Kicked out at 18?

darkman2 · 07-03-2010 05:44AM #1

I know a guy that was kicked out of his (very nice) house at 18. His parents told him that come 18 he was out whether he had a roof over his head or not (he told me this at 15 or 16). 18 and he was gone (no roof). And so he was. Don't know what happened to the guy except that the parents were as good as their word. What do you think? Is it a rough to be kind type situation or a bastardly situation?

TBH I wish I was kicked out at 18 - it would have thought me a thing or two very bloody quick!

x PyRo · 07-03-2010 05:48AM

Fuck that noise.

I hate people like that.

mikom · 07-03-2010 05:51AM

darkman2 wrote: »

Kicked out at 18?

In Vietnam it was Nineteen........... nineteen, nineteen, nineteen, nineteen
None of them received a hero's welcome.

07-03-2010 05:55AM

darkman2 wrote: »

I know a guy that was kicked out of his (very nice) house at 18.!

They couldn't wait to turn his room into a BDSM dungeon!

Swingers!

seanybiker · 07-03-2010 05:56AM

i cant imagine someone willingly letting their own child become homeless in all fairness.

darkman2 · 07-03-2010 05:59AM

seanybiker wrote: »

i cant imagine someone willingly letting their own child become homeless in all fairness.

AFAIK that is effectively what hapened with this guy - though he did know many years in advance that he would be leaving at 18. He was homeless when they got rid of him. Must be said they were well within their rights to do so as distasteful as it may seem. Some would say it is "rough to be kind" Maybe he is a millionaire now but got it rough....and he probrably is'nt!

fuelinjection · 07-03-2010 06:37AM

darkman2 wrote: »

AFAIK that is effectively what hapened with this guy - though he did know many years in advance that he would be leaving at 18. He was homeless when they got rid of him. Must be said they were well within their rights to do so as distasteful as it may seem. Some would say it is "rough to be kind" Maybe he is a millionaire now but got it rough....and he probrably is'nt!

knacker parents lets hope he does ok and can pay the bills. Takes a hardcore kind of scumbag to feed a kid for 18 years and then kick them out for no good reason , bet they have 4 dogs and 12 cats still in the house though.

I would give his daddy a black eye if I ever met him, myself.

Minstrel27 · 07-03-2010 11:09AM

Dickhead parents. I hope he cuts all communications with them.

stovelid · 07-03-2010 11:19AM

While you would like your children to be independent and not be living with you forever, I hate hearing about parents like that. It's like their parenting was a short-term loan with a rigid payback date. Hopefully they have no pension provisions and he can tell them I'll put you in a home until you're 80 then after that, tough shit.

robinph · 07-03-2010 11:28AM

What rights of theirs was it to kick him out at 18? Admitedly they would then be an official adult, but is hardly good parenting. When was his birthday, did he get kicked out part way through the college year?

Saibh · 07-03-2010 11:28AM

darkman2 wrote: »

I know a guy that was kicked out of his (very nice) house at 18. His parents told him that come 18 he was out whether he had a roof over his head or not (he told me this at 15 or 16). 18 and he was gone (no roof). And so he was. Don't know what happened to the guy except that the parents were as good as their word. What do you think? Is it a rough to be kind type situation or a bastardly situation?

TBH I wish I was kicked out at 18 - it would have thought me a thing or two very bloody quick!

Looks like they never really wanted to be parents if they can tell their child at 15 that he will have nowhere to live or have any support.

edvedfan · 07-03-2010 11:35AM

I know a few parents who have told their son (who are particularly difficult and have caused a lot of trouble for the family) that they would have to leave when they are eighteen. They did however offer to lend a hand when it comes to rent, bills etc.

brianthebard · 07-03-2010 11:47AM

He picked the wrong parents that time....

Wagon · 07-03-2010 11:47AM

So he hits 18 and is just out of school. He has had no time to save any money, probably might not even have a job because they're bloody hard to find at 18 and even if he does then that means that he'll hae a low paying crappy one in one of the most expensive countries in the world. and his parents just expect him to deal with it? ****. If i ever had kids i would never do that. I couldn't afford to move out until i was 22 and even then i had to move back for a bit because i couldnt find a job.

I really hope he punched the ****ing face off the both of them. I certainly would.

WIZE · 07-03-2010 11:51AM

Minstrel27 wrote: »

Dickhead parents. I hope he cuts all communications with them.

Maybe thats what they are hoping .

Dan I Am · 07-03-2010 11:57AM

Did they feel like they had their reasons and were justified in doing so, or were they just selfish people who had weird ideas about parenting?

Abi · 07-03-2010 12:02PM

I was fucked out before I hit 18. He did well there.

WIZE · 07-03-2010 12:12PM

Abitar wrote: »

I was fucked out before I hit 18. He did well there.

You must ha been very Bold like the OPs Friend*

*may not be true

brianthebard · 07-03-2010 12:23PM

galwayrush wrote: »

Porn for Guns might be a better place to start in the States.:rolleyes:

multiple tabs open at the one time?

briankirby · 07-03-2010 12:23PM

stovelid wrote: »

While you would like your children to be independent and not be living with you forever, I hate hearing about parents like that. It's like their parenting was a short-term loan with a rigid payback date. Hopefully they have no pension provisions and he can tell them I'll put you in a home until you're 80 then after that, tough shit.

True,the son should never speak to them again.Its as if he was a burden all this time.They will get their come uppins wen they need him to take care of em,as youv said

biko · 07-03-2010 12:24PM

Minstrel27 wrote: »

Dickhead parents. I hope he cuts all communications with them.

Dan I Am wrote: »

Did they feel like they had their reasons and were justified in doing so, or were they just selfish people who had weird ideas about parenting?

Too fecking right! At 18 you should have a job/uni and stop leeching off your parents.
They changed the nappies, fed and raised you all those years, now go out in the world and make something of yourself - that's the least you can do.

Abi · 07-03-2010 12:40PM

Most Haunted wrote: »

You must ha been very Bold like the OPs Friend

I was a niiightmare. Hangovers in school. Grounded? ask my arse.

/climbs out bedroom window

Fucked off for a few days without calling home sometimes. Not much has changed tbh :pac:

Catari Jaguar · 07-03-2010 12:57PM

In fairness, he had plenty of warning. We know nothing about this situation. Maybe he had given them a hard time, or dropped out of school or was on drugs... Maybe not but once he hits 18 he's an adult. If you're not paying rent to your parents then they have every right to kick you out. What is all this "poor guy, hope he's ok" stuff? How hard is it to flat share with some friends and pay a few bills?! Even social welfare would cover that.

Most of our generation were spoiled and selfish, moving back home in their late 20s to save for a mortgage or asking their parents to loan it to them. Huge pre-recession weddings funded by the Bank of Dad too. Cop on and show some respect and gratitude to the people that raised you.

Too many people leaving home at 23 or so, after leeching through college so they can save for that doss year in Oz or Thailand. And then when they return *Oh no, I've no money now so I have to move home with Mammy and Daddy*. Who has parents that got to travel all over the world in their twenties?!

Ever think that maybe your parents want to spend their money on themselves or want some peace and quiet. They desrve it after raising you. And anyone that uses a retirement home as a threat is sick.

My Dad, all his friends, and his sisters had to feck off to London at 18/19 in the 1960s because there were no jobs in Ireland. That was the norm.

Boyfriend's Gran was an orphan in the 1950s, she had to raise all her younger siblings at 14 years old. There was no social welfare back then either. They got jobs in a local sweet factory and had to eat leftover sweets for dinner. (No, not as fab as it sounds :rolleyes:)

I dunno, I'm ranting but sometimes I get annoyed at the lack of perspective at how good we had it for most our lives. I know the **** has hit the fan now but we still have it a lot better than most of the world.

gonnaplayrugby · 07-03-2010 01:55PM

wow very odd lil kitten. this guys parents sound like scum. in norway u cant even get a job until your 21. 18 is not grown up at all. 18 is a kid.

i never caused any problems for my parents and i'll have my box room for as long as i want.

OutlawPete · 07-03-2010 01:56PM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JzmfpfIq0-4

krudler · 07-03-2010 01:59PM

Marge "you do remember the promise you made to the kids dont you Homer?"
Homer "when you're 18, you're out the door!"

gavkm27 · 07-03-2010 02:02PM

All depends on the situation for the guy you talking about

I was booted out when i was 18,raised by my mother until then and she had enough of my ****(drink,Drugs)
You are all very quick with your judgements,my mam had been through it all with my Dad and was'nt prepared to put up with my ****.

I went onto to full blown drug addiction and was lucky enough to get clean at 21,i now have a great life and although i resented my ma for kicking me out,it got me to where i need to go quicker instead of just leeching off her and my sisters.She was only enabling my drug addiction while i stayed there.

dubtom · 07-03-2010 02:02PM

Hard to know what to think without the OP telling us what his friend was like,a junkie?all around trouble maker? if so I'd say fair play to the parents for getting rid of him. If he was a normal well adjusted young lad..actually scrap that,how you could you be well adjusted knowing from 15 your out on you ear, if he was f ucked up it's their fault.

Jimmy Bottlehead · 07-03-2010 02:05PM

Lil Kitten wrote: »

Boyfriend's Gran was an orphan in the 1950s, she had to raise all her younger siblings at 14 years old. There was no social welfare back then either. They got jobs in a local sweet factory and had to eat leftover sweets for dinner.

Living the dream!

07-03-2010 02:05PM

That's why you should never give your kids names. Makes it easier when you have to throw them out, or put them in a sack and toss them in the river or whatever.

brummytom · 07-03-2010 02:07PM

Wow, his parents are cunts

Kicked out at 18?

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