What makes someone a failure at life?

Dejvice · 14-03-2013 09:03PM

dark crystal wrote: »

Not you though, I bet.

Guess you are sensitive about a few things onthe list too.

regards.

Dejvice · 14-03-2013 09:06PM

eamonnq wrote: »

Ah....why didn't you just say that in your post? It would have saved the confusion.

No problem old chap, happy to oblige.

sorsha · 14-03-2013 09:08PM

This world is a failure, so I am not sure if to be successful (wealthy -famous -have power?) is a real success..maybe not be a failure means just to be happy, but how can you be fully happy when things are so wrong around?
Today I saw someone driving over a dog on the road - could be avoided.. and I have lost probably a good job offer because of that -will be off work for another while because I took that dog to vet.
Am I a failure?

eamonnq · 14-03-2013 09:10PM

I have a desire to be a functioning alcoholic now..............damn you!! There I was tapping away being all 'non-desirous' and now I feel like a failure.................better bring the kids down the pub, have a few smokes and see if I can cheat on the wife while I let myself go.

Sounds like a plan now, better not forget the not doing ' it ' bit now as well so that I have the full house.

Dejvice · 14-03-2013 09:12PM

eamonnq wrote: »

I have a desire to be a functioning alcoholic now..............damn you!! There I was tapping away being all 'non-desirous' and now I feel like a failure.................better bring the kids down the pub, have a few smokes and see if I can cheat on the wife while I let myself go.

Sounds like a plan now, better not forget the not doing ' it ' bit now as well so that I have the full house.

Carry on.

Madam_X · 14-03-2013 10:11PM

Dejvice wrote: »

Failures
Functional alcoholics (look that one up, loads of you out there).
Men and women ´who let themselves go' (see functional alcoholics).
Parents who bring their kids to the pub.
Smokers (any dependency is a weakness).
Men who cheat on their partner.
Women who cheat on their partner.
Married couples not doing it after 10 years marraige (loads of you out there).

That about covers the lot. Most people are failures in some way.

Dejvice wrote: »

Guess I touched a sensitive issue for you.

Regards

Dejvice wrote: »

Guess you are sensitive about a few things onthe list too.

regards.

Being this miserable that you'd project it onto others = being a failture.

Dejvice · 14-03-2013 10:58PM

Madam_X wrote: »

Being this miserable that you'd project it onto others = being a failture.

Really? That so nice from you. Thanks.
Which one on the list are you?

Czarcasm · 14-03-2013 11:14PM

Dejvice wrote: »

Really? That so nice from you. Thanks.
Which one on the list are you?

People who seek out failure in others. It would serve them better to examine their own life and see how they could improve as a person.

Working on their bitter attitude towards other people would be a good start.

Madam_X · 14-03-2013 11:24PM

Dejvice wrote: »

Which one on the list are you?

Why do you keep saying you reckon people who dispute you on a discussion forum belong somewhere on your list? It could be argued they're failings (apart from the not having sex after 10 years of marriage one - if physical attraction goes, despite working on it, that's hardly something people can control) but to err is to be human, and it's not unreasonable to disagree that one of these failings constitutes being a failure at life.
You, like us all, have failings, but you don't think you are a failure at life based on them alone.

ArtSmart · 14-03-2013 11:30PM

Hercule Poirot wrote: »

Someone who is happy to sit on the dole for years and years and never bother to try working for a living

one man's meat...

(is another man's mashed potato)

ArtSmart · 14-03-2013 11:37PM

lol.

a millionaire is a failure to his billionaire friends.

etc etc.

see 'Einstein's Theory of (annoying) Relatives'.

suicide_circus · 14-03-2013 11:42PM

Someone who does not laugh

someone who does not not seek his own truth

Cienciano · 14-03-2013 11:51PM

Dejvice wrote: »

Failures
Functional alcoholics (look that one up, loads of you out there).
Men and women ´who let themselves go' (see functional alcoholics).
Parents who bring their kids to the pub.
Smokers (any dependency is a weakness).
Men who cheat on their partner.
Women who cheat on their partner.
Married couples not doing it after 10 years marraige (loads of you out there).

That about covers the lot. Most people are failures in some way.

"That about covers the lot"???
So being a serial killer who kidnaps and keeps people in an old well in the basement, gets them to moisturize regularly (by lowering the moisturiser down to them in a bucket on a rope) and then kills them to wear their skin as garments is ok, but bringing your kid to a pub is not?
Your morals are weird

Dejvice · 15-03-2013 09:19AM

Czarcasm wrote: »

People who seek out failure in others. It would serve them better to examine their own life and see how they could improve as a person.

Working on their bitter attitude towards other people would be a good start.

Wow. Another one. Was not expecting this. Which one's hit your button?

Dejvice · 15-03-2013 09:25AM

Madam_X wrote: »

Why do you keep saying you reckon people who dispute you on a discussion forum belong somewhere on your list? It could be argued they're failings (apart from the not having sex after 10 years of marriage one - if physical attraction goes, despite working on it, that's hardly something people can control) but to err is to be human, and it's not unreasonable to disagree that one of these failings constitutes being a failure at life.
You, like us all, have failings, but you don't think you are a failure at life based on them alone.

Never said I had no failings. Never said or reckoned people who disputed me are on my failure list.
Nevertheless, you can carry on.

Regards.

Dejvice · 15-03-2013 09:30AM

Cienciano wrote: »

"That about covers the lot"???
So being a serial killer who kidnaps and keeps people in an old well in the basement, gets them to moisturize regularly (by lowering the moisturiser down to them in a bucket on a rope) and then kills them to wear their skin as garments is ok, but bringing your kid to a pub is not?
Your morals are weird

Opps......forgot that one.
So which ones are you?

Regards.

eamonnq · 15-03-2013 09:36AM

Dejvice wrote: »

Opps......forgot that one.
So which ones are you?

Regards.

Which one are you ?

Just post a list on the internet and then if anyone responds ask them the question above.

So which one are YOU ???!!! :rolleyes:

Madam_X · 15-03-2013 09:37AM

Dejvice wrote: »

Never said I had no failings.

But you did say people are failures at life for making any of the mistakes you listed. One failing doesn't make a person a failure at life though. If that's the case, we're all failures at life, including you.

Never said or reckoned people who disputed me are on my failure list.

Actually you did. You keep on implying to anyone who disputes you that they must obviously be on your list. It's possible that they can view what you're saying as very unreasonable without any of it applying to them.

Dejvice · 15-03-2013 09:53AM

Madam_X wrote: »

But you did say people are failures at life for making any of the mistakes you listed. One failing doesn't make a person a failure at life though. If that's the case, we're all failures at life, including you.

Actually you did. You keep on implying to anyone who disputes you that they must obviously be on your list. It's possible that they can view what you're saying as very unreasonable without any of it applying to them.

Wow.

Never said that I was not a failure.
Never implied anything, asked a question but did not imply anything.
What i will say is that the list I posted probably some of the points apply to most people.
Carry on.
Opps forgot........ Have a nice day.

Dejvice · 15-03-2013 10:00AM

eamonnq wrote: »

Which one are you ?

Just post a list on the internet and then if anyone responds ask them the question above.

So which one are YOU ???!!! :rolleyes:

None.

Regards

Czarcasm · 15-03-2013 10:16AM

Dejvice wrote: »

Wow. Another one. Was not expecting this. Which one's hit your button?

Well apart from the points on your list that would apply to women, then all of them at one point or another.

See thing is, it depends on your own perspective of yourself, how you quantify success or indeed failure.

I could fill an A4 refill pad with lists and lists of failures; I could fill another TEN A4 refill pads with lists and lists of regrets.

I'd struggle to make a half page paragraph were I to list what I personally would see as my successes, but it's what those successes have meant to me and the impact they've had on my life, that by far outweigh the impact of the many numerous failures, and I tend not to dwell on regrets.

I don't measure myself of other people's failures either like you do with your cute litte "NOT to-do" list.

15-03-2013 10:22AM

Dejvice wrote: »

None.

Regards

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stateofflux · 15-03-2013 10:23AM

"What can it matter to me, that I succeed or fail? The undertaking is none of mine, if they want me to succeed I’ll fail, and vise versa, so as not to be rid of my tormentors."--- beckett

Kev_2012 · 15-03-2013 10:33AM

Someone whose occupation is listed on Facebook as being a "full tym MAD Basterd"

dark crystal · 15-03-2013 11:35AM

Dejvice wrote: »

Wow.

Never said that I was not a failure.
Never implied anything, asked a question but did not imply anything.
What i will say is that the list I posted probably some of the points apply to most people.
Carry on.
Opps forgot........ Have a nice day.

This is getting ridiculous now. What you're basically saying is that anyone who has a vice is a failure at life - that's rubbish pure and simple.

For instance, people who smoked include:

Winston Churchill
Thomas Edison
Albert Einstein
Sigmund Freud
Franklin D Roosevelt
John F Kennedy
George Orwell
Oscar Wilde
Jean-Paul Sartre
Frank Sinatra
John Lennon
Bob Dylan
Alfred Hitchcock
Pablo Picasso

The fact they smoked makes them failures at life and therefore negates all their other achievements?

Ulysses Grant, Frank Sinatra, Truman Capote, Orson Welles, Johnny Cash, Charles Bukowski, Buzz Aldrin, Stephen King, were all functioning alcoholics either at some point during or all during their lives. Does this make them failures?

Being human doesn't make you a failure at life - not making peace with the fact we all fail sometimes can, though. If you strive for perfection in life, expect to fail.

notnumber · 15-03-2013 11:42AM

Living on your own with no electricity for 29 years?? ..what a sad existence or maybe he is happy who knows..I would consider this existing without enjoying life ..

http://blogs.reuters.com/photographers-blog/2011/11/28/living-without-electricity-for-29-years/

Gloomtastic! · 15-03-2013 11:44AM

Cienciano wrote: »

"That about covers the lot"???
So being a serial killer who kidnaps and keeps people in an old well in the basement, gets them to moisturize regularly (by lowering the moisturiser down to them in a bucket on a rope) and then kills them to wear their skin as garments is ok, but bringing your kid to a pub is not?
Your morals are weird

Doesn't it depend on wether he's ever caught to decide if he's a failure?

Terry1985 · 15-03-2013 11:55AM

Not paying your way in life.
Expecting others to carry you, on the dole and not looking for work.

The education system and in general adulthood is supposed to turn you into
a decent contributing member of society.

HHobo · 15-03-2013 12:01PM

Someone who is dead.

Czarcasm · 15-03-2013 12:35PM

Kev_2012 wrote: »

Someone whose occupation is listed on Facebook as being a "full tym MAD Basterd"

Christ! Thread winner surely! :pac:

What makes someone a failure at life?

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