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Any other women here vote NO for the 8th?

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  • Registered Users Posts: 431 ✭✭Jeremy Sproket


    The murders, rapes, burglaries, crimes, etc. that happen every day have nothing to do with me, but I'm still allowed to be appalled by them.



  • Registered Users Posts: 17,486 ✭✭✭✭Mr. CooL ICE


    I'm pro-choice, but I have had two children since the 8th was abolished. Calling me a "pro-abort" doesn't make any sense because it implies I got my girlfriend pregnant so we could just abort the babies. And "anti-life" makes me sound like I'm some sort of super villain intent on genocide. It's almost as if we, you know, had the choice! The choice to do what suited us in our circumstances.


    On the other hand, "pro-birth" and "anti-choice" are actually fairly accurate terms for the viewpoints of those that label themselves "pro-life". Those that label themselves "pro-life" are against other people from having the choice in proceeding with a pregnancy, regardless of their circumstances. They also want the baby born at all costs and don't spare a thought for either them or their mothers once they are born.


    The established terms are "pro-life" and "pro-choice", and have been for a long time. You can throw in whatever makey uppey labels you want to a discussion but if you want any sort of serious discussion, you can leave this belligerence at the door.



  • Registered Users Posts: 40,100 ✭✭✭✭ohnonotgmail




  • Registered Users Posts: 33,820 ✭✭✭✭Hotblack Desiato


    This is complete nonsense. The Supreme Court ruled (before repeal) that no constitutional rights existed for an embryo/foetus apart from the 8th amendment. Which we then repealed, and replaced with wording that says that abortion can be legislated for. The Dail can change the 12 week limit to whatever it chooses. The 12 week limit was chosen primarily out of political cowardice.

    Life ain't always empty.



  • Registered Users Posts: 33,820 ✭✭✭✭Hotblack Desiato


    I'm sure your "friends" are thrilled at your judging them and their life choices, and that you voted to force them to go abroad for essential healthcare. Who has "dozens" of friends anyway? Acquaintances and facebook "friends" are not friends.

    Life ain't always empty.



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  • Registered Users Posts: 4,600 ✭✭✭Day Lewin


    In the course of my life I have had dozens of friends; and I didn't judge them, so don't you judge me on no evidence, either.

    I can still have a view on the ethics of an action without "judging" those who chose it.



  • Registered Users Posts: 12,910 ✭✭✭✭Igotadose


    You judged them not in dire circumstances - your words. Pretty clear you're judging the person not the action. Saying "I voted no, I'm against abortion" is a view on ethics. Saying someone didn't need to have one, is judging their behavior. Consider if you were a Taliban judge and someone in court before you had an abortion - you'd be in your rights, if you JUDGE that they broke your 'not in dire circumstances' law, to order them beheaded.



  • Registered Users Posts: 17,486 ✭✭✭✭Mr. CooL ICE


    It's amazing how it always seems to be people who label themselves pro life that know "dozens" or "loads" of people who have had abortions.


    I'm a man and I don't know of any female friends that have had abortions. My girlfriend doesn't know if any of her friends have had any. Collectively, some probably have but just haven't told us. Or maybe we're the only people in this country who don't get told by their friends when they have abortions.



  • Moderators, Computer Games Moderators Posts: 15,226 Mod ✭✭✭✭FutureGuy


    I voted yes because we were on the ferry in 2016. Because our first son was likely to live an hour or two filled with strokes, heart attacks and suffering without any guarantee he could be pain-free. Because my wife collapsed in week 12 and week 19 (requiring hospitalization) due to the issues with the pregnancy and the chances of something even more serious happening as she came to term.

    Let me talk about it. We get the diagnosis after multiple tests. Imagine waking at 4-5 am every morning for 6 weeks after little/no sleep and spending the day googling ANY study that would give you hope. Imagine breaking down several times a day because no one could really advise you properly. Imagine spending a week googling a foreign healthcare system trying to select the hospital where your wife needs care, hoping she doesn't die along the way. Imagine being left with paranoia, stress disorders, anxiety. Imagine bringing your son's coffin home on an overcrowded ferry where people were enjoying the football - going down to the hold as often as it was allowed to be with him. Imagine having to get home at such short notice that almost no one could attend the service.

    I don't care if you were in our position or you decided you didn't want to be pregnant. No one should be forced to make a journey like that. Ever.



  • Registered Users Posts: 17,486 ✭✭✭✭Mr. CooL ICE


    I cannot empathise with anybody that can read a post like this and still think that voting no was the right thing to do.



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    "I knew where it would lead. Unconditional and limitless abortions and essentially being used as a contraceptive."

    Despite the fact you "knew" that would happen - do you draw consolation for the fact it in fact in no way has happened that way? Rather it was just scare mongering tactics used by the "no" side which back fired on a public who did not like being patronised by lies and voted overwhelmingly enough in the opposite direction because the "no" side while lying to us failed to remember to put forward any actual arguments about why they thought abortion is a moral wrong in the first place.

    As for "rape" - both the no side and the yes side in the Boards.ie debates argued very convincingly as to why it is a terrible argument in the abortion discussion. I was convinced by one user of Boards in particular to entirely abandon it as a supporting argument for allowing access to abortion services. That user pretty much does not post on Boards any more but he let a few of us know to summon him back if ever required :) I might link him to the thread.

    Also the "used as a contraceptive" argument is really a very poor one for two reasons. The first being that it just shows you have no idea what the word "contraceptive" actually means. The second and more important one however is that if you can not show abortion itself to be a bad thing or immoral thing - then the reasons why someone might seek to have one are simply none of your business. Either abortion is immoral or it is not. If it is not - then the reason any given individual does it is a full on meal of red herring.



  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    "endowed by their creator with the right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness" ???

    That's a quote from the American Declaration of Independance. This is not the US.

    You're not one of those crazy pro-lifer American's who gets overly-invested in abortion legislation in other countries, are you?



  • Site Banned Posts: 12,341 ✭✭✭✭Faugheen


    This is absolutely horrific. I'm so, so sorry.



  • Registered Users Posts: 6,597 ✭✭✭Feisar


    I don't know you however you have my deepest condolences and respect.

    First they came for the socialists...



  • Registered Users Posts: 12,910 ✭✭✭✭Igotadose


    Let's not underestimate the reach of the crazy pro-lifers. Here's a rant from FB that pretty much encapsulates the state of anti-abortion legislation in the US, it's worse than the middle ages.

    https://ifunny.co/picture/i-ve-had-at-least-5-whore-friends-share-this-xkoAsKRk8?s=cl



  • Registered Users Posts: 909 ✭✭✭Burt Renaults


    Because most decent people are, at the very least, sympathetic towards people dealing with unwanted pregnancies, I don't think that sort of language from the 'No' side did their own cause any favours during the referendum campaign. I often wonder, if the likes of you had said nothing at all during that campaign, would the result have been closer?



  • Registered Users Posts: 431 ✭✭Jeremy Sproket


    What if a man didn't want to be a dad?


    Should there be an option for him?


    If your answer to that is "abstinence", then does that not also apply to the woman? (outside of rape, FFA and life threatening grounds).



  • Registered Users Posts: 40,100 ✭✭✭✭ohnonotgmail


    you think the man should decide that the woman must get an abortion? have a word with yourself.



  • Registered Users Posts: 1,056 ✭✭✭secondrowgal


    If he doesn't want to be a dad, get a vasectomy. Easy. It's easier, and safer, than a woman having to take birth control pills for 30 or more years.



  • Registered Users Posts: 23,650 ✭✭✭✭One eyed Jack



    What’s nonsense about it? I’m not even sure what part of my post you’re saying is nonsense when you acknowledge that it was because of the existence of the 8th amendment in the first place was the State’s acknowledgment of the right to life of the unborn. “Apart from the 8th” is doing a hell of a lot of the heavy lifting in your post to suggest that I’m talking nonsense.

    Do you not remember the X case in 1992 when the family asked Gardaí could DNA from the aborted foetus would be admissible as evidence in Court? Do you not remember what happened next?



    It was the introduction of the 8th amendment that legislated for abortion, before then it was unlawful, and legislation introduced after the 8th limited the conditions under which an abortion was lawfully permissible. It’s why we had the referendum in 1992 and the proposed 12th amendment was rejected, while the 13th and 14th amendments passed.

    Because of the 13th it was possible for women to travel outside the State for an abortion, but because aftercare was not provided by the State upon their return, it led to the A, B and C case v Ireland -



    Which led to the POLDPA legislation being introduced in Irish law some 20 years after the outcome of the referendum which followed the X case -



    And all of this was BEFORE the death of Savita Halapannavar and the repeal of the 8th amendment which led to the introduction of THIS Act in 2018 -



    STILL limiting the conditions under which an abortion could either be regarded as lawful or unlawful, and whether or not we agree it was political cowardice or what I would consider pure stupidity which makes absolutely no sense, made no sense at the time, and still makes no sense - the 12 week limit was touted long before the referendum as a means to assuage “fears” of what some people refer to as “abortion on demand”, and politicians at the time caving under pressure stuck it in there as yet another shìtty “compromise” the same as they did when proposing the wording of the 8th amendment in the first place to assuage “fears” that Ireland might follow Roe v Wade in the States.

    The 12 week limit is balls, frankly, when it can lead to outcomes of legal uncertainty and medical professionals reluctant to act for fear they might fall foul of the legislation such as in cases like this -





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  • Registered Users Posts: 431 ✭✭Jeremy Sproket


    Who said that ??? Where did I say that?


    If a woman has the option to end a baby's life through abortion simply because she doesn't want to be a mother* with no medical reasons, then logically there should be an equivalent for me (ie, they can abdicate all responsibilities and rights) should the woman choose to keep the baby.


    I'm staunchly against this an abhor abortion. I'm simply testing the argument of the so called "pro-choice people".

    I'm a woman btw.



  • Registered Users Posts: 431 ✭✭Jeremy Sproket


    If you don't want to be a mother, abstain or take birth control. Works both ways n'est pas?



  • Registered Users Posts: 23,650 ✭✭✭✭One eyed Jack



    The equivalent for men is that should they ever find themselves in similar circumstances, they too would have the same rights (and limitations on those rights) as a woman in those circumstances. Effectively, you’re into this sort of territory -



    And we came pretty damn close to it and all -





  • Registered Users Posts: 23,650 ✭✭✭✭One eyed Jack



    No, it really doesn’t, seeing as men do not have the capacity to become pregnant. They have the same rights as women do in those circumstances should they ever find themselves expecting rather unexpectedly and they do not wish to become a father. It has no bearing upon whether or not a pregnant woman may seek a termination of her pregnancy in any case.



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    No. It's none of his business. If a woman wants to terminate a pregnancy at any point she should be free to do so, because it is her body, her right to bodily integrity and her right to privacy that is in question. In my opinion she should not do so - but she should be completely free to make that choice herself, and neither I not my community should have any authority to stop her from freely and safely exercising that choice.

    In the same way, if a person is suffering from a life-threatening disease, and their only prospect of survival is a kidney transplant from a parent or a relative, that parent or relative should be completely free to refuse to co-operate, because it is their body, their right to bodily integrity and their right to privacy that is in question.

    And you need to make up your mind what gender you are.



  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    My mother wore one of those when I was in my early teens. 😲



  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    The thread should have been titled "Any other WUMs..."



  • Registered Users Posts: 40,100 ✭✭✭✭ohnonotgmail




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  • Registered Users Posts: 1,056 ✭✭✭secondrowgal


    If you don’t want to be a father, abstain or use birth control. See what I did there?


    Women could have sex 24/7 without risk of pregnancy if there are no viable sperm around.


    Men can also have sex 24/7 if they keep their viable speed away from any eggs


    Also, men can’t get pregnant so it doesn’t affect them in any way.


    Birth control can fail (approx 9% for pill, 13% for condoms). Get a vasectomy (<1% and reversible.) Much better don’t you think?



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