Influencers over-editing photos in Social Media/Cyber-bullying accusations

I'm glad he has cleared his name but a part of me does feel a bit sorry for her even though she has brought this all on her self. I feel she is certainly suffering with some sort of mental illness and does need help.

I have seen her in real life and she looks nothing like her photos, very pretty girl with a fab figure but just nothing like her heavily edited pictures. Years ago I remember she did make up for Lovely Girlie bits (blogger) sister's wedding and she seemed so normal then and bubbly. It's kind of sad to see her decline even though she has been very untruthful in a lot of this.

I'm finding it harder and harder to feel sorry for. I feel sympathy for her on a very basic human level, but she is completely the author of her own demise. If she hadn't taken it upon herself to be so evasive, deliberately aloof and intentionally deceptive then things would be different. And all for what? Attention.

WhiteRoses wrote: »

She lied, and lied, and lied. About reselling gifted items. About photoshopping. About losing weight. About buying her apartment in London. About Paul being emotionally abusive.
She knew people were aware of what she was up to but refused to address it.
And now it has all blown up in her face and she's playing the victim. Its actually mind blowing that she was so arrogant she thought she could get away with it.

Nobody likes being taken advantage of. And that's exactly how her fans feel right now. She forced a fake reality on them, by silencing any opposing views, and she isn't equipped to deal with the repercussions of her actions now.

I pity her in that I actually can't believe she didn't see this coming. People were eventually going to wise up. I simply can't feel sorry for her on that count because she's a 31 year old business woman and should know better than the mistakes she made.

Its very hard to forgive someone who denies what they've done and repeatedly does it then again and again.

I don't like witch hunts but her behaviour is appalling and it's ridiculous that she has gotten away with it for so long.

I don't follow MUF (or any Irish bloggers/vloggers/influencers actually) but have followed the recent threads here on boards with interest. I looked at some of her content when she first moved to the UK and a bit since and to be honest, it was very uncomfortable viewing. She seems like a very damaged young woman. A lot of people have made the point that they never believed she actually looked how she appeared in the pics she published (and this has been proven now, with all the side-by-side comparison pics) but the really worrying thing is that I think Joanne herself partly believes in the image she's curated for herself? Again, I think she's a very damaged young woman and I hope her family will take her in hand and encourage her to get the help she needs with her body image issues and probable anxiety.
I'd also like to commend the posters on these threads for not lowering themselves to personal abuse and attacks on Joanne - if she was to read these threads she could take a lot of very fair, well-meaning advice from them.
I feel sorry for her, as a perfectly nice-looking, seemingly bright young woman, that she hasn't the confidence and self-worth to accept and love her appearance and herself as she is/was.
I also feel sorry for her young followers who might have believed the hype.
Fair play to Paul for his very articulate and IMO fair statement on Instagram. Unbelievable to see many of Joanne's supporters and friends attacking and accusing him. There's two sides to every story but a lady in Joanne's position would have been better off either keeping a complete, dignified silence or else revealing her version of the truth and allowing Paul to reveal his. The sniping and accusations and refusal to name names but willingness to insinuate all sorts... it's playground behaviour. I'm glad he had his say, whatever the actual truth of the situation is.

I think a very genuine mea culpa style apology would go a long way. People have turned around far, far worse situations. Celebrities have been caught taking drugs very publicly, shoplifting, with prostitutes, cheating on spouses etc. Very high profile individuals. With the right approach, they managed to claw back their public image.

She needs to say she was devastated post-break up, that she acted out, that she wanted Paul to feel as bad as her etc. And apologise. Say "I did the wrong thing. I need to get help to cope with this and make some major changes."

She also needs to address the editing. The right approach to that could also make her a far more sympathetic figure. Everyone rallied round her when she spoke about her hair loss. Her followers aren't out gunning for her blood, bar a small, vitriolic cohort that will exist for any blogger/influencer.

I agree. Which is why I said that she should say she needs help. I meant that she should say she needs help and actually get it!

That statement is what I would do today, in the short term, to weather the storm. She can't post unicorns and fairy lights all day. Though of course, she might.

Joanne and I are pretty much the same age. Implying that a lad who dumped me was emotionally abusive is just so far out of left field of normal, especially now we're in our thirties. Break ups shouldn't stop your world from turning after a ten month relationship. She reminds me of my teenage self when I got dumped! You just get on with things at this stage. Rock up to work regardless. Keep your business to yourself. Be professional.

She needs to address why she reacts like this, and her intractable need to involve strangers in her private life.

Bambi985 wrote: »

Miles of entertainment in the comments under that bull****callerouter instagram post about being blocked by an influencer. Sosueme and MUF seem to be the worst offenders, blocking people for simply asking innocent questions about product ingredients or for 'liking' a post that another commenter made etc...

I overheard my oh's snapchat the other week, the Cork one (Jordan?) was saying that if someone liked a post she felt was negative she would go out of her way to find their usernames for every media platform she could so she could block them from every angle. Seemed a little obsessive to me.

Slightly unrelated, but she also said she blocks any man who tries to interact with her without question. Since these are essentially commercial platforms could this be against equality legislation? Certainly if Tesco or the likes did it would be. Are these accounts still personal so equality acts don't apply? They wouldn't have a business without them.

TheChizler wrote: »

I overheard my oh's snapchat the other week, the Cork one (Jordan?) was saying that if someone liked a post she felt was negative she would go out of her way to find their usernames for every media platform she could so she could block them from every angle. Seemed a little obsessive to me.

Slightly unrelated, but she also said she blocks any man who tries to interact with her without question. Since these are essentially commercial platforms could this be against equality legislation? Certainly if Tesco or the likes did it would be. Are these accounts still personal so equality acts don't apply? They wouldn't have a business without them.

I think she didn’t accept male followers for a year or two on Snapchat due to the amount of d*ck pics she was being sent.
If a man genuinely wanted to follow her, they could do so by FB messaging her their Snapchat username and she would then accept. She accepted my friend after he did that, not sure what her story is these days.

Stheno wrote: »

Well whats weird about the pic is that muf appears to have edited her torso to give herself either abs or flabby boobs falling out of her bra but not her huge arms

It's bizarre

Definitely suffers from some sort of "body dysmorphia" and needs to get some professional help before its too late