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Not at all. Id say it is pretty rare

It really isnt, hence bis exist. I never heard of that 'truism'.

 Were such things environmental then such things would not exist in the animal kingdom does not follow. Environmental can switch on aspects of development.

If men sleep with both women and men then they're bisexual.

They can dress it up in whatever linguistic hula hoops they want, it doesn't really change the fact.

Lapsed bi-curious, or in the bi-curious cup but knocked out by Cambridge at home.

Theres an unreality about this thread that seems to treat sex between men who are in other committed relationships as some sort of relief valve or right of passage.

But let's be clear, if a bloke is married or in a long term settled relationship that mirrors a marriage, and he has sex with a woman, or a man or a farm animal who isn't his wife or partner, then he's being unfaithful or cheating if you prefer the term.

Theres no such thing as a freebie for acts of homosexual infidelity.

Reminds me of an uncomfortable encounter from about 6 months ago that I try to file under banished memory. I was propositioned by one of said married straight men - I presume all true facts, he repeated them enough times. I thought it was a wind-up at first but his continued efforts to convince me it was "alright" helped kill the jovial atmosphere and replaced it with sheer awkwardness. I just cut him off and walked away in the end. Being a straight married man, I have zero interest in those kind of shenanigans (putting it mildly). This was a relatively large rural town out wesht.

Lack of intimacy at home is no excuse. Fix or end that relationship. Playing away from home is scummy and stop trying to convince yourself you're straight.

Most blokes whether straight or whatever can just go on Grindr and get sucked off by another bloke within minutes, this isn't possible to achieve so easily with another woman. I would imagine these straight guys would choose women if they could but it isn't available in the same way. Simple as that, at the end of the day it's just friction on your dick regardless of who's doing it.

Ok but it isn't that black and white regardless of what you think, try opening your mind a little.

I don't know if it's necessarily deception, JupiterKid.

And of course there are loads of women who married men, had kids, etc. and then they separated and entered into a lesbian relationship.

Whether a man or a woman, it doesn't necessarily mean that that person entered into the first relationship with an intent to deceive. In a heteronormative society, getting married and having kids was just what you did. Sure plenty of hetero people married whatever semi-suitable candidate came along, maybe someone they liked as opposed to loved but it's very easy to deceive oneself on that score. Marry in haste, repent at leisure as they say. It's easy enough to imagine someone who was in denial or was afraid to explore their sexuality entering into a hetero marriage with every intention of making it work. When it eventually broke down and they realised their sexual interests lay elsewhere it doesn't make them a bad person. At the end of the day if your spouse leaves you for another person, does the gender of that person make the act of leaving any better or worse? No.

At least nowadays we're a lot more open about sexuality of all sorts and the idea that someone would pair up and get (straight) married just because it was the done thing is pretty much a thing of the past.

Theres lots of bisexual men out there who are married to women, couldn't say for sure whether they are happy or not. As an openly gay man one thing I can say is that you're almost guaranteed rubbish shame filled sex if you ever hook up with one.

On Grindr for example there are so many faceless profiles, in 2022 when it is almost completely acceptable to be gay in Ireland would that be the case unless they something to hide.

And I am sure there are many gay men who are in the closet hetros.

Pushing your conservative religious agenda on a thread like this is totally pathetic.

Going by some of the apps I dont think it is rare at all.