"Visiting escorts can save a marriage"

Chefrio · 08-01-2014 3:04pm #1

I was browsing the escort Ireland forum for sh1ts and giggles and noticed an interesting thread about your first time with an escort or a client. It was mentioned by a few that visiting escorts saved their marriage.

Do you think this happens much and is the marriage really saved? I have mixed feelings on matter, think it probably could save some who are in sexless but otherwise happy marriages. But deception ain't cool.

howamidifferent · 08-01-2014 3:07pm

Would a volkswagon work just as well?

WilyCoyote · 08-01-2014 3:07pm

I believe that this can happen. If there are hang ups on either the hubby or wife's brain, a little on the side could help

Banjo String · 08-01-2014 3:08pm

Chefrio wrote: »

I was browsing the escort Ireland forum for sh1ts and giggles and noticed an interesting thread about your first time with an escort or a client. It was mentioned by a few that visiting escorts saved their marriage.

Do you think this happens much and is the marriage really saved? I have mixed feelings on matter, think it probably could save some who are in sexless but otherwise happy marriages. But deception ain't cool.

I can't imagine a marriage counsellor advocating visiting one tbh.

08-01-2014 3:10pm

I wonder what take their partners have on it, except I doubt they know for the most part.

I'm sure it happens, but it's also a self serving statement.

Tzardine · 08-01-2014 3:10pm

Banjo String wrote: »

I can't imagine a marriage counsellor advocating visiting one tbh.

Joking aside , imagine one partner stopped having any desire for sex. I imagine an escort would be an easier and cheaper option in the mind of many .

I am pie · 08-01-2014 3:11pm

Aye sure, just browsing for a bit of a laugh was it....suurrre.

08-01-2014 3:11pm

Strituck wrote: »

Joking aside , imagine one partner stopped having any desire for sex. I imagine an escort would be an easier and cheaper option in the mind of many .

Easier and cheaper doesn't always equal the best answer.

As my neighbour with the newly repaired, but still leaky roof will tell you.

WilyCoyote · 08-01-2014 3:14pm

Candie wrote: »

Easier and cheaper doesn't always equal the best answer.

As my neighbour with the newly repaired, but still leaky roof will tell you.

It's cheaper than psychoanalysis. And more enjoyable!

Czarcasm · 08-01-2014 3:16pm

Chefrio wrote: »

I was browsing the escort Ireland forum for sh1ts and giggles and noticed an interesting thread about your first time with an escort or a client. It was mentioned by a few that visiting escorts saved their marriage.

Do you think this happens much and is the marriage really saved? I have mixed feelings on matter, think it probably could save some who are in sexless but otherwise happy marriages. But deception ain't cool.

It happens an awful lot that people fool themselves into thinking their marriage was saved by merely having their sexual desires fulfilled by a third party. The only thing that saves a marriage is when the people involved in the marriage choose to work on their marriage. Otherwise they're best just call it a day and stop kidding themselves.

SV · 08-01-2014 3:19pm

Absolutely ridiculous and people just looking to justify to themselves what they did, when the reality is they're cheating lying scumbags.

08-01-2014 3:19pm

"Visiting escorts can save a marriage"
"Blowing 500 on a secret alcohol/gambling binge every so often can save a marriage"
"Having a secret abortion can save a marriage"
"Keeping the fact that you hate your partner a secret can save your marriage"

Alf Veedersane · 08-01-2014 3:20pm

howamidifferent wrote: »

Would a volkswagon work just as well?

Probably.

They have a higher sex drive.

dark crystal · 08-01-2014 3:21pm

The only time it could work, is if there is a physical reason either the husband or wife could not have sex and they fully consented to their partner sleeping with an escort.

Deceit can never work in a marriage.

Alf Veedersane · 08-01-2014 3:23pm

dark crystal wrote: »

Deceit can never work in a marriage.

I disagree.

Exhibit A: "No, your bum does not look big in that!"

08-01-2014 3:23pm

For every marriage saved by visiting escorts, I wonder how many have been ruined.

IvyTheTerrible · 08-01-2014 3:25pm

It sounds to me like a similar self-serving platitude to "We're living separate lives" said to a mistress by a married man.

Daqster · 08-01-2014 3:27pm

Chefrio wrote: »

I was browsing the escort Ireland forum for sh1ts and giggles ..

The fcukers, they told me they wouldn't do that.

SEPT 23 1989 · 08-01-2014 3:28pm

I don't know how a completely sexless marriage could be a happy one

Tasden · 08-01-2014 3:32pm

Czarcasm wrote: »

It happens an awful lot that people fool themselves into thinking their marriage was saved by merely having their sexual desires fulfilled by a third party. The only thing that saves a marriage is when the people involved in the marriage choose to work on their marriage. Otherwise they're best just call it a day and stop kidding themselves.

But if working on their marriage involves a mutual agreement regarding the use of escorts then that can save the marriage.

I think that every relationship is different and as long as both partners are genuinely OK with it then whatever works for them.

Using them without your partner knowing- hell no.

Czarcasm · 08-01-2014 3:44pm

Tasden wrote: »

But if working on their marriage involves a mutual agreement regarding the use of escorts then that can save the marriage.

I think that every relationship is different and as long as both partners are genuinely OK with it then whatever works for them.

Using them without your partner knowing- hell no.

That's less saving their marriage and more just redefining their relationship. Then it's just a marriage by name and not by nature.

I have no issue with people redefining what their marriage means to them, more power to them and all, but the suggestion by anyone that escorts save marriages is about as valid as those e-mails that say with some magic beans I can add inches to my mickey.

Fred Swanson · 08-01-2014 3:46pm

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Tasden · 08-01-2014 3:49pm

Czarcasm wrote: »

That's less saving their marriage and more just redefining their relationship. Then it's just a marriage by name and not by nature.

I have no issue with people redefining what their marriage means to them, more power to them and all, but the suggestion by anyone that escorts save marriages is about as valid as those e-mails that say with some magic beans I can add inches to my mickey.

Well have you tried the magic beans? :pac:

Fair enough it might be more redefining your marriage, but if it makes both the married partners happy in the arrangement they now have then I'd personally see it as a saved marriage. Marriage in the traditional sense maybe not, but their particular marriage and how they want it to be yeah.

Legs.Eleven · 08-01-2014 3:51pm

You automatically ruin your marriage by going off with an escort. It's the very definition of a ruined relationship that you would rather deceive your partner and sleep with someone else than either sort it out or end it. Getting your rocks off with a prostitute does nothing but scratch an itch and telling yourself it's anything more profound than that instead of admitting to yourself what it's really about makes you a selfish arsehole.

Alf Veedersane · 08-01-2014 3:53pm

Legs.Eleven wrote: »

Getting your rocks off with a prostitute does nothing but scratch an itch

Prostitution: the cause of and solution to life's itches.

catallus · 08-01-2014 3:55pm

The real deception that is going on is the one in which people tell themselves that life-long marriage to one person is a valid societal construct.

Pumpkinseeds · 08-01-2014 3:56pm

Anyone else read the thread title as VIKING escort? No, just me?:o

Daqster · 08-01-2014 3:59pm

SEPT 23 1989 wrote: »

I don't know how a completely sexless marriage could be a happy one

That's a shame, I hope one day you will.

EDIT: Didn't mean that I hope one day you'd have a sexless marriage, but that I hope one day you'd understand how someone could be happy in one.

Czarcasm · 08-01-2014 4:03pm

Pumpkinseeds wrote: »

Anyone else read the thread title as VIKING escort? No, just me?:o

Well, you managed to get a firm grasp of the association between escorts and vikings having their helmets and horns polished...

Thread could explode at any minute with that sort of inyourendoh!

smellslikeshoes · 08-01-2014 4:05pm

I think you need to put yourself in the shoes of a man in a sexless or essentially sexless marriage before you criticize. You love your wife deeply but since you got married and had maybe 2-3 kids the sex has completely evaporated. What are you supposed to do, Trying to convince someone who doesn't think there is anything wrong to go to marriage counseling? If someone has made up their mind that they don't want sex anymore no amount of counseling is going to help. Divorce her? That's an option I suppose but then you have to deal with how unfair divorce generally is for men, forced out of the house you paid for and have a draconian maintenance order imposed upon you and barely get to see your kids.

Or go see Candi the escort twice a month.

I Heart Internet · 08-01-2014 4:07pm

Don't do it OP.

It'll fall off.

"Visiting escorts can save a marriage"

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