How much should or would you expect a guy to spend on an Engagement Ring?

The fact remains folks,

That ANYONE who thinks that there should be set rules around how much to spend or bigger is better or more is cooler, or i would be totally like morto like scarls if Dhurbla or Fiacra saw me with that cheap tat on... Has their head in a celtic tiger sense of entitlement cloud.

You need a good crack up side the head or else the faint realisation that the good time (well they werent that good) they are over. Your up there with some of the mad cronies who got us in a lovely mess with there exotic credit fueled spending sprees of excess and lavish muck.

Jesus i could probably sell you pig ****e and tell you it was caviar.

OFF WITH THEIR HEADS.....




There is more to life than showing how big your gonads are with a hunk of Sierra Leone on your moths finger.

Monty Burnz wrote: »

You are hanging around with the cast of Fade Street.

Maybe I am but I'm from that generation hard not be like that when I've grown up in that world. I'm 25. Being materalistic with people I hang out with comes to bags and accessories and things like that. I'm not bothered by status or cars or how much cars/houses are or anything like that. A normal standard of living is all I am after enough to survive in this world.

No it doesn't. It shows a ring. Behaviour shows commitment and love.

Of course it does but marriage and commitment and love and showing it there is a lot more to them than just a ring/wedding. Its the whole relationship and how it has been built up and and how the couple have lasted along with communication/trust/loyality/friendship/love/compatibility in all aspects.

Why not? Should the price of the honeymoon matter? The price of the wedding? The price of a new tennis racquet? Does this rule only apply to the engagment ring?.

Well is it not where you go that matters not just the cost of it? It would be worth having gone to the place before but just to a more romantic hotel for wedding nuptials. The couple are suppose to enjoy it have a nice time and have a relaxing holiday depending whether they want a sun holiday/ski/adventure or just an ordinary holiday its up to them. They don't necessary have to go somewhere exotic or nearer to home or nearer to europe or somewhere out of this world or popular. Its up to the couple to choose like wise and really thing couples should decide between themselves not just one person or be one sided its a bit unfair for the other person just go along with it to please their partner, both partners should feel ok with and be happy about it. Well not just engagement rings other things when weddings are concerned like the dress/flowers/reception etc and anything like things for a baby when bridge is crossed.

A cliché, but true. So why do you want an expensive ring?

Ever think of someone handcrafting a ring? Unique? Maybe something on to newbridge or something like that? Would you not take pride in it? Would a ring not prove to her man that she loves him ever lastingly other than showing it through emotion etc, as well as wearing it every day just to prove that? I wouldn't necessarily want an expensive ring. Its quality I rather see in a ring regardless of price! It doesn't have to be overly expensive like.

Children are expensive. Houses are expensive. Cars are expensive. Nursing homes are expensive. A ring will not be the most expensive thing unless you are looking at the million euro bracket.

While courting maybe and before getting married I meant when taking into account that a ring be the most expensive thing you buy her before you marry. After that of course cars/houses/children can be expensive that's expected but they don't get really expensive until after you get married depending if you have all that before you marry thats a different story with impending costs.

Quality presumably means what the jeweller charges you? What do you know about the craftsmanship involved? I know nothing. More expensive does not mean better quality.
Yes, that and where you buy it. The jeweller's markup is about 100% (i.e. he will charge you twice what he bought it for)

So, branding might have a part to play, if you go to a reputable jeweller you might get a decent ring. Why get a ring that will tarnish after a while or a few years even, it wouldn't be worth the girl wearing it. Its a part of you and her can't it be seen as something special rather than an object but seen as a symbol if nothing else?

Firstly, it will look cheap if it looks cheap. I've seen watches that cost hundreds of thousands that look cheap because they are smeared with diamonds (link).
Secondly - even if it doesn't look like an expensive ring, how shallow are you? How shallow are your friends and family? Will they think less of you if they think your ring cost less than €5000?

My family not so much but some of my relations take great pride in that sort of thing. Money and property as well as extravagant goods are a big thing for them. I can be shallow but a different type of shallow. Money is no object. I have cut back on my own spending and the likes and get things that are just as nice that are cheap and not necessary expensive but when it comes to quality and comfort there is a lot to be said for that and how long the item lasts!

snuggles285 wrote: »

My family not so much but some of my relations take great pride in that sort of thing. Money and property as well as extravagant goods are a big thing for them. I can be shallow but a different type of shallow. Money is no object. I have cut back on my own spending and the likes and get things that are just as nice that are cheap and not necessary expensive but when it comes to quality and comfort there is a lot to be said for that and how long the item lasts!

Well tbh alot of people got like that, why? because they were allowed to. Not necessarily because they worked there ass of or anything. They just all bought into this 'fake wealth' blowing around. Were everything is got but nothing is paid for. Reality check !!

Seriously I would not expect the guy to blow all his wages on a ring, I would even pay my way or split it down the middle if the ring was what I wanted I get I wouldn't ask for much else and honestly paying for a ring around the 1,000 euro isn't going to break the bank by any means. If you convert that to dollar's its not that much. If you want a decent ring, you be expected to pay between 1,000 to 2,000 dollars! One things for sure I'd like a quiet, small wedding and exclusive to just family and friends.

Novella wrote: »

But you're the one who wants an expensive ring, no? So obviously price does mean something to you, since you're arguing towards flashing the cash.

I'd like a decent quality ring maybe expensive not so cheap but doesn't have to cost an arm and a leg like there is a happy medium if its worth buying a decent ring I be all for it.. Price does but its a more expensive price usually means good quality?? I mean to say how would you compare something from pennys to something in karen millen?? I don't like the whole flashing the cash part. I think showing something off that is exquisite is nice to have and something to remember the relationship/partner by. An engagement ring is suppose to last a life time no?

I don't think a ring does show love. I think that's such a load of rubbish. It's a ring, it's a nice gesture, but anyone can save money and go buy one. Love is way more than that.

Its a symbol of love and a nice gester ya. But you can drive a hard bargin if you really wanted to by getting a decent quality ring. Some Jewellers will do that for you say for updating settings/carats.

Love doesn't have a price tag because it isn't about money! I would never want to be bought a ring that would be the most expensive thing my boyfriend/future husband would ever buy. I don't care about quality, diamonds, whether other people might think it looks 'common'... There are much more important things in life. What I would be concerned about is the quality of the relationship, not carats.

Money is not my thing its quality both in the ring and the relationship!

A more expensive ring isn't gonna 'carry' memories better than a cheaper one. A person with a less expensive ring isn't gonna have less wonderful memories.

Of course its not but is part of memories to last a life time through thick and thin...in sickness and in health, for rich or poor etc.

Dudess wrote: »

Sigh...

Jeez, all the talk of gold-digging women used to annoy me as it is not applicable to the females I know, but wow... this thread is one hell of a grim eye-opener...

Lol at the "the more expensive the ring, the higher a level of commitment" sentiments too.

I for one is not a gold digger. Some women thrive on that...the princess and the wag types but not me as a joe soap. I'm just materialistic doesn't matter what price its material goods I'm a culprit for can't help it. I don't care how much a guy earns as long as he is earning something and can have a decent standard of living and look after me. The basics is all I need or ever want. Whats one thing an expensive ring than anything else. I'm not one to buy high street much, I'm a pennys kind of girl and I rarely ever splash on anything expensive but I would often buy things of good quality of various prices and would not expect a future fianceé too do that for me just for the sake of a ring. I might think differently when that time comes maybe I might not care if he made the ring himself/is a toy ring/out of a barn brack even!?

I don't want a rich man! He could be poor for all I care. I'm happy to pay my way like and be independent of a man. Love or money I choose love. If it came to meals/drinks/cinema and things like that I would want the expenses shared equally. The whole buming off people is just plain stupid.

As little as possible. I personally hate rings - I know several people who've lost their fingers due to catching rings in door handles :S
I'd rather one from a barm brack! Cheap and breakable.

argosy2006 wrote: »

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thats great coming from someone with ARGOS as part of their username !!

The price paid for any engagement ring has as many variables as the couple, their relationship and their financial situation. But being either a tight fisted lad or a greedy lass is a bad way to starts any engagement, marriage or life together. If it becomes a big issue for a couple, they have deeper issues.

Personally I spent every penny my Visa would let me the day that I bought my wifes ring, about 2 months wages at the time, but I was badly paid :-). It was a nice ring, but not spectacular, but she would have been happy with less or more, she only cared that I had asked her to marry me.

An engagement ring is a life long investment, how many engagement rings would a girl have in her lifetime only very few depending whether she changes her ring now and again and updates it or happens to get married again. What's one ring to just a couple of holidays? Its nice to have a nice decent ring and like it and wear it everyday but holidays come and go, some are good some are not. Whats a couple of holidays here and there abroad now and again which would you prefer to have for a lifetime? You can only have so many holidays like and still just have the one ring like!

History of engagement rings

Betrothal rings were used during Roman times, but weren't generally revived in the Western world until the 13th century. The first well-documented use of a diamond ring to signify engagement was by the Archduke Maximilian of Austria in imperial court of Vienna in 1477, upon his betrothal to Mary of Burgundy.
Before the 20th century, other types of betrothal gifts were common. Before the end of the 19th century, the bride-to-be frequently received a sewing thimble rather than an engagement ring. This practice was particularly common among religious groups that shunned jewelry. Engagement rings didn't become standard in the West until the end of the 19th century, and diamond rings didn't become common until the 1930s. Now, 80% of American women are offered a diamond ring to signify engagement.

Diamonds are NOT that rare the price is kept artificially high by companys like De Beers. Where they only allow a certain amount on to the market every year and stock pile tonnes of the things. Its all a clever marketing ploy and you all just suck up, like a lump of carbon really means something!:rolleyes:

They have been marketed as the must have for stupid one upmanship that so many of you ladies go in for. Just another example of sad materialism.

I'd want him to spend whatever he could afford. I'm not into jewellary anyway and if i thought i'd a 10k ring sitting on my finger i'd be afraid to wear it! So a ring worth a few hundred would be more than enough for me. There's much better things to be spending money on. I've heard of people taking out loans to pay for engagement rings, it's crazy.

Alot of cheap asses out there. If you can afford to spend a good bit, do it. Just spend what you can afford. I'm my opinion it's not worth skimping on as it will be worn for a lifetime.