Ghosting

Smidge wrote: »

I'll put my tuppence in
I dont think internet dating would appeal to me if I were to be single tomorrow.
I genuinely feel its not for me, and that in now way is meant to cast aspersions on anyone else who uses it.

As for ghosting....back in my day it happened, just without a name.
Although, I think we called it " get the hint". :pac:
I never took it too personally tbh, just wrote it up as a lucky escape!!

Get the hint is different lol
You get treated badly by get the hint to your face so get the opportunity to tackle them you can throw pints at them or pour it over their head in public or throw dirty looks at each other

Whereas ghosting is created by this smArtphone culture, you don't get to look them in the eye lol

Get the hint was not widespread
Ghosting seems to be epidemic

They just disappear

So do you move on?

Hell yeah I will but I have spent the last two weeks wondering Wtf happened

Lisacatlover wrote: »

So... you had been dating a guy for three months, seeing each other once a week? Then for a couple of weeks he's not in as frequent contact and isn't free and texts you saying hopefully another time? So your response is to send him a link to an online article about 'ghosting' and ask him if he has any balls? Then he says you two need to meet up 'to have a chat'.

Sure, one interpretation is he's this 'spineless' guy that 'ghosted' you.

But I get the feeling his thread would be something like -

"So I was dating this girl for a few weeks. She was a bit full on, but things were going OK. Then I'm a little bit busy and can't meet up a couple of times and I get this nuts passive aggressive text off her out of nowhere linking to some article on the psychology today website and her saying I have no balls. Yikes! So obviously I'm done with that, texted back fairly quick to tell her we needed to meet up for a chat, so I can dump her. If you don't hear back from me in two days send my bunny rabbit somewhere safe."

Yeah you could say that second interpretation could be accurate but you should swap the full on bit for him, texting before bed every night etc

Then he has a freak out about status of relationship wanting to name it , I don't validate and he starts to limit contact

It's meant to be fun

Busy again he's not a world leader ...it is called extremely lazy communication.

guess he found someone else to stroke his ego. I know I know making up stories in my head that's what you do when are being ghosted.

the so called passive aggressive txt was sent about ghosting was sent after he "sent a text about a friend visiting from out of town with no sorry we can not meet up"

Sure it was sent in a moment of anger to his lack of enthusiasm.

All I want him to say "jeez it was fun but.....:..let's call it a day" and I would agree coz there is no fun anymore.

Meeting up after two weeks of limited contact not sure how it going to pan out or if it will this could be another BS excuse that may never come to fruition

No bunnys will be boiled or harmed, it was hardly on the fatal attraction level of passion this is not the 1990s where all women are portrayed as crazy single white females being over demanding and controlling.

I now know and have sympathy for women who go slightly crazy maybe it was the men that do this lazy communication when things go off the boil.

We now live in a world where smartphones allow ghosters manipulate people for ego strokes

Maybe not to the extreme as Catfish which is a pile of cRap TV show

I was just ghosted and feeling rejected I guess and I need to move on my bad.

Anyway you are completely right I have turned into a fruit loop as a result wondering whether he's dead or alive

I never asked him to marry me, just lets hang out let's show each other some respect while doing it

It would have saved us both unnecessary Agro if he just ended it two weeks ago....