Gaslighting

padjocollins · 29-10-2020 11:36AM

didn't realise you could edit the quoted post down to say a dot . will use that idea in future.

Edgware · 29-10-2020 11:38AM

Sky King wrote: »

That oul gaslighting went out when the electric came in.

I switched everything on gas to electricity and everything on electricity to gas.
I reckon I saved 136 euro a year

COVID · 29-10-2020 12:05PM

padjocollins wrote: »

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Good one!

COVID · 29-10-2020 12:07PM

Edgware wrote: »

I switched everything on gas to electricity and everything on electricity to gas.
I reckon I saved 136 euro a year

I won't be borrowing your hairdryer.

BurgundyRose · 29-10-2020 01:31PM

Away With The Fairies wrote: »

Has anyone ever had this done to them?

Just horrible behaviour thrown at you and when you point out how hurtful and nasty their behaviour is they make up excuses that don't make sense and no genuine apology. Or an apology but no change in the behaviour. Then if you react badly at all, they blame your reaction and turn it around on you.

What is wrong with these people?

I presume you are referring to a personal relationship rather than a work or business relationship?
Are you married and co habiting? If so contact a domestic violence charity to see what they can do to help. They might be able to help you with sourcing new accommodation. You need to get out from the situation instead of waiting for an apology and a change in behaviour.
If you are not co habiting and you were dating or have a long term relationship, you still need to get out from the situation. Stop waiting for an apology and a change of behaviour.
What reaction did you have? Was it typical of a gaslighting like showing confusion, disorientation and upset? You still need to get out from the situation you find yourself in. Stop giving reactions, people like that thrive on it. Don't feed into it. Break away and get free and you can heal

BurgundyRose · 29-10-2020 01:36PM

Fair City highlighed gaslighting recently. Oisin and Colm were carry out acts against Paul so Paul would doubt himself.

Kylta · 06-11-2020 07:37PM

Immortal Starlight wrote: »

Went through this for years. Went from things like pretending he’d told me he was going into work earlier than usual to pretending entire conversations had never happened. Then I’d get the “oh I don’t know what’s wrong with you” and “you are loosing it” and he’d shake his head and laugh like it was the funniest thing ever. He ran rings around me and even though I absolutely knew there was nothing wrong with me when you have someone else tell you constantly that there is it’s very frustrating.
It’s chilling to realise that someone you knew for such a long time is capable of treating you like that. To others he was and still is the perfect gent. He’d get an Oscar for acting without a doubt. I’m still so angry at myself for letting it go on for so long. It’s only in the last couple of years I’ve actually come to terms with it and I try every day not to think about it and be happy. It’s definitely left a mark on me but what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger as the saying goes.

Did you get rid of him

ShowMeTheCash · 21-04-2022 11:56AM

Gaslighting althought it happens just seems to be a word that now gets used to throw at people when you get called out on bad behavior.

It is a bit like "my truth"... I could act a complete asshole to the people around me but distort that reaility by saying "my truth".

B.A._Baracus · 21-04-2022 01:45PM

Maybe I getting old but I remember a time when "gas lighting" was just called twisting things.

New name for something that's been around for thousands of years. Am sure some caveman twisted an argument with his missus.

Dial Hard · 21-04-2022 01:47PM

The parade of zombie threads continues unabated. It's like Army of the Dead in here these days.

Gaslighting

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