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Plenty of Fish

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    #62
    [Deleted User]
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    Princess Consuela Bananahammock wrote: »
    Ah, now you lost your shot when you shat the bed in the North Inner City thread!

    Don't know what you're talking about. Nice to see I made an impression on you though, whoever you are!

    You just bemoaned the plight of a "nice guy". No more words are necessary.

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    #63
    Capt'n Midnight
    Moderators, Recreation & Hobbies Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Technology & Internet Moderators Posts: 90,726 Mod ✭✭✭✭Capt'n Midnight


    grassylawn wrote: »
    I tend to think that guys who think of themselves as nice guys are most often not nice, but ia bit overly concerned with their own feelings.

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    #64
    Loafing Oaf
    Registered Users Posts: 16,011 ✭✭✭✭Loafing Oaf


    Church on Tuesday wrote: »
    Where are you based?

    I'm guessing Clontarf, site of his greatest victory...


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    #65
    bassy
    Registered Users Posts: 6,542 ✭✭✭bassy


    not another gimp thread on this,ah here......................................................................


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    #66
    BorneTobyWilde
    Registered Users Posts: 35,665 ✭✭✭✭BorneTobyWilde


    Stay at home wrote: »
    Is this for younger people? Recently separated (well a year) 39 with one child. My friends are trying to convince me to sign up here but not convinced. Not sure I could handle dick pics and head wreckers so not sure.


    SOunds like you need Bumble .


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    #67
    aismac
    Registered Users Posts: 43 ✭aismac


    The reason you get less replies on Pof as a guy is because there’s no requirement to match with the girl first to be allowed send a message. So you’re flying blind. Also unless you have a stunning face or very cool profile “hi how r u” is unlikely to start an amazing rapport. I have a profile it took a little while to write it - if you read it it and comment on something, the chances of a reply basically treble.

    Is anyone finding Hinge good? Is it busy?


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    #68
    milehip
    Registered Users Posts: 733 ✭✭✭milehip


    punisher5112 wrote: »
    Go after the single mothers on welfare day....

    Mickey Tuesday it's know as round these parts.


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    #69
    YellowLead
    Registered Users Posts: 7,667 ✭✭✭YellowLead


    aismac wrote: »
    The reason you get less replies on Pof as a guy is because there’s no requirement to match with the girl first to be allowed send a message. So you’re flying blind. Also unless you have a stunning face or very cool profile “hi how r u” is unlikely to start an amazing rapport. I have a profile it took a little while to write it - if you read it it and comment on something, the chances of a reply basically treble.

    Is anyone finding Hinge good? Is it busy?

    Myself and a couple of friends joined a few weeks ago and so far I think it’s great! Doesn’t seem to be any time wasters. There is a mandatory 6 photos requirement and also a certain number of comments (3 I think) to stock questions - sign of a good relationship is x... you’ll find me doing x on my day off etc. so all the profiles have decent info. You have to like a specific photo or comment not an entire profile, and you can send a comment with that - this is great as it can tell you something about the person who is sending the like. You get notified when a like comes in, so you don’t have to pay to see who likes you. You can also filter by ethnicity in addition to location and age if you so choose.


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    #70
    sassyj
    Registered Users Posts: 733 ✭✭✭sassyj


    Princess Consuela Bananahammock wrote: »
    If you're a girl - you get inundated with messages from pervy men just looking for sex, most of which you ignore.

    If you're a (nice) guy - you get ignored because the women miss your message because it's under the pile of mails from pervy men just looking for sex.

    "Active with users" is a misnomer - most of the profiles are fake bots designed to make it look like that way. Or pervy men just looking for sex.


    I see this myth repeated again and again. It's just not true. No reply means not interested.

    No matter how many messages, I'm not going to miss one from someone I find attractive / interesting.


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    #71
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    aismac wrote: »
    Is anyone finding Hinge good? Is it busy?

    I've just signed up and they could do with giving you a few more likes without a subscription.

    Why am I going to subscribe to something when I have no idea how good it is?

    I think I got five swipe rights.


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    #72
    YellowLead
    Registered Users Posts: 7,667 ✭✭✭YellowLead


    [Deleted User] wrote: »
    I've just signed up and they could do with giving you a few more likes without a subscription.

    Why am I going to subscribe to something when I have no idea how good it is?

    I think I got five swipe rights.

    Well that turns into a bonus because when people swipe on you you know they are interested as otherwise they wouldn’t waste a swipe. Look - perhaps it works more in women’s favor but one guy friend who just signed up last week likes it too. You just have to have a little patience.


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    #73
    [Deleted User]
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    Hinge is great and is relatively cheap, compared to the others. There's plenty of women on it.


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    #74
    Tea For Two
    Registered Users Posts: 63 ✭✭Tea For Two


    I had never thought of signing up for online dating but Covid has changed my perspective on this. It’s a bad sign when you start looking at the ads in the Farmer’s Journal! Most of my siblings met their partners online and they are all happily married. I have no interest in joining the married ranks but am thinking of dipping my toe into online dating. Which dating app/website would suit a 44 year old hoping to meet a genuine guy.


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    #75
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    Tea For Two wrote: »
    I had never thought of signing up for online dating but Covid has changed my perspective on this. It’s a bad sign when you start looking at the ads in the Farmer’s Journal! Most of my siblings met their partners online and they are all happily married. I have no interest in joining the married ranks but am thinking of dipping my toe into online dating. Which dating app/website would suit a 44 year old hoping to meet a genuine guy.

    Assuming you're female I'd say Bumble. It's an app where the woman must message first, so it gives you a bit more control.


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    #76
    YellowLead
    Registered Users Posts: 7,667 ✭✭✭YellowLead


    Tea For Two wrote: »
    I had never thought of signing up for online dating but Covid has changed my perspective on this. It’s a bad sign when you start looking at the ads in the Farmer’s Journal! Most of my siblings met their partners online and they are all happily married. I have no interest in joining the married ranks but am thinking of dipping my toe into online dating. Which dating app/website would suit a 44 year old hoping to meet a genuine guy.

    I would say hinge or bumble. Maybe join tinder for fun as there are genuine people there too....but you have to scroll through lots to find them and it’s exhausting.

    Though - a caveat - no matter what app you try there will always be chancers. As most people are on several apps and chatting to a few be prepared to be unmatched or ghosted suddenly - nothing to take offence at just par for the course. Don’t get too invested in people too early on.


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    #77
    Thepoet85
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    Met my wife there :)


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    #78
    YellowLead
    Registered Users Posts: 7,667 ✭✭✭YellowLead


    [Deleted User] wrote: »
    Assuming you're female I'd say Bumble. It's an app where the woman must message first, so it gives you a bit more control.

    Bumble definitely has more genuine people than tinder....but as a woman I don’t really like using it because I hate having to make the first move because I miss out on the information that comes with how a guy approaches that first move. But that’s just a personal preference - plenty female friends don’t mind that side to bumble.


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    #79
    Fake Scores
    Closed Accounts Posts: 168 ✭✭Fake Scores


    There's loads of men on it. And a tiny number of women.
    But there's absolutely not one single fish there.


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    #80
    BorneTobyWilde
    Registered Users Posts: 35,665 ✭✭✭✭BorneTobyWilde


    Thepoet85 wrote: »
    Met my wife there :)


    Haven't we all :D


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    #81
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    YellowLead wrote: »
    I hate having to make the first move because I miss out on the information that comes with how a guy approaches that first move.

    Yeah, I get ya. My first move tells me what I want too. I always say "hey, how are things?". Every time the same. If they are expecting an amazing, rom-com opening line, then I don't want to date them.


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    #82
    Greyfox
    Registered Users Posts: 3,722 ✭✭✭Greyfox


    YellowLead wrote: »
    Bumble definitely has more genuine people than tinder....but as a woman I don’t really like using it because I hate having to make the first move because I miss out on the information that comes with how a guy approaches that first move. But that’s just a personal preference - plenty female friends don’t mind that side to bumble.

    As a guy 95% of the first moves a woman made on Bumble were just Hi and then my reply was a decent question just like i would of done if i had of been sending the first message.


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    #83
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    Greyfox wrote: »
    As a guy 95% of the first moves a woman made on Bumble were just Hi and then my reply was a decent question just like i would of done if i had of been sending the first message.

    I ignore those.


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    #84
    YellowLead
    Registered Users Posts: 7,667 ✭✭✭YellowLead


    [Deleted User] wrote: »
    I ignore those.

    I do make the first move sometimes when I use hinge but I like also having the option of just seeing all the likes and comments coming in and responding to those I like best if I’m feeling lazy.

    If I do send the first message it certianly isn’t just ‘hi’ as I ignore those ones myself.


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    #85
    Ultrflat
    Registered Users Posts: 1,016 ✭✭✭Ultrflat


    Greyfox wrote: »
    As a guy 95% of the first moves a woman made on Bumble were just Hi and then my reply was a decent question just like i would of done if i had of been sending the first message.

    Yeah its almost like extracting blood from stone :pac:

    Generally I find they're about as open to meeting some one as a closed vault.
    I really enjoy when I get chatting to a lady whos open and actually makes and effort to converse. :cool:


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    #86
    Thelonious Monk
    Registered Users Posts: 13,749 ✭✭✭✭Thelonious Monk


    Greyfox wrote: »
    As a guy 95% of the first moves a woman made on Bumble were just Hi and then my reply was a decent question just like i would of done if i had of been sending the first message.

    I hate when you get a girl sending you a nice message asking about photos or your interests or something and you look at the pictures and ask yourself why you ever swiped on her in the first place and have to ignore/unmatch!


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    #87
    Thepoet85
    Registered Users Posts: 2,751 ✭✭✭Thepoet85


    BorneTobyWilde wrote: »
    Haven't we all :D

    Going by some of the lads on this thread probably not.

    I actually did though. We met through the site in 2014 and got married in 2019. Our second child was born last week.


    Thank god I had a half decent profile picture is all I can say!!!


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    #88
    Feisar
    Registered Users Posts: 6,602 ✭✭✭Feisar


    [Deleted User] wrote: »
    I ignore those.

    Be honest, if she’s hot you don’t!

    First they came for the socialists...



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    #89
    Ultrflat
    Registered Users Posts: 1,016 ✭✭✭Ultrflat


    Feisar wrote: »
    Be honest, if she’s hot you don’t!

    You sound like you have the depth and awareness of a paddling pool that been filled1/10th!


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    #90
    [Deleted User]
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    Feisar wrote: »
    Be honest, if she’s hot you don’t!

    Yeah, probably. :D


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    #91
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    YellowLead wrote: »
    Well that turns into a bonus because when people swipe on you you know they are interested as otherwise they wouldn’t waste a swipe. Look - perhaps it works more in women’s favor but one guy friend who just signed up last week likes it too. You just have to have a little patience.

    I definitely spoke too soon.

    I'm impressed.


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