Have you ever had an unwanted sexual experience? Mod warning in op - updated 6/3/18

Koala Sunshine wrote: »

It demonstrates that "acting on instincts" is no excuse.

But what is the exact circumstance?

One eyed Jack wrote: »

I'm only speaking for myself, but I just wouldn't ever be able to see me being hit by a woman as a big deal.

You would if you got a punch from her.

Where do I start. I was early developer, not pretty enough for guys to find me threatening and not unattractive enough for them not to try. From 12 on I had men grabbing my breasts (multiple times), threatening me with rape, committing serious sexual assault to stalking me. The two stalkers were both short of a few shillings and harmless. Then there was a guy who was circling around me on his bike when I was walking to the car threatening to rape me. His trousers were pulled down so his genitals were out and the whole scene must have been grotesquely funny. When I didn't flinch and told him I will put a cigarette out on his arse he cycled away. Worse was a guy who sat behind me in the cinema, he started grabbing my breasts and then kissing my neck. I was 12 and too embarrassed to make a scene, after trying to make him stop for a while unsuccessfully I whacked his hand with umbrella handle. I heard short intake if breath and soon after that he left.

I also slapped one of my father's employees when he grabbed my breasts. I think he was an apprentice and under age and I couldn't be older than 15.

There was one much worse attack that I don't feel like discussing, and a few more wandering hands I didn't overly react to because you almost start to expect that kind of stuff in certain situations. From my experience kids can be really bad. I remember two girls in my year who were grabbing boy's balls during breaks in school. They were 13 or 14 and nobody really reported them or even reacted to it because it was girls doing it.

Christ, I saw this thread this morning and decided to post about the time I was raped- I thought it might be cathartic, might stimulate discussion and might even help someone unfortunate enough to find themselves in a similar situation.

Having read the rest of the thread, the pontificating, point-scoring and utter sh1te that’s been posted, I’m left wondering why I fcuking bothered. I thought boards was better than this.

I'm not totally up to date with modern colloqialism but is this username cool?
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Kyson Witty Vestibule wrote: »

I was raped at 17 and I’ve spent my whole adult life never feeling clean within my own body.

That is a very powerful description. I'm sorry you have to go through that.

Yeah, lots..... that school thing someone mentioned was rampant at our school. There were seven or eight girls in our year that if you were walking towards them in the corridor, you instinctively positioned your school bag in front of you so they wouldn't be able to grab a feel. Like a pack of Emus they were. But we secretly (or not so secretly) loved it. Or at least I never heard anything close to a genuine complaint being made about it.

Started drinking in Bruxelles when I was 16 and that place downstairs was like the pit of a gig. Girls would feel you up regular. Full on while they chatted away to their boyfriends who were stood right next to you. In other bars and clubs over the years I experienced similar. Usually while waiting to get served and maybe the odd time on a dance floor.

The truth is thought that lots of the time that kinda of thing was very much 'wanted' by me (or maybe welcomed is a better word). Not always of course, as often times I knew the person and in my head I'd be thinking 'Oh crap' as they felt me up, as knew it meant I was going to have to spend the next ten minutes or so explaining to them why I wasn't in to them, or sometimes just because I simply wasn't attracted to them BUT, just because those sexual advances were unwanted by me, doesn't mean that because of that those women therefore had done something inappropriate to me, as how would they know that what they did would be unwanted.

As for situations beyond just mere handsy wimmins, I did see some bio energy healer guy (I know, but it was the 90's.. give me a break ) who so obviously (now looking back) sexually assaulted me but at the time I genuinely thought it must have been how these clowns do their thing. It was just light touching and stuff but I had my eyes closed. I bet had I opened them I would have seen him whacking off. Creeps me out thinking about it. I did think of reporting it many years later but what Id have to say would be so damn vague and so I never bothered in the end. I'd say there's a can of worms to opened there with a lot of those unregulated alternative medicine guys as they have access to so many people at our most vulnerable. Hard enough getting medics investigated for impropriety.