Would you care if your friend told you they used escorts/prositutes

strobe · 03-09-2011 7:57pm

I'd care about as much as if someone told me they employed the services of masseurs or gardeners or hairdressers.

Sungodbr · 03-09-2011 8:01pm

tan11ie wrote: »

Tbh if a friend told me they used prostitute I'd be thinking ....DESPERADO..If you have to pay for sex you are quite sad Imo.

people pay for counselling and pro's are like physical counselors, there is actually very little difference, one physical one non physical, get with it!!

Downlinz · 03-09-2011 8:02pm

I know several who do. Of course I wouldn't care.

Eric Cartman · 03-09-2011 8:08pm

biko wrote: »

Yes I would care. Only sad losers use prostitutes and I hope I don't hang around with sad losers.

tbh id consider the lads who throw all their money at a bird over the space of a few dates to get the ride even sadder . A lot of people here have paid for prostitues and dont even realise , dinner, shoes, cinema tickets, drinks, flowers . paying by those or paying by cash is just as sad.

Kidchameleon · 03-09-2011 8:15pm

Sonics2k wrote: »

Unfortunately he's so freaking shy no girls have ever really thought of him as anything more than a friend, he's also not the best looking guy in the world.
He is however well educated, hard working and very very successful. He's now 27 and has never had a serious girlfriend, but has used prostitutes in the past for a bit of, lets say physical relief.

Nothing to do with being shy / unattractive. Its got to do with the fact that he has no respect for women. Sees them as a peace of meat to "get some relief". No wonder he has never had a serious girlfriend.

Lord TSC · 03-09-2011 8:18pm

I'd easily pay for one. I'm well aware of my own attractivness and problems and if I get to sex up a beautiful girl whose well out of my leauge, so be it :P

hatrickpatrick · 03-09-2011 8:23pm

It's there choice, if anything I'd just feel sorry for anyone who reaches that level of desperation.
Knowing someone's only with you because you're paying them to be must be incredibly depressing.

Lord TSC · 03-09-2011 8:37pm

hatrickpatrick wrote: »

It's there choice, if anything I'd just feel sorry for anyone who reaches that level of desperation.
Knowing someone's only with you because you're paying them to be must be incredibly depressing.

I remember when I did some psychology classes back in Uni they said all relationships are balances of pros and cons, and rewards and payments; you form relationships based on how much you're willing to pay out and how much you get in return.

Prostitution doesn't have to be about "saddos" who are desperate; it can just as easily be about getting sex quickly. No harm there, provided its consensual. You want something, the other person has it and has set a price based on what its worth.

We've bred a generation where you're looked down on if you've not slept with multiple partners by a relativly young age, but also where, for some reason, people are looked down on for actually trying to achieve this social aim.

Sungodbr · 03-09-2011 8:43pm

Kidchameleon wrote: »

peace

piece

tfitzgerald · 03-09-2011 8:47pm

It would not bother me .

Manach · 03-09-2011 8:53pm

Just in response to the OP, it would be impossible not to pass some type of judgement either way.

jimmycrackcorm · 03-09-2011 8:58pm

spoofilyj wrote: »

It depends on the situation tbh.
I worked in Abu-Dhabi a few years back and was on contract living in a hotel.
Anyway one morning I opened the door and across the hallway a collegue was opening the door to let the Lady of negociable affection out, it changed my opinion a bit of that person, especially since I knew he had a wife and kid back in Sweden...

The whole paying for sex issue does not sit well with me for some reason.

So if he had met a chick in a bar then you'd be ok with that?

Sonics2k · 03-09-2011 9:11pm

Kidchameleon wrote: »

Nothing to do with being shy / unattractive. Its got to do with the fact that he has no respect for women. Sees them as a peace of meat to "get some relief". No wonder he has never had a serious girlfriend.

And exactly what are you basing this on?

I've known this guy since the age of 13, and as I said has many female friends. But unfortunately they don't see him as that type of friend. As most of them have said they view him as a brother type figure.

So please, take your pseudo-analysis and shove it up your ass.

rossie1977 · 03-09-2011 9:15pm

tan11ie wrote: »

Tbh if a friend told me they used prostitute I'd be thinking ....DESPERADO..If you have to pay for sex you are quite sad Imo.

biko wrote: »

Yes I would care. Only sad losers use prostitutes and I hope I don't hang around with sad losers.

hatrickpatrick wrote: »

It's there choice, if anything I'd just feel sorry for anyone who reaches that level of desperation.
Knowing someone's only with you because you're paying them to be must be incredibly depressing.

where does that leave this guy then :eek:

some of the most famous sports stars in the world (including british footballers), hollywood stars and pop singers are using prostitutes remember that next time you cheer on your team to victory, buy a cd or watch a movie, your money might be helping them pay for their next $10,000 an hour hooker

Kidchameleon · 03-09-2011 9:18pm

Sonics2k wrote: »

And exactly what are you basing this on?

I've known this guy since the age of 13, and as I said has many female friends. But unfortunately they don't see him as that type of friend. As most of them have said they view him as a brother type figure.

So please, take your pseudo-analysis and shove it up your ass.

Basing it on what you said in your post. Look the man is a pervert, women pick up on these things hence he cant find a partner.

Sonics2k · 03-09-2011 9:21pm

Kidchameleon wrote: »

Basing it on what you said in your post. Look the man is a pervert, women pick up on these things hence he cant find a partner.

I'm just going to assume you're either a troll, a jackass, ignorant, or all three combined.

Min · 03-09-2011 9:27pm

Yes, prostitution leads to the trafficking of women and children into the sex industry.

By supporting prostitution one is supporting crime.

7sr2z3fely84g5 · 03-09-2011 9:28pm

rossie1977 wrote: »

where does that leave this guy then :eek:

some of the most famous sports stars in the world (including british footballers), hollywood stars and pop singers are using prostitutes remember that next time you cheer on your team to victory, buy a cd or watch a movie, your money might be helping them pay for their next $10,000 an hour hooker

Reason i heard is they are more inclined to keep a customer confidentiality rule than of some local slag selling their story to the tabloid about their night with them.

Kidchameleon · 03-09-2011 9:29pm

Sonics2k wrote: »

I'm just going to assume you're either a troll, a jackass, ignorant, or all three combined.

Look if your friend wants "relief" just fap like a normal person. Going to prostitutes is sad, pathetic and borderline rape. I say this because the whole "well she consented" argument is bulls**t. If a woman is a prostitute, she is doing it for money, not as a career decision. If she had money you can be sure she would not voluntarily be whoring herself. What do you think is going through these poor girls minds when your mate is banging them? They sure as hell are not enjoying it!

Yes I am ignorant and a jackass at times but I'm no troll so that's me finished on this topic. Bye.

jokettle · 03-09-2011 9:30pm

How many people who use prostitutes actually care about whether or not those people are forced into the sex industry or made the choice themselves? That's why I have an issue with it; you could well be supporting a horrific form of abuse, but don't care as long as you get your hole.

And the only guy I know who openly admits his preference for prosititutes over "free women" (his term) is a complete c*ntbucket.

Lord TSC · 03-09-2011 9:35pm

Surely though if prostitution was supported and legalised, then there could be rules and regulations which would mean LESS people forced into the trade. If there was registration and so forth, that would mean the government would have better control over making sure people were doing it of their own free will.

Meanwhile, being honest, I can't see how it would cause any more problems RE people being forced into the profession than there is right now...

soterpisc · 03-09-2011 9:38pm

Men who have to pay for Sex are not real men.
If you can't get a woman to love you for who you are then its a pathetic reflection on you.

Sonics2k · 03-09-2011 9:43pm

Kidchameleon wrote: »

Look if your friend wants "relief" just fap like a normal person. Going to prostitutes is sad, pathetic and borderline rape. I say this because the whole "well she consented" argument is bulls**t. If a woman is a prostitute, she is doing it for money, not as a career decision. If she had money you can be sure she would not voluntarily be whoring herself. What do you think is going through these poor girls minds when your mate is banging them? They sure as hell are not enjoying it!

Yes I am ignorant and a jackass at times but I'm no troll so that's me finished on this topic. Bye.

I respect your point of view. I really do.
Some people do not believe Prostitution should be legalized, I personally believe it would be more safe for everyone involved if it were legal.

What bothers me here is that you have instantly jumped to insulting a good man you do not know, with insane self-confidence issues, and then imply he may as well be raping someone.

Oh and an extra bit of information. Across Australia, the U.S. and parts of Europe there are thousands of women who happily work in Brothels. Do some fúcking research.

rossie1977 · 03-09-2011 9:44pm

soterpisc wrote: »

Men who have to pay for Sex are not real men.
If you can't get a woman to love you for who you are then its a pathetic reflection on you.

the ironic thing is most men who visit prostitutes are actually MARRIED

teol · 03-09-2011 9:45pm

Min wrote: »

Yes, prostitution leads to the trafficking of women and children into the sex industry.

Bull****.

Why is it that people think women are too dumb to make decisions for themselves. If they are happy to sell sex then great, tax their earnings and let everyone move on with their lives.

Sonics2k · 03-09-2011 9:46pm

Min wrote: »

Yes, prostitution leads to the trafficking of women and children into the sex industry.

By supporting prostitution one is supporting crime.

That makes no sense what so ever.

If something becomes legal. Is controlled by the Government, granted Health benefits, is Taxed like a normal job, and allows for greater safety and control within Brothels allowing all employees to turn down a client for health and safety reasons, enforce contraception is used at all times and prevents Pimps from abusing/assaulting/raping women.

How exactly does this promote the trafficking of women and children? What proof do you have.

Raze_them_all · 03-09-2011 9:46pm

soterpisc wrote: »

Men who have to pay for Sex are not real men.
If you can't get a woman to love you for who you are then its a pathetic reflection on you.

what does love have to do with sex?

4leto · 03-09-2011 9:52pm

Its actually a dying trade, there are less prostitutes working today and earning less then the beginning of the century.

The reason is simple free and casual sex, most don't have to pay for it. (malcolm Gladwell)

But

The ones that do, pay a prostitute for sex, but also pay her/him to go away, to be discreet.

If the chap wants to pay a prostitute Good luck to him.

pajunior · 03-09-2011 9:55pm

barone wrote: »

if your 'friend' was female and was using male prostitutes would you look at her differently?

Yes i would be offended that she didn't come to me first.

Sunnyisland · 03-09-2011 10:07pm

soterpisc wrote: »

Men who have to pay for Sex are not real men.
If you can't get a woman to love you for who you are then its a pathetic reflection on you.

Having sex is different to making love. And if you only love your partner because of the sex the relationship is doomed.

Would you care if your friend told you they used escorts/prositutes

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