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    #152
    2lazytogetup
    Registered Users Posts: 828 ✭✭✭2lazytogetup


    ive noticed alot of Brazilian ladies on PoF based in Dublin. I know im asking the obvious, but are they all looking for a husband so they can stay in Ireland. im afraid of them now, as i wouldnt want to be leading them for months on if they need permanent residency soon.


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    #153
    pgj2015
    Registered Users Posts: 8,935 ✭✭✭pgj2015


    Pyr0 wrote: »
    I took this approach for a period of time, swiped right on everyone in bursts. I matched with a handful of women but clicked with very few. I ended up in a long term relationship with one of the girls I did click with.

    It's a numbers game imo, if you're only swiping right on 1 in 20 girls then your chances of getting a match are very slim. The chances of you clicking with one of the girls you do match with is smaller. Tinder is all about looks, very few people actually read through profiles. My advice is match first, figure the rest out after.




    What if you swiped right on your cousin or say an ex of one of your mates? could happen if you just click on everyone without looking.


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    #154
    Pyr0
    Registered Users Posts: 5,967 ✭✭✭Pyr0


    pgj2015 wrote: »
    What if you swiped right on your cousin or say an ex of one of your mates? could happen if you just click on everyone without looking.

    For that to happen, your cousin would have swiped right on you also. You can either laugh it off or go in for the kill :pac:

    If you're a mature adult then it shouldn't be a big deal matching with an ex of a mate, they're an ex after all.


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    #155
    pgj2015
    Registered Users Posts: 8,935 ✭✭✭pgj2015


    Pyr0 wrote: »
    For that to happen, your cousin would have swiped right on you also. You can either laugh it off or go in for the kill :pac:

    If you're a mature adult then it shouldn't be a big deal matching with an ex of a mate, they're an ex after all.



    yes but what if your cousin had the same idea and just swiped right on everyone as well?

    I would never date a mates ex, no way, plenty more women around to be resorting to that.


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    #156
    Church on Tuesday
    Registered Users Posts: 3,858 ✭✭✭Church on Tuesday


    2lazytogetup wrote: »
    ive noticed alot of Brazilian ladies on PoF based in Dublin. I know im asking the obvious, but are they all looking for a husband so they can stay in Ireland. im afraid of them now, as i wouldnt want to be leading them for months on if they need permanent residency soon.

    They are looking to improve their english and in most cases that's really about it.


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    #157
    2lazytogetup
    Registered Users Posts: 828 ✭✭✭2lazytogetup


    Church on Tuesday wrote: »
    They are looking to improve their english and in most cases that's really about it.

    Thanks Church on Tuesday.


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    #158
    Pyr0
    Registered Users Posts: 5,967 ✭✭✭Pyr0


    pgj2015 wrote: »
    yes but what if your cousin had the same idea and just swiped right on everyone as well?

    I would never date a mates ex, no way, plenty more women around to be resorting to that.

    Er..

    1: You don't message them and just delete
    2: You message them and have a quick laugh about it, move on and delete.

    Remember, you're just swiping right and not even paying attention so it could happen. I wasn't actually being serious about hooking up with your cousin.

    So, if you don't date your mates ex's then what's the problem here? These "what if" situations have very quick solutions.


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    #159
    Ultrflat
    Registered Users Posts: 1,016 ✭✭✭Ultrflat


    Pyr0 wrote: »
    Er..


    So, if you don't date your mates ex's then what's the problem here? These "what if" situations have very quick solutions.

    i-have-done-my-part-now-you-do-yours.gif

    My reply.


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    #160
    pgj2015
    Registered Users Posts: 8,935 ✭✭✭pgj2015


    Pyr0 wrote: »
    Er..

    1: You don't message them and just delete
    2: You message them and have a quick laugh about it, move on and delete.

    Remember, you're just swiping right and not even paying attention so it could happen. I wasn't actually being serious about hooking up with your cousin.

    So, if you don't date your mates ex's then what's the problem here? These "what if" situations have very quick solutions.



    They might always check who they are swiping right on, then think you are weird for swiping right on your cousin.

    I know you weren't being serious about swiping right on your cousin.

    How are your mates ex's supposed to know you don't date your mates ex's?


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    #161
    Pyr0
    Registered Users Posts: 5,967 ✭✭✭Pyr0


    pgj2015 wrote: »
    They might always check who they are swiping right on, then think you are weird for swiping right on your cousin.

    I know you weren't being serious about swiping right on your cousin.

    How are your mates ex's supposed to know you don't date your mates ex's?

    Well they can't really judge you considering that they've made a conscious decision to swipe on you, while you were simply blitzing through without a care for who it is.

    If you don't message them or delete the match then they'll get the picture surely?


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    #162
    pgj2015
    Registered Users Posts: 8,935 ✭✭✭pgj2015


    Pyr0 wrote: »
    Well they can't really judge you considering that they've made a conscious decision to swipe on you, while you were simply blitzing through without a care for who it is.

    If you don't message them or delete the match then they'll get the picture surely?



    Yeah, maybe I am overthinking it.


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    #163
    smilerf
    Registered Users Posts: 2,579 ✭✭✭smilerf


    I find women on pof and tinder are more interested in plugging their istagram and tick tock accounts these days than actually dating


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    #164
    YellowLead
    Registered Users Posts: 7,667 ✭✭✭YellowLead


    smilerf wrote: »
    I find women on pof and tinder are more interested in plugging their istagram and tick tock accounts these days than actually dating

    You might be searching within the wrong age group....

    And I know this is about POF but go for bumble or hinge if you want to date seriously.


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    #165
    billyhead
    Registered Users Posts: 9,548 ✭✭✭billyhead


    I thought these sites were free. In order to see people who message or like you a subscription payment screen pops up.


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    #166
    The DayDream
    Registered Users Posts: 508 ✭✭✭The DayDream


    billyhead wrote: »
    I thought these sites were free. In order to see people who message or like you a subscription payment screen pops up.

    As has been noted several times in this very thread, that has changed since they were bought. None of these sites were ever gonna stay free. I'd be happy to pay for an ad free proper experience but unless you live in Dublin or Cork you're just gonna see the same Jacintas you see in the local shop on child benefits day, you just won't recognize them with the filters, makeup, favorable angles etc. There isn't enough women on it and the women that are one it don't respond they're just looking for validation. Don't waste your money is my advice but maybe you'll do better.

    One thing I wish the site had was a button to unmatch with those who ignore messages. When you swipe on someone who swiped on you, it puts them in a 'it's mutual' list. if I don't get any response to the first message it's annoying to still have them there... it's not actually mutual from my POV any more, they decided not to respond so they must have decided they don't like me, and by them ignoring men after swiping on them i feel like they just are soaking up being liked and messaged and that's disengenous. I would never send a 2nd message or have a go a them for it but I would like to unmatch so my mutual list isnt all just women who really aren't interested/just enjoy validation.


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    #167
    Tea For Two
    Registered Users Posts: 63 ✭✭Tea For Two


    Potential-Monke wrote: »
    Nah. I had a few years back who tried, but they were trying to set me up with single friends of theirs rather than someone who would be compatible. I'm just not the typical male that seems to attract females. Granted, in the last few years I'm even further from what is socially expected of a man, but I've also reserved myself to bachelorhood, and with the pandemic making me that bit more cautious, I've even less interest right now. I also have a genuine fear over something that I shouldn't have, but it really is stopping me trying - morning after guilt. I know a few lads who were victim of this, and I don't think I could take the pressure of what it could lead to. I would want a signed contract detailing what I can and can't do or touch!

    Irrational fear, but still a fear that is strong enough to be the "Yeah, but..." to every thought I have of looking. But I'm ok with that for now, especially now, when I wouldn't meet someone new anyway. And like someone said above, I don't want to be the person who keeps you company via message during the lockdown only to get the cold shoulder as soon as the country opens up again. I've had enough negatives in my life that I'll do without them if I can.

    TL;DR: I don't want the hassle.

    :D


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    #168
    cj maxx
    Registered Users Posts: 13,371 ✭✭✭✭cj maxx


    2lazytogetup wrote: »
    ive noticed alot of Brazilian ladies on PoF based in Dublin. I know im asking the obvious, but are they all looking for a husband so they can stay in Ireland. im afraid of them now, as i wouldnt want to be leading them for months on if they need permanent residency soon.

    Same with Chinese women. Funnily they both had uk phone numbers but based in Dublin ? Seemed very dodgy.


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