Relationship breakup

Her not working and your name only being on the title deeds, and you supplying the site is entirely immaterial to the situation as the family law courts will see it.

As the poster above said, minding home and children full time is considered equal contribution.

It is unlikely that the house could be sold as the court will hold the best interests of the child above anything else, that is, that the children should remain in the family home until they are 18.
In the majority of cases the mother will have primary custody of the child, ie, remaining in the house too.

So, realistically, the most likely outcome if you go through the courts is that basically you will be asked to move out and pay maintenance and continue to pay the mortgage. When the youngest child turns 18 the house can be sold and the proceeds split between ye. The only other alternative that would potentially allow you to stay in the house is if you either buy or rent another suitable house nearby that she and the children can move to. However, I wouldn't be overly confident of the court approving such an arrangement, as they would need to be satisfied that it was in the best interests of the child, eg, if the new or rented house was closer to her family, closer to the schools etc.

Also bear in mind that ye not being married doesn't matter a fig. The Civil Partnership and Certain Rights and Obligations of Cohabitants Act 2010 means that ye are married in all but name. Courts will view the situation 99% as if ye are married.

Sucks for you, but that is the reality of these situations I'm afraid.

I think ye are better off going through the process in court. A mutual agreement is all well and good, as long as she remains amicable to it and abides by it. Problem is she could come back in years to come trying to ratchet up a better deal for herself after someone whispering "advice" into her ear, claiming that you coerced, bullied or otherwise pressured her into that agreement at a time when she was in a delicate and stressed place in her life, even if there were solicitors involved. This is a real risk, mutual agreements are dodgy and can be unagreed and challenged on a whim. I have seen it happen. A settlement dictated by the courts, even if less favourable, is much more secure and you'll have peace of mind.

Get yourself to a solicitor specialising in family law, separation and divorce. I might be shot for saying this, but if I were you, I, personally would make sure my solicitor was male. I know it is wrong to think, but I can't help but have the suspicion that a female solicitor would be, perhaps even unconsciously, slightly biased towards the woman, and might not put as much weight behind arguing for YOUR entitlements. To be honest, I would not trust them as much with my future. With such high stakes, I think I would take the battering of being called sexist in that scenario.

Absolutely.

I can tell you, since he works and she is a housewife raising the children and their primary caregiver, she will 99.9% be given the right to remain in the family home. What reason would there be to have her move out? Barring she is a violent alcholic or deranged drug addict, which I am sure she is not, her being asked to move out is most unlikely. If she is a mother and a good mother, she will keep the children in the family home and himself must provide for them and for his own separate residence.

To be honest, I agree fully with that. The best thing for children is to remain in the familiar surroundings of their family home with the consistency and continuity of care given by their primary caregiver, their mother in 99% of cases. It is bad luck and a hell of a fall for the man of course, but that is just the way these things go. I think it is just the nature of things.

What is the dynamic in the house now? What were the reasons she quoted as being the cause for wanting to break up?

i wouldnt be in favour of advocating that someone crawl after someone who decides that the want to get rid of you in order to get their acceptance back. That could destroy someone's self worth.
No. If I were he, and she said she wanted out and rid of me, then I'd say "fine, you made the decision, best of luck".

As an old friend once said to me when I was very sad after broken up with a girl "you wouldn't step in the same **** twice, would you?"

Mimon wrote: »

He can still stay in the house even if they are not in a relationship, he doesn't need to go crawling anywhere.

Just out of interest how would she get the OP out if he decided that he was staying? If there is no conflict surely she would have no grounds to get a court order for him to leave his own house?

When did there never need to be grounds for a woman to claim there were grounds and be believed?

She can conjure up grounds if the mood takes her. And she will be believed until proven wrong. And even if she is caught out "ah sure we'll give her another chance" is an approach I have seen taken by courts and tusla.