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The Online Dating Thread Part II **Mod Warning** Read First Post/or Post 7389

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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,584 ✭✭✭c - 13


    missbelle wrote: »
    any one want to review my profile with advice? be nice... :o

    Ill offer if you want another opinion.


  • Registered Users Posts: 494 ✭✭missbelle


    Yeah send me a link and I will have a look
    c - 13 wrote: »
    Ill offer if you want another opinion.

    pm's sent -thanks :)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,793 ✭✭✭oeb


    Profiles coming down :-P


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 35,954 ✭✭✭✭Larianne


    oeb wrote: »
    Profiles coming down :-P

    Spill..


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,793 ✭✭✭oeb


    Larianne wrote: »
    oeb wrote: »
    Profiles coming down :-P

    Spill..

    Not much to spill really. It's a girl I met offline. We have decided to give it a lash :-D


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 35,954 ✭✭✭✭Larianne


    Aw thought it might have been an online success. But Yay for you. :)


  • Registered Users Posts: 494 ✭✭missbelle


    oeb wrote: »
    Not much to spill really. It's a girl I met offline. We have decided to give it a lash :-D

    get outta here with your offline success :p

    nah, good stuff, best of luck ;)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Larianne wrote: »
    Do people look at how others answer those questions? Defo couldn't be arsed doing that now.

    I would spend a good deal of time reading through them to try and see if she would be worth messaging/the type that might want to message me back.

    I'm not the type to spam off messages to girls with a nice pic and one line that says nothing about them. Would like to get an idea of the type of person first.
    Well I've been on match.com, POF & OKC one week now and it's a tad slow to put it mildly. I've gotten around 8 messages in total from the free sites, most with no photos and all very short like 'Hi, how are you?'. I've sent our around 60 messages over the 2 sites (haven't paid for match.com yet) but got very little response.

    One thing that really gets under my skin is if a woman is even remotely attractive they will have a list of demands. Here is a rather mild example that I cut and pasted off POF:


    This girl was okay looking, nothing really special, the type of girl that would be painfully bland in any other country yet she is online acting like she is gods gift to mankind. I really don't get it.

    Has anyone else noticed the worrying trend of this sort of behaviour on these sites?

    Yeah, mainly POF though , I stay away from that the women seem well not my type anyway. As someone else said , flicking through its profiles pics is like walking through coppers or barcode or something.

    From what I can see so far with online dating over here at least is the ratio of men to women looks wise is much different compared to an offline settings. Ie there's far more decent looking guys online compared to women, the average looking women will have the pick of much better looking guys and guys will have aim for less attractive women to even get a response.

    Its definitely unbalanced.

    Whats match.com like anyway? Is it more like POF or OKC?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,264 ✭✭✭mood


    Well I've been on match.com, POF & OKC one week now and it's a tad slow to put it mildly. I've gotten around 8 messages in total from the free sites, most with no photos and all very short like 'Hi, how are you?'. I've sent our around 60 messages over the 2 sites (haven't paid for match.com yet) but got very little response.

    One thing that really gets under my skin is if a woman is even remotely attractive they will have a list of demands. Here is a rather mild example that I cut and pasted off POF:

    Bit of a closed book, kinda iffy on this online dating stuff but willing to give it a chance....
    P.s I WILL NOT REPLY IF U JUST WRITE HI HOW ARE U!!!! Some imagination pls people ;)
    ** may be coming across a bit high maintenance or up myself or whatever else..im just a straight talker, knows what i want kinda gal :) more ppl on this should try the same! lol

    I enjoy...
    Randomness
    Lil adventures
    Cocktails
    Travelling
    Good films/music
    Eating out
    Fun chats with exciting people


    I def know what I dont want ha so feel free to write if you're..
    Genuine
    Have a good sense of humour
    Spontaneous, romantic
    A bit old school
    Know how to look after yourself, i.e not too much of a Mammys boy!
    Basically not a weirdo haha

    Definitely don't write if u...
    Are nice onscreen but a creep behind it...u know who u are! Lol
    Smoke
    Have a long history on this website
    Smell
    Get VIP tables in clubs to lure girls
    Lurk in the corner of Coppers


    This girl was okay looking, nothing really special, the type of girl that would be painfully bland in any other country yet she is online acting like she is gods gift to mankind. I really don't get it.

    Has anyone else noticed the worrying trend of this sort of behaviour on these sites?

    If you don't like the sound of a girl simply don't contact her.

    And stating that you want to meet someone 'Genuine' or a non smoker is hardly demanding!


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 201 ✭✭finipops


    I close both of my POF and okcupid accounts over a week ago and probably won't set either one up again for a long while yet to come.
    missbelle wrote: »
    One of my friends went on a date with a guy one Sat night, all good so far. they were texting on the Sun, then about half 7 he texts her Hey (insert another girl's name), sorry I'm running late for meeting you see you at 8... stung :D
    That's horrible! She must have felt really gutted after that.:o


  • Registered Users Posts: 494 ✭✭missbelle


    finipops wrote: »
    That's horrible! She must have felt really gutted after that.:o

    She's really laid-back and said she didn't really care, after all they had met on a dating site and she was also messaging other guys. She has been on about 4 dates with a new guy it seems promising so hopefully he doesn't accidentally turn around and text her a message meant for someone else :cool:


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 8,867 ✭✭✭eternal


    I joined a site last night and sent loads of messages, only 4 replied. i just uploaded a photo. If I dont get any activity in a week, I am deleting it.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 249 ✭✭managerman


    Well I've been on match.com, POF & OKC one week now and it's a tad slow to put it mildly. I've gotten around 8 messages in total from the free sites, most with no photos and all very short like 'Hi, how are you?'. I've sent our around 60 messages over the 2 sites (haven't paid for match.com yet) but got very little response.

    One thing that really gets under my skin is if a woman is even remotely attractive they will have a list of demands. Here is a rather mild example that I cut and pasted off POF:

    Bit of a closed book, kinda iffy on this online dating stuff but willing to give it a chance....
    P.s I WILL NOT REPLY IF U JUST WRITE HI HOW ARE U!!!! Some imagination pls people ;)
    ** may be coming across a bit high maintenance or up myself or whatever else..im just a straight talker, knows what i want kinda gal :) more ppl on this should try the same! lol

    I enjoy...
    Randomness
    Lil adventures
    Cocktails
    Travelling
    Good films/music
    Eating out
    Fun chats with exciting people


    I def know what I dont want ha so feel free to write if you're..
    Genuine
    Have a good sense of humour
    Spontaneous, romantic
    A bit old school
    Know how to look after yourself, i.e not too much of a Mammys boy!
    Basically not a weirdo haha

    Definitely don't write if u...
    Are nice onscreen but a creep behind it...u know who u are! Lol
    Smoke
    Have a long history on this website
    Smell
    Get VIP tables in clubs to lure girls
    Lurk in the corner of Coppers


    This girl was okay looking, nothing really special, the type of girl that would be painfully bland in any other country yet she is online acting like she is gods gift to mankind. I really don't get it.

    Has anyone else noticed the worrying trend of this sort of behaviour on these sites?

    i actually know this girl!! she doesnt come across great really on pof saying that sort of stuff! but i do get where your coming from about the gods gift! she is ok looking but nothing special!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,877 ✭✭✭stripysocks85


    Laughing here at some of these things! Especially the better looking men v average looking women! Also, I don't think the girls profile above has anything wrong it per sé - nothing wrong with stating what you want/don't want. That's something i've learned from my last relationship! Always be clear about what you want/don't want - it saves hassle & hurt in the long run! No nasty surprises!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,877 ✭✭✭stripysocks85


    managerman wrote: »
    i actually know this girl!! she doesnt come across great really on pof saying that sort of stuff! but i do get where your coming from about the gods gift! she is ok looking but nothing special!
    How can you know her from a description?! Or you've seen this profile..............?!


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,877 ✭✭✭stripysocks85


    eternal wrote: »
    I joined a site last night and sent loads of messages, only 4 replied. i just uploaded a photo. If I dont get any activity in a week, I am deleting it.
    Jesus give it a chance. you definitely need a photo. I generally wouldn't reply to anyone unless they were sending me a photo right away. I'm not shallow, but there needs to be some sort of physical attraction!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 249 ✭✭managerman


    How can you know her from a description?! Or you've seen this profile..............?!

    oh i noticed her profile whilst browsing around.. i remembered the description cause i was thinking to myself, why is she writing this stuff! but i do know her in person if thats what you need to know!


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 8,867 ✭✭✭eternal


    Jesus give it a chance. you definitely need a photo. I generally wouldn't reply to anyone unless they were sending me a photo right away. I'm not shallow, but there needs to be some sort of physical attraction!
    I told you i just uploaded a photo, Im not bad looking and dont wear loads of make up either.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,877 ✭✭✭stripysocks85


    managerman wrote: »
    oh i noticed her profile whilst browsing around.. i remembered the description cause i was thinking to myself, why is she writing this stuff! but i do know her in person if thats what you need to know!
    Haha I'm just being nosy! Like I said, I don't think there's anything wrong with being explicit about what you want/don't want. I'm quite a straight talker, and would have expressed as much on my profile and I got a man from it! :P


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 8,867 ✭✭✭eternal


    managerman wrote: »
    oh i noticed her profile whilst browsing around.. i remembered the description cause i was thinking to myself, why is she writing this stuff! but i do know her in person if thats what you need to know!
    Lads ye sound like a pack of stalkers and I dont think ye should be pasting peoples profiles on here, its not fair.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,877 ✭✭✭stripysocks85


    eternal wrote: »
    I told you i just uploaded a photo, Im not bad looking and dont wear loads of make up either.
    What's the make up got to do with the price of milk? :P

    Good luck with it!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 249 ✭✭managerman


    eternal wrote: »
    Lads ye sound like a pack of stalkers and I dont think ye should be pasting peoples profiles on here, its not fair.

    i just re-posted!


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 8,867 ✭✭✭eternal


    What's the make up got to do with the price of milk? :P

    Good luck with it!
    You buy milk cos you know what youre getting. With loads of make up you dont:p


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,404 ✭✭✭✭Pembily


    Still waiting on a few replies... One cute guy who I had high hopes has stopped mailing! Ah well.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 9,463 ✭✭✭KTRIC


    Pembily wrote: »
    Still waiting on a few replies... One cute guy who I had high hopes has stopped mailing! Ah well.

    Sorry :D


  • Moderators, Category Moderators, Music Moderators, Politics Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 22,360 CMod ✭✭✭✭Dravokivich


    KTRIC wrote: »
    Sorry :D

    Don't leave the lady hanging man! :mad:


  • Registered Users Posts: 505 ✭✭✭timewilltell


    Mailing one guy...one night in and he asked about meeting up.



    Hmmm...


  • Moderators, Category Moderators, Music Moderators, Politics Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 22,360 CMod ✭✭✭✭Dravokivich


    It'll all be down to wether or not you want to. Don't worry about how soon it may seem to be that he's asked you out.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,152 ✭✭✭stargazer 68


    It'll all be down to wether or not you want to. Don't worry about how soon it may seem to be that he's asked you out.

    Have to agree. I would rather meet sooner than later - saves mailing for ages, building up a rapport and an image and then it all going wrong on the first date!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,404 ✭✭✭✭Pembily


    KTRIC wrote: »
    Sorry :D

    It's actually another boardsie :o
    Mailing one guy...one night in and he asked about meeting up.



    Hmmm...

    Sometimes the mailing gets boring, I like guys who are up front and ask fairly quickly.


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  • Moderators, Category Moderators, Music Moderators, Politics Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 22,360 CMod ✭✭✭✭Dravokivich


    Pembily wrote: »
    It's actually another boardsie :o

    Jaysus, what is it with ye wimmins using dating sites to message other boardsies? :confused:

    :P:pac:


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,152 ✭✭✭stargazer 68


    Jaysus, what is it with ye wimmins using dating sites to message other boardsies? :confused:

    :P:pac:

    How do they know? I would have no idea if I was messaging a boardsie!


  • Moderators, Category Moderators, Music Moderators, Politics Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 22,360 CMod ✭✭✭✭Dravokivich


    Dovies wrote: »
    How do they know? I would have no idea if I was messaging a boardsie!

    Know Yer Nerds in Cool Vids & Pics.

    Know Yer Clubbers, floating around in tGC here somewhere.

    And from going to various beers.

    So you either need to:

    A) Perv more

    or

    2) Become more social with us folks

    :cool:


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,152 ✭✭✭stargazer 68


    A) Perv more

    or

    2) Become more social with us folks

    :cool:

    lol well im quite social (or I will be after the beers next month) so I guess I need to perv more!! :P


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,404 ✭✭✭✭Pembily


    Jaysus, what is it with ye wimmins using dating sites to message other boardsies? :confused:

    :P :pac:

    I didn't find out he was a boardsie until after my first message :p


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 9,463 ✭✭✭KTRIC


    Pembily wrote: »
    It's actually another boardsie :o

    Damn, foiled again !!! :rolleyes:


  • Administrators Posts: 54,256 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭awec


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,404 ✭✭✭✭Pembily


    awec wrote: »
    Was your first message "are you a boardsie?" :pac:

    No, I didn't have a clue until later!!!


  • Administrators Posts: 54,256 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭awec


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,404 ✭✭✭✭Pembily


    awec wrote: »
    Pembily wrote: »
    No, I didn't have a clue until later!!!
    Ah, well hopefully it works out and he hasn't really stopped messaging!
    If he has, he has! I'll get over it... You get desensitised pretty quickly with online dating!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,404 ✭✭✭✭Pembily


    awec wrote: »
    Pembily wrote: »
    No, I didn't have a clue until later!!!
    Ah, well hopefully it works out and he hasn't really stopped messaging!
    If he has, he has! I'll get over it... You get desensitised pretty quickly with online dating!


  • Administrators Posts: 54,256 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭awec


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,404 ✭✭✭✭Pembily


    2) Become more social with us folks

    :cool:

    This is the best way :)


  • Moderators, Category Moderators, Music Moderators, Politics Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 22,360 CMod ✭✭✭✭Dravokivich


    Pembily wrote: »
    This is the best way :)

    It's perv'n in 3D!

    :cool:


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 965 ✭✭✭johnr1


    So I had a date towards the end of last week. :(

    I'm trying to find a way of saying this that doesent sound incredibly shallow.
    Let's just say her definition of curves and mine don't line up.
    What's with this crack of putting up photos from when you used to be good-looking, or before you ate everything in sight :confused:

    Like FFS, it's not like we're not going to spot the difference.

    Before I get jumped on for being shallow, - actually no, go ahead, I just don't care anymore.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 9,925 ✭✭✭Otis Driftwood


    Been there done that man,cropped photos and what not.I actually saw a profile that had dates on when the pics were taken,all 4 of them dated from May 2007,wtf like.Its not shallow at all,its false frickin advertising.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 9,463 ✭✭✭KTRIC


    johnr1 wrote: »
    So I had a date towards the end of last week. :(

    I'm trying to find a way of saying this that doesent sound incredibly shallow.
    Let's just say her definition of curves and mine don't line up.
    What's with this crack of putting up photos from when you used to be good-looking, or before you ate everything in sight :confused:

    Like FFS, it's not like we're not going to spot the difference.

    Before I get jumped on for being shallow, - actually no, go ahead, I just don't care anymore.

    No you're dead right. No point in lying about this sort of thing, its inevitable that you're caught out.


  • Moderators, Category Moderators, Music Moderators, Politics Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 22,360 CMod ✭✭✭✭Dravokivich


    Understandable enough johnr1, I'd be put off as well.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,152 ✭✭✭stargazer 68


    Been there done that man,cropped photos and what not.I actually saw a profile that had dates on when the pics were taken,all 4 of them dated from May 2007,wtf like.Its not shallow at all,its false frickin advertising.

    Lol happens to us all at some point I think! Tall, dark and handsome?? I think not! :eek:


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 9,925 ✭✭✭Otis Driftwood


    Dovies wrote: »
    Lol happens to us all at some point I think! Tall, dark and handsome?? I think not! :eek:

    Id use the line "regular height,dark, moderately attractive".
    :pac:


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