridiculous it is.

Come on you know I'm right

Gimme A Pound · 14-04-2019 3:03pm

joeguevara wrote: »

Is there a difference between someone being rampantly promiscuous and someone being merely promiscuous.

Also, you brought health into it saying that it's not healthy to have multiple partners. What is your opinion of someone being completely monogamous and only having one partner but there partner engaging in unprotected sex with 1000 people. Is that more or less healthy than a person engaging in sexual activity with 20 people? Surely it is a flawed argument to simply state that more sexual partners isn't healthy. I presume when you mentioned health it was purely about contracting sexually transmitted diseases or are you arguing that having 10 different partners is in itself inherently unhealthy?

I don't think it's healthy mentally to have sex with countless strangers. And studies back this. It is indeed also risky in terms of STIs. It's compulsive behaviour.

I can totally understand people losing attraction to someone if they find out they've ****ed hundreds of people (for me, that would be a man - I certainly don't think it's only something applicable to women). I'd find it difficult to trust them as they likely have a sex addiction.

And would people ever give over with the intellectually dishonest "what number is acceptable?" stuff. They know full well what I mean. A few alcoholic drinks a week is enjoyable but getting drunk most days is not good for you, trying a drug now and again and being careful - if you're into that - is highly unlikely to do you harm and you'll more than likely really enjoy it, but hoovering up a few lines a day is obviously bad for you, and eating high calorie food once in a while for a tasty treat is enjoyable and makes you feel good, but doing so constantly will cause obesity and related health problems.

A perfectly healthy person has the occasional one-night stand and uses protection (because it's not a trivial thing to get so intimate with a stranger) or a short-term fling or friend with benefits.

But if it is a stream of countless one night stands with strangers - you're kidding yourself that this is healthy behaviour.

joeguevara · 14-04-2019 3:04pm

mvl wrote: »

I'd suggest we can only certify this after STI testing results are revealed

No need as we have been instructed that only numbers are important to virtue. The fact that the girl who had 4 partners in one night could have engaged in a 5 way gangbang with Somalian sailors is irrelevant. She is better than someone who had 5 committed loving relationships over 10 years.

EmmetSpiceland · 14-04-2019 3:04pm

joeguevara wrote: »

You do know Jesus didn't judge Mary Magdalene, a prostitute and admonished so called pious hypocrites who looked down on her. If you look to Jesus for inspiration maybe you should do a slightly better job.

Mary Magdalene wasn’t a prostitute.

Charles Ingles · 14-04-2019 3:05pm

joeguevara wrote: »

You do know Jesus didn't judge Mary Magdalene, a prostitute and admonished so called pious hypocrites who looked down on her. If you look to Jesus for inspiration maybe you should do a slightly better job.

I'm not judging anyone I'm not qualified to do so.
I think society was better when people had one partner got married and had kids

sportsfan90 · 14-04-2019 3:09pm

Charles Ingles wrote: »

I'm not judging anyone I'm not qualified to do so.
I think society was better when people had one partner got married and had kids

People are still free to do that if they wish. And presuming you're talking about 40+ years ago, what exactly was better about society back then?

ashes2014 · 14-04-2019 3:11pm

Charles Ingles wrote: »

I'm not judging anyone I'm not qualified to do so.
I think society was better when people had one partner got married and had kids

You are definitely judging.

You cant have unrealistic expectations in place for people (max of 5 partners) and then claim not to be judging.

Your entitled to judge if you wish, but dont say you are not.

joeguevara · 14-04-2019 3:11pm

Tucker Hot Bell wrote: »

I don't think it's healthy mentally to have sex with countless strangers. And studies back this. It is indeed also risky in terms of STIs. It's compulsive behaviour.

I can totally understand people losing attraction to someone if they find out they've ****ed hundreds of people (for me, that would be a man - I certainly don't think it's only something applicable to women). I'd find it difficult to trust them as they likely have a sex addiction.

And would people ever give over with the intellectually dishonest "what number is acceptable?" stuff. They know full well what I mean. A few alcoholic drinks a week is enjoyable but getting drunk most days is not good for you, trying a drug now and again and being careful - if you're into that - is highly unlikely to do you harm and you'll more than likely really enjoy it, but hoovering up a few lines a day is obviously bad for you, and eating high calorie food once in a while for a tasty treat is enjoyable and makes you feel good, but doing so constantly will cause obesity and related health problems.

A perfectly healthy person has the occasional one-night stand and uses protection, or a short-term fling or friend with benefits.

But if it is a stream of countless one night stands with strangers - you're kidding yourself that this is healthy behaviour.

So your basic belief is that sex is unhealthy. You liken it to alcohol, drugs and food. You have brought mental health and sexual addiction into the mix too. My God you have a warped view of sex in my opinion but if it works for you then that's what works for you. But to say that people who have a different view to be an addict or have the possibility of damaging their mental health is not acceptable.

xi5yvm0owc1s2b · 14-04-2019 3:12pm

Charles Ingles wrote: »

I'm not judging anyone I'm not qualified to do so.
I think society was better when people had one partner got married and had kids

You're likely referring to a time when women got married in their late teens or early twenties and were expected to be virgins on their wedding night.

Nowadays, the average Irish woman does not get married until she's 34. She invests a lot more time in getting an education, building a career, saving for a mortgage, etc., than women typically did forty or fifty years ago.

Society is completely different now. And yet you are not making any allowance for that.

Gimme A Pound · 14-04-2019 3:13pm

joeguevara wrote: »

So your basic belief is that sex is unhealthy.

"So"... no it isn't obviously. Because that's not what I said at all whatsoever.

Charles Ingles · 14-04-2019 3:13pm

ashes2014 wrote: »

You are definitely judging.

You cant have unrealistic expectations in place for people (max of 5 partners) and then claim not to be judging.

Your entitled to judge if you wish, but dont say you are not.

Having a personal opinion isn't judging someone.
I don't care if someone wants to sleep with 20,000 people, I'm entitled to offer my opinion and I certainly wouldn't be with a partner who had more than five sexual partners

xi5yvm0owc1s2b · 14-04-2019 3:19pm

joeguevara wrote: »

So your basic belief is that sex is unhealthy.

Casual sex with numerous partners is indisputably unhealthy, and that's what the poster was referring to.

ashes2014 · 14-04-2019 3:22pm

Charles Ingles wrote: »

Having a personal opinion isn't judging someone.
I don't care if someone wants to sleep with 20,000 people, I'm entitled to offer my opinion and I certainly wouldn't be with a partner who had more than five sexual partners

Have to agree to disagree on this one.

Referring to people who sleep with more than 5 people as a bike is 100% judging.

Technically judging is forming an opinion, which is what you are doing. Again thats fine if you want to judge.

DoozerT6 · 14-04-2019 3:24pm

I have a feeling Charles is just trolling......

B0jangles · 14-04-2019 3:27pm

Look, it's a free country - if Charles here wants to look down the no doubt extremely long list of women eager to enter into a relationship with him, and cross out the names of every woman he knows has had 5 or more partners, that is his choice.

Charles Ingles · 14-04-2019 3:27pm

DoozerT6 wrote: »

I have a feeling Charles is just trolling......

Honestly not my friend just an old fashioned Christian

joeguevara · 14-04-2019 3:27pm

EmmetSpiceland wrote: »

Mary Magdalene wasn’t a prostitute.

Such an unequivocal statement without anything to back it up. Ok, let's look at the facts from a text that some argue has no factual basis.

Mary Magdalene was a woman who had no husband and followed Jesus around. She has been described in at least three different gospels as a reformed character who Jesus cast out seven demons from. Another Gospel describes how she was refused entrance to a Pharisees house as she was a woman with a bad name. She was also described in a gospel as providing for Jesus. She also in all gospels was depicted as taking out a jar of expensive ointment to rub on Jesus.

So a single woman, in a time where arranged marriages existed, could follow a single man around for 3 years from town to town, refused entrance to houses because of a bad name and had the cash to buy expensive ointment when she had no job and had no issue with kissing a single man and rubbing his feet and drying them with her hair. Sorry, your right, it all points to a civil servant.

Charles Ingles · 14-04-2019 3:28pm

B0jangles wrote: »

Look, it's a free country - if Charles here wants to look down the no doubt extremely long list of women eager to enter into a relationship with him, and cross out the names of every woman he knows has had 5 or more partners, that is his choice.

Mrs ingles is the only woman for me

joeguevara · 14-04-2019 3:30pm

Raelynn Pitiful Minion wrote: »

Casual sex with numerous partners is indisputably unhealthy, and that's what the poster was referring to.

Putting the word casual in front of sex makes no difference. And who has decided that it is indisputably unhealthy. Saying something doesn't make it true, sex isn't unhealthy. Who are you to decide that having sex with numerous partners is unhealthy. Some might argue that having sex with just one is unhealthy. Don't just assume what is good or bad for another person.

joeguevara · 14-04-2019 3:39pm

Tucker Hot Bell wrote: »

"So"... no it isn't obviously. Because that's not what I said at all whatsoever.

You said that having sex with numerous strangers is unhealthy. If we take away contracting an STD (as having sex with a million disease free partners will mean no disease as opposed to having sex with one partner and getting one), then it is your argument that somehow it is unhealthy simply by the fact that you didn't know irrelevant facts about a person.

Is knowing their star sign, what they like for dinner and whether they are allergic to wheat and a million other facts what makes sex healthy?

Pac1Man · 14-04-2019 3:43pm

Tucker Hot Bell wrote: »

I only said your comment was, which it was. I don't barge into threads throwing vague blanket insults rather than engaging.

Snide means underhanded. It wasn't underhanded.

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EmmetSpiceland · 14-04-2019 3:49pm

joeguevara wrote: »

Such an unequivocal statement without anything to back it up. Ok, let's look at the facts from a text that some argue has no factual basis.

Mary Magdalene was a woman who had no husband and followed Jesus around. She has been described in at least three different gospels as a reformed character who Jesus cast out seven demons from. Another Gospel describes how she was refused entrance to a Pharisees house as she was a woman with a bad name. She was also described in a gospel as providing for Jesus. She also in all gospels was depicted as taking out a jar of expensive ointment to rub on Jesus.

So a single woman, in a time where arranged marriages existed, could follow a single man around for 3 years from town to town, refused entrance to houses because of a bad name and had the cash to buy expensive ointment when she had no job and had no issue with kissing a single man and rubbing his feet and drying them with her hair. Sorry, your right, it all points to a civil servant.

Think you’re confusing Mary Magdalene with Mary of Bethany and that other unnamed “sinful” women.

joeguevara · 14-04-2019 3:57pm

EmmetSpiceland wrote: »

Think you’re confusing Mary Magdalene with Mary of Bethany and that other unnamed “sinful” women.

Ok which part are you suggesting is Mary of Bethany? Or is it all?

orourkeda1977 · 14-04-2019 4:00pm

I like being single.

I also like ridin'

joeguevara · 14-04-2019 4:03pm

orourkeda1977 wrote: »

I like being single.

I also like ridin'

I shall strike down upon thee with great vengeance and furious anger.

https://youtu.be/pRE23YfSvc8

mvl · 14-04-2019 4:16pm

was trying to find out at what age it might be more enjoyable to be single. some say it could be 50 ?!?

but it appears single life is getting better with age https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/living-single/201901/the-single-life-may-get-even-better-age

Gimme A Pound · 14-04-2019 4:54pm

joeguevara wrote: »

You said that having sex with numerous strangers is unhealthy. If we take away contracting an STD (as having sex with a million disease free partners will mean no disease as opposed to having sex with one partner and getting one), then it is your argument that somehow it is unhealthy simply by the fact that you didn't know irrelevant facts about a person.

Is knowing their star sign, what they like for dinner and whether they are allergic to wheat and a million other facts what makes sex healthy?

You said my basic belief is sex is unhealthy. Such nonsense and cherrypicking. If that actually were the case, I would have said any casual sex whatsoever was unhealthy - actually I would have even said sex in a relationship is unhealthy, what with you claiming my basic belief is sex is unhealthy.

Compulsive, reckless, addictive, risky behaviour on a very regular basis is unhealthy - that's what I was saying. Casual sex with a stranger is not "No big deal" like having a cup of tea either.

Pac1Man wrote: »

Snide means underhanded. It wasn't underhanded.

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Well it was when you were so vague and sneery. I'm not underhanded either, despite your suggestion (and so what if people look to have the last word if they're actually engaging rather than just arguing for the sake of it).

joeguevara · 14-04-2019 5:04pm

Tucker Hot Bell wrote: »

You said my basic belief is sex is unhealthy. Such nonsense and cherrypicking. If that actually were the case, I would have said any casual sex whatsoever was unhealthy - actually I would have even said sex in a relationship is unhealthy, what with you claiming my basic belief is sex is unhealthy.

Compulsive, reckless, addictive, risky behaviour on a very regular basis is unhealthy - that's what I was saying. Casual sex with a stranger is not "No big deal" like having a cup of tea either.

Well it was when you were so vague and sneery. I'm not underhanded either, despite your suggestion (and so what if people look to have the last word if they're actually engaging rather than just arguing for the sake of it).

Ok, but is it your belief that having sex with many partners is 'compulsive, reckless, addictive and risky behaviour?' That is an issue to me because if someone has safe sex with consenting adults on a regular basis then it is not compulsive, reckless, addictive or risky. If it is enjoyable and between two (or more) people who want it then your description just doesn't hold water.

Charles Ingles · 14-04-2019 5:31pm

orourkeda1977 wrote: »

I like being single.

I also like ridin'

Catches up on you in the end

joeguevara · 14-04-2019 6:01pm

Charles Ingles wrote: »

Catches up on you in the end

How does it catch up on you?

Charles Ingles · 14-04-2019 6:21pm

joeguevara wrote: »

How does it catch up on you?

Well if you're a man you end up lonely, overweight alcoholic that lives with his elderly mother.
If you're a women you end up alone pretending your cats are you're children

Tell me how · 14-04-2019 6:35pm

Charles Ingles wrote: »

Well if you're a man you end up lonely, overweight alcoholic that lives with his elderly mother.
If you're a women you end up alone pretending your cats are you're children

I would love to have the self confidence you possess which allows you to persistently hold on to a false position ignoring all evidence to the contrary just because you think it is true.

it reminds me of the words of Charles Bukowski.

"The problem with the world is that the intelligent people are full of doubts, while the stupid ones are full of confidence."

Charles Ingles · 14-04-2019 6:37pm

Tell me how wrote: »

I would love to have the self confidence you possess which allows you to persistently hold on to a false position ignoring all evidence to the contrary just because you think it is true.

it reminds me of the words of Charles Bukowski.

"The problem with the world is that the intelligent people are full of doubts, while the stupid ones are full of confidence."

Charles bukowski? Never heard of her

Tell me how · 14-04-2019 6:40pm

Charles Ingles wrote: »

Charles bukowski? Never heard of her

Doesn't surprise me.

joeguevara · 14-04-2019 7:22pm

Charles Ingles wrote: »

Well if you're a man you end up lonely, overweight alcoholic that lives with his elderly mother.
If you're a women you end up alone pretending your cats are you're children

Fcuk this. Has to be a troll.

I will play along. How does having multiple sexual partners lead to that. Taking the statistic that 50% of marriages fail, someone who was monotonous all their lives could end up in the same fate.

Alcoholism has no correlation with sexual partners.

You can end up lonely whether you were faithful or a lothario. No one cares how many partners you have. Not people in business, not people who provide financial advice or even judges in court cases.

kowloon · 14-04-2019 11:14pm

pgj2015 wrote: »

For all you know Jesus had sex with 100+ people

Pretty sure it was only 12.

joeguevara · 14-04-2019 11:43pm

kowloon wrote: »

Pretty sure it was only 12.

They were the guys that showed up to his stag. Treated to pizza and wind and a magic show. Things took a turn for the worst when one of the lads lobbed the gob.

Pac1Man · 15-04-2019 6:20am

joeguevara wrote: »

They were the guys that showed up to his stag. Treated to pizza and wind and a magic show. Things took a turn for the worst when one of the lads lobbed the gob.

-Isaiah 41:10

joeguevara · 15-04-2019 7:01am

Pac1Man wrote: »

-Isaiah 41:10

At first I thought you were drip feeding me the lotto numbers. But to answer your cryptic message, I'm not broken and I don't need your help. But if you have any more lotto numbers throw them up. I have John 3 10 already. Nice man in Crocker gave me those.

Graces7 · 15-04-2019 11:24am

joeguevara wrote: »

You do know Jesus didn't judge Mary Magdalene, a prostitute and admonished so called pious hypocrites who looked down on her. If you look to Jesus for inspiration maybe you should do a slightly better job.

Is this what you are referring to? If so ? Not Mary Magdalene. Maybe heed your own words..

Also she was breaking the law by committing adultery so it is not a matter of judging but of showing mercy to a wrongdoer caught in the act. Very different.

A Woman Caught in Adultery
8 Jesus returned to the Mount of Olives, 2 but early the next morning he was back again at the Temple. A crowd soon gathered, and he sat down and taught them. 3 As he was speaking, the teachers of religious law and the Pharisees brought a woman who had been caught in the act of adultery. They put her in front of the crowd.

4 “Teacher,” they said to Jesus, “this woman was caught in the act of adultery. 5 The law of Moses says to stone her. What do you say?”

6 They were trying to trap him into saying something they could use against him, but Jesus stooped down and wrote in the dust with his finger. 7 They kept demanding an answer, so he stood up again and said, “All right, but let the one who has never sinned throw the first stone!” 8 Then he stooped down again and wrote in the dust.

9 When the accusers heard this, they slipped away one by one, beginning with the oldest, until only Jesus was left in the middle of the crowd with the woman. 10 Then Jesus stood up again and said to the woman, “Where are your accusers? Didn’t even one of them condemn you?”

11 “No, Lord,” she said.

And Jesus said, “Neither do I. Go and sin no more.”

Mister Vain · 15-04-2019 11:32am

How did a thread about being single turn into a discussion about Mary Magdalene? :pac:

joeguevara · 15-04-2019 11:36am

Graces7 wrote: »

Is this what you are referring to? If so ? Not Mary Magdalene. Maybe heed your own words..
Also she was breaking the law by committing adultery so it is not a matter of judging but of showing mercy to a wrongdoer caught in the act. Very different.

A Woman Caught in Adultery
8 Jesus returned to the Mount of Olives, 2 but early the next morning he was back again at the Temple. A crowd soon gathered, and he sat down and taught them. 3 As he was speaking, the teachers of religious law and the Pharisees brought a woman who had been caught in the act of adultery. They put her in front of the crowd.

4 “Teacher,” they said to Jesus, “this woman was caught in the act of adultery. 5 The law of Moses says to stone her. What do you say?”

6 They were trying to trap him into saying something they could use against him, but Jesus stooped down and wrote in the dust with his finger. 7 They kept demanding an answer, so he stood up again and said, “All right, but let the one who has never sinned throw the first stone!” 8 Then he stooped down again and wrote in the dust.

9 When the accusers heard this, they slipped away one by one, beginning with the oldest, until only Jesus was left in the middle of the crowd with the woman. 10 Then Jesus stood up again and said to the woman, “Where are your accusers? Didn’t even one of them condemn you?”

11 “No, Lord,” she said.

And Jesus said, “Neither do I. Go and sin no more.”

Did you know her?

I am of the opinion as was Pope Gregory that Mary Magdalene, the unnamed lady in Luke's Gospel and Mary of Bethany were all the same person?
I have posted the reasons why she is portrayed as a prostitute.

Charles Ingles · 15-04-2019 11:54am

What amazes me is that is ok mock Catholic religious beliefs.
Not one person would do the same with Islam for the fear of being labelled Islamophobia. Typical double standards Catholics are entitled to religious respect too

SusieBlue · 15-04-2019 11:55am

Charles Ingles wrote: »

What amazes me is that is ok mock Catholic religious beliefs.
Not one person would do the same with Islam for the fear of being labelled Islamophobia. Typical double standards Catholics are entitled to religious respect too

No one is mocking Catholics, wind your neck in.

jimgoose · 15-04-2019 11:57am

Charles Ingles wrote: »

What amazes me is that is ok mock Catholic religious beliefs.
Not one person would do the same with Islam for the fear of being labelled Islamophobia. Typical double standards Catholics are entitled to religious respect too

The Bible passage, including the possible views/opinions of Christ, under study is being discussed rationally, not "mocked", and is part of the same text revered by all the Christian denominations (Protestant, Anglican Communion, Eastern Orthodox, Old Order Amish, and so on) not just Catholic.

Charles Ingles · 15-04-2019 12:02pm

jimgoose wrote: »

The Bible passage, including the possible views/opinions of Christ, under study is being discussed rationally, not "mocked", and is part of the same text revered by all the Christian denominations (Protestant, Anglican Communion, Eastern Orthodox, and so on) not just Catholic.

Well Christians are entitled to religious respect of their beliefs, not innuendo about out our Lord's sexualy orientation or that of his apostles.
Nobody would think it's acceptable to mock Mohamed in the same manner

Sephiroth_dude · 15-04-2019 12:16pm

Mod

Get back on topic please and keep the religious talk out of here.

xi5yvm0owc1s2b · 15-04-2019 6:32pm

I know someone who complains all the time about being single, but who wants any prospective partner to check so many boxes that no mere mortal could ever qualify.

I think some people expect a fairytale prince to show up at their door some day with a glass slipper.

ancapailldorcha · 15-04-2019 7:31pm

Raelynn Pitiful Minion wrote: »

I know someone who complains all the time about being single, but who wants any prospective partner to check so many boxes that no mere mortal could ever qualify.

I think some people expect a fairytale prince to show up at their door some day with a glass slipper.

What's depressing is that such people who expect the wit of a comedian, the body of an athlete and the intellect of an Oxbridge scholar all in one package have a tendency to bring absolutely nothing to the table themselves.

It's one of my main gripes with online dating. I don't frequent men's profiles so I don't know if they're all demanding models on the other hand.

Tell me how · 15-04-2019 7:38pm

ancapailldorcha wrote: »

What's depressing is that such people who expect the wit of a comedian, the body of an athlete and the intellect of an Oxbridge scholar all in one package have a tendency to bring absolutely nothing to the table themselves.

It's one of my main gripes with online dating. I don't frequent men's profiles so I don't know if they're all demanding models on the other hand.

I recently saw the plays, the Beauty Queen of Leenane and Sive, if people from that generation saw how picky we are now, they'd find it hard to understand.

There is no question but that many of us are guilty of losing the good in the hope of the great (myself included I fear).

Anyone else enjoy being single?

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