Ghosting

wurzlitzer

So guys I have been ghosted never knew what it was until tonight but feel free to pull the piss as I am fuming feel like a complete idiot and deserve a roasting

Just guess I had more faith in human nature

Now I don't

CaraMay

So one human disappears and now you think humanity is ****?

The Raptor

What is ghosting?

hairyslug

Had to Google it.

You kids and your phrases and stupid haircuts and ridiculous clothes,when will you ever learn.

You got ****ed over,nothing to pull the piss of you for,people are ***** (my phone actually auto corrected that word for me)

wurzlitzer

CaraMay wrote: »

So one human disappears and now you think humanity is ****?

Not humanity itself but human nature is becoming less tangible

Lights On

Is this similar to dogging?

wurzlitzer

wurzlitzer wrote: »

Not humanity itself but human nature is becoming less tangible

Stumbled across it myself and it's been around since the dawn of time but now it s widespread

Ice Maiden

The Raptor wrote: »

What is ghosting?

According to the Huffington Post, "everyone" is talking about it: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/10/30/ghosting-dating-_n_6028958.html

It is an extremely sh-tty thing to do (have kinda experienced it myself, and I know one person who had it done to them in an appalling manner, as in, the person was not even all they had said they were) but I would not let it make me lose my faith in humanity.

Ice Maiden

Lights On wrote: »

Is this similar to dogging?

It is indeed. But only takes place in a graveyard rather than a car-park.

andekwarhola

You just have to take it in the right spirit.

Lights On

Ice Maiden wrote: »

It is indeed. But only takes place in a graveyard rather than a car-park.

I was wondering what all those stains on my great grandfathers gravestone were :eek:

BlondeMoment

Thats how dating is nowadays. Especially with the likes of Tinder and POF, people are disposable.

wurzlitzer

andekwarhola wrote: »

You just have to take it in the right spirit.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/valley-girl-brain/201507/the-strange-psychology-ghosting

wurzlitzer

wurzlitzer wrote: »

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/valley-girl-brain/201507/the-strange-psychology-ghosting

Well give you a laugh when I stumbled across I txt them the link and asked them if they had any balls!

They! The ghost! all of sudden wanted to meet to have a chat....god forbid they were a ghost or they had no balls lol

wurzlitzer

wurzlitzer wrote: »

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/valley-girl-brain/201507/the-strange-psychology-ghosting

Well give you a laugh when I stumbled across I txt them the link and asked them if they had any balls!

They! The ghost! all of sudden wanted to meet to have a chat....god forbid they were a ghost or they had no balls lol

DareGod

Ice Maiden wrote: »

According to the Huffington Post, "everyone" is talking about it: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/10/30/ghosting-dating-_n_6028958.html

It is an extremely sh-tty thing to do (have kinda experienced it myself, and I know one person who had it done to them in an appalling manner, as in, the person was not even all they had said they were) but I would not let it make me lose my faith in humanity.

The Huffington Post is trash. It's the American TheJournal.ie. Dogsh*t "journalism."

But yeah ghosting feels bad but it's certainly not representative of humanity in general.

pidgeoneyes

I did it to a girl a couple of years ago. We weren't going out at the time but weren't far off it. A ****ty thing to do and I'm still not proud of it. Won't be doing it again. I'm not a pr!k all the time though!

DareGod

pidgeoneyes wrote: »

I did it to a girl a couple of years ago. We weren't going out at the time but weren't far off it. A ****ty thing to do and I'm still not proud of it. Won't be doing it again. I'm not a pr!k all the time though!

Don't feel too bad. It's not like we were taught in school how to break up with someone. It's difficult to be on either side of the situation.

KERSPLAT!

I don't think I want to know what this is...

Jim Bob Scratcher

I went out with a ghost once and I have to say I felt nothing.

Yamanoto

wurzlitzer wrote: »

So guys I have been ghosted never knew what it was until tonight.....

God forbid you'd have offered the rest of us an explanation so.

Aint Eazy Being Cheezy

Yamanoto wrote: »

God forbid you'd have offered the rest of us an explanation so.

Means blanking someone in the hope they get the hint, instead of explaining to them that you're not interested.

Avatar MIA

I'm ugly but wealthy. Went out with a ghost once. Saw right through her.

wurzlitzer

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/valley-girl-brain/201507/the-strange-psychology-ghosting

Yeah but this blanking went on for two weeks with the most plausible & frustrating of excuses

When I challenged the ghost on above article & whether they had cojones they were quick to iniate a meet up to have a chat I must of stepped on their grave right on their cojones

andekwarhola

Closest I got to it was years ago meeting some woman that I'd very drunkenly agreed to meet a few nights before. She was acting strange all through the date and then dragged me to this bar with some very weird people there who all knew her and seemed to be mad, criminal types, one of which was not pleased to see me at all. Presumed he might have been an ex or something or maybe I was being brought there to wind him up. I went up for a round but legged it out the side door and never saw her again. Thankfully no mobiles in those days.

Pity - short term - as she was gorgeous.

Somebody was shot dead in the bar not long after and it's been closed for years now.

Damien360

3 pages and I still haven't a notion what ghosting is !

whatawaster81

Damien360 wrote: »

3 pages and I still haven't a notion what ghosting is !

AFAIK It's a disappearing act, vanishing off the face of the earth.

wurzlitzer

Follow the link
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/valley-girl-brain/201507/the-strange-psychology-ghosting

And

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/living-forward/201511/why-ghosting-hurts-so-much

Aint Eazy Being Cheezy

Damien360 wrote: »

3 pages and I still haven't a notion what ghosting is !

If you change your settings to 40 posts per page then you'll still be on page one.

wurzlitzer

andekwarhola wrote: »

Closest I got to it was years ago meeting some woman that I'd very drunkenly agreed to meet a few nights before. She was acting strange all through the date and then dragged me to this bar with some very weird people there who all knew her and seemed to be mad, criminal types, one of which was not pleased to see me at all. Presumed he might have been an ex or something or maybe I was being brought there to wind him up. I went up fround but legged it out the side door and never saw her again. Thankfully no mobiles in those days.

Pity - short term - as she was gorgeous.

Somebody was shot dead in the bar not long after and it's been closed for years now.

Add your reply here.
Lol that's not ghosting that's getting the hell out of dodge you did what you had to do

Ghosting is fading away out of a relationship My situation was two weeks after a three month stint Dating really

The fact we did not have anyone in common made it easier for them to fade

There was no break up chat

mightyreds

I did it once going out with this artisy type girl bought an apartment and renovated it but in the space of a week we were mugged walking home and the apartment was ransacked, it was too much to handle and I just ghosted out after that

whatawaster81

Wasn't her was it?

It is a sign of a coward and the person at the receiving end can take comfort in the fact that who they were dating wasn't such a catch after all.

DareGod

If only there was a way to find out what something means....

One day they'll invent it.

wurzlitzer

mightyreds wrote: »

I did it once going out with this artisy type girl bought an apartment and renovated it but in the space of a week we were mugged walking home and the apartment was ransacked, it was too much to handle and I just ghosted out after that

Add your reply here.

What! You mean you started flaking out! Stress does that I realise that now! But why does stress cause this flakiness

Fade out by radio head beginning to sound more meaningful

wurzlitzer

DareGod wrote: »

If only there was a way to find out what something means....

One day they'll invent it.

Add your reply here.

http://lmgtfy.com/?q=Ghosting

DareGod

DareGod wrote: »

Don't feel too bad. It's not like we were taught in school how to break up with someone. It's difficult to be on either side of the situation.

Hopefully we were taught to be decent human beings. It's not about not knowing what to do, it's about being mature and honest enough to say "I'm sorry but....".

Sh1tbag OToole

I have an app almost finished for my phone that detects this (and will soon be sold on the Play store as soon as I get my beanbag office in a start-up incubation centre in Dublin).

It's currently detecting 25 ghosters in my contact list

Hugo Stiglitz

Deleted User wrote: »

It is a sign of a coward and the person at the receiving end can take comfort in the fact that who they were dating wasn't such a catch after all.

Well said, P!

It can also happen in non-dating relationships too, which could be almost worse in a way.

mightyreds

wurzlitzer wrote: »

Add your reply here.

What! You mean you started flaking out! Stress does that I realise that now! But why does stress cause this flakiness

Fade out by radio head beginning to sound more meaningful

Yeah but once I got my head straight and realised what was going on, I enlisted the help of friend to sort out the mess, the girl was skeptical at first about the help but we got it sorted and I disappeared into the white light on good terms

wurzlitzer

[Deleted User] wrote: »

There is a difference. The person in the street won't be left hurt and wondering why. The person you ghost on more than likely will be.

Ugh. I just can't stand some people's attitudes.

Well the funny thing is when I text them the link about ghosting and having cojones they were quick to reply to meet for a chat

It was like I stepped on their grave right on the cojones

I have broken up with people but always to their face.

I was brought to be be upfront and to have integrity

Is the person afraid of being shown in a bad light!

I can take the rejection what I could not take was the not knowing, they could have been in a coma for all I knew lol

Guess integrity goes out the window these days we live in a throwaway culture

Live and learn or experience

DareGod

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Hopefully we were taught to be decent human beings. It's not about not knowing what to do, it's about being mature and honest enough to say "I'm sorry but....".

To be one, yes, but not "how" to be one.

I think it's unfair to suggest that someone is not a decent human being just because they ****ed up a difficult situation that they were never educated on how to handle.

CaraMay

DareGod wrote: »

To be one, yes, but not "how" to be one.

I think it's unfair to suggest that someone is not a decent human being just because they ****ed up a difficult situation that they were never educated on how to handle.

What a cop out!!! Who is ever taught how to dump someone?!?!

DareGod

DareGod wrote: »

To be one, yes, but not "how" to be one.

I think it's unfair to suggest that someone is not a decent human being just because they ****ed up a difficult situation that they were never educated on how to handle.

Personally I think it speaks volumes of a person's character.

DareGod

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Personally I think it speaks volumes of a person's character.

Personally I think that being judgemental of other people's personal failings speaks volumes of a person's character.

wurzlitzer

mightyreds wrote: »

Yeah but once I got my head straight and realised what was going on, I enlisted the help of friend to sort out the mess, the girl was skeptical at first about the help but we got it sorted and I disappeared into the white light on good terms

Glad it worked out, but that's kinda of not ghosting that's realising this is not what I want and you then girlfriend realised you were freaking out.

Ghosting is seeing someone with enthusiasm then completely vanishing or fading by making half assed excuses instead of meeting up to break up or end it all

You had the courage to employ a facilitator to help you communicate what you needed to do

A ghost lacks the balls and the courage to do what's right

CaraMay

DareGod wrote: »

Personally I think that being judgemental of other people's personal failings speaks volumes of a person's character.

Not 1/2 as much as the persons flawed caracter

DareGod

DareGod wrote: »

Personally I think that being judgemental of other people's personal failings speaks volumes of a person's character.

You are very much entitled to hold that view DareGod.

DareGod

CaraMay wrote: »

What a cop out!!! Who is ever taught how to dump someone?!?!

That's far too many exclamation marks.

Back on topic. We all learn how to treat people from our environment. Lots of people haven't had the wonderfully, emotionally educational upbringing that the rest of us have had, and end up treating others less than perfectly as a result. If you choose to judge them for that that's your prerogative.

DareGod

CaraMay wrote: »

Not 1/2 as much as the persons flawed caracter

I think your opinion on this is horrifically immature.

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There's a term for that? I always just assumed it was called not bothering to text back and then you sort of forget you ever were talking to them