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The media and male violence

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  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    Grand. I disagree, but I see no value going round in circles with it.



  • Registered Users Posts: 2,666 ✭✭✭Bobtheman


    So it's just the way a person is reared? There might be some evidence of that but just citing three people iq hardly an argument. There are im sure people who hit women who never saw it growing up

    You are peddling simplistic bollix



  • Registered Users Posts: 1,587 ✭✭✭uptherebels


    You can disagree with basic biology all you want. But you should see some value in trying to understand it.



  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    Oh, I understand biology well enough. What I disagree with is your manner of posting, and how you dodge my points. That's why I have no interest in the circular argument.



  • Registered Users Posts: 1,587 ✭✭✭uptherebels


    Clearly you don't as you seem to think manual labour is what separates men and women.

    I addressed your points, then you chose to go on about a circular argument when faced with with this.



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  • Posts: 18,749 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    How many kids can't write a decent sentence? As far as I am aware, we have an excellent school system, and an extremely high literacy rate in this country.

    What resources would you put into district courts to help prosecutions of domestic violence?

    You want the.government to limit our access to alcohol and pornography? You don't believe in personal freedoms?

    Lastly. Women acting the victim over everything? You will have to explain? I haven't seen women acting the victim over everything! Seems quite wide and wild accusation. I did see the media over the last two weeks try to portray women as complete victims and men as complete offenders, but we all know that none of that is real, it's a media construct. Perhaps you fell for their peddling, but women in this country do not act the.victim over everything.



  • Registered Users Posts: 15,100 ✭✭✭✭Fr Tod Umptious


    We could limit access to booze


    Take that to the "Minimum alcohol pricing is nigh" thread and see how you get on.



  • Registered Users Posts: 6,586 ✭✭✭SouthWesterly


    So mcentee is going to introduce laws that make it an offence for a man to look at a woman. All the woman has to do is say she feels threatened even if she doesn't know he's looking at her.

    What can go wrong?


    Absolute lunacy. Not like women can't be vindictive and make false claims or anything.



  • Registered Users Posts: 341 ✭✭PaoloGotti


    This is what I meant by not appreciating the gravity of the problem. The biological differences is the ROOT CAUSE. If women were biologically stronger than men then the tables would be turned. One must accept this root cause as a constant. It can’t be changed. Solutions to the problem must work in spite of it.



  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    Exactly my point. I didn't suggest that manual labor was what separated men and women... that's you interjecting your own statements and then arguing them yourself. As you did earlier too.

    Enough.



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  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    Solutions to the problem must work in spite of it.

    Agreed.



  • Registered Users Posts: 341 ✭✭PaoloGotti


    Sorry, klaz, I didn’t meant to quote your post. Having reread your previous replies I see we are very much aligned more than misaligned. Cheers.



  • Registered Users Posts: 2,666 ✭✭✭Bobtheman


    Yawn tired.



  • Registered Users Posts: 16,583 ✭✭✭✭osarusan


    What's this now? A law that 'makes it an offence for a man to look at a woman'? Any links to something that says or indicates that?



  • Registered Users Posts: 6,586 ✭✭✭SouthWesterly


    She has said it will be a crime for a man to watch a woman if that woman feels threatened whether she knows she's being watched or not.

    A quick Google on her new stalking legislation will bring you there.


    So if I look at someone and she feels threatened I'm under criminal investigation. It's getting to a stage where men will have to look at the ground while out and about or just wear a paper bag over their heads.

    Or will the accusation just be enough without any evidence that I was threatening. Seems her just feeling that way is enough.



  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    Jaysus.



  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    Ms McEntee said new laws that explicitly reference stalking as a criminal offence will make it clear that stalking includes watching or following a victim, even where the victim is not aware of it

    If the "victim" is not aware of it.. who determines that someone is actually stalking? If it comes down to watching someone.

    Just seems very... open to interpretation.

    TBH the article reads rather... harsh.

    "Our daughters' Ireland is still ugly and dangerous," she said, and also pointed to the lack of funding for women's refuges.

    They're really pushing hard, in spite of the statistics, which show Ireland to be one of the safest countries in the world for women.



  • Registered Users Posts: 4,033 ✭✭✭joseywhales


    I think it would be better to focus on violence in general. I played a lot of gaa and rugby, played plenty of violent video games, watched endless porn but never in my life have I even thought about hitting somebody male or female out of anger and I've definitely done people in in a tackle but without emotion. I do not understand why people fight each other or why it's acceptable in society. Despite have many friends who have been in scraps. It's clearly unnecessary in every instance and if we are going to make legislation we should do so to reduce violence in general, outside of a controlled sporting environment. Man on man, man on woman, woman on woman,woman on man, it's all childish nonsense. I find it weird when in male culture we still glorify the just man who beats the **** out of his scurrilous foe, it's still not acceptable.



  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


     I find it weird when in male culture we still glorify the just man who beats the **** out of his scurrilous foe, it's still not acceptable.

    gender stereotyping with roles. Men are still primarily those who fill roles such as the military or the reaction forces for the police. It's the warrior aspect. Don't get me wrong... I'd be similar to yourself, having no interest in violence/fighting, and have tried my best to avoid it all my life. And... I've had a variety of nasty encounters, which couldn't be avoided, and I generally came off poorly. However, I can understand the desire to elevate the parts of male activity relating to aggression, into being something honorable or important. But yeah, the muppets who beat the crap out of each other... it shouldn't be considered a good thing, and it should be something that we attempt to leave in our past, as society moves on towards a better sense of self.

    Still, I'd say that there's far less common violence in Ireland than when I was a teenager. There's very little of the gangs beating up gay lads, or the brutal fights after the pubs close their doors. It still happens, but my hometown had a reputation for roughness, and that's mostly a thing of the past. I know Dublin has problems, but that's generally the way with large population centers.



  • Registered Users Posts: 24,960 ✭✭✭✭Strumms


    Same, nobody I even know attacked another person…

    the criminal penalty should be equal regardless of which gender committed the assault when the attacks are similar in nature.

    a woman driving a car 20 kmph over the limit should get the same as a guy doing it.

    Post edited by Strumms on


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  • Registered Users Posts: 3,577 ✭✭✭Buddy Bubs


    If the wording of these articles changed it wouldn't get the same level of annoyance from men. The basic message is of course correct. Don't hurt women. Fine, I'm on board with that. But the people like me on board with that are not the people that will heed the message. We are not the ones you need to target with messages. And the ones you need to target don't care. They are evil.

    Truth is, the wording is grouping decent men that adore, cherish, love, respect and will protect women with rapists, psychopaths, wife beaters, abusers and murderers.

    Men. Quite a big diverse group of the population.

    We went for a few pints yesterday and the male violence in the media topic came up. We all agreed we didn't like the tone one bit.

    My suggestion is to make sure the wording is correct. Use the terms abusers, rapists, psychopaths, bullies instead of the generic term, men.

    Until that happens and the decent men don't feel under attack, you will struggle to get them on side in discussions.

    Fortunately, we are on side in real life, the media isn't even real.



  • Registered Users Posts: 2,666 ✭✭✭Bobtheman


    Brillant post. As to targeting a lot of these men were probably let down by social services in their day. We need more investment in child services. Way more



  • Registered Users Posts: 1,587 ✭✭✭uptherebels


    Of course you did, why would you bring up such a nonsense point otherwise?



  • Registered Users Posts: 16,583 ✭✭✭✭osarusan


    I don't see anything there that will 'makes it an offence for a man to look at a woman'.

    Sure, a woman could go to the police and report somebody has been looking at her, which might start an investigation. But I could go to the police right now and say my next-door neighbour threatened to kill me yesterday, and that would start an investigation too.

    There's nothing in the information that I can see about the proposed legislation that makes me think that 'It's getting to a stage where men will have to look at the ground while out and about or just wear a paper bag over their heads.'



  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    Sorry, I just need to address this. No, the police won't or don't start an "investigation" if a woman rocks up to the station reporting a man has looked at her. They more than likely won't start and investigation if your next door neighbour threatens to kill you (unless they have done so holding a machete). Ask me how I know this.

    There are no laws pertaining to gender based violence. That means that any force of aggression is metered by the same law governing any kind of assault. The introduction of legislation which makes stalking an offence will most definitely lead to better outcomes in prosecuting offences which might fall more specifically under gender based violence but not exclusively so. Legislation was drafted and passed into law in 2018 with the introduction of the domestic violence act which created a new offense of coercive control. Neither is the domestic violence act gender based legislation.

    This act defines domestic violence as an attack against someone by any other person with whom that they are presently, or have been in a domestic relationship. It also provides protection for victims of domestic violence and seeks to punish the perpetrators of such crimes.

    I fully expect any stalking legislation will include provision for anyone who is a victim of stalking, we will have to wait and see the draft legislation when it is published this Easter.



  • Registered Users Posts: 2,666 ✭✭✭Bobtheman


    There is a lot to be said for not reading or watching the news. It usually makes feck all difference to your life and is badly reported.

    The media likes to cause hysteria.

    Im switching off



  • Registered Users Posts: 1,570 ✭✭✭vriesmays


    What happened to the woman who knifed a guy to death over a parking spot. Our feminised media seem quiet on this case.



  • Posts: 18,749 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    You seem to do a bit of that yourself there in your posts!



  • Registered Users Posts: 8,316 ✭✭✭BrianD3


    Seeing as we are in the realm of blaming "men" for male violence, how about discussing the sort of men that "women" date, marry and have children with. Thugs, gangsters and bullies have lots of children. Cavewoman thinking sees these men being regarded as dominant and rewarded with sex, relationships and thuglets.

    As I mentioned in another thread, one of our current crop of female TDs married Pearse McAuley AFTER he had been convicted of the killing of Det. Garda Jerry McCabe. She then had children with him allowing him to pass on his genes. A few years later, he stabbed her 13 times in a domestic incident and she was luck to survive.

    That's just one example that is on the public record. In my own life, I've come across women who appear to be excited by violent men, assholes, fighting. Women getting great pleasure in the idea that their man is a hard man. Commenting on male heights and the strength and fighting abilities of tall, muscular men compared to that of smaller men. Demeaning the latter men as being like children, dwarfs, unmasculine weaklings. Well educated woman casually talking about how her 6 foot 3 husband "gets into a lot of fights in niteclubs" as if this is something to be proud of or at least not worthy of negative comment.



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  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    Well, if that's going to be discussed, perhaps also talk about the women who encourage their men to fight, or create friction themselves. Where the woman might flirt with a stranger, and then the boyfriend steps in... it's not as if the woman is particularly surprised that her boyfriend will do so. I'd say that many of the fights I've seen outside pubs or clubs, would involve a woman somehow... Just as a lot of the time, groups of women are there with the men, egging others on to fight, screaming abuse and yet, this kind of behavior is never discussed.

    Nothing to see here. It's just problems with male culture/behavior.



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