"Man Up" campaign by SafeIreland

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Oxford student who stabbed her boyfriend admits she will 'never become a heart surgeon' as she loses appeal

https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2018/06/08/oxford-university-student-avoided-prison-stabbing-boyfriend/

How to spot signs of domestic abuse
Do you suspect that a friend or relative is being abused? These are the five questions to ask yourself. By Richinda Taylor of Eva Women’s Aid

-Has she withdrawn from social life? If she is no longer attending social events or welcoming visitors to her home, this is one of the telltale signs. Likewise, if she only ever leaves home with her potential abuser, or is always in a rush to get home with a curfew to stick to.
- Has her behaviour changed markedly? For example is she routinely cancelling appointments? Or is her appearance different to usual?
- Is she reluctant to discuss her home life, even when directly questioned about it?
- Have you noticed unexplained or suspicious marks? These could include bruises or grazes that she dismisses as accidental.
- Is there evidence that her spending is being controlled? Another telltale sign is if she no longer carries money with her.
If you believe a friend is a victim, call the free, confidential 24-hour National Domestic Violence Helpline: 0808 2000 247

El_Duderino 09 wrote: »

An article by women's aid Ireland focus on female victims of domestic violence. I imagine Eva women's aid is fulfilling its brief pretty well there

El_Duderino 09 wrote: »

Eva Women's Aid is probably a charity that focuses on women. So why would what write their advice in a gender neutral way? If their brief is to provide support to women, then they're doing a grand job. Edit. The first line on their website says it's a women's only organisation. Soooo,

Would you expect a men's domestic violence charity to focus on a women and men? Be fair.

Dear teen girls,

Stop abusing your boyfriends and yes what you are doing is abuse.

Stop:

Yelling at him in front of his friends

Hitting or slapping him when he does or says something you don’t like

Telling him he doesn’t have a choice when it comes to decisions that involve both of you

Telling him he can’t hang out with friends because you don’t like him

Telling him to not talk to other girls even if they are his friend

Forcing him to spend every moment with you

Belittling him and pointing out all his flaws

Calling him stupid or making fun of him for making a mistake

Threatening to break up with him if he doesn’t do what you want

Being emotionally manipulative and crying until he does what you want

Accusing him of cheating every time he’s not with you

Blow up is phone if he doesn’t text you every five minutes

Telling him you are the best thing that has ever happened to him and no one else will love

Physically attacking him when ever you are mad

Forcing him to have sex despite that fact that he said he didn’t want to

Invading his privacy by going through his phone

Getting mad at him for changing his password and demanding he tell you what it is

If a guy did any of these things to a girl it would be considered abuse but since its the other way around its considered normal. Throughout High school I saw many girl treating their boyfriends like ****. Sometime even physically abusing them in the hallways and no one trying to stop it because its a girl attacking a boy.

Boys: If your girlfriend does anything on this list leave her. It is abuse and you deserve better.

Girls: if you find your self doing anything on this list to your boyfriend you need to knock it off because you are being abusive.

https://exposing-the-bull****.tumblr.com/post/149256150110/dear-teen-girls

'Not all abuse is violent': What to do if you think someone may be abusing their partner
An expert shares how he helps perpetrators to change.
http://www.thejournal.ie/how-to-intervene-domestic-abuse-4222661-Sep2018

Domestic Violence Costing the Economy More than Previously Thought
October 4, 2018/in Press Releases /by safe-ireland

Agency urges politicians to keep watch for vital investments that can transform women’s lives

Safe Ireland, the national agency working to eradicate domestic violence in Ireland, delivered a Budget Watch to all TDs and Senators today, to urge them to monitor Budget 2019 for the delivery of five essential measures of care and progress for women and children living with violence.

The agency said that the minimum additional investment needed in 2019 to address the urgent needs of victims of domestic violence is €35 million. The agency now knows, from new research currently being carried out with NUI Galway, that is just a tiny fraction of the enormous estimated annual cost of domestic violence to the economy every year.

Up to now, the often-cited figure on economic costs for domestic violence is €2.2 billion a year. This is based on a 2006 Council of Europe study which looked at costs across areas like policing, health bills, lost productivity and court proceedings.

New Safe Ireland/NUI Galway research on the estimated cost of domestic violence in Ireland is indicating that the cost could actually be far greater than previously thought. The research is looking at the economic and social costs of domestic violence across three phases of a survivor’s journey, from living within the abusive relationship to relocation and recovery.

“Domestic violence is more than a human rights violation and public health issue, By exploring its wider economic and social impact, we highlight the often invisible or ignored consequences for individuals, households, the community and society,” said Dr. Caroline Forde, Researcher at the Centre for Global Women’s Studies at NUI Galway.

Safe Ireland called particularly for a specific, ring-fenced allocation of €15 million in the housing budget to fund and target initiatives to support women and families to access stable housing. It is widely acknowledged that domestic violence is a leading cause of homelessness for women and children.

“It’s really easy maths. If you allocate adequate and targeted resources to prevention and support for survivors of domestic violence, you save lives, restore futures and save billions,” Caitriona Gleeson, Programme Manager with Safe Ireland said. “If you don’t address it and tinker around the edges as we have done for decades in Ireland, it continues to cost us all and leaves women and children at greater risk of revictimisation, trauma and poorer life outcomes.”

Safe Ireland said that Ireland now has some of the most ground-breaking and progressive legislation in the world designed to protect and support survivors of domestic violence. However, legislation has to be backed up by adequate and targeted funding if it is to make a difference to people’s lives, it said.



Five Measures of Care and Progress in Budget 2019



1. Safe Homes: Specific ring-fenced allocation of funding and targeted initiatives for survivors of domestic violence.

Investment Needed: €15 million

2. Sustainable Support Services: Increase refuge and support services so that they are accessible throughout the country, upgrade facilities, bring pay and conditions of low paid professionals up to 2018 levels, breaking a pay freeze that has been in place since 2009.

Investment Needed: €20 million

3. Training and Awareness: Targeted and specific training and awareness training for frontline responders.

Investment Needed: €2 million

4. Trauma and Recovery: Development of special trauma response service.

Investment Needed: €8 million

5. Resource our legislation: Increase resources allocated to justice and victim support services to implement the new DV Act and Victims Directive.

No access to cost of increasing trained personnel across other services

johnnyskeleton wrote: »

Is he the one who wrote an article about how metoo caused him to finally read simone de beauviour and the irish times published the article?

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What you should do when you witness domestic abuse

What would you do?
Although 88,000 men have been severely abused by a partner at some point in their lives, 95% of them won't report it to the Gardai. The traditional ideologies of masculinity are no doubt part of what discourages them to speak up, but it's important that any witnesses to such abuse know how they can help.

Research shows that 4 in 10 people in Ireland know someone who has experienced domestic violence. However, not knowing what to do when witnessing domestic violence is one of the main reasons why people give for not intervening.

Domestic abuse can be both physical and emotional, and can affect either men or women. Trust your instincts, but remember your goal is to de-escalate the situation, so a direct approach isn't always the best course of action.