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The Online Dating Thread Part II **Mod Warning** Read First Post/or Post 7389

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    #5492
    tatumkelly
    Registered Users Posts: 713 ✭✭✭tatumkelly


    Well said JimBob... sometimes I look at profiles, and I'm just too lazy to send an email, so it may not be anything you're doing wrong at all. Besides, remember that you don't need several emails... just one, from someone lovely :)


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    #5493
    KTRIC
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,463 ✭✭✭KTRIC


    Seems to be a feast or famine for me, nothing for months and now this week alone have two old flames contact me out of the blue and two potentials from okc all within a couple of days. To top it off girls trying to chat me up and give me the eye when I'm out.

    I think I won money and no one told me! !!


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    #5494
    JimBob777
    Registered Users Posts: 73 ✭✭JimBob777


    Thanks,
    I just find that even though you should be confident in yourself and not criticise yourself too much but..., you should always be open minded enough to see what your doing wrong and don't put it down to your looks/personality or other people...., maybe ones's best looks and personality arent shining through potentially?.. :confused:
    of course this also applies to many other things in life, including real life dating....
    and just as i gave that bit of advice, i got a message on 1 of the sites. good karma!!?! :)
    another "hi, how are you" though :mad: haha..


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    #5495
    tatumkelly
    Registered Users Posts: 713 ✭✭✭tatumkelly


    KTRIC wrote: »
    Seems to be a feast or famine for me, nothing for months and now this week alone have two old flames contact me out of the blue and two potentials from okc all within a couple of days. To top it off girls trying to chat me up and give me the eye when I'm out.

    I think I won money and no one told me! !!

    That's always the way. Lucky you...enjoy the feast :)

    when you find out how much you won, we might talk about going on a date on your new yacht:o


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    #5496
    tatumkelly
    Registered Users Posts: 713 ✭✭✭tatumkelly


    JimBob777 wrote: »
    Thanks,
    I just find that even though you should be confident in yourself and not criticise yourself too much but..., you should always be open minded enough to see what your doing wrong and don't put it down to your looks/personality or other people...., maybe ones's best looks and personality arent shining through potentially?.. :confused:
    of course this also applies to many other things in life, including real life dating....
    and just as i gave that bit of advice, i got a message on 1 of the sites. good karma!!?! :)
    another "hi, how are you" though :mad: haha..

    Wise words. It's not a good idea to let other people's behaviour impact on our own thoughts/feelings.... don't look for the negative in everything....


    :)


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    #5497
    Maguined
    Registered Users Posts: 8,247 ✭✭✭Maguined


    stupidusername wrote: »
    Doesn't sound like a fob off to me Honey. especially if he's ringing you. the reality is if he's hurt, he may not know when he'll be better.

    I agree that it was probably not a fob off but I would agree with Honey's initial decision to probably ignore the guy. It's not the fact he was injured but the lack of consideration as he only told her on the day. She specifically texted him the night before and he should of texted back letting her know then that he injured himself and he might not be able to make the date. Not telling people you can't make plans until the last minute is just flaky and inconsiderate behaviour and would not be very attractive to me so I would probably lose interest after that to be honest.


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    #5498
    Armaghmagic
    Registered Users Posts: 1,040 ✭✭✭Armaghmagic


    Just wondering would it be easier to meet people off this then get chatting on POF?

    Male, 25, Louth!


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    #5499
    KTRIC
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,463 ✭✭✭KTRIC


    What do you guys think of the whole "i'm just looking for friends at the moment and see where it goes thing" ?

    Someone I've been messaging on and off for a while , now turned to emails but she tells me she's not looking for a relationship.


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    #5500
    The Big Red Button
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,390 ✭✭✭The Big Red Button


    Maguined wrote: »
    I agree that it was probably not a fob off but I would agree with Honey's initial decision to probably ignore the guy. It's not the fact he was injured but the lack of consideration as he only told her on the day. She specifically texted him the night before and he should of texted back letting her know then that he injured himself and he might not be able to make the date. Not telling people you can't make plans until the last minute is just flaky and inconsiderate behaviour and would not be very attractive to me so I would probably lose interest after that to be honest.

    But sure he only injured it the night before? Could've been out drinking, and only injured it after he'd been talking to her. Because he rang her after, I'd be inclined to give him the benefit of the doubt here. :)


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    #5501
    awec
    Administrators Posts: 53,556 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭awec


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    #5502
    KTRIC
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,463 ✭✭✭KTRIC


    awec wrote: »
    So why is she on a dating site?

    No idea but she just disabled her profile because there was a guy on the site she previously dated and told him she didn't want a relationship, so for him not to see her profile she disabled it !!! I'm really confused. :confused:

    I don't know why you would string a guy a long on a dating site to be "just friends" :rolleyes:


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    #5503
    andreac
    Registered Users Posts: 8,000 ✭✭✭andreac


    KTRIC wrote: »
    No idea but she just disabled her profile because there was a guy on the site she previously dated and told him she didn't want a relationship, so for him not to see her profile she disabled it !!! I'm really confused. :confused:

    I don't know why you would string a guy a long on a dating site to be "just friends" :rolleyes:

    To me its just a cop out or easy way of saying i dont fancy you. Or could be seeing how it goes and then waiting for something better to come along or meeting up with several people.


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    #5504
    Maguined
    Registered Users Posts: 8,247 ✭✭✭Maguined


    chatterpillar wrote: »
    But sure he only injured it the night before? Could've been out drinking, and only injured it after he'd been talking to her. Because he rang her after, I'd be inclined to give him the benefit of the doubt here. :)

    You are more forgiving than I am so. She texted him at 10pm the night and he didn't mention it. She posted up here shortly after receiving the text from him around 5pm on the date night if he hurt his ankle the night before I would still expect someone to tell me before 5pm for some consideration. At 5pm you are finishing your day and might have been getting excited about the date all night so to only be told at the last minute he is cancelling when he hurt it the night before still smacks of inconsideration to me.

    But maybe I am just getting bitter and cranky in my old age. :pac:


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    #5505
    booboo88
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,107 ✭✭✭booboo88


    JimBob777 wrote: »
    dont feel sorry for yourself, its not healthy..instead look at the things your doing wrong potentially, choice of pictures, is your profile interesting enough, are you trying too hard to impress someone with it or your messages?
    theirs always room for improvement, if somethings not working, nothing to lose by changing it up a bit...
    hope this helps :)
    Im not feeling sorry for myself, I just know when something doesnt work, and Im not one for flogging a dead horse.


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    #5506
    Armaghmagic
    Registered Users Posts: 1,040 ✭✭✭Armaghmagic


    Is there a way of checking out people with your profession (teacher in my case)?

    Also has there been any cases of 2 boards.ie members "getting it together"??


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    #5507
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭ [Deleted User]


    There's been many cases of boardsies hooking up. But just be wary that it is somewhat frowned upon (when done in "open" - I say open, as opposed to the private forums) as boards isn't a dating site.


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    #5508
    Galvasean
    Registered Users Posts: 30,746 ✭✭✭✭Galvasean


    Galvasean wrote: »
    Date for tomorrow confirmed. Looking forward to that.

    That went well. Had a few drinks in the sun. Haven't gotten any word back from her after I texted her on the way home saying it would be nice to do something like that again. Will probablyend up adding this to the list of 'enjoyable first dates that did not lead to a second'. Was still a fun though. Not like I had any other plans (audition notwithstanding).


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    #5509
    Armaghmagic
    Registered Users Posts: 1,040 ✭✭✭Armaghmagic


    Deleted User wrote: »
    There's been many cases of boardsies hooking up. But just be wary that it is somewhat frowned upon (when done in "open" - I say open, as opposed to the private forums) as boards isn't a dating site.

    How do you get onto the private forums.......women are messing with my head on POF at the minute! Meeting up a few times and then NOTHING!!


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    #5510
    The Big Red Button
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,390 ✭✭✭The Big Red Button


    Maguined wrote: »
    You are more forgiving than I am so. She texted him at 10pm the night and he didn't mention it. She posted up here shortly after receiving the text from him around 5pm on the date night if he hurt his ankle the night before I would still expect someone to tell me before 5pm for some consideration. At 5pm you are finishing your day and might have been getting excited about the date all night so to only be told at the last minute he is cancelling when he hurt it the night before still smacks of inconsideration to me.

    But maybe I am just getting bitter and cranky in my old age. :pac:

    But sure maybe he was hoping all day that it would improve enough that he wouldn't have to cancel?

    I do get where you're coming from, but if I liked the guy, I'd probably give him a second chance!


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    #5511
    Honey-ec
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,844 ✭✭✭Honey-ec


    chatterpillar wrote: »
    But sure maybe he was hoping all day that it would improve enough that he wouldn't have to cancel?

    That's what he said alright.
    chatterpillar wrote: »
    I do get where you're coming from, but if I liked the guy, I'd probably give him a second chance!

    I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt this time, but if it happens again, I'm cutting him loose!


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    #5512
    KTRIC
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,463 ✭✭✭KTRIC


    Had a date last night and another date with a different lady tonight. Very keen about this one :D


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    #5513
    ecoli
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,762 ✭✭✭✭ecoli


    booboo88 wrote: »
    Im not feeling sorry for myself, I just know when something doesnt work, and Im not one for flogging a dead horse.

    I think it depends on the approach you take. If you see OD as the primary way to meet people you are going to be consumed by over analysing of non responses and profile visits.

    Better to live your life as normal and drop in occasionally on your page. Its should supplement your social life not become the focal point.

    I approached it this way in the past but since then have lightened up. Only pop on once every few days have a gander around send a mail or two if I come across someone I like but expect a non response (due to fact I would say IMO there is about 1 in five chance of a response). These days If I get converstation out of it or even a date its a bonus but my life doesnt stop because of it.

    The more involved in it you become the more it dents your confidence so why let yourself get into that situation

    At the same time though what harm is it leaving it up even if you dont check that often. Only takes one random matchup on them sites to find someone worth finding (better chances than the lotto without any work:D)


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    #5514
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭ [Deleted User]


    Armaghmagic wrote: »
    How do you get onto the private forums.......women are messing with my head on POF at the minute! Meeting up a few times and then NOTHING!!

    Depends on the private forum. Some you have to PM the mod of and others you have to be invited to.


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    #5515
    Larianne
    Registered Users Posts: 35,954 ✭✭✭✭Larianne


    Armaghmagic wrote: »
    How do you get onto the private forums.......women are messing with my head on POF at the minute! Meeting up a few times and then NOTHING!!

    You're not going to be let into a private forum just to access female boardsies. :cool:

    POF messes with most peoples head (Have you read this thread?!).

    Maybe take a break from the online dating for a while. It does get to most people after a while.


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    #5516
    That_Guy
    Registered Users Posts: 51,342 ✭✭✭✭That_Guy


    Armaghmagic wrote: »
    Just wondering would it be easier to meet people off this then get chatting on POF?

    Male, 25, Louth

    Deal breaker tbh. :pac:


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    #5517
    That_Guy
    Registered Users Posts: 51,342 ✭✭✭✭That_Guy


    Usually Larianne asks it but.....

    Who's got a date lined up this weekend then?


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    #5518
    tatumkelly
    Registered Users Posts: 713 ✭✭✭tatumkelly


    Not yet... but I'm hopeful :D


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    #5519
    KTRIC
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,463 ✭✭✭KTRIC


    Just in the door from a date and dammmmn , she's fine :D intelligent, bubbly and well edumacated . Me thinks there'll be more.


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    #5520
    tatumkelly
    Registered Users Posts: 713 ✭✭✭tatumkelly


    YAY....delighted for you :D


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    #5521
    Larianne
    Registered Users Posts: 35,954 ✭✭✭✭Larianne


    That_Guy wrote: »
    Usually Larianne asks it but.....

    Who's got a date lined up this weekend then?

    Damn you!!!!
    KTRIC wrote: »
    Just in the door from a date and dammmmn , she's fine :D intelligent, bubbly and well edumacated . Me thinks there'll be more.

    Ah, that's great. :)


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