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miamee · 13-06-2013 01:08PM

eviltwin wrote: »

Next time hire someone else!!!!!!

Good point!

cantdecide · 13-06-2013 01:22PM

It's not impossible that someone on the autistic spectrum might do something like that.N ot making excuses for him. .. nacho problem of course. If he makes you uncomfortable, pick up the phone book.

username123 · 18-06-2013 02:08PM

Just had a recruitment agent shout down the phone at me regarding an employment gap in my CV when I returned to full time education, "I SAW THE GAP AND THOUGHT YOU WERE OFF HAVING BABIES FOR A COUPLE OF YEARS".

I mean seriously, would he have said that to a man?

iwantmydinner · 18-06-2013 05:30PM

username123 wrote: »

Just had a recruitment agent shout down the phone at me regarding an employment gap in my CV when I returned to full time education, "I SAW THE GAP AND THOUGHT YOU WERE OFF HAVING BABIES FOR A COUPLE OF YEARS".

I mean seriously, would he have said that to a man?

UUUUGGGGHHHHH!!!!!!

And no, no he wouldn't have said that to a man. So much rage.

Pandora2 · 18-06-2013 05:50PM

On resigning from a position, my soon to be ex-boss of 8 and a half Years asked me if my Husband of some 2 Years was in agreement with my decision!! I replied 'Yes, he is in full agreement, he's met you!!'

upandcumming · 18-06-2013 10:01PM

Pandora2 wrote: »

On resigning from a position, my soon to be ex-boss of 8 and a half Years asked me if my Husband of some 2 Years was in agreement with my decision!! I replied 'Yes, he is in full agreement, he's met you!!'

I don't think that is that sexist. It is a big decision that could affect both husband and wife.

meeeeh · 18-06-2013 10:07PM

upandcumming wrote: »

I don't think that is that sexist. It is a big decision that could affect both husband and wife.

Yes. My partner used to say that if somebody was acting up at work often a good talk with wife over the weekend would make them come to their senses.

I don't know if the comment above was meant to be sexist but I mostly heard simmilar stuff being directed at men.

I always worked in male dominated environment so there were a few. But mostly jokes like: why is the wedding dress white? Because most of domestic appliances are... Comments about what I was wearing or people starring at my breasts were pretty common too. A lot of very crude stuff and not that much of more hidden sexism.

Pandora2 · 18-06-2013 10:32PM

meeeeh wrote: »

Yes. My partner used to say that if somebody was acting up at work often a good talk with wife over the weekend would make them come to their senses.

I don't know if the comment above was meant to be sexist but I mostly heard simmilar stuff being directed at men.

I was not married when I interviewed for the job, when it was offered to me and for the following 6 Years. As a grown adult, whatever conversations were necessary regarding my future were my business and not his to enquire about! It is possible were I male he would have asked me my wife's position but somehow I doubt it!! He never asked me at interview what my other half would think if I accepted the job!!

meeeeh · 18-06-2013 10:41PM

It possibly was sexist, I'm not denying it. But first thing that I thought of when I've read that comment was how often I've heard it but mostly directed at men. It's just a comment that kind of stayed engraved in my mind because I never actually heard it before I moved to Ireland. I think people here perceive couples more as a unit in general.

Esoteric_ · 19-06-2013 07:45AM

From family - sure why aren't you married and having kids yet, you're getting on a bit and men don't like older women.

I'VE JUST TURNED TWENTY FCUKING FOUR!!

kylith · 19-06-2013 08:55AM

Esoteric_ wrote: »

From family - sure why aren't you married and having kids yet, you're getting on a bit and men don't like older women.

I'VE JUST TURNED TWENTY FCUKING FOUR!!

Just you wait. I'm nearly 31 and casually mentioned the OH and I had discussed having children. Now every time I see my dad he asks "Why aren't you pregnant yet?"

lazygal · 19-06-2013 09:53AM

Something I've noticed is women who give out about their partners not doing anything around the house, but refusing to do anything about it, even talking to them about it. There's an attitude from some women that 'all men are useless' and can't be trusted with jobs like cleaning, minding their own children or other household tasks. When I ask why they don't share the duties at home they draw a blank and pull out the old 'Ah sure they never see the dirt, they'd have the place in bits'. It's not even an older generation thing, I'm in my early 30s and have heard my contemporaries saying the same things.

Tigger99 · 19-06-2013 10:55AM

There is alright and I've picked up women on this. It's very unfair. In my experience it's down to a lack of confidence that they don't want to delegate responsibility for certain household tasks.

kylith · 19-06-2013 10:58AM

Tigger99 wrote: »

There is alright and I've picked up women on this. It's very unfair. In my experience it's down to a lack of confidence that they don't want to delegate responsibility for certain household tasks.

Or don't want to be thought to be nagging

19-06-2013 07:15PM

lazygal wrote: »

Something I've noticed is women who give out about their partners not doing anything around the house, but refusing to do anything about it, even talking to them about it. There's an attitude from some women that 'all men are useless' and can't be trusted with jobs like cleaning, minding their own children or other household tasks. When I ask why they don't share the duties at home they draw a blank and pull out the old 'Ah sure they never see the dirt, they'd have the place in bits'. It's not even an older generation thing, I'm in my early 30s and have heard my contemporaries saying the same things.

Some people love to play the martyr.

riveratom · 19-06-2013 07:21PM

Whispered wrote: »

Walking through my town, lost in my thoughts, an old man passing me stepped in front of me and roared "IT WOULDN'T KILL YOU TO SMILE" then walked away.

He wouldn't have done it if I was a man. I'm almost sure of it.

Uncanny I spotted this post as I only read this article yesterday!! Very, very interesting.

http://www.slate.com/articles/double_x/doublex/2013/06/bitchy_resting_face_and_female_niceness_why_do_women_have_to_smile_more.html

Vojera · 19-06-2013 09:03PM

Tigger99 wrote: »

There is alright and I've picked up women on this. It's very unfair. In my experience it's down to a lack of confidence that they don't want to delegate responsibility for certain household tasks.

That and how often do you hear people blame a man for a dirty house?

WindSock · 10-07-2013 03:25PM

I won't bother starting a new thread, but I found this link interesting. Look at all those Tweets, probably only a fraction of what is out there.

http://publicshaming.tumblr.com/post/54864863081/womens-wimbledon-champion-marion-bartoli-deemed

username123 · 10-07-2013 03:39PM

WindSock wrote: »

I won't bother starting a new thread, but I found this link interesting. Look at all those Tweets, probably only a fraction of what is out there.

http://publicshaming.tumblr.com/post/54864863081/womens-wimbledon-champion-marion-bartoli-deemed

Christ thats appalling.

eviltwin · 10-07-2013 03:48PM

username123 wrote: »

Christ thats appalling.

And some from women! :eek:

username123 · 10-07-2013 04:14PM

eviltwin wrote: »

And some from women! :eek:

Although some of the comments are definitely sexist, using the internet for hate speech seems to be an equal opportunity situation these days. I dont tend to use sites where you see a lot of what I would consider to be disgusting bullying hate speech (sexist or not) - but it does exist and the internet by its nature facilitates it.

iwantmydinner · 10-07-2013 04:25PM

WindSock wrote: »

I won't bother starting a new thread, but I found this link interesting. Look at all those Tweets, probably only a fraction of what is out there.

http://publicshaming.tumblr.com/post/54864863081/womens-wimbledon-champion-marion-bartoli-deemed

Oh sweef f*cking Jesus. When young lads have these attitudes... I f*cking despair. The language they're using is pretty terrifying.

10-07-2013 05:09PM

WindSock wrote: »

I won't bother starting a new thread, but I found this link interesting. Look at all those Tweets, probably only a fraction of what is out there.

http://publicshaming.tumblr.com/post/54864863081/womens-wimbledon-champion-marion-bartoli-deemed

That is nothing short of horrific.

There's so much hate out there, it's really frightening.

skyfall2012 · 10-07-2013 05:30PM

My father-in-law telling me 'why women didn't receive an education' back in his day, because 'they were of no consequence'. He would call himself a feminist, but from listening to his conversations over the years, I think he has a real issue with women, and he refers to his wife as 'wife' drives me mad.

I have had to check my husband in the past about his attitude towards women in politics, he would attack them unreservedly about their looks and how bad they were at their jobs, way more than the male politicians, learned behavior I think.

Ectoplasm · 10-07-2013 07:30PM

WindSock wrote: »

I won't bother starting a new thread, but I found this link interesting. Look at all those Tweets, probably only a fraction of what is out there.

http://publicshaming.tumblr.com/post/54864863081/womens-wimbledon-champion-marion-bartoli-deemed

That is horrific stuff. I am genuinely shocked at how vitriolic some of those tweets are! And here I thought it was bad that the British media basically forgot about their female champions...

http://m.guardian.co.uk/sport/shortcuts/2013/jul/08/virginia-wade-wimbledon-champion-tennis

Catari Jaguar · 10-07-2013 08:55PM

This video is quite terrifying. I had no idea young girls were under such pressure to conform to these heavily stereotyped and limiting roles. Disgusting consumerism. I think I hate the media/ marketing. :mad: http://vimeo.com/32278664

jank · 14-07-2013 06:52AM

Catari Jaguar wrote: »

This video is quite terrifying. I had no idea young girls were under such pressure to conform to these heavily stereotyped and limiting roles. Disgusting consumerism. I think I hate the media/ marketing. :mad: http://vimeo.com/32278664

Young girls want to do dress up and be mammy because of other girls, not because of men or boys. Tbh girls are their own worse enemy, most men couldn't give a rats ass what girls wear half the time.

skyfall2012 · 14-07-2013 09:09AM

Girls are following the reality TV shows e.g. Geordie Shore and some of what they do, it's almost like watching porn. They normalise this behavior and girls emulate them. My advise is get rid of your TV, let your kids watch DVDs or Netflix, but don't have this crap streaming into your sitting room 24/7. Because its not pressure it is influence.

14-07-2013 09:50AM

jank wrote: »

Young girls want to do dress up and be mammy because of other girls

skyfall2012 wrote: »

Girls are following the reality TV shows e.g. Geordie Shore and some of what they do, it's almost like watching porn. They normalise this behavior and girls emulate them

I tend to give girls a bit more credit.

skyfall2012 · 14-07-2013 09:53AM

Candie wrote: »

I tend to give girls a bit more credit.

Don't suggest that I don't give girls credit, I am a girl. People men/women/boys/girls are influenced by marketing and media it is a fact.

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