People who are gay using changing rooms

Nudity ≠ Sexual

Like somebody above said, once you're not a teenager or totally inexperienced, the sight of a naked body suited to your sexual orientation doesn't automatically result in arousal. Sure it might be a nice image, but you're highly unlikely to be standing to attention.

My cousin, sitting down leaning forward with his towel around him said to me one day in a changing room .

"You'll have to go into the gym me. I have an awful horn on me and i cant get up yet. Did you see that lovely arse on yer man over there."

Off I went. He came out about 10 mins later and said "Usually it goes down quicker than that one the object of the horn leaves, but this one stayed a while".

You're my worst nightmare!

The nudity bit doesn't bother me in the slightest. However, I hate when a stranger tries to initiate small talk with me when we're both starkers.

It's a bit of a weird question like are all gays obsessed with looking at mickey ?! If women were in there would all the men just stand there looking, i don't think so, like others have said, most people are pretty private and just want to quickly get changed and leave., and i'm deffo one of them.

i really don't like other men walking around starkers though personally, no one wants to see and generally it's the really ugly ones who do it aswell i mean wtf

In Iceland, you're required to shower naked before getting into a swimming pool. They do offer a private cubicle, but most people just use the communal ones, chatting away.

Off topic, but the weirdest naked encounter I had was in some swimming area in Killiney popular with naturists. It was February, I was invited there by someone who didn't swim naked. I brought my wetsuit and snorkeling gear (not knowing until I got there that it was a naturist spot) because it was fúcking cold. Sitting on a step putting on my fins, and this naked old guy comes over, bits dangling exactly at my head height, with his hands on his hips, to encourage me to shed the suit and enjoy the freedom he obviously did. The freezing water clearly had no anatomical effect on him.

Yes I saw there naked recently myself when I saw other people were doing it of both sexes, it's kind of freeing. Some real Victorian attitudes on this thread!

I think you've very much got that backwards tbh. Cultures which are less open about sex, tend towards more sexualisation of the mundane. Cultures which are more open about it, see sexual themes in sexual places rather than in the everyday.

One could point to the US as being a counter-example, but the US is schizophrenic. Publically very prudish, very puritanical. But privately very open. This creates the split personality where even the slightest double entendre or exposed ankle in public is exciting and sexual. Where someone might have a sex swing in their basement, but if the neighbour did some topless sunbathing, they'll call the cops. Because the requirement is that nudity remains private and therefore any suggestion of public nudity is sexual. People in the US get on the sex offenders' register for taking a piss in public. That's what being closed about sex does.

Other cultures which are actually open publically about sex; think most of Europe; do not automatically sexualise nudity. Because nudity is not automatically a private matter.

i dont think its really a 'thing' ?

Have been involved in lots of different sports, and showering afterwards, never noticed men taking more than a glance.

But thats normal i guess ?

Maybe .... 🤣😂🤣🤣

Well we like to think so.

The whole subject area is quite interesting, given the changing times we live in. What to do to accommodate all sexualities and genders while not alienating others?

To be honest, as a straight man, I wouldn't give too figs if there were gay men in a changing area I was using. In fact there has almost certainly been lots of times in the past that there were, but who would ever know, because everyone knows to be mutually respectful and just get on with using the changing area and move on.

I know there are gyms and saunas and bathhouses run by and for gay men and thats cool too, whatever makes you happy, but again I'm sure thats understood by everyone who uses them, so nobody can claim to be naive about that.

I think the main issue is still unisex facilities. I was in one in Germany a few years back that made good sense in its design. It was in a water park. You enter from the reception lobby and before you are a long rank of individual doors. Some are sized for single occupancy, some big enough to for a parent and a couple of kids to change. On the far side of the cubicle is another door that leads to the shower area and pool access. Swimwear is compulsory on that side and people shower off while wearing them in frosted glass stalls. It seems to work well enough, I only heard tell that sometimes horny teens grab a family cubicle for a quick fumble, but there are attendants keeping an eye for that stuff.

I think the biggest issue is still unisex bathrooms. I was in the Lighthouse cinema lately with my missus. You may know the bathroom in the upstairs lobby is unisex, just sinks and stalls. Both of us went in and my wife found herself in a stall between me, emptying the bladder noisely into the pan and a fat bloke evacuating a foul stench with associated stereo soundtrack on the other side. She got stage fright and left for the separate disabled toilet, unrelieved.

Toilet traditions are very different for women and men I think and no doubt different again for those that identify as neither. Maybe the long term solution is a sealed cubicle with sink and toilet inside for everyone, though there are obvious cost and security considerations with that.

I know this sounds a little perverted but as a single gay guy it’s an opportunity to see a few naked lads.

id never dream of of making a move on any nit you get what I mean

Am I odd, I like being naked with other people, both men and women

True, but when I see a naked body that attracts me, my mind creates the context. I have a very active imagination. Potentially on the spectrum, but don't see a need to be tested. So my mind does what it does when sober and goes into overdrive. It creates situations in seconds. I obviously don't react, but even if it's not what i'm attracted to, my mind will "remind" me of what I am simply because I saw naked.

Just explaining my own mind, everyone is different, I agree. But that association my mind plays is something I'm sure everyone experiences to some degree. I just happen to be overactive in that department. But that applies for anything I'm interested in. My mind goes into overdrive and creates situations and scenarios that don't, but could, exist. Quick example, I see naked body - mmmm - naked body hot - Mila Kunis hot - naked Mila Kunis.

I do realise this does potentially paint me as an incel type, as much as I don't like using that word, but I'm not. I'm just willing to be honest about myself. This all happens while I walk on by. The initial object or person that initiates it could be well gone out of my view, but the mind continues. I forget 95% of these. Tbh, it's why I smoke. Stalls that down to a normal level. Doctor tried to give me chemicals with potential side effects of increased suicidal tendencies... ah, no thanks, this works fine! Rambling now, time for a smoke!

no there is a complete double standard in everything regarding this issue.

Some normal teenage guy peers into the girls changing room and he gets expelled from school and is charged by the police. A homosexual guy can just go into the changing room and perv away and if you object to this then it is implied that there is something wrong with you!

Do you go to the gym yourself?

Around 10% of them are gay. Do you see any going around with woodys in the changing room?

I don’t think it's a big a deal as you'd like it to be tbh